I’m posting this here to see if anyone can help me.

This is starting to worry me because my little sister is seeing something and she’s terrified, she’s been waking up to a woman beside her at night, wearing a black dress with black hair.

My mom and older sister have seen her standing beside them at night too.

My mom said she was around my little sister’s age when she started seeing it, and some nights wouldn’t sleep because the woman would be there and sometimes she would try to grab her.

Does anyone have an idea on what this could be or what i should do.

Netizens’ comments

• Our house was super haunted when I was a kid, my mom came in my room and told the ghost it was scaring me and to please stop visiting and it stopped. If it is a ghost it may not be aware it is being scary. If that doesn’t work then start with burning sage and go from there

• Bro that’s obviously a ghost. Go on YouTube and play some religous music before going to bed.

I’ve been with my husband for 7 years and used to tell people that we have a storybook romance. We care for each other, talked endlessly, great friends and traveled a lot.

For the last several years I supported him while he went through school and finally he landed his dream job and I could relax a bit. I still work a full time job, but I could work less overtime and relax a bit

Flash forward ~1 year and he’s not loving his job at all and he’s already burnt out. He eventually decided to take some time off and soul search about his next career move.

During this time off he decided to take a week away overseas to just clear his mind. When he got home he was acting so strangely and was very distant.

When I confronted him about it the next day he admitted that he fell in love with someone else and when I asked him to stop talking to this person he refused. He wouldn’t stop talking to a person that he had only known for 7 days to preserve his marriage with someone that has loved him unconditionally for 7 YEARS.

I went home to my parents for a week to soul search and while on our laptop I found journal entry’s, intended for his therapist, he had written while on vacation about these affairs he’s been having with the other man without me knowing at all.

He also wrote about how he has never felt passion with me, and how he doesn’t think our love is compatible.

After reading this I called him and told him we need to split. These many betrayals and lies were beyond my capacity to forgive and I could never trust or be vulnerable with him again.

I am still in shock a month later. I had to scramble find a new place to live, move all our stuff alone, take care of the divorce settlement and work a full time job.

I feel broken, used and completely alone. I keep reliving the last 7 years and I can’t see how I could have seen this coming. He told me every day how much he loved me, and how he would do anything for our love.

How do you go from fighting over who will die first so we don’t have to live without the other, and him telling me he wants to have kids- to this?

Better question, how do I ever trust someone again? I’m 30 years old and can’t see myself ever investing in a long relationship like this again after sinking my literal heart and soul into this marriage and being tossed aside like a fool.

A normal Singaporean here…

Study -> Army -> Uni -> BTO -> Married that kind of normal…

So far so good… But working for more than 10 years… I suddenly look at my CV and I feel its very empty…

I grad with IT degree but first job I did was related to rescue service… No linknto degree…

Second job admin… Then help desk… Then back to admin… And now marketing…

After all these… I feel like i am neither here or there… So recently someone asked me… What do you want to do? Go back to IT? Admin? Or expand in marketing… Which i have no degree or any knowledge to but got there due to a few successful projects I did during my help desk time…

Im not too sure what I want as I love all those!

Im just worried about making a wrong move forward… Talking to bosses wont help as they confirm ask me to stay…

Any advice out there?

Netizens’ comments

• Is totally normal to do jobs that have no link to your degree, one of my ex lecturer told me only 3 out of his 40 ish cohort do something related to their studies.

It seems like you like jobs with boarder scopes than specialisation responsibilities, then you can search for jobs for such roles that is more suited for a generalist, on top of my head are product managers, business analyst, consultant etc.

Take pride of your past experience, you can easily pivot and make use of them. Like you can justify for example, because I have an IT and marketing background, I can easily code switch, communicate with different stakeholders and see the bigger picture.

• Maybe take a break from work and do something outside that you enjoy like a hobby or games whatever.

Basically take some time for yourself and then start the grind again.

My hubby is almost 40 years old yet he speaks with his mother on the phone everyday. It’s either his mum calls him or he calls his mum.

I can’t stand such a mummy’s boy & honestly it’s a dealbreaker for me if I’d known about his habit when we were dating.

