I’ve opened a Pandora’s box…

Just want to vent this out here and hear your thoughts.

I met this guy through dating app. We clicked and he got me pregnant after years of being in an r/s. We also got married.

Currently I am still in my maternity leave. I am staying at home most of the time and taking care of the baby. One night, I was just feeling nostalgic how we started from dating app to this and I decided to backread our first conversation in his WS. I used his because I accidentally uninstalled my WS app earlier this year and I failed to have a backup of our conversation thread. I typed “hotel” in the search thread cos as consenting adults, we went to hotel when we were just starting and I wanna read how we progress from there, getting into relationship and marrying each other.

But as I was scrolling to the year when we first met, I saw some conversation with “hotels” too and how they had S, etc. I was flabbergasted and I don’t know how to react.

In summary, this is the timeline. We first met on *insert date*. One week later, he had S with this other woman he met in the app. One week later, we met again and kissed. Four days later, he had S again with that woman. Two days later, he met with me in the hotel but we didn’t have S that time though we made out. It was only two weeks later after we decided to be exclusive to each other but not officially tgt yet.

I didn’t know any of his escapades until now. Not that his body count matters to me cos to be fair, we weren’t in a relationship that time so technically he was still single. But what bothers me is that what if we were having S that time when he was hooking up with that woman? I think I couldn’t take it…

Moving forward, I lowkey asked him if he had any ons/ fubu/fwb before meeting me and he said no. I was just appalled how he could lie to me, or maybe he just really doesn’t want me to know that part of his past..

I felt that I have opened a Pandora’s box and tbh I still love him the same. He has been a wonderful husband and father. I am aware that those are things from the past and what matters is the present and the future. Though, I felt relieved that I didn’t have S with him that time that he was shagging other woman. Also, he also has been faithful to me eversince we decided to become exclusive until we officially dating. I am just feeling betrayed on how he lied to me.

Because I would appreciate his honesty— that’ll only imply that he trusts me with his deepest and darkest secrets, but unfortunately he didn’t…

the dating world and the employment world are the same.

for guys out there who are looking for a hot girl, then you have to spend.

from our perspective, our youth are limited, why not optimise the youth

go on vacations, eat great food, receive gifts

in addition we also look at the prospective-in-laws

will the guy be able to buy a nice condo, own nice car

will the parents be able to help?

once again, it is not us being materialistic but the nature of life

we will need to protect our short term and long term interest

looks, wealth or the potential for wealth, personality

you need to have minimally 2.

even when you go for a job interview, you look at the starting pay and the potential for increment

some guys claim true devotion. true devotion doesnt work that way.

when a younger newer girl comes, your true devotion will vanish into thin air

hence, true devotion has no value. we need something tangible

even in the unfortunate event of divorce we can get half of the matrional assets

TLDR: you have to be realistic. if you are average, settle for a even slighty more average girl. someone who is willing to bto a 3 room hdb with you. but even then 10 years down the road, the girl will start to complain and compare you to her friends’ husband, like you complain your employer isnt paying you enough

I was always told that friendship is one of the most important things in life. We should treat our friends with respect, loyalty, and honesty. So when my friend told me he was selling shares of his bar, I was more than a little taken aback.

The fact is, many bars in Singapore get cash sponsored by alcohol distributors and most of the time, the cash sponsor easily covers the cost of the bar.

In other words, the bar is “free” and he is selling these shares to others at an exorbitant rate to make a profit.

My friend was offering me the opportunity to buy a percentage of his bar ownership at a 200-500% inflated price. He presented it like a great deal, and I was tempted. But I was also keenly aware of the fact that if the bar went down, I would be the one to suffer the losses.

In the end, I decided to go ahead with the purchase. I figured that if I was careful and kept an eye on the bar’s performance, I would be able to get out before any major losses occurred. I also figured that if the bar did go down, I would have at least made some money in the process.

It turns out I was madly wrong.

The bar was not doing well and I was losing my investment. In the end, the company went haywire and the bar had to close down.

Later on, I found out he was repeating this scam at many other bars and repeating this scam tactic to others.

