It was an ordinary day, and I was expecting an ordinary job interview. Little did I know that I was about to experience a huge disappointment and a moment of realization about the current job market.

I had been unemployed for a long time and had been searching for a job for months. Finally, I found an opportunity to work as a manager in a small company, and I was so excited to finally have an interview.

I was well-prepared for the interview, and I thought I had answered all the questions satisfactorily. I left the interview feeling confident that I would get the job.

I ran into one of the interviewers in the restroom at the office, and I couldn’t help but overhear their conversation. They were discussing the interview process, and one of the interviewers mentioned that they had chosen to hire someone else because the candidate was willing to work for a much lower salary than I had proposed.

The conversation continued, and I soon realized that the person they had hired was a foreign worker who was willing to undercut all the other applicants.

I was stunned. I had worked hard to prepare for this job and had even gone to the trouble of researching the company and its industry. I had also spent a lot of time and energy crafting my resume and cover letter. I had done everything I possibly could to prove that I was the best candidate for the job.

A few days later, I received an email from the company informing me that they had decided to hire someone else for the position. I was shocked and confused. I had been so sure that I would get the job that I had not even considered the possibility of being rejected.

But it seemed that the company had chosen to hire someone who was cheaper, despite my qualifications.

Companies often prioritize cost-efficiency over quality of work, even if it means hiring someone who may not be as qualified or experienced as other applicants.

It was a hard pill to swallow, but it taught me an important lesson I go move to another country better.

My friend recently applied for a credit card, and I was a little worried about how he was going to pay for it. He had a job and a steady income, but he was always short on cash. I thought he was going to be responsible and pay off the card each month, but it turns out he had a rather ingenious idea.

He asked his girlfriend’s mother to pay for the card each month. I was concerned about this and tried to talk him out of it, but he was adamant that it was the right thing to do. He said that his girlfriend’s mother was wealthy and it would be no problem for her to pay the bill. He further argued that it would be a great way to show her how much he appreciated her financial support.

I still wasn’t sure if this was a good idea. I was worried that his girlfriend’s mother would not be happy about it and would feel taken advantage of. I told him that he was taking a risk and that if his own mother found out, it could cause a lot of tension between them. He shrugged it off and said that he was sure it would be fine.

In the end, his girlfriend’s mother agreed to pay for the card. I was taken aback. I couldn’t believe that she had agreed to such an arrangement. I asked my friend why he thought she had agreed and he said that she saw it as an investment in him and their future together. He said that she trusted him to be responsible and make good use of the card.

I was still skeptical, but I could see that my friend was relieved. He said that this arrangement was a great way for him to build up his credit score and that he was grateful to his girlfriend’s mother for helping him out.

I still think it was a risky move on his part. I’m not sure how his girlfriend’s mother would feel if she ever found out. But I’m glad that it worked out for him in the end. He is now able to use his credit card without worry and build up his credit score. I just hope that he takes this responsibility seriously and makes sure to pay off his balance each month.

It all started when I came across a picture of a woman with pink “raisins” on social media. The comments were mostly positive and I was intrigued.

I wanted to know why people were so drawn to this particular color. After doing some research, I found out that pink “raisins” are a rare occurrence and that many people think they are attractive.

I began to wonder why there weren’t more women with pink “raisins”. I mean, I have seen a lot of women with brown or black “raisins”.

But why don’t I see more local women with pink “raisins”?

I decided to do some digging and find out why this is the case. After talking to a few people, I found out that most women have brown or black “raisins” because of their melanin levels. Melanin is a pigment that determines the color of our skin and “raisins”. Women with higher levels of melanin tend to have darker “raisins”.

So if melanin is responsible for the color of “raisins”, then why are some women born with pink “raisins”? It turns out that there are several reasons. One of them is genetics. Some women are simply born with pink “raisins” due to their genetics. Another reason is that some women have had surgery to lighten their “raisins”. This can be done for cosmetic reasons, such as to make them appear more aesthetically pleasing.

Now that I had a better understanding of why some women have pink “raisins” and why some don’t, I was curious to find out if other men found them attractive. To my surprise, the majority of men I spoke to said that they did find pink “raisins” attractive. They said that pink “raisins” stand out from the rest and make a woman look more desirable.

I was amazed by this response and began to think about why more local girls don’t have pink “raisins”. After doing more research, I found out that there are several factors that can prevent women from having pink “raisins”. One of them is skin tone. Women with darker skin tones tend to have darker “raisins”, even if they have the genetic potential to have pink “raisins”. In addition, some women may be born with a variation of the gene that produces pink “raisins”, which is also why some women have them and some don’t.

