Okay so awhile back, I’d been dating a girl for 3 years and we decided to get a dog together. So she wanted to go look at a pet store and saw one she really liked (in hindsight I’d have much rather have adopted from a shelter and that’s my plan for the future).

So, we get the dog and it’s all in her name and we split the payment because we made the poor choice of getting him on credit.

At the time the plan was if we split she’d keep the dog. Fast forward she cheats on me and we break up, but she tells me to keep the dog and just has me send her money for his payments. I asked her for info so I could just set it all up to deduct from my account (her credit card payment also came out of my bank account and I asked her to take it off and she never did, also one of the payments already came out of my account but since she never took her credit card off the account I cancelled the account and had no way to add the payment account for the dog to my new bank account because she never sent me the info).

So, she had kept our old apartment we rented and was supposed to pay for it but ended up screwing me on it and making me have to pay for things because it’s affected me and my credit if I didn’t.

So after all that I stopped paying her for the dog and have blocked her on everything and now she’s reaching out to my family and friends trying to get them to ask me to pay her because it’s impacting her credit since all the loans are in her name.

Should I pay her back?

I wish people wouldn’t judge me so harshly for my job

I’m 35 years old and I’m a cleaner, I have ADD, autism and learning difficulties which makes everything ten times harder for me

so I didn’t do well in school, so cleaning was the only option for me, my only problem with my job is the shit I get from people friends even my own family

I just had a family reunion and I overheard my aunts telling my mom it’s OK to be disappointed in me, I lost most of my friends when I told them.

now I’m down to 3 friends who are not bothered by my job.

today my cousin told his kids to study and used me as an example of why it’s important.

I cried so much because of this, I feel so worthless and alone. iv even considered quitting because of this, the worst part is I actually really like the job, it gets me out the house, it’s satisfying to do and I have no boss or manager breathing down my neck

it’s low stress and when the work is done, that’s it, no phone calls, emails after, it’s great.

I consider it the best match for me which makes me feel worse

I really needed to get this off my chest

My boyfriend is in $180,000 worth of debt from Forex trading and i feel stuck and lost in this battle with him with no way out.

In a span of 1 month, my boyfriend lost his job and lost a huge amount of money on forex trading.

Thing is, that wasn’t his money. He needs to pay it all back. Idk how this whole forex trading thing works but what he does is he keeps borrowing huge amounts of money from other people to serve as capital, but the way it works is he has to pay these people back with interest.

He kept going, until everything was lost and now he’s stuck in debt.

My problem is that we are living together, I work from home and I can no longer focus with this cloud of anxiety hanging over my head and random people messaging me on social media letting me know that they need the money.

To be completely honest, I feel trapped in this cage with him even though I didn’t do this and have always asked him not to treat forex trading as some sort of gambling and and easy way to get a huge amount of money as it’s not always going to happen, and I always saw the risks.

I feel so bad that I’m feeling this way. I just want to breathe. I’m in this house all the time and it’s not even peaceful anymore. I have to work and cook and care for him and clean the house as he’s too down to do so, with all these forex trading debts clouding our home.

I have so many dreams for myself and I feel like it’s all stopped. My family are all going overseas to work & live there and I feel like I have this huge responsibility not to leave him (his mother is also begging me not to) especially during this time, or else I am the bad person.

I just want this to end, but I don’t know if it will. I can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore

TLDR: My boyfriend treated forex trading as some sort of gambling and easy way to get a huge amount of money and ended up being in $180k of debt.

My boyfriend was stressed at work these past few months and I supported him by helping him forget about it by making him feel busy or letting him do whatever he wants. We are in a long distance relationship right now.

I didn’t mind when he poured down all the stress on me by being annoyed at me for the simplest reasons, shouting at me and just being irritated most of the time.

He said he’ll be fine once the stress at work is over and to just let him be and to wait for that time to come. I understood him so I was just there beside him to the point that I was also so stressed and my health was declining.