I later found out that many people who are in the bar and alcohol industry are very aware of these scams and always present them as a fake lucrative opportunity to people who want to own a bar.

After getting the sponsorship from the alcohol distributors the scammer will recuperate any money invested in the business and quickly sell it off for a profit. Even if the bar closes and goes down, the scammer does not lose any money.

I have been on social media for almost a decade now, and I have seen a lot of people who post happy photos very often. It looks like they are having the best life ever, but in reality, they might actually be facing a lot of unhappiness.

I have seen so many people post photos of them doing fun things, with a huge smile on their faces, or even just a selfie with a caption like, “Having the best day ever.” But, in reality, they might be facing a lot of issues and challenges that they are not showing in their social media accounts.

It is easy to get the wrong impression about these people and their life, especially since the posts they make are so positive and happy.

The truth is, people who post very happy photos very often are often facing a lot of unhappiness in reality. They might be struggling with depression, loneliness, anxiety, or any other mental health issue. They might be dealing with a difficult situation, such as a break up, a job loss, or a death in the family. They might even be struggling with financial issues or any other challenge that is not visible in their social media accounts.

It is easy to get the wrong impression and think that these people are always happy and doing great, because that is what they portray on social media. But, the truth is, they might be facing a lot of struggles that they are not showing on social media.

I think the best thing to do is to remember that social media is not always an accurate representation of someone’s life. It is easy to get sucked into the happy and positive posts that people make, but it is important to remember that these posts are not always an accurate representation of their reality. They might be going through a lot of struggles that they are not showing on social media.

It is also important to remember that it is okay to not be happy all the time. Everyone has their ups and downs, and it is perfectly normal to feel sad and unhappy at times. It is important to be kind to yourself and to give yourself the space to feel whatever it is that you are feeling without judgement.

Social media can be a great way to stay connected with friends and family, but it is important to remember that it is not an accurate representation of someone’s life. People who post very happy photos very often are often facing a lot of unhappiness in reality, and it is important to remember that and be kind and understanding when it comes to these people.

Here are what netizens think:

• I have this friend. He always like to post happy photos on IG then when you like his photo, he will start complaining to you about how sian or what new problem he has. Idgi sia. Happy happy thing he also can make until become sad. It’s damn irritating. No wonder all our friends don’t like to talk to him. Then because of this he gonna say nobody care about him lah what shit. Grow up lah deh

• Very the true

When I first heard the words “will you BTO me, a wedding table price”, my heart sank.

I knew immediately what they meant and it was a bitter pill to swallow. It was a reminder of the high prices of wedding tables that one has to pay in Singapore and a reminder of the ridiculous prices of housing in Singapore.

I remember when I was first starting out on my own, wanting to buy my own place. It seemed like an impossible dream. The prices of housing in Singapore were so high, it felt like an unobtainable goal. With prices of a new HDB flat costing as much as $700,000 or more, it seemed like the only way I could afford a place was to get a loan.

But even then, it was a struggle. I was a student at the time, and the loan repayment plan didn’t make things easier. The monthly payments could be a strain on my finances. I felt like I was stuck in a never-ending cycle of debt, and it seemed impossible to get out.

So when I heard the words of “marriage”, I couldn’t help but feel a rush of stress.

But getting married and happiness is often short-lived when I realised the prices of wedding tables in Singapore. I was taken aback by how high the prices were. I mean, I knew weddings can be expensive, but I didn’t realise how expensive it was to rent a table for a wedding in Singapore. The prices of wedding tables in Singapore can be as high as $2,000 – $3,000 for one table!

That’s when I realised how ridiculous the prices of housing and other things in Singapore are. How can a simple table for a wedding cost more than a car? It just doesn’t make any sense.

But then again, I guess that’s just the way things are in Singapore. Prices of housing and other things are ridiculously high, and the prices of wedding tables are no exception.

It can be disheartening to think about, but I guess I just have to accept it. After all, the prices of housing and other things are high in Singapore, and that’s just the way it is.

But I’m still glad that I can afford to buy 20 tables for my wedding. It might be expensive, but at least I can finally have a wedding of my own. It might not be the most luxurious wedding, but it will be special nonetheless.

