Im a 27 years old with only Olevel cert trying to start over

Im a 27 years old single and nothing to show for it. After graduating with o level, i did get myself into a diploma course in Poly.

Turned out it was not the course that i wanted and i naively dropped out from it.. At that time my mental health took for the worst.

At that time too, i know i do not have any mental capacity to continue study so i start working in retail.. i jumped from retail to retail shop for years.

After tht i have to stop working to be the caretaker for my grandparents who were bedbound and navigating my father who is also recently half blind.

Skiped to 2 years. Since i stop being the caretaker. I want to start anew. I want to start thinking for myself and my future.

My plan is to start going back to the workforce to earn money for myself. Also i know i have a lack of education and there is small scope of job that i can get into.

My plan is to work and enroll myself to a part time diploma in poly if i am eligible(i regret not starting earlier).

Is there any advice or a way that i can continue studying and still earning income? Any advice for me when starting over? I really do need to start over.

Netizens’ comments

1. You can sign up for a free 1 to 1 consultation with SkillsFuture – they will advise you on upskilling, what courses you’re suitable for and the available grants and subsidies etc.
   You already have experience in retail and home caregiving for the elderly, so those are things you can offer in addition to your O level cert. If you don’t mind a career related to either of those areas, enrol in a certificate or diploma to layer more up-to-date knowledge and skills on top of your existing experience. The elder care industry will only be expanding in coming years, given our aging population.
2. You have something to show for it. You showed that you are able to have the patience, strength (physical) and likability to have 2 very old people and 1 disabled person trust you to let you take care of them. You obviously don’t shy away from bodily fluids or showering them.
   It looks like retail is not for you if you are hopping from place to place. I wouldn’t suggest sales either because of your mental health. income is great if you can take serious pressure and not crack.
   Why not consider palliative care or Senior care industries (not just in nursing). These people are usually highly sought after and paid quite well, not just in Singapore but anywhere in the world. These companies sometimes offer further education to you so you don’t pay anything.
3. friend. you have working experience now and you can directly enroll yourself into a part time diploma with kaplan, which will allow you direct entry into their affiliated universities degree programs(which you can also do part time)
   without any financial support from anyone, its quite important that you got a day job to finance your tuition bank loan, which is why doing both your diploma and then degree part time is a good solution
   what do you like to do? finance? HR? business management?cybersecurity?

Colleagues who are not pulling their weight

Just a rant…I have colleagues who are frequently on sick leave or excused from meetings because their family members (it can be anyone from children to adults) suddenly fell sick and they needed to rush home to take care of them.

Granted we want to take care of the staff welfare so they are always allowed to take the leave (to the extent the management will proudly exclaim that they will let them take the leave without any question asked) but lately it has become obvious that some are taking advantage of the situation.

Also, this is definitely not showing welfare to those who take their work seriously and show up every day because they are expected to pick up the slack and take over the workload. This is basically just punishing people who are earnest and responsible.

Does this issue happen at your workplace? How does the management at your workplace handle this issue?

But what I have noticed is once you are branded as the hardworking ones and you try to take such leave, people will mark you down more compared to those who skived blatantly.

Yet another time responsible people are being penalised over those who don’t even have integrity and do their work properly

Netizens’ comments

1. Eh come on man.. have some sympathy… put yourself in their shoes ok??
   How would YOU feel if your grandma’s uncle’s big brother passed away for the 3rd time this year already????
2. Either suck it up or change company.
   Culture doesn’t change overnight and culture starts at the top. You are powerless at your level to change a company’s culture.
3. This is something u voice out to ur manager, if the dead weight impacts u. For manager to tell u that they are aware and ensuring u are equitably treated, give u more bonus or hire more ppl etc

Size of a woman doesn’t matter

I (26 m) have always been attracted to a nice, fit body, and only slept with two different women before (both were “fit” and skinny).

Last night, a friend (23f) of mine since high school asked if we couldn’t hang at night.

Mind you, she’s a bigger woman and I’ve always wanted to date her but things wouldn’t work out with our situations and other commitments. Anyways, she comes over and things led to another and we ended up in my room watching a horror movie.

We ended up cuddling, which lead to kissing, which lead to a 3 hour, stop-start fest in my room. And I can honestly say it was the best experience ever!

I was turned on not by her body, but by the way she made me feel. Confident. I’m not the best looking person, and I’m not big down there either, but she made me feel like any woman should make a man feel.

Mind you, there was a few times things got awkward but we laughed it off and checked on each other. I never thought I would have fun with her the way I did. I would do it all over again 🙂

It was experience I will never forget. <3

Netizens’ comments

1. Sounds like you like her and the feeling is mutual.
2. You caught the sickness for the thickness.
3. Thick thighs save lives.
4. Glad you realized that there are many characteristics to a woman and size is just one.
5. Everyone is saying this is so wholesome but it’s not. He’s not even attracted to her. He just likes how she made him feel. Replace her with any woman and he would feel the same. It’s really not a compliment to this woman.
6. I would like to know what you consider big please.
7. It’s crazy how so many men get so caught up in appearances while looking like a toad.
8. Sounds like you need to take her out on some proper dates and look into wifing her up.

Know anyone who has won toto or 4d big prize?

Hey guys so was reading about the recent 13m toto win. I’m very curious to hear from people who have actually won or directly know someone who won.

In the 30 years I’ve play most I have ever won is $200. So really curious if there are actual winners walking in our midst.

The other part is how did this money change their life (hopefully for the better).