Finally, I realized that if more local girls had pink “raisins”, it would be a huge boost to the confidence of many women. Pink “raisins” can be seen as a symbol of beauty and femininity, and having them could make a woman feel more attractive and desired.

So to find a gf with a pink nei nei is like a unicorn almost impossible.

I still remember the moment it happened. I was scrolling through my Instagram feed when I saw a picture of my father holding out a shiny Rolex watch to me.

He was so proud of himself for being able to afford the watch for me, and he wanted to show it off. He captioned the post with something like “My son deserves the best, and I’m proud to be able to provide it for him”.

At first, I was elated. I felt so lucky to have a father who was willing to buy me such an expensive gift. I wanted to show off to my friends, so I posted a picture of myself wearing the watch with the caption “My dad got me the best gift ever!”

Unfortunately, the reaction to the post was not what I expected. Instead of being congratulated on my good fortune, I was met with a barrage of comments telling me that I was a spoiled brat and that I shouldn’t be so proud of something that I didn’t earn. People were even suggesting that my father was using me to show off his wealth.

At first, I was embarrassed and angry. How could people be so rude? I had worked hard in school, and I had always been responsible with my money. I had never asked my father for anything expensive, only this one time for a Rolex and my father had never given me anything like this before.

But then, I started to think about it differently. I realized that my father was just trying to show me that he loved me by giving me something expensive. He was proud of his ability to provide for me and wanted to show it off. And, even though I didn’t earn the money to buy the watch, I was still thankful for my father’s generosity.

I also realized that the people who were making fun of me were probably jealous that they didn’t have a father who was willing to provide for them like mine was for me. I understood their reactions, but I also knew that I didn’t need to defend myself.

So, I took a step back and decided to be grateful for the gift. I was thankful that my dad had provided me with such a nice gift, and I was proud that I had a father who was willing to provide for me. I still have the watch, and when I look at it, I’m reminded of my father’s love and generosity.

I’m also thankful for the people who made fun of me because their comments made me think a little deeper about the situation. I was able to view it from a different perspective, and I was able to appreciate my father’s generosity even more.

Singapore is a vibrant and bustling city-state with a rich cultural heritage and a thriving modern economy. However, beneath the gleaming skyscrapers and bustling streets lies a dark and spooky side to the city. With a history stretching back centuries, Singapore has seen its fair share of tragedy, violence, and death, and it is no surprise that many of its buildings and landmarks are rumoured to be haunted.

Bukit Brown Cemetery

Bukit Brown Cemetery is one of Singapore’s oldest cemeteries, and it is also one of its most haunted. The cemetery was established in 1922 and was the final resting place for many of Singapore’s early Chinese immigrants and their descendants.

Over the years, Bukit Brown Cemetery has fallen into disrepair, and many of the graves have been abandoned or forgotten. Despite efforts to preserve the cemetery, it is now overgrown and has become a popular spot for ghost hunters and urban explorers.

There have been numerous reports of ghostly sightings at Bukit Brown Cemetery, including apparitions of Chinese ghosts and spirits. Visitors have reported hearing strange noises and voices, seeing misty figures moving among the graves, and feeling an overwhelming sense of unease and dread.

One of the most famous ghostly sightings at Bukit Brown Cemetery is that of the “Lady in the Green Dress.” According to legend, the Lady in the Green Dress was a wealthy Chinese woman who was buried at the cemetery in the 1930s. Visitors claim to have seen her ghostly figure walking among the graves, and some have even reported feeling a cold breeze or a touch on their shoulder when she is near.

Istana Woodneuk

Istana Woodneuk is a former royal palace located in the heart of Singapore. The palace was built in 1902 and was the residence of Sultan Abu Bakar of Johor and his descendants until the 1930s. The palace was abandoned during World War II and has since fallen into disrepair.

There have been many reports of ghostly sightings at Istana Woodneuk over the years. Visitors have reported seeing apparitions of the former Sultan and his family, as well as hearing strange noises and voices. Some have even claimed to have seen a ghostly figure of a woman in a white dress walking the grounds of the palace.

One of the most famous ghostly sightings at Istana Woodneuk is that of a ghostly carriage. According to legend, a carriage carrying the former Sultan’s daughter-in-law was once attacked by bandits near the palace. The carriage and its occupants were never found, and some believe that the ghostly carriage can still be seen driving through the palace grounds.

