Okay, this is going to be one of the weirdest things you’ll read today, but I genuinely want to get this off my chest, I’ve been wanting to talk about this for a while.
I’m a 27 year old woman. I wouldn’t be saying this if it wasn’t true, but I’m very lucky in the looks department, I was really popular in University as well. I have a hard time finding men I like though, because I only like submissive men..
I broke up with my boyfriend in December 2021, we argued, but we were together for 2 years. He was 4 years younger than me, and he would say ”even though you’re only slightly older than me, you’re almost like a mum, you’re so protective and strong and confident and attractive, you’re one of a kind”
my boyfriend was very submissive, but he wasn’t a weird guy. He was aware of the fact that our relationship dynamic wasn’t really accepted in society and he would act normal in public, but he was very submissive in private, he would let me baby him and he used to enjoy it soooo much. He was obsessed with me, every now and then he would say ”you look so good and you’re also my saviour, you’re one of a kind!”
I don’t know why I’m like this, I do realize I’m weird when it comes to dating, but this is literally the only relationship dynamic that I enjoy. I’ve tried different things, I gave other types of men a chance, but no, I only enjoy a relationship if it works like this, which means I have a very hard time finding men that I like because you basically need to act like a poor harmless baby to attract me..
i feel like the nastiest person in the world. i had no idea he had a girlfriend. i met him at work and we seemed to really hit it off.
we were texting for a while and i even did my research before hanging out with him. there were no signs of a girlfriend so today i went over to his house.
we talked, which led to making out, and next thing you know we’re about to get intimate. but before any of that happened i hear a door open and get shoved off.
by this point most of my clothes are off but i got scared and put my clothes on as fast as i could. i hear a girls voice. i realized what was going on and i grabbed my keys and phone.
i was on the other side of the room when i see him coming in and not long after another girl coming in. she sees me and flipped out on him throwing her drink and hitting him screaming “you’re cheating on me” and asking who i was.
i was frozen and i scared. she screams at me to get out(rightfully) and i hear her calling his mom or dad idk.
i’m not sure what to think or what to do. i had no idea there was a girlfriend in the picture. i feel disgusting.
the worst part of all this is that i have to work with that guy tomorrow. i don’t want to see that pigs face. i feel bad for that girl.
i wanted to say that i was sorry but i didn’t wanna escalate things and piss her off even more. i feel terrible.
I’m a girl and I never get called pretty by guys nor my own friends. I don’t even think I’ve ever been called pretty by my mom, or at least it was so long ago that I can’t remember it.
The only time people say I was pretty or cute is when looking at pictures of me when i was little(5-8yo).
The only compliment I ever get about my looks is about my hair (I have very curly hair which is kinda uncommon in my family).
And that even is only by adults/elders (mostly in my family), most people my age and my friends actually make fun of it and say i look like a clown or like I’m wearing a cheap wig.
I know it’s all jokes but it’s practically the only thing about me I kinda like.
I’ve only ever had one person have a crush on me and that was in P1. And I’m just not attractive in any way I don’t look good nor have a skinny waist and it has just really been messing with my self esteem and worth recently.
I am tempted to get some plastic surgery
Netizen’s comments
Stop it. Stop it now. Youve been conditioned to believe that. I understand because Ive been there. Dont be me, dont wait until youre 34 after traumatizing relationships to see that you are beautiful and that you are more than worthy.
Dont ever let others opinions GUIDE you. How you feel about you will resonate in the world and youll attract ppl who aee the beauty and light in you
Just graduated this year and I started working for a few months. Work has been horrendous and I’m just feeling like I’m going through the motions and waiting for my paycheck.
Been very stressed, anxious and tired although I’ve been sleeping a lot more.
Yes, I’m definitely feeling very burnt out and trying my best to self-motivate. Thought about quitting my job and escaping to somewhere…
I’m working in tech and I’ve been getting a lot of shit from my manager. Shouting at me, giving me snarky remarks etc.
I’ve also been overworked and sometimes work till 7 in the office because my colleagues do it and I feel bad leaving on time.
I sometimes skip lunch to finish the emails and tasks. Feels as though a lot of the work I have been doing has not been well taken by my direct manager.
Any advise? I’m also wanting to look for therapy places – If there are any recommendations do let me know!
