The phenomenon of Singaporean men frequenting Thai discos (or Siam Diu as it’s more colloquially known) has been a topic of discussion and speculation for years. While some people may view it as a form of harmless entertainment, others have raised concerns about the implications of this trend.

What are Siam Dius

Firstly, it is important to understand what Siam Dius are. Siam Dius are nightclubs that are popular among Thai and Southeast Asian communities. They feature live music, dancing, and entertainment by Thai performers, including singers, dancers, and models. These discos have become increasingly popular in recent years, not only in Thailand but also in other parts of Asia, including Singapore.

One reason why Singaporean men like to visit Siam Dius is the unique atmosphere they provide. Siam Dius offer a distinct experience that cannot be found in regular nightclubs. The music, the performances, and the ambience all create a unique and exciting environment that can be difficult to replicate elsewhere. The sense of adventure and thrill that comes with experiencing something new and exotic is a major draw for many Singaporean men.

Siam Bus known for good looks and figures

Another reason why Singaporean men enjoy Siam Dius is the company. Siam Dius are known for having a large number of attractive Thai performers who interact with customers. Many Singaporean men enjoy the attention and companionship of these performers, who are often more friendly and approachable than those in regular nightclubs. The performers provide a fun and relaxed atmosphere, which allows customers to let loose and have a good time.

And Thai women are known for their exotic good looks and voluptuous figures. Thai women have been recognized globally for their unique beauty and grace. From their distinctive features to their charming personalities, and they are widely recognised as among the most beautiful in the world.

Affordable

In addition, Siam Dius are often more affordable than regular nightclubs. Singapore is known for being an expensive city, and going out to clubs can quickly add up. Siam Dius, on the other hand, offer a more affordable alternative that still provides great entertainment and a fun night out.

A single night out at a Siam Diu could set a thrifty patron back from as low as $65 to as high as probably 4 or 5 figures (according to Golden Mile prices), depending on the amount and type of drinks, or if they decide to hang flowers for the girls. A simple drinking session with friends could be about less than $100 if they choose to do just that and nothing else.

And because there are so many men vying for the attention of a handful of women, the principle of supply and demand comes into play via hanging flowers. The girls can’t possibly spend time with all of the patrons, and the only seemingly fair way they can choose who to drink with are those who spend money hanging flowers for them, and this has been embedded into the Siam Diu culture in Singapore.

Can’t get affection at home

However, it is important to note that the trend of Singaporean men visiting Siam Dius is not without its controversies. Some people have raised concerns about the objectification of Thai performers and the potential for exploitation. There have been reports of performers being forced to drink with customers or engaging in inappropriate behaviour.

Essentially, the primary reason some men visit Siam Dius is that they are unable to get affection and attention from their partners, and turn to Siam Dius to get the feeling of endearment from the girls there.

my mum pulled my pants down today and thinks it’s funny

For context, I never had a really good relationship with my mum. I love her, but I don’t really feel comfortable around her and I don’t think I would like her if we weren’t related.

She often does stuff that kind of crosses a line. For example I’m not really comfortable with physical contact. It’s very fast too much for me but my mum always wants to cuddle and when I was younger she even forced me to cuddle with her.

It’s not just with her it took me a long time to cuddle with my boyfriend but I think it is easier for me because he doesn’t force me or he just makes me feel way more comfortable.

A year ago I told her I wasn’t comfortable with that much physical contact and told her I’d rather come to her if I want to cuddle or comfort, if she is fine with that.

She seemed really disappointed and didn’t say anything until a few weeks later when she told me that I will probably regret that when I’m older and that I hurt her feelings very much. I don’t quiet understand how but fine.

Today I was sitting in the living room and talking with her until I wanted to go back to my room. She was sitting on the sofa and our dog laid over her legs. So I first went to pet it.

As I’m petting my dog she pulls my pants down and laughs. It was super uncomfortable. I felt really ashamed even if it was only me and her and my sister in the kitchen.

Maybe I’m overreacting but I’m a grown woman and I don’t think anyone should just randomly pull my pants down without my permission.

I then told her that that’s why I don’t spend much time with her and she responded that it doesn’t matter because I already spent little time with her. I’m so confused. She still thought it was funny after I told her that.