Pasir Ris Park

Pasir Ris Park is a popular recreational spot located in the eastern part of Singapore. The park is known for its beautiful beaches, lush greenery, and diverse wildlife. However, it is also known to be one of the most haunted places in Singapore.

There have been numerous reports of ghostly sightings at Pasir Ris Park, including apparitions of ghostly figures, strange noises, and unexplained occurrences. Some visitors have reported feeling an overwhelming sense of dread and unease in certain areas of the park.

One of the most famous ghostly sightings at Pasir Ris Park is that of a ghostly figure known as the “Pontianak.” According to Malay folklore, the Pontianak is a female ghost who died while pregnant and is now cursed to wander the earth seeking revenge. Visitors claim to have seen her ghostly figure walking through the park, and some have even reported hearing her crying or laughing.

Old National Library Building

The Old National Library Building is another famous haunted spot in Singapore. The building was completed in 1960 and served as the main library in Singapore until it was closed in 2004 and replaced by the newer National Library Building.

There are several stories surrounding the hauntings at the Old National Library Building. Some believe that the ghost of an elderly librarian who died in the building still lingers there, while others claim that the building is haunted by the spirits of the thousands of books that were destroyed when the library was closed.

One of the most famous ghostly sightings at the Old National Library Building is that of a ghostly figure known as the “Red Lady.” According to legend, the Red Lady was a Chinese opera singer who was murdered by her husband in the building’s basement. Visitors claim to have seen her ghostly figure wandering the halls of the building, and some have even reported hearing her singing.

There have also been reports of strange occurrences in the building, such as books moving on their own, unexplained sounds, and doors opening and closing by themselves. Some visitors have reported feeling an overwhelming sense of unease and dread in certain areas of the building.

Old Changi Hospital

Old Changi Hospital is undoubtedly one of the most famous and haunted places in Singapore. The hospital was built in the early 1930s and was originally intended to serve as a military hospital for the British Armed Forces. During World War II, the hospital was used by the Japanese as a prison camp, and it is believed that countless prisoners of war were tortured and killed within its walls.

After the war, the hospital was returned to the British and continued to serve as a military hospital until it was closed in 1997. Since then, it has remained abandoned and has become a popular spot for ghost hunters and thrill-seekers.

There have been countless reports of ghostly sightings at Old Changi Hospital over the years, including apparitions of Japanese soldiers and prisoners of war. Visitors have reported hearing disembodied screams, footsteps, and the sounds of someone walking on gravel. There have also been reports of sudden temperature drops, cold spots, and an overwhelming feeling of unease in certain areas of the hospital.

One of the most famous ghostly sightings at Old Changi Hospital is that of a female ghost known as the “Lady in White.” According to legend, the Lady in White was a nurse who worked at the hospital during the war and was killed by the Japanese. Visitors claim to have seen her ghostly figure walking the halls of the hospital, and some have even reported feeling a cold breeze or a touch on their shoulder when she is near.

A modern city haunted by its past

Singapore may be a modern and thriving city-state, but it is also a place with a rich history and a dark and spooky side. From abandoned hospitals to haunted cemeteries and palaces, there are many places in Singapore where ghostly sightings and paranormal activity have been reported. Whether you are a believer or a sceptic, these haunted places are sure to give you a chill and a thrill.

Problem with parent(s).

How y’all deal with a narcissistic parent(s)?

My dad keeps picking fights with me for absolutely no reason and threatens basic necessities (money, food, kicking me out) over my head when he gets mad in the heat of the argument. I’m planning on leaving but I’ve got O-levels to deal with and I have zero funds.

I’ve read a lot of books on what I can deal with living with someone like this such as “adult children of emotionally immature parents” which helped alot in understanding what and why things are the way they are but I don’t know how long I’m able to cope. Feels like I’m going mad.

I’ve got a suitcase prepared containing some of my belongings but I don’t know any place where I’m able to stay without money.

Should I continue to live with him and just suck it up until my O-levels done??

I’ve thought of getting a late night part-time job but I’m not sure if I should sacrifice my sleep for money since I’m already struggling to keep up with school.

I feel like complete trash after every argument, and I really don’t know what to do in this situation, I feel trapped and hopeless.

I don’t have a mom anymore. Just me, my younger brother and that old man.

I don’t really have any relatives I can ask help from 🙁

Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

Netizens’ comments

• Think long term. Don’t antagonise him right now. Stay out of his way. Know what triggers him and avoid setting him off.

