My son said “You can’t be strong, you’re a girl” and my husband laughed.

He laughed quietly to himself from the other room because while he couldn’t see the fire flashing in my eyes, he knew my son was in for the lecture of a lifetime. He knew that the kid had said the bad words and got mum’s feminism all fired up.

I sat my son (3yo) down and told him that was not at all correct and all women were strong, just like men. Everyone is strong in their own ways and in different ways. My son accepted this and that was that.

Not sure where my son picked up the idea from, he might have just connected us complementing him being strong when he lifts his bag or toys and the fact that he is a boy.

We often tell him the differences and similarities between girls and boys and I think he just thought that he was a boy and he was strong and that was a cold hard fact.

It was a good opportunity to nip that thought process in the bud.

Husband came in shortly after and asked son if girls can be strong and he said “Yep!”

Mission accomplished.

My husband is a gem. He understands and accepts he married a fiery feminist who is determined to instill good values in our sons at any opportunity. He just knows when to step back and let me handle it.

I feel like I’ve ruined my life by wasting time and I’m terrified of aging

I’m a 23F soon to be 24 and I’ve dropped out of school when I was 18. I always hated school and put it off because I was convinced I was going to be successful in acting by now because I have an acting manager and had been on a few auditions.

Now with being 24 soon, I’m terrified of being too old to keep going with acting, terrified I won’t be anywhere by 30.

If I go back to school, I worry I’ll always think of what could’ve been and worry I won’t be able to get a job in anything I’m interested in compared to younger applicants (because I’ll be like 26 or 27 at the youngest when finishing school).

I hate myself for wasting time and being too afraid to pursue either fully these past few years. I’ve been so hopeless I’ve also lost touch with friends and now I also worry I’ll be old, friendless, and doing something I shouldn’t have no matter what path I take. What the hell do I do?

I wasted years being too scared to make a decision, didnt do anything, dont know what to and am terrified of aging and giving up a dream

Netizens’ comments

Well, Alan Rickman didn’t get famous until after 40. A lot of actors didn’t get their start until after 40, including: Samuel L Jackson, Burt Reynolds, Steve Carrell, Octavia Spencer, Kathy Bates, even Betty White! You can easily Google all sorts of folks who started writing, acting, playing music, directing, painting, dancing later in life.

When I was first learning to play guitar, it was with my best friend in grade six who had learned guitar earlier than I had. I was so distraught because I was learning slower than her and I felt like a lot of her techniques and stylistic choices were better than mine. She just shrugged her shoulders and said, not better, just different. And that stuck with me. To this day we create music and art together, even though we both have other main projects, side projects, jobs and even families. Creating is still a huge part of our friendship.

Art is perspective and the pursuit of those perspectives comes from a plethora of angles.

In that, it takes all kinds.

It’s very normal to feel this way at this age, also. It’s very imposed upon us through media that there’s a finite number of years, especially as a woman, to fulfill your worth.

so my ex gf, as we were going to marry soon, I made her confess that she cheated on me for a whole year. we were together for like 6 years and this past year she banged a guy who was 5 year younger than her.

after the confession, she got absolutely guilt-ridden and she started beating herself up for what she did to a loyal man who ignored the whole world for her.

the irony is that the guy she slept with was no better, not in bed, not romantically, not better brains, not with better money.

she claims it just happened. I can’t digest, that a man got into her for a whole year just accidentally.

well after the confession she realized that she got nothing better even with cheating. everything she got was lesser than what I was giving her. she ruined my whole life.

but anyways I left her, and after 2 months she is like “I’m sorry” theres nothing better about him. but I didn’t allow that dirt into my life again.

thoughts?

Netizen’s comments

Well cheating once isn’t an ‘accident’ so cheating for a year certainly isn’t.

I’m posting this here to see if anyone can help me.

This is starting to worry me because my little sister is seeing something and she’s terrified, she’s been waking up to a woman beside her at night, wearing a black dress with black hair.

My mom and older sister have seen her standing beside them at night too.

My mom said she was around my little sister’s age when she started seeing it, and some nights wouldn’t sleep because the woman would be there and sometimes she would try to grab her.

Does anyone have an idea on what this could be or what i should do.

Netizens’ comments

• Our house was super haunted when I was a kid, my mom came in my room and told the ghost it was scaring me and to please stop visiting and it stopped. If it is a ghost it may not be aware it is being scary. If that doesn’t work then start with burning sage and go from there

• Bro that’s obviously a ghost. Go on YouTube and play some religous music before going to bed.

my boyfriend and best friend are talking s— about me and don’t know I’m up and can hear them…

My best friend came over to drink as I’m leaving for an overseas job posting, I didn’t want to play strip poker in front of my friend’s cousin(who just turned 18) whom I’ve helped raise.

My boyfriend told me I was ruining the night because I wouldn’t play.

I went into my room with the door ajar and listened to them talk bad about me and heard my boyfriend “joking” about sleeping with my friend and making borderline harassing comments trying to see her without clothes on.

they both said things that I told them in confidence that was between us individually and I really don’t know what to do.