I don’t know how our relationship can get any better if she does stuff like this.

my (18f) boyfriend (18m) made a comment about my body and i can’t get over it

last night my boyfriend said “you looked really fat today” on the phone. i didn’t know what to say so i hung up and he texted me saying he was joking and didn’t mean it but i know he did because i have gained a little weight over the past month since i haven’t been able to go to the gym because of my exams.

just to be clear i am not overweight or unhealthy i wouldn’t even say i’m on the chubby side i’m pretty fit but like i said i did gain a couple kgs.

we joke around with each other about all types of stuff but this wasn’t a joke. i knew i looked bigger than usual. i kept going to the bathroom every 10 minutes to try to fix my clothes and make sure i look fine.

i couldn’t look him in the eyes because i felt so insecure about myself and for him to make a comment like that just broke me. what’s worse is he told me i looked pretty in person that same day.

i don’t think i’ll ever be able to eat in front of him or let him touch me or see me without clothes on again without feeling insecure. he keeps trying to reassure me and compliment me but it feels like he’s just trying to make up for what he said.

Netizens’ comments

1. Cut and run babe. That was dipping his toe in the water to see how you would take being insulted. Don’t take it. Tell him he’s right, you have gained some weight and you’d like to lose whatever he weighs. Then dump him.
2. Where do these people come from? Do they not have any social awareness? Did he have a head injury? What an absolute idiot.
   Personally, the damage is done and there would be no amount of coming back from this. But he is younger and presumably a doofus, so if he is otherwise okay, let him play the apology out and see how meaningful it is.
   If you suspect this is purposeful negging, then you have a completely different problem.
3. Personal experience from someone in their thirties, this is a lost cause. I let too many guys when I was younger get away with that. They’d say they were joking or that I was being too sensitive, or they were letting me know for my health.
   No matter what the excuse, it is absolutely never okay to say something like that to your partner. He was deliberately insulting you. A joke is supposed to be funny. That wasn’t funny. It was hurtful. His goal could have been so see what he could get away with manipulation wise (overtime get worse and break down your self esteem), to make you feel bad about yourself image wise so you’d lose weight for him, or just to be a turd.

My (26F) husband (26M) spent 18K on adult videos

I (26F) married my husband (26M) last year after dating for 4.5 years. I found out 3 weeks ago about his AV addiction.

I didn’t realize he was spending money on it nor how much he was looking at it. It was various sites such as onlyfans etc.

So far the total is around $18K from the bank statements I could see. He deleted all the accounts so I can’t tell if he messaged them but he’s says he only viewed pictures and videos.

I’m not sure what to do. He’s been lying to my face for 4.5 years and I’ve definitely mentioned in the past not being okay with paying to watch these videos.

He’s going to therapy and gave me control of his all credit cards but I feel like our entire relationship has been a lie. I just don’t understand how he could marry me and not tell me.

I feel taken advantage of and I’m not sure how to heal from this.

Netizens’ comments

1. EIGHTEEN??? Bruh…
2. He was spending 11 dollars per day at that rate. He was definitely watching cams and tipping at that rate. I can’t imagine how one could spend that much otherwise.
3. At a minimum, you should consult with a lawyer on how to separate your finances and possibly enter into a postnuptial agreement while you figure out whether you’re staying or going.
   You should also pull a credit report for yourself and your husband to make sure he isn’t hiding any credit cards or opened one in your name for this addiction.
   You’re the only one who can decide if you can come back from this. Give yourself some time to absorb what you have learned before making any final decisions. For now, protect yourself and collect information.
4. $18k? But there’s so many videos out there on the internet that are FREE, is your husband a moron?

Got my period while sleeping with my FWB

While sleeping with my FWB I started my period. I had no idea it was gonna happen as I was expecting my period to come later on in the week.

His reaction seemed okay. I apologized because I felt embarrassed and he said that there’s no need to feel embarrassed and that I can’t control it, it’s no big deal.

It seems like a good reaction but I still feel so embarrassed and am nervous to see him again. I know it sounds silly!

Has this happened to anyone else (guy or girl) and how did you feel?

