I am a 19F local dating a China guy with a really curious trait. Whenever he has trouble remembering how to pronounce cheem-sounding English words, he will transliterate it into Chinese and memorize that instead. For instance, “doing it” becomes “谁输儿 阴特扣死“ (shei-shu-er yin-te-kou-si), which I find so funny I make him say it every time he wants to do it.

But yesterday when I was helping him to spring-clean his room for CNY, I stumbled upon this army notebook of his. I recall that he told me as a second-gen PRC he had to serve, and he was a Platoon Sergeant, so I was curious and had a look at what he wrote. Lo and behold, it was full of Chinese transliterations of army commands and on one page, there was a full-blown Tang dynasty-esque poem:

扑了吞吐握右方 (pu-le-tun-tu-wo-you-fang)

扑了吞吐色迪呀 (pu-le-tun-tu-se-di-ya)

可可男露无乳撕 (ke-ke-nan-lu-wu-ru-si)

盘蛋卡拉盘盘蛋 (pan-dan-ka-la-pan-pan-dan)

巴黎死色囊地利 (ba-li-si-se-nang-di-li)

I only recognise “sediya” and “senangdili” cause I hear that all the time in morning assembly back in school, but the rest look like gibberish. Anyone understand this?

Here is wht netizens think:

• thanks for the morning lolz.Anyway it’s not uncommon. Japanese Katakana was derived for the same reason – to deal with words and phrases not in their native tongue.

• Reminds me of Wong Fei Hong learns english from 十三姨

• Platoon watch your front..platoon Sedi-a! (Attention).. Ke-Kanan Lu – RUS!(Right dressing).. Pandang Ke-Hadapan Pan – DANG! (Eyes to the front).

• Very impressed! At least he make an effort to remember the commands using his creative!

• Once u go tiong u cant turn back

• 3rd one is me kanan lu rus (checking alignment when falling in)4th one is Pandan ke hadapan pandan= turning head back to the front after checking alignment5th one is Baris Senangdiri= contingent? At ease.

My husband is an extremely expressive and affectionate man who will shower me with “I love you” and “I miss you” daily. Even if we just met that morning, he will text me “I miss you” in the afternoon.

On the other hand, I can’t. I almost never send such messages or say these things first, and I even find it hard to say I miss you. The only time when I really felt that I miss him was when we were still dating and our busy schedules kept us apart for about 2 weeks. That was when I told him “I miss you so much can’t wait to see you”

Apart from that, I am not a very caring person as well, I realised this because I don’t show much care and concern even to my own family and friends.

Someone can post an extremely emotional post and I wouldn’t comment or get in touch, my husband can injure himself (so far only minor injuries) like hit his shin against the bed frame, stub his toe, or I accidentally elbow his stomach but I wouldn’t feel inclined to be like “omg are you ok?” and show lots of care. Instead, I’m like “you see la, tell you don’t run into the room” or “be more careful lei”

I sometimes wonder do I have a problem? Do I not love him enough that’s why I’m like that? Or is it normal to be not expressive? I feel bad because I do love him, I just cannot bring myself to lovey dovey with him like other couples do, and it’s sad that he cannot receive the same kind of affection he gives me.

Here are what netiezns think:

• There’s many forms of love language. Some use actions like hugs, some use words, acts of service etc. You can google and understand more.From the things you say like “you see lah…. ” it reminds me of my parents who would say similar things to me when I fall down as a child. Basically who you are now as a person, how you react to things, is basically how you were brought up as a child, your experience growing up in situations like these resulted in who you are. There’s no right or wrong way. Basically for me, my husband is the lovey dovey one when we got tgt and I would cringe fr it. Bcos my parents aren’t the ones who would shower me words of affection but rather the tough love sort. But over the years, I appreciate what my hub do more for me and the love language from him. Everyone loves differently. And it’s ok!

• It’s ok sis. My wife also like that, different people express love differently.When I tell her “I love you”, she will reply “k” or stare at me and say “You got other woman!”. I think she feels my overwhelming love! Just that she dunno how to reply because she’s no good in words. I don’t mind. I think your hubby won’t mind too.So It’s perfectly ok not to be expressive in words. There are different love languages, acts of service is also a way to express your love for each other.