Netizens’ comments

1. One family member won 500k, gambled it back in a year. Only change to life was the new fridge his wife made him buy. At least now got ice maker
2. One of my uncles, won 2m+. Has always been a super frugal guy and still is. Dint succumb to lifestyle creep, still works his normal job cause he says retire so early also nothing to do lol. Apart from the normal monthly dinners which he now always pays for, nothing much has changed. You wouldn’t know he is a millionaire from the way he dresses and the car he drives.
3. I bought a ticket from an auntie selling tickets at a hawker.
   I won 1000 dollars. Paid for my trip to Thailand.
   I never saw auntie again after that I would have bought her something nice. I like to think that she won millions that day and is now relaxing somewhere.
4. My grandfather passed away when my father was 18. Shortly after, my father won 4D, first prize. The prize money paid for the funeral, tomb stone, and help them tide through the difficult period because my grandmother was a housewife and he has younger siblings still in school.
   Fast forward 50 years, he still talks about how 4D saved his live.
5. My friend’s dad won 700k from 4D iirc, but he gave away a lot to family/relatives etc so not much was left after. We were only in secondary school/poly that time and my friend received I think around 10-15k from her dad from that windfall?
   Also worth noting that he usually spends a lot on the bets so the 700k win compared to the amount he spent accumulated over the years might not be a lot….
   I also had relatives who won 4d one of the top 3 prizes here and there, not life-altering amounts but enough for them to treat the entire extended fam (at least 50 pax) to a meal at a restaurant.
6. One of my men won 200-300k on 4D during NS.
   Just enabled him to finance his conviction to keep buying after that. He would buy like 200 big 200 small for every draw.
   Never hear of him winning anything for the rest of NS. Figured he must have returned his winnings to Singapore Pools by now.
7. Family member won 200k and lost it all on penny stocks :/
8. My dad won 4D first prize over 30 years ago. It was quite memorable. He always buys the same number (our old family car). On the day, my relatives came over for our regular family dinner and everyone wanted to check 4D before dining. We switched on the old teletext (??) and found out that my dad had struck first prize. At this point, he wasn’t home from work yet. So everyone hatched a plan to act blur.
   We kids were excited and we were warned not to spoil the surprise. Dad came home and my mum casually mentioned that everyone should check 4D before having dinner. Everyone played their roles and took out their tickets. But we were ALL just watching him and smiling at one another.
   He looked at the ticket, looked at the screen, looked at the ticket, walked up to the TV, and looked at his ticket one last time. I think he yelped. That sheer joy. Everyone laughed, clapped and teased him. He was deliriously happy. What’s that saying? Shared joy is twice the joy?

The other night, my wife met up for drinks with both a current and ex colleague , who are somewhat close guy friends (call them Andrew and Matthew). I didn’t think much of it as this was nothing out of the ordinary. In fact, she even invited to come by towards the end, but I’ve been busy with work etc. so I declined.

Time goes by and I realize it’s been a few hours… OK, she’s catching up with an old coworker, whatever. Finally she calls and tells me she’s coming home. She comes across as a bit loopy and I eventually suggest maybe she’s a bit drunker than she’s letting on.

she comes in and she’s being pretty unreasonable and rude; I try to make it better but to no avail. Eventually, we’re just lying in bed and she’s clearly texting nonstop (to who, I have no idea, yet). She falls asleep and I get to thinking… why is she so, well, bitchy, to me, and apparently the rest of the world is so interesting? She likes her social media, but it was abnormal to see her fingers fly all over the place versus scrolling and occasionally liking/responding/sharing/whatever.

To preface this, we’ve both agreed that we can both look at each other’s phones whenever. We know each other’s passwords and have each other’s fingerprints stored in the other’s phone. Overall her behaviour that night was pretty odd: staying out later than normal, trying to hide her inebriation, being rude when she gets home, and messaging so much. So now my curiosity is piqued, and I grab her phone. You can probably guess that I don’t like what I find. Two chains of texts in particular:

1) Some guy from an even older job talking about how he wished he had a blacklight when he “jizzed on her back”. The conversation seemed to be full of inside jokes and memes, of which I couldn’t quite follow, but mentioned orgasms and such.

Her old-but-more-recent coworker Andrew, about Matt. She deleted it before I/we could look later, but I know for sure I saw the following. Somewhat paraphrasing but this is definitely close:

a) “I would do nasty things to that man if it weren’t for boundaries”

b) “I shouldn’t have a crush like this, I’m a woman who’s almost 30”

c) “Please don’t tell him I love him”

d) “I hope I looked cute enough for him tonight”

The argument got crazy and she finally admit she has been sleeping around with multiple guys for many years. I recorded the conversation secretly. I don’t wanna get any diseases.

Can anyone advise the prices of divorce in Singapore, I already managed to restores the messages and I have collected enough evidence.

My friend has always been overweight. But despite his large size, he has always radiated an aura of confidence and self-assurance that I have never seen in anyone else.

He always looks as though he is sure of himself and his place in this world.

He is an inspiration to me and many of our other friends. He always has a great outlook on life and he never allows himself to be put down or ridiculed for his size. He knows his value and his worth and he is not afraid to show it.

But I always wonder where this confidence comes from. I mean, he is overweight and he people will definitely not find him attractive and he have been the target of ridicule ever seen our school days.

So why does he have so much self-assurance?

My friend always talks about how he looks like the famous Hong Kong actor Andy Lau. He is always citing how he is similar to the actor in terms of his facial features and looks and the way he acts in shows.

But despite this, my friend does not have the same body as the actor. He is much larger and heavier and is definitely no where near Andy Lau.

I guess my friend’s confidence comes from within. He has a strong sense of self-worth and he is not afraid to show it.