You have to focus on your O levels and hopefully followed by poly. So it will be something like 4 more years to build a solid springboard. After this, you will find it more feasible to move out when you secure a job. Imagine what your life will be like then. Use this as the single reason to put up with the current situation you are in.

• Really sorry to hear this. Best you can do is to let your dad “rant/vent” and try not to react. Most of the time they just want to get a rise out of you to justify the bad feelings they have inside. Reacting never ends well. I’ve been beaten, kicked out, allowance witheld etc.

You can also try the reverse and show concern especially when your dad is being unreasonable. Sometimes the unexpected response takes them by surprise and they may have a moment of clarity to realise how ridiculous they are being.

If that still doesn’t work, minimise interaction. Visualise a goal for yourself. Either find other supportive relatives to take you in while you finish up your studies or bear with it until you finish your studies and find work.

Once the financial independence kicks in, you move out. Don’t let them influence you and break you. Tragedy shouldn’t be passed down through generations.

Going to jail soon, how do I save my job?

Going to jail soon for a petty crime, could be from 1 month to a year, not sure yet as I haven’t been sentenced. How do I save my job? Am open to taking sabbatical.

However, would like to keep this sentence as confidential as possible = employer and colleagues don’t know. Serious answers only please. 🙁

Netizens’ comments

1. The only serious answer should be to discuss with your boss. Only they can tell you how, if it’s possible.
2. Sounds impossible.
3. Drunk driving ah? Just take 2 weeks leave.
4. Lol at open to taking sabbatical. As if you have a choice. Don’t be shy, tell us your ‘petty’ crime.
5. You could say that something personal has cropped up, and you wish to take no pay leave for X amount of time.
   Are you represented by a lawyer? At the sentencing hearing, you may be able to make an application to the Judge to defer the commencement of your sentence to settle your personal affairs.
   Ie. The Judge pronounces your sentence so you know how long you will go to jail for, and then the Judge orders the sentence to start, for example, 3 weeks later. This way you can have some time to apply for leave from your employer.
   In my view, I wouldn’t think employees have an obligation to explain what they would be doing in their own time, when putting in an application for leave.
   Think about it from another perspective: an employee’s family member could have gotten really ill, and the employee may want to take no-pay leave to take care of the family member.
   I think that the employee would be well within their rights to say that they are taking time off for “a personal matter”.
6. Yes, they can but employers will be more likely be willing to grant a sabbatical if they sympathize or understand their employee’s motivations. Saying “a personal matter” alone has a higher chance of rejection.

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Hi Everyone, I am foreigner living in Singapore for 12 years now and staying in same HDB unit for 9 years. All this started when I was transferred by my company to a different country.

I have 1.5 year rental agreement signed in may 2022. Since I have to move out, I gave landlord(lives abroad) a notice of 3 months in Oct.

Landlord said as per the agreement I need to pay rent for rest of the months even if I move out. So I requested my company to delay the transfer and landlord and me mutually agreed that i can vacate in may end 2023. Everything is ok until this.

After few days landlord messaged that she cannot travel to singapore during may so asked to consider prepone the move out to march 2023 to which I couldnt agree as I cannot again get my transfer date changed.

She even mentioned she plan to stay in flat while singapore else a service apartment would cost her a lot. I responded thar its not possible.

She then asked to produce AC servicing receipts. I provided 2 receipts as i missed doing servicing due to covid.

She then sent an email stating she decided to end the lease and started threatening me that if i dont move out by march 27, she will have lawyer exectute eviction and she will cut off electricy, water and gas.

She will lock the propety and give no access and security deposit wont be given back.

I checked with couple of lawyers and they said she cant evict me like this but she can terminate water, gas, electricity supply as sp services is her on name.

And even if i got to small claims tribunal or court it would take few weeks and i will have to face the problem of no water, electricity etc.

I feel this is really unfair that landlord can do such acts but i cant even have my opinion heard. I have a 3 year old daughter and i cant be out on road due to this inhumane act of landlord.

Its very difficult to get rental for 1.5 month given the market now:-( My 3 year old kid has bday on may 15 and she wants to celebrate with her neighbourhood and preschool friends one last time(she has grown up here)

Please advise if anybody has gone through such or have some ideas which can save me from this harassment.

Netizens’ comments

1. Sadly some landlords use all the pretexts to vacate early or late depending on their choosing. Sad to hear the pain you had to go thru, come to an agreement and find alternative living arrangement.
2. You rented at her place for 9 years yet she treat like a dog. Inhumane. Sorry for what you are going through.
3. Don’t waste your time, money and energy going through the legal route. Discuss with your company and see what they can come up with.

