I had been friends with Ron (not his real name) for many years and he had been struggling financially for most of his life.

He had worked hard and was finally able to have a steady job and get his first paycheck of $10,000. When he showed me the check, he was beaming with pride and joy, and I was so happy for him.

Because he did not have money before, he splurged and acted like a snob

He wanted to celebrate his newfound wealth, so he decided to take us out to a fancy restaurant. I was excited to see Ron finally get to experience the other side of life, but also a bit worried because I was concerned he might get taken advantage of.

Ron was not used to having money and I was afraid that he might not know how to handle it.

At the restaurant, Ron was so excited to finally have some money to spend. He was buying rounds of drinks for everyone and ordering the most expensive items on the menu.

Everyone was having a great time, but I could see that Ron was getting a bit carried away with the spending. I tried to tell him to be careful, but he was too caught up in the moment.

He even wanted to throw money at some girls we befriended at the restaurant, telling them that they’ll get $50 for every shot that they take and he would settle their bills.

Poor money management led to him having no money after a few weeks

Unfortunately, Ron’s newfound wealth did not last long. Within a few weeks, he had already spent almost all of his money. He had no idea how to budget or save, and he had been taken advantage of by people who saw him as an easy target. He had lost his job and was back to being poor again.

I had tried to tell him to be careful and to save some money, but he had not listened to me. He thought that having money meant he could throw his weight around and that everything would be okay. Instead, he ended up with nothing and was worse off than before.

It was a harsh lesson for Ron. He had learned the hard way that money is not a cure-all for life’s problems and that it must be managed responsibly.

He now has a better understanding of money and how to use it wisely, but the experience was a painful one.

It all began with a simple glance. I was in my polytechnic, doing what I always did—attending classes and struggling through my assignments.

But this one day, something different happened. As I walked down the hallway, I noticed a beautiful girl. She had long, dark hair, a captivating smile, and a kind aura that drew me in.

Didn’t dare to approach her, contented with admiring her from afar

I was instantly smitten. I wanted to approach her, but I was too shy. I told myself that I was too intimidated to speak to her, so I kept my distance. I was content to just admire her from afar, but I was also curious to know if she might be interested in me.

Decided to grow some balls and approached her, to my surprise she was also interested in me

One day, I finally mustered up enough courage to approach her. I was nervous, but I knew I had to do it. I took a deep breath, walked up to her, and introduced myself.

To my surprise, she was also interested in me! She had also been noticing me for a while but did not dare to approach me because you know, girls will always be girls.

We started talking and exchanging contacts. We talked for a while and I could tell she was just as intrigued by me as I was by her.

We would meet up to go to school together and wait for each other to end classes.

We started dating soon after. It was a whirlwind romance—we were so in love and couldn’t get enough of each other. Every time we were together, it felt like time stood still. We’d stay up late talking, go on adventures, and just enjoy each other’s company.

It wasn’t long before we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We got engaged and set a date for our wedding. We said our vows in front of our family and friends, and it was one of the happiest days of our lives.

Now, years later, we have two children, a beautiful home, and a happy life. I’m so grateful for the courage I found to approach her all those years ago.

I’m glad I took that leap of faith and got to know her. I’m thankful for the wonderful life we have together, and I’m looking forward to many more years of happiness.

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It always seems like my friend never has any money in his bank account when I ask him to return the money that he owes me.

Always shows me his empty bank account when I ask for money back

Whenever I ask him to pay me back, he always shows me his empty bank account and then expects me to feel sorry for him. He always comes up with some new style to expect sympathy from me.

He does this every single time and it’s become a bit of a running joke between us. I think he thinks that if he can make me feel sorry for him, then maybe I won’t ask for the money anymore.

He’s always coming up with excuses as to why he can’t pay me back, like his car broke down and he had to pay for repairs, or he had to pay for a family emergency, or he had to buy something for his girlfriend.

All these things may be true, but I know he has the money to pay me back, he just doesn’t want to.

I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he just gets defensive and says that he’ll pay me back when he can. But I know that’s not going to happen.

I’ve tried being patient, but it’s been months and he still hasn’t paid me back. I’ve been tempted to just write it off, but I really need the money and I’m not sure what else to do.

I don’t want to ruin our friendship over this, but I also don’t want him to think it’s okay to keep taking advantage of my kindness.

I want to be understanding, but I also want to make sure he knows that it’s not acceptable to keep asking for money and not pay it back.

I don’t want to be too hard on him, but I also don’t want him to think he can just take advantage of me. So, I’m trying to be understanding, but also firm.

I’ve told him that he needs to pay me back soon or our friendship will be affected. Hopefully this will be enough to get him to take the situation seriously and pay me back soon.