Nowadays the stress was gone and his company is better. My boyfriend’s old self never went back. Instead he’s still irritated at small things, blames me for everything (ex: not being able to buy the hobbies that he likes because it was suddenly sold out or I just didn’t see his message because I was busy or alike).

When we were playing games he asks me to guide him, I guided him but when he can’t understand my instruction he gets mad but when I was the one asking him to guide me because I was having a hard time in that certain game, he got mad too and said it was just too simple, why I couldn’t follow.

I asked him when is his old self coming back in the sweetest way because I don’t want him to get triggered. I even said I’ll be there and we’ll go through it together.

He said he was tired of me because we always do the same thing all over again, that he always waits for me to wake up for me to answer his questions.

One time he told me he’s going out in the morning to buy his hobbies and he told me to rest but ended up going out in the afternoon so I was surprised when I woke up and I told him about it and then he said that I triggered him.

He said he don’t want the relationship anymore because I always don’t listen (when all things we do is what he wants and I always help him decide on things and also I was always there for him) and we are doing the same thing everyday.

Take note that it was him who asks me what do I wanna do always or I ask him what does he wanna do just to be fair. It was him who wants to play and watch movies/series/anime. He says he’s bored of it.

I always tell him he can do things on his own like watch his fave anime or play games. A couple needs their alone time too right? But he insists on doing those things with me.

Should I fight for this relationship or just give up?

This happened last weekend and I’ve been wanting to share it so badly.

I was swiping through Tinder looking for someone to hook up with when I matched with a really good looking man. He was 38 if I remember correctly.

We talked and I made it clear I’m just looking for something physical. He was down but asked if his buddy could join us. I said yes absolutely.

I booked a hotel room for the night and I told him I would leave the room unlocked and they could just enter.

He asked me if I had a blindfold and if I did would I be willing to wear it. I said sure.

Saturday night, around 8pm I’m in the hotel room waiting and I get a text that they’re here and to make sure I’m ready. So I strip and lay in the center of the bed with my legs spread wide, blindfold on, waiting for them to come up.

About 5 minutes later I hear the door open. I heard them walk in and the guy from Tinder is standing at the foot of the bed and says “I hope you don’t mind but I brought more than just the one friend”. I said that’s fine not even knowing how many were there.

Tinder guy started f-ing me first, he pounded me hard, it felt incredible. He came inside of me and when he pulled out he asked, “who’s next?”.

I think Tinder guy left after he finished because I heard the door click open.

Three other men, whose faces I’ve never seen took turns f-ing me and filling me up. It felt incredible. After one man was finished with me, he left.

Once the fourth guy had finished using my hole, I heard him say that I was so full. When I heard the door click for the last time, I took off my blindfold and started touching myself.

I could feel their juices inside of me and I came from the thought that 4 complete strangers used me for their own pleasure.

It was such an amazing experience.

My (31M) son’s resemblance to my brother (30M) is shaking my confidence. How do I handle this while keeping my family together?

I am desperate for some guidance or advice. I have literally no idea what to do and the anxiety is too much.

“Clara” (28F) and I have been in a committed relationship for 8 years. We were over the moon when she gave birth to our son “Nathan” a couple of months ago.

It’s a joy watching him grow, but there’s been this lingering thought that I can’t shake off.

Nathan, as he’s beginning to show more distinct features, has started to look uncannily like my older brother “Alex.” Even friends and some family members are pointing out the resemblance.

Feeling overwhelmed, I approached Clara about my concerns. She seemed hurt but tried to reassure me by highlighting the genetic similarities within families and mentioning how Alex and I looked alike in our childhood photos.

The thought of a DNA test crossed my mind, but Clara is entirely against it, saying it undermines the trust in our relationship. I’m torn between my love for Nathan and the need for peace of mind.

How do I tackle this sensitively without jeopardizing my relationship with Clara? Is it unfair of me to want some sort of confirmation?