Netizens’ comments
I’d recommend evaluating objectively before deciding what solutions to implement like, is this the job problem or a ‘you’ problem? Job: Are the people toxic? Boss micromanaging? Constant contact outside working hours? Dealing with nasty clients all the time? Long working hours? Steep learning curve with no mentoring? Brain dead job with no learning? You: Nature of work goes against your principles? Have a burning interest/passion you really want to pursue? Entrepreneur mindset; hates structure? Not thrashing on the younger generation but it could simply be reality kicking in. Studying and having safety nets in school and parents have made many students not able to transition into full time jobs. This takes time. In the real world, people do NOT need to be nice to you, solutions does not exist by flipping to the end of the book, you can’t simply mug at home, memorize a bunch of shit and perform. There’s also no school holidays. Unfortunately some people adapt faster, some don’t.
(OP) Yes, this. Job nature-wise, I like it and it is what I want to do. Feels very suffocating because my direct manager micro-manages everything I do and I feel like I have no flexibility in my work. Put more examples in my other comment. Understand where you come from and I definitely feel that I should be grateful for my job – I mean, I am compensated to sit in an air-conditioned office and even get paid to take leave/public holidays. But I just struggle to find the meaning in all these. mostly because of the toxic environment and feeling alone at the work place.
I (28F) want my boyfriend (30M) to f me in my face but he thinks it’s degrading
My boyfriend has a history of feeling shame when we make love. It’s something we have talked honestly about and we are working through it. I am non-judgemental with any desires that he has and that he talks about.
I really enjoy giving him bjs and we have slowly been getting a bit more rough. But I really want him to f me in my mouth, go deep down my throat.
At the moment he holds back a bit, my theory is because he thinks it’s degrading. Should I outright tell him I want us to go more extreme, even if theres a possibility deep down that he may not feel comfortable doing it?
I think he actually would enjoy it but he feels that it is shameful to enjoy it.
Netizens’ comments
Tell him this is hot for you. It turns you on. It’s not degrading because you trust him so much. It’s an act of love. Me and my guy get really dirty. But we are also disgustingly sweet. Cuddly and lovey dovey. And then dirty again. It works because of that love and trust underlying everything. He “uses” me. I “use” him. We both serve the other on our knees. We both degrade. We both praise. And don’t forget the aftercare. For both. Even the one being rough needs aftercare. Maybe affirmations that you loved it and are ok. Hugs. Cuddles. Cleaning each other off. Whatever you need.
Don’t make assumptions, ask him why he’s holding back and have a discussion about you wanting him to be more rough with you in bed as well
I think the easiest way around this may be roleplay. Have him pretend to be someone bad, or for you to be someone so bad you don’t deserve to be treated like a person. Hope you get there!
My husband just admitted to cheating and I’m nervous he might have an STD
My husband just admitted to cheating on me a month ago. I feel like I’m going to throw up but also numb at the same time.
Besides the fact that we’ve been married for 15 years and have a child and he just flipped my life upside down I’m also really scared he could’ve given me something.
What he says is that he got a 15-second bj without a condom. This happened exactly a month ago. In approximately the last week he has been complaining of urinary frequency and occasionally it hurts a little.
He went to the doctor and they tested him for a UTI and said he doesn’t have one. So my question is, what is the likelihood he has something if it’s true that he just got a few seconds of oral?
I also recognize it’s possible that he’s lying and did more than what he’s saying. He is very insistent but I also believed he would never in a million years do this to me so clearly my judgement is off.
I don’t really know what to do with myself right now. So this is what I’m focusing on first. I told him he needs to go be tested for everything on Monday. If he tests negative for everything do I still need to be tested? Is there certain tests he needs to request?
Update: as some suggested he’s now admitted to performing oral on her
Netizens’ comments
OP, I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, sending you a virtual hug. I’d say that since you can’t trust this person anymore and his word is not worth much, you have to go get tested. It will also give you some peace of mind at least.
(OP) Honestly I feel really embarrassed going to my OBGYN who delivered my child ten years ago and who I work down the hall from. Maybe I can find some random clinic to go to.
Often the details of infidelity come out in bits and pieces, so there may be more info to come. I second the advice to get tested yourself. All the best to you.
Can i cancel my PR a week or two before my bmt reporting date and leave Singapore permanently?
So basically my family and i planned for me to do ns in sg, but my father’ friend recently told him that his son cancelled his PR 1 day before his js reporting date and went to study in the USA .