I leave Monday for a job with my boyfriend’s family that pays 3 times what I make now and I need this job but I honestly don’t know what to.. think….

Netizens’ comments

• You’re so lucky you found out now. Don’t go with them. That’s not who you deserve to spend your life with
• Honestly if you need the job that badly then i say bear with it for now, keep quiet and get the job and gain some experience, its always useful to have experience in any field and if the pay is good that makes it even better, and at some point in the future when you feel secured and ready to be independent of your bf and his family, you can search for and secure another job then you can dump him if you still feel like it and if he’s still acting like a jerk.

My 15y.o sister has the habit of takings things from my bedroom and keeping them or losing them. My father has talked to her, punish her, make her pay them back but she just doesn’t listen, my mom always takes her side and makes excuses for her. My dad had enough so he bought me a small safe (against my mom’s wishes) and I keep some jewellery, make-up, my diary and gifts from my boyfriend.

My BF comes from a upper-class family and he’s always buying me stuff, most of it gets stolen by my sister but the most precious gift I have for him is an iPad pro he gave me for my birthday on feb 14. I love to draw, is my hobby, my form of expression and how I relax. I used to do it in my laptop, but since he gave me the iPad now I can do it in my free time during classes, in the train, the garden, I have more options now. he also made a custom case that he paint with a lot of things for me. When I’m out of home I leave it in my safe because is one of the only things I didn’t want to lose. And to be honest I don’t want my sister putting her hands on it.

I spent two days at my brother’s apartment planning my lil sister’s birthday party, when I came back I went to take the iPad to sketch some ideas but I only found the case. I thought I had leave it somewhere else but I was sure I didn’t, I also never took the case because is my favorite thing, I looked around my whole room, my dad’s office and everywhere, since I’m usually there all the time. I also called my bf and asked if I left it in his house but he said no. When my family came back I was awfully crying in the kitchen.

My dad asked what happened and I told her that I couldn’t find my iPad. My mom said very lazily ”your sister lost it in the train yesterday”. I asked what and she said ”Your sister took it to school and lost it. Accidents happen, let it go”. I was actually livid, I said that my sister opened my safe (dunno how) and STOLE my tablet. My mom told me to shut up and to never call my sister a theif again, my dad got involved and after much fighting he said that my sister had to pay me back,

my sister just said that she didn’t had money and attempted to go to her room so I told her that I’ll take the money for her party and just keep it for my iPad, she came right at me and told me that I couldn’t do it, my mom sided with her and demanded the money but I said ”No, she owes me. I get to keep it” and ran to my room.

My father said that I could do it and buy another one, my brother transferred the money a few hours ago , my sister has been crying because she just lost her sweet sixteen party and says a tablet is worth much less than that.

My brother is coming home in around 20 min to talk to my parents, I don’t know why but it might be about my sister. My bf is also on his way here to install a new safe for me.

Today marks the 4th month since i broke up with my toxic ex and i am still dealing with the aftermath of the emotional damage he left me with. He tore down my self-esteem and i felt so ugly about myself. The best thing that happened post breakup was that i finally plucked up the courage to attend therapy sessions.

As a girl who has been dealing with pcos for years, i have never been fit nor toned no matter how much effort i put into working out during my off days. My ex is very into fit girls and he follows a ton of fitness influencers/local girls on his instagram and likes + saves their pictures. I have communicated to him that i do not feel comfortable about it but eventually when nothing was done on his part, i tried my best to not feel bothered by it.

A year into the relationship, covid hit and i got really busy at work (i am in the healthcare industry). I had even lesser time to workout and i put on a few kgs.

That was when my ex started comparing me with certain local fitness influencers, saying that if i put in more effort into exercising i can look hot like them and become more attractive to him. He even requested me to dress like them.

Of course i felt really hurt by those comments because he should have been aware of my medical condition and my commitment at my workplace.

Furthermore those influencers do not have a fixed work schedule which gives them more freedom and some of them are even fitness instructors which means they are working out while at work!

My self-esteem started spiralling down and this continued on for more than a year. On hindsight i really should have left this loser earlier.

The last straw came when i found out through a friend that he signed up at the gym his favourite influencer was working out at.

The thing is, it was not even near his place and i would not have known if my friend did not tell me when she happened to see him there. I confronted him and he said that he does not see any issue with that because he did not cheat.

By intentionally approaching someone you are attracted to, is that not emotional cheating already? So i asked him whether he would be happy if i became like those girls, dressing skimpily and uploading photos and videos in provocative angles and poses to attract likes, would he be ok with his gf behaving like that online? Why does he worship all these girls solely for their appearances, to the extent of bringing his own girlfriend down? What if they had yucky personalities?

He just kept quiet. It was too much for me to handle at that point of time and we broke things off. He started insulting me and told our mutual friends that i was just being a salty and insecure b1tch. I lost some friends because of that.

