I have been sick since I was 8 years old.. there was hope at the beginning, but all of that was pretty much lost after the age of 12.

My body has been put through an endless amount of chemotherapy that has done nothing but make me feel worse.

I made the decision to stop trying about 9 months ago and doctors respected that considering things weren’t looking good for me either way the ball rolled.

I’d say the absolute hardest part was telling my mom and brother that this is what I wanted.. it broke my mother’s heart, but she eventually understood why I wanted to stop.

I’m now terminal and just want to spend the rest of my days being as normal as I can be, I’m making sure that I take advantage of the time I have left and I have been spending it with my mom and brother the most. (I think?) That I’ve accepted my fate.

I try not to think about it too much, but when I do I just try to look at it like “hell yea, I’ll finally be reunited with my dad”.. and that brings me more peace than anything.

I think that I’m more worried about my family than I am about myself, the thought of leaving my mom and brother with so much grief haunts me and makes me feel guilty.

I’m just glad that I have some time to maybe help them accept it? Idk.. I was never really able to cope with the fact that my dad was gone so maybe I’ll just have to cope with the fact that I’m going to put them through a lot mentally/emotionally when I do pass. I just don’t like to think about it.

Anyways, onto the point of the post. I have this friend who has been by best friend since we were both 13.. I think that she might have felt pity for me and that’s why we became friends in the first place, but now she is genuinely the best friend any guy could ask for and I love her dearly.

She knows about me being terminal and texts me constantly to let me know that she loves me and if there’s anything I want/need to just let her know..

she still comes by to see me and I’ve had more free will recently so I’ve been able to do the same. Soon I won’t be able to do much of anything though because I’m so thin and only getting weaker so..

I know that it’s a cliche to not want to die a virgin, but I have a huge FOMO and want to feel what it’s like at least once.

I know that she’s done it before so it’s not like I’d be taking her virginity if she did agree to sleep with me. I think I love her (like romantically?) but I’d never tell her that for obvious reasons and she would never feel the same anyways.

But my point is that she is my only option and is the best option in my eyes.. there’s no one I’d rather do it with. Just to clarify, if she turned me down I would be perfectly OK with that, but I just worry that it’s wrong of me to ask.. what do you guys think

I ORD in 2020, since then I have been using my own bed at home (duh) and when I went for my first reservist this year, I had such a good sleep on the mattress during my ICT because of my poor back.

Now that I’m back home again I realised that I NEED THAT MATTRESS.

CAN ANY NSF LOOK UNDER YOUR BED NOW IF YOU SEE A SMILING LADY PICTURE ON THE MATTRESS please let me know the brand and model.

If under your bed no smiling woman just let me know your current brand and model also can I think Army will use the same kind of bed (firmness) anyway.

THANK Y’ALL IN ADVANCE.

Netizens’ comments

1. lights out bro
2. God i hope i dont see a smiling woman under my bed in the middle of the night
3. i just checked under my bunk mattress and it says “mattress world”. couldn’t find any info about this brand on the internet though
4. to be fair, if you’re tired anything feels like a good mattress
5. Just sign on lor, can get to sleep on that mattress every day instead, no need waste time and money to go out and look for it and buy.
6. The mattress harder than concrete leh, we go outfield even the mud also softer than that mattress, you sure got so good or not?
7. No need waste money buy all these nonsense lah, just sign on.
8. Eh brudder, if I see a smiling woman under my bed I sure pangsai in my pants lah.
9. You serve ns until your brain spoil already is it, or you are some siao on fella who loves the army too much?
10. Bro when you in pro during your next reservist, just dabao the whole mattress from the bunk and carry it home lor

I “accidentally” shit the bed in front of my boyfriend

Me [F18] had just gotten in a relationship with my new sweet boyfriend [M20]. A little info about me. I have a chronic stomach wound which pops up whenever I’m really stressed.

The relationship was very new so we were both still quite shy, we had just gotten comfortable enough farting in front of each other tho, and often made a joke out of it.

About a month into our relationship I had to go to the hospital with my stomach wound, I was there for a week and he was super supportive the whole time.

When I finally got home from the hospital my body was so weak, I wasn’t allowed to drink or eat anything the whole week because of the tests they had to make. Therefore my body had pretty much shut down, nothing had come in, so nothing came out.