Once we heard that we also started preparing for USA universities and spent a considerable amount of money on it too.I got my ns reporting date letter being 14 feb so i wanted to ask if around 1-5feb can i cancel my pr and leave sg?
Netizens’ comments
cannot come back to SG
(OP) but my parents and i alr have no intentions of ever coming back to sg, and even if i do come back i heard there is a 30 day tourist visa
no u can’t come back as a tourist either you will be arrested for violating the National Service Act.
so your idea is to benefit off SG and not having to serve while living here all these years?
You could. But be prepared that any layover, transit, or if your flight somehow diverts to Singapore by any chance in the future, you will be prosecuted
op username check out. just cancel we dont need you in sg and dont ever come back
Go back to where you belong
This is the modern day PR folks, come here reap all the benefits, once suck up resources dry just nope outta here. Ask them do 2 years NOOOOO too difficult omgg why must serveeee.
Bloody gu niang! Benefited since you were a toddler and now when it’s time for you to serve, you want to chao keng?!
No chance brother. I don’t like to be negative ah buy U alrd benefited from the system as a PR u. So u suck it up and give back to the country.
Over the years, social media has been rife with alleged ghostly sightings, from phantom passengers to headless apparitions.
With the rise of social media, these supposed encounters have captured the imagination of Singaporeans, as the debate on the authenticity of these alleged sightings rages on.
The Pontianak at Pasir Ris Park
A Facebook user, Nur Umairah, shared online about an encounter that she faced during her night run.
She was at Pasir Ris Park for her usual night run and on that night, she wanted to try a different route – so she ran all the way to the end of the park all alone.
To her right was lush, forested vegetation; and to her left was nothing but pitch black darkness.
She just continued running, without having much thought in her mind.
She then reached the end and turned around; and upon running back, she could hear a faint voice calling out to her from behind.
She then removed her earphones and listened, trying to figure out if it was something paranormal.
Her suspicions were proved right and she just bolted off and continued running while reciting her prayer.
Apparently, she took some photos at the time and after she edited them and increased the brightness, a figure of a woman sitting alone on a bench could be seen.
The Hungry Ghosts of Marsiling
A netizen shared a story of how he accidentally walked into and stepped on the roadside offerings for the Hungry Ghost festival.
He was on his way to meet his friend for supper when he accidentally stepped on the offerings, and he said that he started to feel something perched on top of him.
As they later walked past a forested area, he saw a female ghost smiling at him and humming a song, he then took a picture of the spirit.
He was at McDonald’s waiting for his food when he noticed eerie fingerprints on his receipt.
Here is the full story:
This is from my friend pov the one I go out wif tgt …it started when I was walking below my block and I sudd walked into a circle of candles with rice scattered around the candles .There was red powder inside of the circle and I started to feel something perched on top of me , and nails digging into my skin. I ignored it and just went to meet my friend , and while we were walking , a woman clad in white with long hair rode past us humming a strange song. She suddenly turned back and smiled at us.
Her eyes were black and her complexion pale. Awhile after we heard the sounds of bells and suddenly we heard something behind us and we saw a black figure .Fast forward abit and we were at McDonald’s. when we ordered our food and got the receipt from the machine , there was nothing on it . My friend placed his phone and wallet on top of it so no one could have touched it.
But some fingerprints appeared on the paper which did not match any of ours . We tried to see if we could have put our finger prints on accident but it was not possible to do it .Finally when we were walking home I decided to use my iPhones night vision to look up the dark hill and we saw a white figure walking around . I think it’s the same lady who cycled past us.
Love 97.2 DJ Violet Fenying shared about a spooky experience she had at the old Mediacorp campus from 2016.
She had wanted to take a selfie of herself in her sponsored outfit, so as to credit her sponsors, so she put her camera on timer and posed for a few pictures.
The next day, while she was on holiday with her family, she browsed through her gallery to delete some unwanted pictures taking up space in her phone.
She then saw the photo that she took the day before and was speechless.
She had captured an apparition wearing period clothes, and the figure was headless.
She then asked the wardrobe department if anyone had borrowed a costume from them, but they said no.
Mysterious guest inside KTV room
Images source: Screenshot from Tropic Monsters TV on YouTube
A girl named Ting shared about a supernatural encounter that she and her friends experienced at a local karaoke located at the basement of an unnamed location.
