It was during the beginning of the pandemic and my husband was saying weird things. Things I recognized but not from his mouth! It was a woman we both worked with. So I kept saying you sound like such and such… are you talking to her? No my love, I’m so sorry…it’s just something we say at work. So it happened a few more times and I kept it to myself! I decided to check the phone records…yes I know. I’m a horrible sneaky detective. I am the worst kind of person. So I’ve been told! I am so unforgivable for doing such a thing! How could I?

Ha! Sooooo, I found multiple numbers that I googled and it turned out to be a bunch of escorts. Same girls over and over again. So I researched them all and got their info and I blasted him and freaked out on him. The next day I realized I only checked the text messages and didn’t even check the phone logs! Ughhhh! I wish I never did that but I am glad I did at the same time. Even tho it ruined my life! He was calling this woman we both worked with for a whole year behind my back while still working with her. Sometimes 10 to 12 times a day and not one phone call to me… I just want to say Thank you for not calling her on my birthday!!! We’ve only been married for a year! Wtf!!! So,I brought it to his attention…”They are just friends. Never had sex! She’s married!” Ok, so then who got you all excited in your shorts while you were at work while I was at home? Yes, they were a mess! Another unforgivable thing I did!!! I am the worst person right now…even tho I wasn’t the one cheating and lying!!!

I was sad and so alone! I felt betrayed! I don’t trust him. How could someone lie to someone they love for so long! I wasn’t allowed to see family or go much of anywhere because of the pandemic! I was so insecure. He kept saying you are so jealous! Why are you so insecure? All we do is fight. I just want to be happy….Ummm hello jack***….you just effing lied and cheated for a whole effing year of our marriage. Our first year of marriage!!! Jealous??? Insecure???? Wtf! You made me feel this way!

It’s now a year later…he still works with her but no longer talks to her or keeps in contact with her! Yea right lol!!! You still get to effing work with her. I still get anxiety when I go to pick him up from work and I see her there. It kills me. My stomach hurts. I start to shake and I want to cry! How is he allowed to work with her still? I wonder if they are hanging out afterwork on the nights I don’t pick him up. My thoughts consume me. It’s not fair!

I’m trying to work on myself. I got really sick and I think it’s because of what he put us through. I was so consumed on finding everything out. Everything he lied to me about. I put all of his bullshit lies together and I figured it all out!!! I don’t know everything but what I do know is enough to make me sick to my stomach! Stressed out! Questioning my worth! Questioning how I look! He destroyed me…I thought I was stronger than that!!! Well everything finally destroyed my insides…I am sicker than I ever been. My sister thinks he will be the death of me. I won’t allow that to happen. It’s about me now. Noone else!

He wants us to be together and he loves me but in my head…I am so confused. Will he ever change? How do you have escorts in your phone but never had intercourse? How do you not have feelings for her? How can you hurt someone who has loved you from day one!?!

To the woman who was calling him everyday: I think you are the worst kind of woman and Karma is coming your way! I hope the weight of your lies pile drives you into the ground!

I want a better life… and that means surrounding myself around people who only want the best for me. The two of you have done nothing but bring me down…and I’m done! I hope you both live with regrets!!!

Hi there, F(24) here. I’m gonna cut right to the chase.

I’ve slept with three people in my life. All of them have been boyfriends, 2 exes and my current one. Me and my current boyfriend have been together for 4 years. Absolutely no complaints, he’s an amazing person who genuinely cares about me and my well-being.

However, all of these relationships have something in common. None of them have ever lasted more than a minute with me. I’m serious. Never longer than a minute.

I am very confident in bed, I am not shy in bed at all. Foreplay could go on for hours. But the moment they stick it in, it’s almost immediately that they come.

I think the longest round of intimacy I’ve ever had was maybe 40 seconds (not exaggerating). And then I’m left hanging, asking them to finish me off or I’ll just end up doing it myself.

At first I convinced myself that maybe I’m just so darn good in bed they just simply can’t handle it(lol). But here lately I’ve been very frustrated because of it.

Sometimes a girl just wants to be pounded for a few minutes ya know?! The fingers aren’t nearly as satisfying. Especially after years and years of finishing myself off after pleasing a man with everything in me.

My question is, why could this be? Is it because I am too tight? Am I dragging foreplay out for too long? I wouldn’t think this way if it wasn’t for all three partners being the same way during intercourse.

Now i’m convinced something is wrong with me and i’m growing insecure. Anyone have any advice??? Thank you for reading

Netizens’ comments

1. The first thing that comes to mind is to finish them off during foreplay so they can last longer on their second round with piv 🙂
2. I’m gonna be real it just sounds like these guys aren’t very good at lasting. It’s not an uncommon problem, that’s why you see so many jokes about it in the mainstream, practically.
   But speaking from experience as a man, you can work out your pelvic floor muscles and train yourself how to hold out on finishing. I did a lot of that as a teen, before I even had a girlfriend, so that I’d be able to keep it up for however long I need to. Worked out great.
   I can pound her for 20+ minutes… whatever it takes to finish her. Then I’ll let myself go. It’s pretty fun trying to get it to line up so we can finish at the same time. And she feels amazing, so I wouldn’t go blaming yourself. It’s something a guy has to work on controlling, if he’s having problems with it.
3. I actually think is the kind of guys you are dating They most have some physical or emotional similarities that also share the fast come similarity I think is them not you

I am 27(M) and she is 22(F). We dated for three years and recently broke up mid last year but remained as friends. While I still harbour feelings for her, she has already moved on and started dating other guys. It was taking an emotional toll on me just to be friends with her, till I told her we can’t be friends anymore for the time being until I have moved on. She agreed and we stopped all communication.

She suddenly messaged me one day asking if I’m willing to be her sugar daddy. She is a struggling student coming from a broken family. She really does not have much money each month. It barely covers her rent.

I am trying to move on, having this kind of relationship is definitely counter productive. I asked her, “what would you do if I say No?” Her reply was to find someone else. I asked her again, “are you sure you want to exchange S for money?” Her answer was “With my studies, I really can’t work, so my answer is Yes”.

I loved her so much. I even planned to marry her after she graduated. But to be hit with such a surprise is a bit tough and hard to swallow. The girl you loved was willing to sell her body for money.

I really don’t know what to do. To say Yes is stupid. To say No hurts me.

Here are what netizens think:

• Really sad and disappointing to see young girls resorting to prostitution to earn money. Better to avoid her, you don’t know who’s she’s been with.

• Whats her number? My friend wants to talk some sense into her

• I can’t judge her for what she chooses to do as she’s probably in a tight spot but worth considering if she’s been engaged with others for such services.You’ve got a lot more to lose since she’s not into you.

• Don’t do it bro, I know you probably want to do it to “protect” her and I know you still have feelings for her. But it will crush you, to her sex is a means to an end, to you there are feelings attached. You only stand to lose in this situation.She’s an adult, let her make her decisions and let her bear the consequences. You owe her nothing, time to focus on yourself.