My gf (20f) blocked me and is upset at me (21m) for not buying a luxury bag for her

I have been with my partner for almost 3 years now and recently today my gf called me in the morning all upset and angry at me for not getting her a $4,000 bag which is now out of stock.

She now blocked me so I can’t message her nor is she refusing to even talk to me.

You see the thing is I am only a full time student who only has nothing but an underpaid part time job and monthly school allowance from my parents which is just nice to cover my daily expenses.

I already feel guilty enough but I never for once failed in trying my best to provide her with the best gifts and love in our relationship despite my limited finances.

Furthermore I always have to tighten my belt and survive only having a couple of dollars for me to spend for myself.

I’m just at a point where I’m mentally exhausted and frustrated even though I have tried talking to her countless of times about it but it ends up with another cycle of her ignoring the subject and getting upset at me.

Netizens’ comments

1. Holy crap, dude. Drop this entitled, spoiled brat yesterday.
2. Are you for real? You don’t see how you’re being used? You’re a student with a part time job and trying to provide her with ‘the best gifts’ and depriving yourself??
3. She sounds like a scammer—probably with a few fish on the line. Let me guess: you do not see each other as often as you would like, and when you do, you’re expected to pay for everything plus buy her stuff.
   If so, you don’t have a girlfriend, you have a paid escort.
   Do yourself a favor: hit the gym and the books. Add some campus activities, and you’re certain to find real girls who are interested in you, not your buying power. And block the current user-GF forever. Good luck.
4. She’s being unreasonable. Does she think she’s a Kardashian? Whatever you do, do not spend $4,000 on a stupid purse.
   If she breaks up with you over that, good riddance because she’s just using you and has no care for how spending that much money would negatively effect you.
   Frankly, I’d dump her right now for being selfish and manipulative. You’re 21. This relationship isn’t going to last, anyway.
   There are plenty of other women in the world, go find one that isn’t a user. I know that at your age 3 years seems like a long time but it’s nothing in the scheme of things.

So basically I sold a cheap gaming keyboard on carousell just so I could declutter my drawer, it was a 2-3 year old gaming keyboard that I previously used that had both wired/wireless connection.

Keep that in mind as that is very important

Found a buyer who disrespected me when there were some issues with the keyboard

So basically I listed this item on carousell and I got a buyer, lets call this person, X. So me and X agreed to meetup for X to collect and pay for the keyboard through cash.

Upon meeting him, he gave a very hostile feeling towards me and I felt uncomfortable, but of course I still had to explain how the wireless part of the keyboard worked.

So I went accordingly to what I supposedly remember on how to pair the keyboard. Also remember this, its a very important detail

Alright so when the deal was made, I went back to my house and was busy doing my business until I decided to open carousell to see if there was anyone else to buy my other listed items.

However I saw that there was a message on the top right icon, so I decided to open it.

Now this is where the problem begins: The first message I saw was “You sold me a defective kb that can’t pair!”

And I was okay, that was my mistake on my end, I had failed to explain it properly to my customer, however without even asking for help or assistance on how to use the keyboard properly, X immediately asked for a refund which says “Meet me at [LOCATION] in 30 minutes, I want my money back”.

Which got me really confused, X asked for a refund before trying to resolve the issue whether by themselves or with my assistance.

So in my head I was like “okay why not I use the video tutorial that I watched before on how to pair this keyboard”.

Okay so sent but I still felt bad and apologised to X saying “Sorry I did not explain it very clearly on how to pair the keyboard” and I also said “I had forgotten how to use the bluetooth version of it as I had always used the wired mode”. And I even added a message saying “My apologies”

Now this is where the real issue begins:

As I had previously mentioned above, I apologised not being able to explain it clearly on how to pair the keyboard with the laptop which I will admit is my mistake.

However, X sent a message saying “Apologies not gonna cut it. Still cannot connect to Bluetooth”. Now what I am getting from this message is that it is useless for me to apologise which of course I found it a little bit disappointing but the next message X sent me was “Just cuz you’re young doesn’t mean you can pull a fast one”.

Now that was really offensive, at this point I strongly belief that I am just getting taken advantage of, clearly at this point what I am understanding from this message is that since I am young, I can easily trick someone.

Now obviously after the apology and the tutorials I have sent X obviously were ignored by them as now X thinks I am tricking them into keeping my keyboard as well as me having the money.

So I was like okay, I just wanted to quickly resolve this issue and move on.