-Is it possible to transfer you earlier now.

-Can they render you some assistance if you move to your next country earlier than transfer date.

-Can they render you some assistance if you have to move to a service apartment in Sg the next 1.5 months

-Is it feasible to move your family back to home country for the next 1.5 months whilst you live in a hotel here and then meet up again in your new destination. Etc etc.

I hope things work out for you in the end.

CPF contribution

Hi, I got a job offer from the workplace I was working as a part-timer.

We agreed on 3K for salary verbally, but I found out it includes the employer’s contribution as well. I thought it is usually workplace pay $3K + 17% and I get $3K – 20% ( employee’s)

Is the information I know wrong? and is this common practice?

I really love (unbelievably) this job and atmosphere of this work place and people but not in a desperate situation to earn money so I will try to negotiate again to exclude 17% from my pay and get 3k still. (3K is still big amount for my industry). If I succeed, that is good, if I fail, this is good lesson for me 🙂

Netizens’ comments

• Yes you are right. Should not include employer’s cpf contributions
• Run. If they scamming you on pay right from the get go, you can bet the rest of the work is going to be hell.
• I agree that the market norm would be that the salary figure quoted to you should exclude the employer’s contribution.
  If you are able to, you might wish to seriously consider turning down the job and look to another employer instead.
  Ultimately, these little signs are demonstrative of an employer’s attitude towards the welfare of their employees, and of the employer’s values such as transparency, accountability and good faith.
• Most important is what is the role and is 3k plus employer’s contribution a fair compensation and market rate.
  But the fact that they quoted a non-standard offer that includes employer’s contribution demonstrates bad faith. That’s a red flag I’d look out for.
• Salary should just be without employer contribution. If with employer contribution then u only get like (100-20)/117 times 3k. What a red flag.
  I wonder why some of my seniors get so high salary but that includes the employers cpf lmao.
• Check your employment letter/contact if it is stated that your salary is inclusive of employer’s contribution. If it’s not then you can complain otherwise it is what it is as stated in the contract.

My girlfriend is traumatised from giving me a hj. Any advice on how to help her?

I invited my girlfriend over to my house to casually hang out. In little to no time we were making out on my bed and she gave me a jerking me off (first time for the both of us).

During the whole ordeal she was really turned on and took the initiative more than once. As soon as we finished though she started crying.

I tried to stay beside her as much as I could and she told me that she feels “filthy” and “not pure anymore” and that she doesnt know whether she will ever see me with the same eyes and like me the same way again.

We had already talked a little about this stuff and she had repeatedly told me she wasnt ready for anything but in the heat of the moment we got carried away (both of us agree on this).

Right now she is very insecure whether we should continue to stay together and I’m desperately trying to help her in this difficult phase and convince her to stay.

In the meantime we have decided to restrain from anything physically intimate but I still feel that she is suffering and that sometimes she thinks about ending the relationship.

I am not aware of any past trauma. What can I do to make her feel better?

Netizens’ comments

It seems likely there are two things at play here: First, she is somewhere between concerned and upset about things getting carried away. Not so much that there is anything terrible about what happened, but more in a sense of what could happen and the potential consequences.

In short, it is possible she shocked herself with the discovery of how easy it is to get carried away in these matters! Second, it is still possible, even likely, that she has some socialization around “good girls,” or something like that, and is feeling she overstepped some boundaries.

Both of these are obviously related, and deal with how powerful desire can be. When we are inexperienced with dealing with it, it can be overwhelming. And it is possible this caught her off guard, and now you’re both dealing with the fallout/what happens now part of things.

So, if that is correct, what happens now? intimacy has a major element of communication required! This can definitely be a major tripping point when lacking experience. It sounds like you are talking about things, though ultimately, moving forward is likely to require some introspection on her part, and sharing – both in regard to what went on with her, and potentially getting back on the same page.

There is nothing wrong, or filthy about a hand job. Sure, there are times and places where it isn’t appropriate, but it doesn’t sound like that was the case here. It is definitely a good place to start exploring too.

Lastly, you don’t mention your ages, but even if you’ve both waited quite awhile, there is alway the possibility that once everything came into view in hindsight, she suddenly felt like she wasn’t ready for things to go as far as they went.

In which case, even though such explorations are a good place to start, they will be too much until she feels ready.