And at the end of the day, that’s all that matters. I’m getting married to the person I love, and that’s all that matters.

I have been in a relationship with a crazy girl for the past 6 years. We both met when studying at NUS. We started out as FWB before she proposed to be my gf. I recently chanced upon her boasting in secret chats that I was the best she ever had and sharing how she felt that I was out of her league. To date, the best thing in our relationship is still the S, and that is pretty much the only thing keeping the relationship going.

Sometimes I feel like a garbage collector because of the crazy things she does and the problems I have to deal with when she goes crazy.

Just yesterday she called the police on me because I refused to have S with her the previous night. And if you ever see a girl crying, screaming and shouting in public, that’s probably her… This happens 99% of the time when I do not have S with her the previous night or the very morning. So Im forced to spend hours every day having S with her. Has anyone dated a girl like this or is also stuck in the same predicament?!

Here are what netizens think:

• She called the police because you don’t want to have S?… Hmmm, I’d pay actual money to get photocopy of the police report.

• Just announce 4 words “I’m irresistible in bed” enough. No need to spend 2 paragraph

• To brag, you need a sane girl for credibility

• You should have ventured off to Japan AV where u can do us proud… And it pays well too

• If u are unwilling it’s R. Report her, it’s not a joke to be force into S. I am unsure why ppl loves to laugh at guys getting force into S. If this story was a girl complaining her bf the comments would be different. This really got to change. Why only woman must be willing, and guys can’t be forced?

I am a uni student. I have been in a few relationships since beginning to date in JC. My last relationship was the most serious and my longest. It is honestly another story within itself, but basically we ended things because it was not a healthy relationship and long-distance wasn’t working for us. I honestly thought she was the one so I was very upset after breaking up, especially because we had broken up before but I knew that this time was official. I haven’t spoken to her since last March, and I’m glad to say I’ve long since gotten over her. I also feel like I gained a lot of maturity in terms of relationships after that.

Around the same time, I met another girl. I’m pretty involved on campus so I ended up joining a school group. She is very good friends with my friends.

To cope with my breakup I started to spend a lot of time with them and got very close to them and another of his friends. After a couple months, I realized I had caught feelings for this girl. Let’s say her name is Anna. I realized I was catching feelings and told me that they think we would be good for each other and that I should make a move. At this point, I was cautious since I was still recently out of a relationship, so I decided to keep getting to know her.

We began to hang out a lot more and eventually went on a dinner “date” even though we didn’t call it that and it was awkward since it was our first time hanging out by ourselves. But we still kept hanging out with our friends after that and agreed to hang out together again, just us two. So now it’s the beginning of last summer and we both go home for break. Thankfully we live pretty close to each other so about two weeks after going home, we hang out again. We get ice cream and talk for hours on a bench. At this point I know I really like her but don’t make a move yet because I’m not ready for a relationship. After hanging out we don’t talk much for the rest of the summer because we had very different plans and she’s not the best texter. I basically lose hope at this point.

Fast forward to august and we are back at school. We get in contact again and basically start hanging out again before school really picks up. We hangout alone several more times and I am still trying to pick up her vibe, but she is hard to read. Eventually, her friends tell me that Anna is not sure what she wants to do even though she does like me too. She had never been in a relationship before so she didn’t know what to expect. At this point, I plan on talking to her about my feelings for her for the first time actually telling her how I feel. She agrees to talk. We never end up talking because she kept pushing it back saying she was too busy with school. We stop talking but we see each other at social events but something feels different now. We stop talking for about a month. She ends up getting to know some of my friends in my organization and I eventually find out one of my younger friends likes her and I guess they start dating (this is now December of this past year). They only date for a bit before breaking things off (I’m not sure if it was bad or not) she stops coming around for a couple weeks.

Now recently she’s been around again and we’ve been texting too. I think I’m realizing I’m still into her. I’m unsure whether to pursue things since she dated my friend (that I’m not very close to) and that’s like bro-code, and also cause I’m not sure if she’s interested in me or not. For all I know, she could just see me as a friend. I know I’m young and there are many girls out there, but I think I still do like her. Any advice?