Now then the second part is also just as bad as the first:

Now remember that I mentioned that this was a wired/wireless keyboard? So I suggested to X that he should use the wired connection instead of the wireless connection because I thought that since they were having so much issue with wireless, why not just use wired connection, so I said “Ok then why not use wired connection?”

But I do not know which part of the listing ever said that this was a wireless keyboard ONLY.

But in their own interpretation of “Cheap Gaming Keyboard” which was the listing name, it was apparently wireless.

I do not know where in the world did they think that this was A WIRELESS keyboard but instead it could also be used by just connecting the usb-c plug into the port of the keyboard.

So he sent this “Because it’s a wireless kb and I WANT TO USE IT WIRELESS!”

Which honestly baffles me, it is not a wireless keyboard, it is a wired/wireless keyboard. Furthermore, this message just sounds rude towards me but in the next text “Don’t get smart with me”.

This text really set me off and pissed me off a lot, first I got age discriminated then now disrespected.

So in the end I did not want to deal with this problem anymore and decided to just refund it since even after sending 2 youtube tutorials which were really easy to understand, X still could not catch it and as well as being outright disrespectful towards me and my age.

I hope that this person learns from their mistake and takes this as a learning opportunity to stop being such a a-hole which is opposite of what the reviews say about them.

So in the end, what I am getting from X is that, if you are younger than them, you are probably going to be disrespected by X just because you are younger.

Basically, from mid 2020 – mid 2022 I didn’t socialize. More like I didn’t have a chance to socialize at all. During that 2 years, I could say I have become more mature than before.

Not that I’m a completely mature person. It’s just I’ve become more mature than I was 2 years ago. And that change of personality has affected my confidence a lot. In both socializing and dating.

I just cannot be myself amongst new people

The problem with socializing is that I cannot make small talks and new friends. I have a small circle of friends that I have known for 6-7 years. Whenever I try to make new friends and small talk, I am always worried that the person I’m talking to wouldn’t be interested or is feeling annoyed.

Another reason is that because I spend time with my really close friends a lot it always feels like the new friends I’m trying to hang with don’t compare to my old friends.

Of course I do not want to think of it this way. I want to shake away this feeling. But it always feels like I cannot be my true self when I’m meeting with new people. The only people I can genuinely talk to are my close friends.

I cannot make a joke to sound more friendly like I always do with my close friends. I always see some people always energetic and funny talking to whoever whether they a close friends, casual friend or classmates. And I really admire them.

In terms of low confidence with dating, When I was 18-19, I used to have 500 likes on a dating app and I was always making conversations with girls on the app.

But now I created a new account and I only got 50 likes in a week and I am always thinking “What if I text her and turns out she just accidentally swipe right?”

“What if what I say to her is no different from hundreds of other guys texting her and I don’t stand out?” “What if my pickup line is something really basic and annoys them?”.

I do not have a chance to date people at uni too since I’m even awkward to socialize and make new friends, let alone finding a date in uni.

Overall, I feel like the confidence I had as a teenager is more like a teenager not giving a f what he sounds like to other people or not caring whether he is annoying other people or not.

And not actual confidence a mature adult person have.

Can anyone gives me tips on how to be less socially awkward and have more confidence? Thanks.

My story begins with me having a secret crush on my cousin. I have never told anyone about my feelings, and while I thought that they were unrequited, I also felt like I would never have the courage to confess my feelings to her.

Decided to confess my feelings for her after finding out that she is not blood related to me

I was always in awe of her beauty, intelligence, and her bubbly personality. She seemed to be the perfect girl, and I felt like I was not good enough for her.

However, little did I know that she was adopted by my relatives. I found out about this through from my parents one day when we were just talking about our families, and while I was surprised, I also felt like this was my chance to make a move.

This newfound knowledge gave me the courage to finally tell her what I had been feeling for so long.

I decided to take her out to dinner and tell her how I felt. We had known each other since we were children, so I felt like I had a chance. I was nervous, but I knew that I had to take this opportunity to finally confess my feelings. I was determined to make her my forever.

When I arrived at the restaurant, I saw that she had already arrived. She was even more beautiful than I had remembered. We talked for a while and I could tell that she was a bit confused about why I had asked her out.

I finally mustered up the courage to tell her how I felt. I told her that I had been secretly in love with her for years, and that I finally realized that she was not actually related to me.

At first, she seemed a bit shocked, because she herself did not know that she was not the blood child of my relatives,] but then she smiled and told me that she had actually felt the same way towards me.