Netizens’ comments

1. My daughter looks exactly like my husband’s sister. It’s annoying as a mom because I kinda was expecting her to look like me (maybe not expecting, but hoping…lol). My husband and his sister do not look alike at all. It’s funny how genetics work!
2. You are aware that a child gets access to your entire family tree for DNA, right? It’s not a button you hit that blends your features and your wife’s into some average of the both of you.
   If the kid looked uncannily like your father or grandfather would you be acting like this? If the kid looked uncannily like one of her siblings would you be accusing her of incest?
3. Come on mate. This sounds like something you need to unpack with a therapist. You are your brother share genes. You and your son share genes. I’ve got three kids and the whole family loves pointing out features that are ‘family traits’. It’s completely normal. As he ages you’ll find his face changes and he’ll look more like you, or your wife, or your father-in-law. It’s all good.

Why are old people in Singapore such c-ts? I’ve never met a group of more selfish, kiasu, racist, inconsiderate fkers anywhere, especially in public spaces.

This mfker was occupying the entire escalator right in the centre this morning during peak hour. I brushed past him and he genuinely tried to shove me like a weak b-ch lol.

This is the problem with Singapore being a police state I guess. People not afraid to act like a-holes cause there’s no chance of repercussions for lack of civic mindness.

I asked him if it was his mother’s escalator lol. Fking dog. Where are they all in a rush to anyway

Netizens’ comments

1. I don’t think you understand what the phrase “police state” mean lol, you’re using it wrongly.
2. You haven’t seen the old and wealthy yet
3. Old people in Singapore are entitled.
   It’s a well-known fact.
4. because AsIaN vAlUeS or something makes them think the world owes them deference.
5. Bruh those that cut queues in MRT too. Especially those really crowded mrt and most of us are just queuing at the 2 sides of the door and hoping to be able to squeeze in but always some fker just cut the queue and enter from the middle
6. Because we moved from third-world to first within one lifetime. Hence, many of the old mentalities still exists.
7. Rushing to get reincarnated. It’s their time
8. OMG , I experienced the same issue this morning!! When the lift was fully occupied, some idiots just won’t understand the logic of waiting for the other lift. They kept pressing on the button outside causing our lift to not close
9. A lot of old people are rude, not just in Singapore. It’s everywhere. Let’s hope we don’t end up like them when we grow old.
10. Sometimes saying “excuse me” also pointless just ignore. Old people here just dgaf .

Requested time off a month ago, it was approved. GM didn’t pay attention when making the schedule and claims I have no choice and need to come in. Do I have too?

How is that fair? I requested 3 days off a month ago. I got the first two off then I was scheduled on the 3rd day.

I told them hey you accidentally scheduled me and the GM told me “find cover or come in, not my problem.” Do I seriously have to go in?

I already requested that day off because yesterday was my birthday, and I knew I was gonna get drunk. You only turn twenty one once!! I’m reaaallyy hungover today.

GM said I HAVE to come in. Why? It’s not my fault they made the schedule wrong. My time off was approved!! I have evidence of it being approved!

Can they legally fire me if I don’t come in today?

Netizens’ comments

1. Your mistake was calling the schedule to his attention. I know you only turn 21 once, but there will be many times in life that you want time off. So next time, just keep your mouth shut, stay away from work and don’t answer your phone and tell them “I didn’t see that — I didn’t even look at the schedule because my three days off was confirmed a month in advance.”
2. Tell him it was his job to find coverage and he messed that up. You’re not the one who made the mistake. And if he tries to get you in trouble (like a write up) don’t sign it. If you don’t sign it HR has to get involved.
3. Don’t come in. It’s his fault for not checking who had scheduled time off. Make him solve the problem he caused. If he punishes you in any way, contact a lawyer.
4. if you have the proof, especially in writing, he can’t do shit. if he fires you, you’re well within your right to sue him for wrongful termination.