For Parents in Sg: Asking a stranger to delete a photo of your toddler

I was at a clothing store with my toddler today and I caught one of the sales assistants quietly snapping a picture of my daughter with her phone. I know she didn’t mean any harm as I overheard her mumbling the word “cute.”

Regardless, I was very uneasy with a stranger having possession of my toddler’s photo and requested that she delete the picture. She complied (at least, I think she did).

Now in hindsight, I’m wondering if I overstepped any boundaries. Technically speaking, the lady didn’t do anything illegal. If she had denied my request, there was probably nothing I could have done either.

Fellow parents in Singapore, have you had any similar experience and what would you have done?

Netizens’ comments

1. No you didn’t overstep any boundaries. It doesn’t sound like you were nasty to the salesperson either, so it’s all good.
2. This is one example that you can control. Sure, go ahead. But there are situations you can’t, eg school photos which might be shared by other parents on their social media etc. So I have to manage my expectations as a parent myself, I can’t feel uneasy with every stranger who has my kid’s photo, because they do. But we can nurture our kid, ask them to learn to say no/consent.
3. Yes, this has happened to me before.
   Correct it’s not illegal. But that doesn’t make it right either. It’s inappropriate to take pictures of children without asking their parents consent and people need to learn that.
   I once had a lady taking pictures of my child at gardens by the bay in the water play – in swim wear. I was sitting behind her on the stairs and I could see on her screen how she was zooming in on my child, taking pictures. I told her she needs to delete these immediately and also from the “delete” folder with me watching. Imagine this had been man. Then you might understand how very very inappropriate it is.
   Another time I witnessed a young man on the bus filming a sleeping baby in the stroller. I asked the mother with a loud voice so everyone could hear if she is aware this man is filming her sleeping baby. The mother was shocked and close to tears. Again I asked the man to delete the material. EDIT: the mother thanked me for calling out the situation as she didn’t notice what was going due to where she was standing. She was in complete shock.
   This is a completely unacceptable practice and it needs to be called out and stopped. Get the parents consent. But not like this.
   In your case OP, I’d say had she denied I would have left a hefty review on that shop’s Google page to tell everyone their staff is taking pictures of children without the parents consent and then refuse to delete it.

i work in a coffee shop and it was one of those days where it was a bit slow and many of my co-workers were on leave so it was just me and him.

we always were good friends with each other so we were talking about stuff when i wanted to show him a pic of something i made on my phone.

thats when a customer walked in so i put the phone on the desk with the screen still on and helped the customer.

now a couple days ago i did take a steamy, just out of the shower and all wet photo of my chest…

when i walked back to my boss i could see he didnt touch my phone but he was looking at that pic in the bottom where it shows the other pics in my photo album.

he smirked at me and stared at chest and i felt a bit uneasy until i saw my phone and got very flustered and left for home early…

two hours after im home i get this message from him saying he’s havin a boring night and if i wanna come over and hang out and watch a movie with him..

now this mf has always been hottt and he has a crazy ripped body and i could see his bulge his picture…idk what to do.

update : im on my way over to his place

update: i went over and we spent all but 1 minute watching the movie before he grabbed my face and we started making out. he was very rough with me… and then the night led to a lot of things.

i left his home around 7 am.we never slept… i really enjoyed it but im kinda nervous about seeing him at work now

I have been sick since I was 8 years old.. there was hope at the beginning, but all of that was pretty much lost after the age of 12.

My body has been put through an endless amount of chemotherapy that has done nothing but make me feel worse.

I made the decision to stop trying about 9 months ago and doctors respected that considering things weren’t looking good for me either way the ball rolled.

I’d say the absolute hardest part was telling my mom and brother that this is what I wanted.. it broke my mother’s heart, but she eventually understood why I wanted to stop.

I’m now terminal and just want to spend the rest of my days being as normal as I can be, I’m making sure that I take advantage of the time I have left and I have been spending it with my mom and brother the most. (I think?) That I’ve accepted my fate.

I try not to think about it too much, but when I do I just try to look at it like “hell yea, I’ll finally be reunited with my dad”.. and that brings me more peace than anything.

I think that I’m more worried about my family than I am about myself, the thought of leaving my mom and brother with so much grief haunts me and makes me feel guilty.