Ting said that she went to the KTV with 2 other colleagues, and the 3 of them were all wearing black.
Throughout the night of drinking and singing; from the corner of her eyes, Ting kept seeing a guy sitting beside her (in her peripheral vision).
She described it as being like when you think you see something but it’s not there.
So she brushed it off as her just being drunk.
Suddenly, one of her colleagues who was singing halfway, stopped and asked:
“Eh who is that guy?”
Her colleague said that the TV screen suddenly went black and he saw the guy’s reflection on the TV.
The group then packed their things and left.
After leaving the room, Ting asked her colleague what colour the guy was wearing, to which he said “white”.
She compared it to what she thought she saw and was shocked, the “guy” that she saw in her peripheral vision was wearing white as well.
They then went to the counter to make payment, and they were charged for 4 people, when there was only 3 of them.
They then explained the situation to the woman, who laughed it off and charged them for 3 people instead.
The next day, the group rewatched their Instagram videos and discovered something shocking.
A reflection on the TV of a “man” in white wearing a cowboy hat was captured by one of the cameras.
He appeared to be holding on to something that looked like a cane.
WW2 nurse still roaming Old Changi Hospital
Old Changi Hospital, located in Singapore, is known to be one of the most haunted places in the country. It was built in 1935 by the British colonial government as a hospital to treat British soldiers stationed in Singapore.
The atrocities that took place during this time have led to many reports of paranormal activity at the site.
There have been numerous reports of ghost sightings and strange occurrences at Old Changi Hospital over the years.
Visitors to the site have reported hearing unexplained noises, footsteps, and voices, as well as feeling cold spots and experiencing sudden changes in temperature. Some have even reported being touched or pushed by unseen forces.
The nurse who was raped & murdered in WW2
One of the most famous ghost stories associated with Old Changi Hospital is the story of the ghost of a nurse. According to legend, during World War II, a nurse was raped and murdered by Japanese soldiers in the hospital.
Her ghost is said to haunt the hospital, appearing as a pale figure in a nurse’s uniform. Visitors have reported seeing her in various locations throughout the hospital, including the operating room and the maternity ward.
A video was captured back in 2017 showing a white figure dressed in what appears to be a nurse gown and holding onto some towels and walking down the corridors of the abandoned hospital.
Japanese soldiers
Another commonly reported ghost is that of a Japanese soldier who is said to have committed hari kiri in the hospital after the war. Visitors have reported seeing his ghost wandering the halls of the hospital, and some have even claimed to have been pushed or grabbed by him.
In addition to these specific ghosts, there have been many other reports of paranormal activity at Old Changi Hospital. Visitors have reported feeling a sense of unease or dread when entering certain areas of the hospital, and some have claimed to have seen apparitions or shadows moving in the darkness.
One of the more notable incidents involving Old Changi Hospital took place in 2008, when a group of Singaporean ghost hunters filmed an episode of their show at the site.
During the filming, one of the crew members claimed to have been possessed by a malevolent spirit. He began speaking in a strange language and acting erratically, and it took several minutes for his fellow crew members to calm him down.
While skeptics may dismiss these reports as the result of overactive imaginations or a desire for attention, many people believe that Old Changi Hospital is truly haunted. The hospital’s tragic history, combined with the reports of paranormal activity, have led to its reputation as one of the most haunted places in Singapore.
Famous ghost of German girl at Pulau Ubin
A video emerged online showing a ghostly encounter purportedly captured at Pulau Ubin.
The video was taken by a security officer, who captured what he claims to be the ghost of the famous German Girl Shrine on the island.
The security guard was taking a video of the island’s surrounding at night to inform his supervisor that he couldn’t do his “round check” because it was raining that night.
But as he panned his camera towards his right, in the distance beside some foliage, a figure wearing what appears to be an “old medieval gown” could be seen floating across.
The video then zoomed in on the figure, showing the purported ghost’s attire, with the lower part of the gown appearing to be puffier than the top.
The legend of the German Girl Ghost
The legend of the German Girl Ghost dates back to the World War 1 period (1914 to 1918). She was said to be a daughter of a German coffee plantation owner who lived near where the German Girl Shrine currently sits at Pulau Ubin.