I visit my in-laws once to two times a week. It’s not like they can’t update each other then. Rmb it’s not emergency stuff that they’re updating each other everyday. She also doesn’t have major health issues.

She is very reliant on him on everything. She & her husband are moving to an estate close to us soon & I’m worried my hubby will run every small errand his parents esp. his mother asks of him simply because he chats with her everyday.

His mother asks him to do errands even when they live far apart, not to mention when they move near to us.

Guys, do you call your mum every day to update her about your day. I’m a girl and I don’t even do that! It’s creepy.

I’ve sounded this out to him by saying, ‘How come your mum calls you everyday?’ But he thinks nothing of it & doesn’t get the hint that I’m disgusted by it.

How can I make it clearer to him that he & his mum’s call routine is creepy? He may just hide, call & whisper in the toilet if I make it any more obvious.

Sorry, their kind of co-dependency is simply not healthy.

Netizens’ comments

• My mum text and call me almost every single day. Your post does feel offensive to me.Im glad I have a wonderful husband who even talk to her n ask her how she’s doing. And i feel sorry to you, but esp. to ur husband n in law family.

• I’m praying very hard when my sons grow up, they won’t marry a woman like you. Say in a bad way, they only have one MUMMY, but your position as wife…..they can change any time. And not as if she’s hindering your life. She’s talking to him, not you. He’s a very filial son, and I respect him. On the other hand, you, as a wife and daughter-in-law….not so much.

• Are you for real? Sorry if you didn’t get much love and affection from your fam, but please, don’t deprive him of getting lots from his fam.There is a difference between a “mommy’s boy” and a close knit fam.

Okay so awhile back, I’d been dating a girl for 3 years and we decided to get a dog together. So she wanted to go look at a pet store and saw one she really liked (in hindsight I’d have much rather have adopted from a shelter and that’s my plan for the future).

So, we get the dog and it’s all in her name and we split the payment because we made the poor choice of getting him on credit.

At the time the plan was if we split she’d keep the dog. Fast forward she cheats on me and we break up, but she tells me to keep the dog and just has me send her money for his payments. I asked her for info so I could just set it all up to deduct from my account (her credit card payment also came out of my bank account and I asked her to take it off and she never did, also one of the payments already came out of my account but since she never took her credit card off the account I cancelled the account and had no way to add the payment account for the dog to my new bank account because she never sent me the info).

So, she had kept our old apartment we rented and was supposed to pay for it but ended up screwing me on it and making me have to pay for things because it’s affected me and my credit if I didn’t.

So after all that I stopped paying her for the dog and have blocked her on everything and now she’s reaching out to my family and friends trying to get them to ask me to pay her because it’s impacting her credit since all the loans are in her name.

Should I pay her back?

I wish people wouldn’t judge me so harshly for my job

I’m 35 years old and I’m a cleaner, I have ADD, autism and learning difficulties which makes everything ten times harder for me

so I didn’t do well in school, so cleaning was the only option for me, my only problem with my job is the shit I get from people friends even my own family

I just had a family reunion and I overheard my aunts telling my mom it’s OK to be disappointed in me, I lost most of my friends when I told them.

now I’m down to 3 friends who are not bothered by my job.

today my cousin told his kids to study and used me as an example of why it’s important.

I cried so much because of this, I feel so worthless and alone. iv even considered quitting because of this, the worst part is I actually really like the job, it gets me out the house, it’s satisfying to do and I have no boss or manager breathing down my neck

it’s low stress and when the work is done, that’s it, no phone calls, emails after, it’s great.

I consider it the best match for me which makes me feel worse

I really needed to get this off my chest

My boyfriend is in $180,000 worth of debt from Forex trading and i feel stuck and lost in this battle with him with no way out.

In a span of 1 month, my boyfriend lost his job and lost a huge amount of money on forex trading.

Thing is, that wasn’t his money. He needs to pay it all back. Idk how this whole forex trading thing works but what he does is he keeps borrowing huge amounts of money from other people to serve as capital, but the way it works is he has to pay these people back with interest.

He kept going, until everything was lost and now he’s stuck in debt.

My problem is that we are living together, I work from home and I can no longer focus with this cloud of anxiety hanging over my head and random people messaging me on social media letting me know that they need the money.