I’m just glad that I have some time to maybe help them accept it? Idk.. I was never really able to cope with the fact that my dad was gone so maybe I’ll just have to cope with the fact that I’m going to put them through a lot mentally/emotionally when I do pass. I just don’t like to think about it.

Anyways, onto the point of the post. I have this friend who has been by best friend since we were both 13.. I think that she might have felt pity for me and that’s why we became friends in the first place, but now she is genuinely the best friend any guy could ask for and I love her dearly.

She knows about me being terminal and texts me constantly to let me know that she loves me and if there’s anything I want/need to just let her know..

she still comes by to see me and I’ve had more free will recently so I’ve been able to do the same. Soon I won’t be able to do much of anything though because I’m so thin and only getting weaker so..

I know that it’s a cliche to not want to die a virgin, but I have a huge FOMO and want to feel what it’s like at least once.

I know that she’s done it before so it’s not like I’d be taking her virginity if she did agree to sleep with me. I think I love her (like romantically?) but I’d never tell her that for obvious reasons and she would never feel the same anyways.

But my point is that she is my only option and is the best option in my eyes.. there’s no one I’d rather do it with. Just to clarify, if she turned me down I would be perfectly OK with that, but I just worry that it’s wrong of me to ask.. what do you guys think

I ORD in 2020, since then I have been using my own bed at home (duh) and when I went for my first reservist this year, I had such a good sleep on the mattress during my ICT because of my poor back.

Now that I’m back home again I realised that I NEED THAT MATTRESS.

CAN ANY NSF LOOK UNDER YOUR BED NOW IF YOU SEE A SMILING LADY PICTURE ON THE MATTRESS please let me know the brand and model.

If under your bed no smiling woman just let me know your current brand and model also can I think Army will use the same kind of bed (firmness) anyway.

THANK Y’ALL IN ADVANCE.

Netizens’ comments

1. lights out bro
2. God i hope i dont see a smiling woman under my bed in the middle of the night
3. i just checked under my bunk mattress and it says “mattress world”. couldn’t find any info about this brand on the internet though
4. to be fair, if you’re tired anything feels like a good mattress
5. Just sign on lor, can get to sleep on that mattress every day instead, no need waste time and money to go out and look for it and buy.
6. The mattress harder than concrete leh, we go outfield even the mud also softer than that mattress, you sure got so good or not?
7. No need waste money buy all these nonsense lah, just sign on.
8. Eh brudder, if I see a smiling woman under my bed I sure pangsai in my pants lah.
9. You serve ns until your brain spoil already is it, or you are some siao on fella who loves the army too much?
10. Bro when you in pro during your next reservist, just dabao the whole mattress from the bunk and carry it home lor

I “accidentally” shit the bed in front of my boyfriend

Me [F18] had just gotten in a relationship with my new sweet boyfriend [M20]. A little info about me. I have a chronic stomach wound which pops up whenever I’m really stressed.

The relationship was very new so we were both still quite shy, we had just gotten comfortable enough farting in front of each other tho, and often made a joke out of it.

About a month into our relationship I had to go to the hospital with my stomach wound, I was there for a week and he was super supportive the whole time.

When I finally got home from the hospital my body was so weak, I wasn’t allowed to drink or eat anything the whole week because of the tests they had to make. Therefore my body had pretty much shut down, nothing had come in, so nothing came out.

I got prescribed some laxatives that I took, never having taken them before I didn’t know what to expect but it definitely wasn’t this!

We were laying in bed, I was on my side looking at my phone, and he was half sitting up in bed playing RuneScape on his laptop in front of me. I could feel a fart coming, so I looked up into his eyes with a smirk face expression and said: “I’m sh-g!”

I meant to say “I’m farting” but the words came out wrong.. and so did something else. The moment I said it, I let it all out, still with a smirk face expression looking him right in the eyes.

You could hear a wet bubbly sound, and I instantly knew what had happened. My smile faded and my face turned to horror, my hand flew down to stop the flow but it was too late.

Boyfriend jumped up and ran to help me clean up while just laughing hysterically, I was so embarrassed that I couldn’t even say anything.

Later when we sat and talked he told me that it was the most intimidating thing he had ever experienced, the way I looked right into his eyes, he had never felt so dominated in his life.

Needless to say we got very quickly comfortable with intimate things like that after this. Even tho we’ve broken up since then and it’s been a few years, I’m to this day still just as embarrassed.