Can’t take leave while another colleague is on leave

Hi all. For context, I am planning to travel with my family during the first week of April. However, one of my colleague (A) is also on leave and is taking cruise.

We’re each other cover buddy so this means we have 1 day where we’re both on leave. My supervisor told me I can’t travel because I need to cover him. If I want to, I still need to work overseas and ensure all work is done.

But the thing I don’t understand is that we each have a third cover buddy, so why can’t I still travel lol.

Am I being unreasonable?

Edit: My colleague, A and I both have our own 3rd cover buddy. I don’t mean 1 person do their own work and cover 2 people’s workload.

Netizens’ comments

1. Leave is an entitlement what
2. If u are the third buddy, u happy to cover 2 ppl workload on top of your own or not?
3. Only your bosses opinion matters.
   Honestly if it was me, I would still remain contactable by email and if need be do some light work when I am free for that 1-2 day when there is no cover
4. Sounds like a petty tyrant. How likely is it that you have anything that absolutely must be done on the day you’re both not around AND can’t be done ahead of time?
5. If the company is having issues running with 2 less headcount… They have bigger issues to worry about.
6. u should have submitted leave form earlier , already 10 days before April liao
7. Depends on how long of a head’s up did you give him.
   If he had reasonable time to plan a replacement, it should be fine. You shouldn’t have to work on your vacation day

A netizen shared how his wife was sent overseas to work for about 3 to 4 weeks, and she incurred expenses about $5,000 that she had planned to claim from the company.

However, after submitting the claims, she only received about $3,000 so far, with the remaining $2,000 yet to be paid.

The man said that his wife has kept all of the receipts and email correspondence with the company, where they had agreed to a certain payment plan to pay her back, but it was allegedly not honoured.

The startup company allegedly claimed that they were “going bust” and were letting his wife go, agreeing to pay her final salary and claims, which they had not done so.

Here is what he said

Company is not paying claims for 6 months now

Checking on behalf of my wife. Company sent my wife to the US for work for about 3-4 weeks. She had claims coming to a total of about 5K SGD. She then submitted the claims.

Within a month or two, company, which is a start-up, said they are going bust and will have to let my wife go. They agreed to pay her final salary and her claims.

They have paid about 3K so far with a balance of 2K. Company is still active and running but the boss is not responding to any texts regarding this.

Wife has kept all receipts and email comms in which they agreed to a certain payment plan they have not honoured.

Is there any avenue we can look to escalate the issue? I know 2K might not seem like much but we recently bought a house so every dollar counts.

Netizens’ comments

1. Lodge a complaint with ministry of manpower. The risk of working with a startup is that the failure rate is high. So be prepared that your wife may lose some money.
2. File a claims at TADM. And try to do it asap, as there are deadlines for filing a claim.
3. Go to MOM with receipts

I think i fall in love with a Massage lady

I’m currently a student studying in one of the local Uni. One day, i decided to venture into a certain forum that advertise services, curiosity killed the cat. I decided to call up one of them who i find beautiful.

It was my first time going for such services. She’s located in the mid west with other MLs too.

Her room is pretty clean. Once in, she took off her top. Oh my, i can’t stop looking at her beautiful flawless skin. She then told me to lie on the bed before proceeding to massage me. I even get to feel her, the experience is indescribable.

About 40minutes into the massage, she started doing the special. It feels sensational, i then nirvana within 5 minutes. Once done, I then proceed to grab her top with both of my hands then give her a kiss on her cheek.

Subsequently, I kept visiting her every 2 weeks. We started talking and i felt a connection with her. She also said that she never talk about personal things with her clients. I know that my parents will not approve our relationship. She never ask for any money except for her service

What should i do?

Netizens’ comments

Next time you want to visit her, you ask her if you have no money, can you still go look for her? Then you will get your answer.

End of day, they are providing a service, sure you may be their favorite customer or they may feel a connection with you but quite frankly you should not be mistaken that you are special to them. If tomorrow you don’t go visit her, you think she will miss you? Or miss a steady stream of income?

From someone who was close with some of these working ladies, there’s only heartache really so better to wake up earlier, save your money and your peace of mind. Imagine you say you love her, then what? What’s the next step? You want to support her so she don’t need to work? Or you are okay with her still doing this job where every guy can go visit her? If you say you okay with her job, then next time a customer ask her to go out to orchard to buy branded wallet, she will tell you it’s her job, just suck it up. What will that do to your mentality and self worth?

If you say you support her, good luck, most of the time they are working this job because they need lots of money and have no skills or are too lazy to work slowly towards their goal. Once your money runs out, you think she will stay with you because she will be contented? She also have lots of guys willing to spurge on her, some of them are old and have accumulated their CPF, she will always be tempted to jump to another bigger fish.

I’m a divorcee in my mid-40s and as I’m not looking to settle down (again!) any time soon, I’ve really enjoyed dating younger men recently and having a few FWB who are significantly younger than me.

Younger men are fun-loving, adorable to talk to, enthusiastic in bed and eager to please, and so curious about the world.

I find (most of) them really refreshing to spend time with. Such a contrast to the grumpy, jaded men my age, who only talk about their work, complain about their ex, or suffer from weaponised incompetence (despite their age).

Of course, it’s not all perfect. Dating younger men also means weeding out boys with mummy issues and those looking for sugar mummies. But, overall, there’s been more pros than cons in my experience.