Two names popped up from research into the story, via the past land deeds – Daniel Brandt and Hermann Mulingans, but in-depth investigations into the girl’s parents were inconclusive.
The story goes that the German girl’s family was taken away by British soldiers for internment but she somehow managed to escape. However, she slipped and fell into a quarry before dying, and her dead body was then found by the Boyanese people and covered up with sand.
Her body was later retrieved by Chinese workers who then gave her a proper burial, and the grave was then exhumed in 1974 to make way for quarry excavation works before being relocated to its current location, at the German Girl Shrine in Pulau Ubin.
Ghostly figure wandering along the beach
It is said that the German girl’s spirit remained on the island. Since then, visitors to Pulau Ubin have reported seeing the ghostly figure of a young girl in a white dress, wandering through the forest and along the beach. Some have even claimed to have heard her crying or calling out for her father.
The legend of the German Girl Ghost has become a popular topic of discussion among paranormal enthusiasts and ghost hunters. Many have attempted to capture evidence of the ghostly presence, with some claiming to have recorded eerie voices and strange apparitions on film.
Despite the many sightings and stories, there are some who believe that the legend of the German Girl Ghost is simply a myth. They point out that there is no historical evidence to support the story of the girl and her family, and that the legend may have been invented to attract tourists to the island.
Regardless of whether or not the German Girl Ghost is real, there is no denying the eerie atmosphere that permeates Pulau Ubin. The island’s dense jungle and deserted beaches make it the perfect setting for a ghost story, and visitors can’t help but feel a sense of unease as they explore its winding paths and hidden corners.
The legend of the German Girl Ghost at Pulau Ubin is a fascinating and spooky tale that has captured the imagination of many visitors to the island. Whether you believe in ghosts or not, there is no denying the eerie atmosphere of Pulau Ubin and the allure of its mysterious legends.
Ghostly passenger on Double Decker bus
Chilling video footage emerged online showing a bus driver in Singapore catching sight of a ghostly apparition on his bus’ CCTV cameras, according to Mothership.
They said that the footage was taken by a bus driver in Singapore, who noticed someone (or something) sitting on the upper deck of his double-decker bus.
However, he knew that there was no one on the bus at the time and when he went up to the upper deck to check things out, he found nobody at all.
Black figure seated & looking down
The video begins with the bus driver filming his driving station inside the bus as the buttons beeped before he panned the camera up towards the CCTV panel above him.
There appeared to be a man dressed in black wearing what seems to be a hat, seated on one of the outer seats and looking down.
The CCTV footage also reads: “Passengers in bus: 0” despite there being a “man” sitting right in front of the camera.
He muttered to himself “it’s too early for something supernatural to happen, how can there be anybody upstairs?”
Had asked the “person” to come down earlier
The driver then went up the stairs onto the upper deck, where he found nobody at all, saying “SIAL LAH TAKDE ORANG KAN! (there’s nobody here)”.
Visibly spooked out by this point, he said out loud to himself “I even asked the ‘person’ to come down just now” before hurling an expletive.
He then walked all the way to the back of the bus to check on every seat to confirm that there was indeed nobody, before the video cuts off.
Not to spook anyone else further but based on the bus’ screen, it was a bus service that runs along Punggol.
Ghost playing Hide & Seek
A netizen shared how he was cycling late at night and saw somethiung spooky.
He had goosebumps all of a sudden and took a quick snapshot on his camera.
He then cycled away from the place quickly because of what he saw in the photo.
He had captured a photo of a female ghost hiding behind a tree.
A video emerged online showing a girl being confronted by another group of girls, before getting mercilessly beaten up by them as they punched her face repeatedly and pulled her hair, while a group of guys surrounded them and filmed them while chanting “whack, whack, whack!”
What the video showed
At the start of the video, the victim, seen wearing a black shoulder-strap top, was seen trying to flee from her attackers with another girl who was holding on to her hand.
However, the assailants gave chase and managed to catch up to the victim, as they were followed by a group of guys armed with their mobile phones and recording the whole thing.
In the next shot of the video, the victim was seen being surrounded by her attackers and the huge crowd of guys, as her rescuer watched on helplessly.
A heated exchange then ensued as the crowd bayed for blood, and the victim ended up getting railed on by 4 of the other girls, as they rained heavy blows repeatedly on her head and viciously pulling on her hair, dragging her down onto the ground.