Charged for not attending IPPT RT. Summary trial at CMPB soon. What will happen to me?

‘No time’ for IPPT and RT because life has not been good

As we all know, we went through a tough time during the recent pandemic. As for me, i lost my job and had to settle with doing full time food delivery.

No job is easy. Mine was no different. Had little time to rest or even sleep. Therefore, i did not have time/energy to go for IPPT RT sessions.

his is going to be my 3rd offence. The 1st and 2nd time was because i overlooked due to office work being crazy busy. I truly regret this and have learned my lesson.

Definitely not going to repeat it ever again. Does anyone have any experience being charged for the 3rd time?

What can i expect?

Here are what netizens think

• Lol I got charged 5 times already, each time fine increase 100, but for the last rt, I didn’t attended the last 2 round so no fine. As long you don’t give your Co some f- up excuse, he probably fine you or CMPB charge you a higher fine.
  
• Before your charge date just book and attend some RT sessions. During the charge they’ll look at all the evidence available including the RT sessions you just went for even if it’s the very evening before less than a day ago. The worst thing you can do is just do nothing and “mentally prepare”.
  
• Defaulted thrice in a row. First time was given a warning, second was $100 fine. Third was a $300 fine.
  
• Relax, it’s only your “third” time. High chance that you will let off with a fine. SAF as much as possible, tries to avoid putting what are essentially civilians, to DB nowadays.
  
  And we totally understand your situation, though try your best to do NS fit from this year onwards to avoid this PITA situation.

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This will be a long post, apologies to whoever reading but some advice would be great.

Context

me and my girlfriend are both 25, and we’ve been together for nearly 4 years, at the start (as id imagine with all relationships) the s- was constant, every time we’d see each other and it was great, it was very vanilla but that never bothered me. last year (2022), we very rarely had s- for a number of reasons:

Reasons

• we both live with parents, so we’d never get alone time till around midnight, where i was always tired and preferred the spontaneous s- we had at the start of the relationship
  
• we don’t see each other every day, so when we would see each other the s- for her would be painful and unpleasant due to tightness
  
• it wasn’t my go to thing to do, it might be weird, but id always prefer to hang out together and watch a film/talk rather than have s-, we don’t see each other that often and i valued that more.

I always get blamed for not ‘giving’ it to her

Throughout 2022 i was constantly on the end of blame for the lack of s- and made to feel like it was my fault, perhaps it is but there’s many reasons to why this happened, so i vowed to make things more better and it just didn’t happen, plus whenever we did it always felt as if I was only having s- because of this argument which just didn’t feel natural.

The past few months I’ve been really trying to up my game, explore her s- interests and fantasies and make it more fun again for the better. even though she said she had 0 fantasies I still had the aim to work at it, but she just isn’t interested at all in trying to make things better.

Tells me she has no more s- drive because its pain

She told me that she doesn’t have s- drive anymore because of how much it hurts and because of the lack of during the last year and that she isn’t interested in talking about it.

I really need help as i have 0 clue where to go from here, i thought the best way to make things better were to actually have frequent s- and explore things together, but how do i do that if she just doesn’t want to talk about and open up to me?

I caught my BF looking up for ‘chicken’ while I was out of town.

He googled for them and also followed one on social media

I have been out of town and I recently found out my bf was researching for ‘chicken’ and followed one on his social media.

He at first lied and said he didn’t even know she was a ‘chicken’ and he just followed her because he was curious.

After I kept asking him over and over, he finally admitted he was looking up ‘chicken’ in our area and got curious to see what one looked like, so he followed her on his personal social media account.

He claims he had no intention of doing anything inappropriate.

I should add that we have not been having s- at all. He doesn’t want to with me hardly ever. This has been an ongoing problem for months and he claims he has an issue with low testosterone.

He’s saying he was just fantasizing about getting with a ‘chicken’ and took it too far.

How do I handle this situation?

Here are what netizens think

• Sounds like he’s not interested in you anymore and doesn’t have the balls to just say it. At least in an intimate manner.
  
  People do this crazy thing where the idea of being honest with a partner and hurting them seems way way scarier than doing sneaky shit in secret and hoping they don’t get caught, which is objectively way worse and can easily make the partner feel more terrible than if they just were honest.
  
  How you caught him may or may not be unethical (you didn’t specify) but the cat’s out of the bag and now you two need to figure out what you both actually want here and if there are needs not being met and unable to be met it’s time to seriously consider the relationship.
  
• Could be curiosity gone too far, it really could. The fact that he told you so makes me think that it was and that there was no real intention of doing beyond that