I got prescribed some laxatives that I took, never having taken them before I didn’t know what to expect but it definitely wasn’t this!

We were laying in bed, I was on my side looking at my phone, and he was half sitting up in bed playing RuneScape on his laptop in front of me. I could feel a fart coming, so I looked up into his eyes with a smirk face expression and said: “I’m sh-g!”

I meant to say “I’m farting” but the words came out wrong.. and so did something else. The moment I said it, I let it all out, still with a smirk face expression looking him right in the eyes.

You could hear a wet bubbly sound, and I instantly knew what had happened. My smile faded and my face turned to horror, my hand flew down to stop the flow but it was too late.

Boyfriend jumped up and ran to help me clean up while just laughing hysterically, I was so embarrassed that I couldn’t even say anything.

Later when we sat and talked he told me that it was the most intimidating thing he had ever experienced, the way I looked right into his eyes, he had never felt so dominated in his life.

Needless to say we got very quickly comfortable with intimate things like that after this. Even tho we’ve broken up since then and it’s been a few years, I’m to this day still just as embarrassed.

Found out that my partner tried to cheat on me but the women turned him down

He’s tall dark and handsome always told me that women threw themselves at him and I’m lucky because he could’ve banged anyone at any time but he chose me.

Recently I found out he was talking to some women but denied anything physical had happened as he decided to remain faithful to me.

I reached out to the main woman he was talking to (respectfully and not angry at her). She actually shared their entire conversation with me and the screenshots clearly show him pursuing her out for drinks and her just ghosting him at some point. And of course he told her he was single.

I asked her why she didn’t go out with him and she said he came across as kind of creepy, entitled, and toxic.

I just want to laugh. I’m of course devastated at the lies and I’m 100% sure something physical would have happened if she agreed to go out with him.

I also have evidence that several other women turned him down when he asked to sleep with them too.

But oh boy this just shed light on how much of a loser he is. (No questions relationship is obviously over). I’m planning my grand exit where I will show him her texts and laugh in his face as I know seeing any lowly opinion from another woman will really crush his confidence.

Netizens’ comments

1. I’m sorry you had to deal with that a-hole. Please can we get an update on your grand finale?
2. Right so if this guy is claiming that women throw themselves at him that’s a bit of a sign that he’s either a f boy or he’s very insecure. I’m not sure why someone would say that to their partner. It just baffles me.
3. May I suggest something? Don’t show him the messages. Don’t tell him you know he was hitting on other women. Here’s why: If you do that he might feel a little bad that he’s losing you. But he’ll have the consolation of telling himself you would have stayed with him if he didn’t try to cheat. In other words, that you still wanted him.
   It will hurt him worse if you just say (in whatever way), “Hey. You know what. I’m breaking up with you. I just think you’re not good enough for me. You really aren’t that handsome and your personality kinda sucks, so, yeah, it’s over.”

From 2010-2014, I lived in this flat in Jurong West Street 42. I will not name the block but it is located near a supermarket . Throughout that 4 years, I had always felt uneasy living there. The flats there were quite old. I lived on the 6th floor and getting home was complicated.

Back then, the lifts in my flat only stopped at levels 4 and 7. Hence, in order to get home, I had to walk a long corridor and go 1 level down to reach home.

At night, I could say at least 80% of the time there were faulty lights along the corridor at level 7. Walking along the corridor never felt good. You know those types of chills that you get!! I always felt cold and my hair will stand each time I walk along the corridor. That’s the reason why I run along the corridor most of the time. Especially at night, I always feel like someone is following me from the back all the time. Now, here come the hauntings that my family and I faced…

I faced 2 incidents back at that old flat. One incident happened when I came back home from school and I was alone at home. I was preparing for my PSLE at that time and alone at home around 4pm. When I was revising, the earpiece I hung on one of the wall hooks started untangling on it’s own at a very high speed before falling on the floor. No questions asked, I ran straight to my grandparent’s house.

The second incident happened when I was eating in the kitchen with my helper. We were eating and she asked me whether I feel weird about the house. This was around 7 pm. When she asked that question, the microwave immediately flew open on its own. I forgot what happen next but we shifted 2-3 months after these incidents.

After we shifted, my dad said he didn’t feel anything in the old house but my mum told us her stories. Throughout the years, she frequently sees a hand waving at her from the kitchen window like just the arm waving. We lived on the 6th floor so there was no way anyone could have waved at my mum. She also complained about the feeling of being followed at level 7.