To be completely honest, I feel trapped in this cage with him even though I didn’t do this and have always asked him not to treat forex trading as some sort of gambling and and easy way to get a huge amount of money as it’s not always going to happen, and I always saw the risks.

I feel so bad that I’m feeling this way. I just want to breathe. I’m in this house all the time and it’s not even peaceful anymore. I have to work and cook and care for him and clean the house as he’s too down to do so, with all these forex trading debts clouding our home.

I have so many dreams for myself and I feel like it’s all stopped. My family are all going overseas to work & live there and I feel like I have this huge responsibility not to leave him (his mother is also begging me not to) especially during this time, or else I am the bad person.

I just want this to end, but I don’t know if it will. I can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore

TLDR: My boyfriend treated forex trading as some sort of gambling and easy way to get a huge amount of money and ended up being in $180k of debt.

My boyfriend was stressed at work these past few months and I supported him by helping him forget about it by making him feel busy or letting him do whatever he wants. We are in a long distance relationship right now.

I didn’t mind when he poured down all the stress on me by being annoyed at me for the simplest reasons, shouting at me and just being irritated most of the time.

He said he’ll be fine once the stress at work is over and to just let him be and to wait for that time to come. I understood him so I was just there beside him to the point that I was also so stressed and my health was declining.

Nowadays the stress was gone and his company is better. My boyfriend’s old self never went back. Instead he’s still irritated at small things, blames me for everything (ex: not being able to buy the hobbies that he likes because it was suddenly sold out or I just didn’t see his message because I was busy or alike).

When we were playing games he asks me to guide him, I guided him but when he can’t understand my instruction he gets mad but when I was the one asking him to guide me because I was having a hard time in that certain game, he got mad too and said it was just too simple, why I couldn’t follow.

I asked him when is his old self coming back in the sweetest way because I don’t want him to get triggered. I even said I’ll be there and we’ll go through it together.

He said he was tired of me because we always do the same thing all over again, that he always waits for me to wake up for me to answer his questions.

One time he told me he’s going out in the morning to buy his hobbies and he told me to rest but ended up going out in the afternoon so I was surprised when I woke up and I told him about it and then he said that I triggered him.

He said he don’t want the relationship anymore because I always don’t listen (when all things we do is what he wants and I always help him decide on things and also I was always there for him) and we are doing the same thing everyday.

Take note that it was him who asks me what do I wanna do always or I ask him what does he wanna do just to be fair. It was him who wants to play and watch movies/series/anime. He says he’s bored of it.

I always tell him he can do things on his own like watch his fave anime or play games. A couple needs their alone time too right? But he insists on doing those things with me.

Should I fight for this relationship or just give up?

This happened last weekend and I’ve been wanting to share it so badly.

I was swiping through Tinder looking for someone to hook up with when I matched with a really good looking man. He was 38 if I remember correctly.

We talked and I made it clear I’m just looking for something physical. He was down but asked if his buddy could join us. I said yes absolutely.

I booked a hotel room for the night and I told him I would leave the room unlocked and they could just enter.

He asked me if I had a blindfold and if I did would I be willing to wear it. I said sure.

Saturday night, around 8pm I’m in the hotel room waiting and I get a text that they’re here and to make sure I’m ready. So I strip and lay in the center of the bed with my legs spread wide, blindfold on, waiting for them to come up.

About 5 minutes later I hear the door open. I heard them walk in and the guy from Tinder is standing at the foot of the bed and says “I hope you don’t mind but I brought more than just the one friend”. I said that’s fine not even knowing how many were there.

Tinder guy started f-ing me first, he pounded me hard, it felt incredible. He came inside of me and when he pulled out he asked, “who’s next?”.

I think Tinder guy left after he finished because I heard the door click open.

Three other men, whose faces I’ve never seen took turns f-ing me and filling me up. It felt incredible. After one man was finished with me, he left.

Once the fourth guy had finished using my hole, I heard him say that I was so full. When I heard the door click for the last time, I took off my blindfold and started touching myself.

I could feel their juices inside of me and I came from the thought that 4 complete strangers used me for their own pleasure.

It was such an amazing experience.