So guys, if you want to simp over influencers online, kindly do the entire female population a favour and do not get into a relationship. Never claim to love your girlfriend when all you do is attack her confidence by comparing her with others and making her feel inadequate about herself. The damage is really hard to get over and i wish that no girl would experience what i have been through…

P.S my ex is not a buff guy himself

We had new investor / board member who wasn’t happy with our profits and growth. So he had our CEO replaced with his hand picked protégé.

From day 1 the guy was a s-t show. He would yell at people and talk to them like they were idiots in front of others.

He spent millions on outside consultants, instead of listening to the people who have worked here for 10 years.

He systematically laid off anyone who challenged him to make way for “his people”. Only problem was his people were useless.

After only a year in his job, our Q2 earnings from this year were the worst they’d ever been. And our money in the bank was nearly depleted.

So there was no path left but to sell for 10% what the company was worth when he took the job. Now half of us will get let go by the new ownership.

These rich execs don’t actually know anything about running a business. We’re just toys to keep them occupied.

I have been with this company since it was a 20 person startup. Watching everything i worked so hard to build fall apart in a year is frustrating and devastating.

Netizens’ comments

1. I cannot begin to tell you how many angel investors that I have been involved with that turned into demon investors. I call them the one-hit wonders who, somehow, got successful in a business enterprise giving them the money, but not the brains to be a quality investor.
   Just because you sold a successful screw machine business does not mean that you have any clue as to how to grow a mobile app company, e.g. And don’t get me going on the VC’s (Vulture Capitalists…) as they are often worse.
2. This was a backroom deal between your “investor” and one of their buddies, to decimate (literally) the value of your company so it could be purchased by the outsider at a 90% discount. It happens all the time, and yes, we are all just playthings for the rich. Yay capitalism.

Just broke up with my fiance whom I share a joint account with. Am I the Ahole for asking for 100% of the money in our joint account because I think he should compensate me for my time wasted on him?

I have been dating my fiance for 3 years and we have been working for 2 years since graduating. He proposed to me last december and since then, I have been asking him to plan for our wedding, which I would prefer to be held as soon as possible because I am tired of working and want to be a housewife.

He told me he would prefer to have the wedding next year because he needs some time to plan the wedding but I want it to be held preferably by end of this year. Since he has agreed to stay at my parents’ house after marriage then there shouldn’t be any issues at all.

I just cannot understand why he wants to wait until next year to have the wedding because actually I was asking for a very simple wedding. I only wanted to invite our friends and relatives to a dinner at a mid-tier hotel like Pan Pacific and to get very affordable wedding bands like Cartier. He certainly can afford them because he has $30k in his personal savings account and he earns $5k a month.

I’m not even asking for much because I know there are way more expensive places to hold a banquet and way more high-end jewellery brands to get wedding bands from. But he thinks that the wedding bands and hotels I chose are too extravagant even though I have offered to help him pay 20% of all expenses. Because of all these issues, we quarrelled a lot and eventually I decided to break up with him because I realise he’s a very selfish person who doesn’t even care about what I want at all. Even the engagement ring he got for me was a small 0.9 carat which cost only $9k although I have specifically told him that I wanted a 1.5 carat.

Now that we have broken up, we are in the midst of discussing how to split our joint account money and he said he will give me half of the money inside, which is only $10k. His excuse for giving me only half of the money is that he was the only one contributing to the joint account. He did contributed to 100% of the joint account but I was the one who encouraged him to save up. Whenever he wanted to buy useless things like Nintendo Switch, I stopped him from buying them. Without me, he wouldn’t even have savings at all. Moreover, I wasted 3 years of my life on him so I think I deserve more than $10k. Honestly, even if he gives me all the money, which is merely $20k, I still don’t think it’s enough to compensate for the 3 years. But he seems reluctant to give me 100% of the money and kept giving me all sorts of lame excuses. Should I continue to ask for $20k or should I just settle for $10k? I’m so tired of fighting over this.

I’ve been with my new girlfriend for 5 months now and we have regular intercourse, she always finishes and I always finish after her.

However we came to a road block and she wants me to do more foreplay which I have been trying to do she says she want me to be more dominant which I am being.

But last night she was trying to initiate the mood but I didn’t want to I told her no and that was that.

She later was all quiet and didn’t say much. I asked her what was wrong and she said that she just thinks I am boring in bed, which shocked me cause it was out of no where.

I asked how I can improve and spice things up more for her but she only replied with I should just know.

I said I don’t know what you want me to do if you don’t tell me, which she replied to by saying her ex was a virgin and he knew how to keep it entertaining and that he was actually good and better than me in bed.

This hit me extremely hard in my chest and I didn’t know how to respond made me feel like I just wanted to break down and cry.

Does anyone know how I can spice things up with her and how I can get over this heavy numb feeling??

Netizens’ comments

1. that’s immature and hurtful..
2. Yeah, she’s mad that she got turned down. How sad. She also sounds incredibly spiteful. That was a very low blow. Continue at your own risk.
3. Yeah no, I wouldn’t spend any more time on her, communication is massively important in a relationship and especially with intimacy. No one “just knows”
4. She’s hinting that she wants to hook up with Professor X i guess.