When we told our grandma this, she told us she knew something about the flat but she didn’t wanna tell us so that we won’t be scared living there. She said that when she came out of the lift at level 7, she always see this dark figure waiting at the corner and that dark figure will always follow anyone back to their house. Sometimes this figure will follow all the way into the house and sometimes it will just follow back to the doorstep and leave us alone. I am just thankful that I did not see anything there except for the small disturbance but for sure I wouldn’t wanna go back to that house.

I recently had the opportunity to visit Taiwan for a business trip. Before I arrived, I had heard a lot of stories about the Taiwanese people being “rude” and not being very friendly.

THEY ARE INDEED FKING RUDE.

I recently had the opportunity to visit Taiwan for a business trip. Before I arrived, I had heard a lot of stories about the Taiwanese people being “rude” and not being very friendly. I was apprehensive, to say the least. I was really curious to see if this was true and if I would encounter any rudeness during my stay.

Well, let me tell you, I was not disappointed. From the moment I stepped off the plane, I was met with an unwelcoming attitude. The airline staff were quite cold and unhelpful, ignoring my questions and not even making eye contact.

The same attitude continued throughout my stay. Everywhere I went, people seemed to be in a rush and not willing to help me out with anything. Even when I asked for directions or help with something, the response was always dismissive and unhelpful.

I soon started to realize that the stories I had heard were true. The Taiwanese people really are quite rude. It seemed like they had no respect for anyone who wasn’t a local or didn’t speak Chinese. Even when I tried to speak Chinese, my attempts were met with a cold and dismissive attitude.

I also noticed that this rudeness extended to other foreigners as well. I saw many people being treated rudely and ignored, simply because they weren’t local. This made me feel even worse about my own experience.

I eventually came to the conclusion that the Taiwanese people are indeed very rude. This was a huge shock to me, as I had expected a much more welcoming and friendly attitude from the people I encountered.

However, I also learned something from this experience. I learned that it’s important to be respectful and polite when dealing with people from other cultures. Even if they don’t seem to be doing the same, it’s important to treat them with respect and kindness.

This experience also taught me to be more patient when dealing with people from different cultures. I now understand that it takes time to get to know someone and learn about their culture. I also understand that not everyone is going to be as welcoming and friendly as I expected.

Overall, the experience of visiting Taiwan was a valuable one. Although I didn’t get the warm welcome I was expecting, I still learned a lot from my experience. I now understand that it’s important to be respectful and patient when dealing with people from other cultures, and that not everyone is going to be as welcoming and friendly as I expected.

Help! In need of some advice from the guys.

I am a 28F and have matched with several guys on CMB which are 8-10 older than me. There is a trend I find in them, the frequency of them texting me/starting a convo/replying my text is really really slow. They can reply my text once/twice a day and sometimes just disappear for days and suddenly text me to ask me how I am doing and would like to meet up… Like what?!? I don’t understand…?!?

To all the guys, can you explain if this is normal? Like are they still interested or are they really so busy given that they are older and have more work priorities that they can’t even find a time to check their phone for a few seconds to reply or are they just trying to find someone to talk to when they are bored?

To me, as a female, I find that these convos start to get boring fast and they definitely have lost interest and I will start to lose interest fast too.

If that’s the case, why are they even on the app if they have other priorities that matters more… Really don’t understand how guys think…

Or… I just have bad judgement to match with these guys. Sigh!

Here are what netizen thinks:

• Tbh, I have met ladies (who were of similar age as you) who also text back once/twice a day and sometimes do not text back for days. It can be painful to realise that you are just one match among their many matches they might have. They could have other priorities like work and family matters to attend to. They can’t pause all around them and just focus on getting to know you. That is the sad reality.If you would like to find a partner and settle down within the next 1-3 years, you might want to sign up a package with Lunch Actually. I think do date coaching as well and can help you to find the right one. All the best!

• Everyone on the app is talking to a lot of different ppl .. so after a while all conversations are sorta patronising and mundane.. hardly anyone leaves a special impression anymore. And meetup is just cut to the chase to see if there’s any physical chemistry. It’s very normal these days, and all these older guy’s priority are not relationship at times. So just don’t take yourself so seriously too. Go out and meet ppl and have fun