She told me that she had been afraid to share her feelings with me because of our family connections. We talked for a while and I could tell that we had a strong connection.

She then told me to give her some time to find out the truth about her birth from her parents before we decide on what to do.

We both knew that we had found something special and even though it might seem complicated because in name we were still family, we decided to take things slowly.

Somewhere deep inside, we both knew that there was a future for us.

I’ve been living in Singapore for a while now, and I can tell you one thing: Singaporeans are definitely more experienced in drinking than Caucasians.

A lot of Caucasians act like they are good drinkers, but they are honestly not a challenge to the locals in Singapore

It seems like a lot of Caucasians in Singapore think they can keep up with the locals when it comes to drinking, but they honestly can’t.

When I first moved to Singapore, I was pretty shocked to see how much alcohol was being consumed. It seemed like everywhere I went, someone was drinking. I thought I could keep up with them, but I quickly realized that I was way out of my league.

I’ve seen Caucasians try to keep up with the locals, only to end up passed out on the ground after a few drinks. It’s a bit embarrassing, to be honest.

Most Singaporeans that I know are much more disciplined when it comes to drinking, they know when to stop if they have to whereas Caucasians tend to overindulge and end up drinking too much.

By the way, I am talking about those office working class Singaporeans and not those young punks or hooligan looking people you see at the Thai discos or KTVs here.

Those people might also be good at drinking but they would also tend to overdrink and create problems thereafter.

Caucasians also tend to be more competitive when it comes to drinking. They will try to out-drink each other and show off how tough they are.

Singaporeans, on the other hand, also like to challenge their friends in a friendly manner when it comes to drinking but most people will tap out if they really have too much to drink and will not continue to swallow down their alcohol when they cannot take it.

I was out for dinner with my friend and some of his clients. He was excited to show off his new Rolex watch which he bragged about all week.

Thinks wearing a Rolex will show people that he have some ‘success’ in life

He was all dressed up and planning to impress his clients with his Rolex watch and he wanted to show them that he had some success in life.

Little did I know, it was all a facade.

My friend had been struggling to make ends meet and was desperate to look successful in front of his clients. So, he decided to purchase a fake Rolex watch in order to look successful and wealthy.

At first, I was impressed by his Rolex. It looked almost identical to the real thing and it was a perfect addition to his outfit. His clients also seemed to be a little impressed and asked him about it and he proudly spoke about how he got it.

However, as the night progressed, I noticed that the clients were acting strangely around my friend. They were avoiding eye contact and seemed to be whispering to each other. I was starting to get suspicious and asked my friend what was going on.

That’s when my friend finally confessed that the Rolex was a fake. His clients had known all along that his Rolex was a fake and had been watching him to see how he would react.

They told him when I went to the toilet that if he couldn’t afford a real Rolex, he didn’t need to show off.

They also told him that no one will judge him on his success based on what he was wearing and even told him that a lot of really successful people dress very humbly and don’t show off their Rolex or whatever luxuries they have.

The night ended with an awkward goodbye.

His attempt to show off had backfired and now he had to face the consequences.

It was the second semester of my freshman year in university. I wasn’t doing too well in my classes and was falling behind in my studies. I had no one to turn to for help, until I met my classmate, Sarah (not her real name).

Dated her even though I was not interested in her because she helped me with my studies

Sarah was a smart girl. She was also very popular in our class. We started talking and she offered to help me with my studies. She even invited me to her place to study together. I was hesitant at first, but I agreed since I needed help.

One day, Sarah asked me out on a date. She said that she was interested in me and found me attractive after spending some time with me.

I decided to go out with her because I was single and had nothing to lose, plus I was afraid that if I said no, she would not help me out with my studies anymore.

We went out on several dates and even ended up in bed together, but I wasn’t completely honest with her. I was only interested in her because she was helping me with my studies.

I felt guilty for taking advantage of her, but at the same time I was desperate for her help.

We kept dating for a few months, until I realized that I didn’t have real feelings for her. I knew I had to tell her the truth, so I broke up with her.

I felt terrible for using her like that, but I was desperate for her help. I knew I shouldn’t have taken advantage of her, but I was so desperate for help that I didn’t think about the consequences.

In the end, I was able to pass my classes and get my grades up. I was happy, but I still felt guilty for using Sarah. I knew that I shouldn’t have taken advantage of her, but I was desperate for help and didn’t think about the consequences.