Because many people seem to be getting the wrong idea about my experiences and my opinions, let me emphasise again that I’m NOT interested in a long-term relationship (my current focus is on my kids, my elderly parents, and my career, in that order).

So, meeting younger men, being their friend, and hopefully progressing on to being FWBs is ideal for me at the present.

And yes, I do date both younger men as well as men my own age and older. However, I have come to find that I enjoy the company of younger men the most.

In my opinion, there’s also nothing wrong with seeking a sugar mummy, if that is your wish. But it’s just not something I’m interested in being.

Netizens’ comments

1. They do make good FWBs and are a joy to talk to, but being at different stages of life meant that a relationship would have been more work than I wanted. I adore their energy and enthusiasm, one in particular was very much puppy energy. Very affectionate but wanted more than I could give despite clearly stated boundaries prior to engaging.
2. My partner is only two years younger so it didn’t make much difference to me. When we met he was mid 20s and probably didn’t have much relationship experience. He did start out very much a mummy’s boy who stayed home when mommy got angry and didn’t know how to clean up a spilled drink.
   Boy I’m glad he grew and now he’s very independent, and able to establish boundaries with his parents.
   I’ve also dated a guy 5 years younger briefly (before meeting my current partner) fresh out of army. It’s horrible. All he could talk about was army, to which I had zero interest.
   I think the older you get the less significant the age gap is, unless you’re talking about like 10 or 20 years

My old company wants to sue me for not providing password information – 4 years after they fired me!

I was the manager of a network engineering team for a medium/large sized for 20 years and was terminated in 2019.

We had various passwords for routers depending on line of business the routers belonged to. My team had the administrative passwords stored in a secure, electronic password vault.

Fast forward to last week when something got into the routers and locked everyone out, now they need the admin passwords but apparently the vault was taken offline and removed two years ago.

Apparently half their business is at a standstill and they can’t make payroll until this is fixed. They called me demanding the passwords and when I couldn’t produce them, they the wanted to sue me.

What a bunch of a-holes. First they fired me they want to sue me 4 years later. Laughable.

Netizens’ comments

1. “Per company policy and basic standards of professionalism, I did not retain any company documents, passwords or other information after my employment ended. I cannot provide you what I no longer possess.
   Also, I assume you followed basic information security standards that require you to change all administrative passwords after an employee leaves. Therefore, I never possessed the information you now seek.”
2. The proper response is:
   I have a professional responsibility to not retain proprietary information from previous employers which I have discharged.
3. I always delete all passwords immediately after I leave a job. If they call me 24 hours later, I won’t be able to help them. The liability risk if you get hacked while not employed there is not worth the risk.
4. I would tell them I’m sorry I can’t talk to you about this because you said you want to sue me but my lawyer is reachable at this number ######### thank you and have a nice day
5. password is: notmyproblem
6. Good luck with that. I can’t remember a password I made 30 minutes ago. No way I’d recall an unused one from years ago.
7. On a serious note… why would they assume you still had the passwords? They kept the admin passwords the exact same after 4 years even after laying off the team?
8. If you’re threatened with being sued. You lawyer up and don’t say a word. You absolutely don’t. Half the advice here makes you liable. It’s merely talk to my lawyer. Get a business lawyer versed in contract law not just any kind of lawyer

I have a friend who always treats our clique group chat as his personal Aunt Agony hotline.

Always kpkb about everything but don’t want to help himself

At the start everyone was really concerned about him but now he’s just getting on our nerves.

I know friends are supposed to help one another, but what can we do when the person doesn’t even want to help himself?

He always likes to complain about being ghosted and tbh I can see why lah. Not to be a cb, but reality is cruel.

He short and scrawny, not rich, face average, not sporty, got the needy vibe…which girl will find him attractive?

We have hinted to him so many times to at least hit the gym and build some muscles, also good for his health but he always gives us the very patronising response.

He don’t want to put in effort to groom and improve himself then how to have game?

Reconnected with a ‘friend’ doing MLM, likes her and insists she not trying to sell him anything

These days apparently he has been ‘dating’ someone but that someone has not been replying his texts. We thought he met her online but he says she is his secondary school classmate.

After graduation they lost contact but a month ago she texted him to catch up. He said she just left her old job and is embarking on a new project selling health supplements.

She even gave him a few samples to try and he quite like the taste of it.

When we heard this we were like “are you sure you guys are dating” and he got quite offended cos he insists that she did not try to sell him anything throughout their ‘dates’.

The moment he said this I was like “this guy is delusional lol good luck to you bro I’m out”.

My greatest wish is to be able to eat durians in the comfort of my own home but I know that’s impossible.

Family is anti-durian, got a bit of smell also cannot

My entire family hates durian and it’s so bad that my mom won’t allow me to enter the house if she can smell durian on me.

I have to brush my teeth somewhere else and change out of my clothes before I’m allowed to go home.

Apparently my clothes will have the ‘durian smell’, which is very difficult to wash off, after eating durian.

The first time I ate durian, my mom wore gloves and a mask to handle my clothes and she eventually threw them away cos she said the smell is so pungent she doesn’t want to contaminate our washing machine.

Thankfully my grandparents stay nearby and they’re not as extreme as my mom so I usually go over after eating.

According to my grandparents, my mom used to eat a lot of durian as she loves it but she stopped after she got food poisoning once.

It was so bad she was admitted to hospital. After my grandparents told me this, I can sort of understand my mom’s actions but sometimes she is so ridiculous that I suspect she’s just doing it on purpose to make my life difficult.