She remained squatting on the ground as she held on to her head, evidently in pain, as the crowd of guys recorded the whole thing and cheered the assailants on.
Different POV of the initial attack
The video then cuts to the next shot, presumably a different POV of the attack, showing how the attack came to be.
One of the assailants in white was seen screaming vulgarities at the victim as a guy screams off camera “whack whack whack! no need scared one, just whack!” before another of the assailants, also wearing white, joins in and screams at the girl.
The victim could be seen turning around to look for support as she cries, while the assailant in white could be seen happily smiling away as she laughs with her accomplice.
The two girls then suddenly grabs hold of the victim’s hair, catching her off guard and throwing her onto the ground as they rained heavy blow after heavy blow on the victim’s head.
Corners victim to a fence
The attack then escalates to another location, as seen in the next shot, as the girls took the assault beside a fence.
The crowd could be seen gathering around the girls and filming as a few of the guys even climbed on top of the fence to get a better view of the attack.
The confrontation continues as the assailants cornered the victim, who was literally back against the wall, facing the 4 assailants and the whole entire group of guys filming her.
This time, another of the assailant, also wearing a white top but sporting a light-brown ponytail, threw a right hook at point-blank range, striking the girl square on the face before unleashing a barrage of repeated punches on the victim, before switching to slapping the girl repeatedly as she held her hands up to protect herself, in futile.
Help please! Have there been cases where private hospitals were able to treat someone when public hospitals were not able to?
I have a family member who has a tumor in an area where it is very complicated to remove and the TTSH doctor is saying the chances of surgery success and survival is low.
My family is planning to seek a second opinion from other hospitals, including private ones.
– I’m wondering has anyone encountered cases where the second opinion was entirely different in a good way?
– I’m not well-informed about the differences in public vs private hospital treatment, but have there been cases where private hospitals were able to treat someone when public hospitals were not able to?
My family is feeling pretty hopeless and depressed now and we’re going to grab onto any hope we can get our hands on.
Here are what netizens think:
my mum passed away from pancreatic cancer. It’s insidious and known to be a a really tough cancer to treat. We too had also weighed the differences between the two and we had sought opinions from friends and relatives whom are surgeons or doctors. I’m pretty sure the doctors and nurses from government hospitals are more than equipped to handle their treatment and I do not think private vs government would make much difference except for the cost which can be exorbitant and can put your family into debt. If your family is in good financial standing, you could go private just for added comfort for your family member, the process and waiting time might be shorter and you could have selection of doctors. I do not think it makes a real difference in terms of treatment. As for now, I can only say the cancer is hard to treat. Please spend precious and quality time with your family member while they are still around.
You will only know when you get the second opinion medical report. I know you are looking for reassurance that seeking a second opinion may turn out differently but it’s not going to happen that way. Other people’s experiences are based on their own circumstances, not yours. So you need to remember that. You will also have to face the extra task of weeding out factually inaccurate and unsound advice. Which I’m already seeing here. Best of luck.
TTSH say tumour complicated to remove and has low chance of success, they are just telling you the truth. Private doctor will do for you at no higher chances of success. Please do get a second opinion. But unless there’s a mistake, there won’t be a big difference in opinions. Life has many unpredictable and helpless moments. Be brave and faced it. I lost both parents within 5 years, both to cancer. The pain, the helplessness, everything you can imagine, I have experienced. But I learnt one thing. If can’t improve situation, don’t bother overthinking. You will just make yourself more miserable. Better off to just face and accept.
the reason why private hospital is better in treatment is because they use drugs which public hospital won’t. but of course the treatment is many times more expensive.
In general, for Singapore, public hospital doctors are equally competent as private hospital doctors. But definitely feel free to seek a second opinion as any doctor can be wrong.
My friend’s father had a terrible experience at a public hospital and the private doctor righted the wrong. Sometimes it’s “luck” depending on which doctor you get. I’ve had a really good local doctor at a public hospital before.
The deal is that private doctors have a conflict of interest and will most probably tell you what you want to hear. That said, go ahead and ask for it anyway but keep the above in mind.
For pancreatic cancer, the prognosis and treatment plan may not be very different even if you seek second or third opinion. But for somebody who has little knowledge of how the cancer can progress will benefit from the reassurance of hearing of another specialist. You can make an informed decision from there. My personal opinion is the gov run NCC is as good as those in private practice.