Netizens’ comments

1. Babe one time I got nasty with my ONS in the dark, for like an hour, all over the room. Cut the lights on after and there was blood on the sheets, on the walls, all over our bodies. Looked like a crime scene. Thankfully he just started laughing and so did I. There’s nothing to apologize for, it’s not like you chose to do it lol
2. It’s not ideal in the moment, but as it’s between adults we put it behind us easily.
3. Had this happen to me pretty early on. We were just getting started & all the sudden his hand was covered in blood. I was so embarrassed & apologizing all over the place. He just wanted me not to feel bad about it & that everything was fine. If he’s a grown up it won’t be an issue at all going forward. It sounds like he is!
4. I had it happen with my girlfriend when we first started dating. No problem at all, and nothing to be embarrassed about.
5. I pretty recently got my period while being fisted, so that was fun. My boyfriend is a trooper though, he doesn’t care in the least about that kind of thing so we just kept trucking and all was good in the end.

being broke is expensive

I am SO tired of hearing about everyone around me doing amazing things and getting their life together. I make a decent wage for 2010 (around 17) but not in 2023 and live paycheck to paycheck due to bills and debt (this is because of my budget that I stick to) .

I’m only 22. I came from a broke family and life is just so incredibly expensive. I can’t even live on my own right now which does not help my mental health because my roommates are my parents.

Sometimes I just want to die so I don’t have to deal with it. and that is so WILD to me. That money is causing another form of darkness within me. I am. EXHAUSTED.

My supervisor saw me looking into my bank account (mind you I got paid 2 days ago and he knew this) and I am already in the negative $22. He said that’s bs and was gonna send me the money to not be in the negative but I felt like that was such a handout and refused it.

He still sent me $5 and even told his supervisor and his supervisor felt bad and tried to give me what cash he had on him. Like… I know I don’t make as much as them and I know my life is messed up but that felt so embarrassing.

Up until this point no one has known my financial situation nor home situation and now I just want to cry. I don’t want handouts because I’m pitied. I just want to be able to do things like a normal adult I need a higher up job that I have been promised for months which seems to be happening soon but it doesn’t.

I cant find any other jobs and I am trying to go back to school but can’t afford the tuition so I CAN get a better higher-paying job. I feel so stuck all because I don’t have money. I don’t even know what to do and I hate asking for money because I already owe my parents $10k.

Edit to add: YES i have a VERY frugal budget I stick to and I manage my money to the best of my abilities.

Ah long indirectly save me to get incentives… grab deliveries

Everyone knows how ah long like to use grab to harass people. They especially loves using cash deliveries which is why it is hard for grab delivery rider to collect cash which cause tension with the rider and the person they are harassing.

When the ‘ah long’ message me telling me to take photo in front of his house. That is already a tell tale indicator.

What’s funny is that i need one more delivery to get incentive and time is running out before it strike midnight. So even knowing that he might be ah long, i still don’t cancel the job.

I continue to deliver but instead of pressing the bell. I keep calling the ah long. Then finally i give a knock on the door instead of pressing the bell.

The person explain that there is a lot of ah long cases here and he is very sorry that it happen to me. I just continue on to finish the job.

If i cancel, it will affect my incentive but if i finish the job i need to pay for the meal + delivery.

Lucky for me the ah long pick my favourite meal which is double Mcspicy and i haven’t eaten more than half a day. So it’s a win2 for me.

Overall ‘ah long’ save me for my incentive and order for me my fav food cause he know how hungry i am from deliveries

Netizens’ comments

• Sorry you had to go through this, bro. Glad you have a positive outlook to this situation. Scum loansharks.
  • (OP) It is what it is. There is so many nice people that i deliver to and it takes more than that to bring me down. Part of the risk of being a delivery rider. 
• Lmao Ah Longs fell so far they’re resorting to tactics kids used in 2007-era XBox Live. Stay safe OP.
  • (OP) This is part of their operation to cause nuisance to use delivery rider to harass people. I still find that it is a pathetic attempt though. People that knows especially the delivery rider just need to be smart about it.
• Never realized ah long calls would fuck up rider incentives man. Good job staying positive tbh
  • (OP) I’m staying very positive cause i need to fund my business that is currently facing a lot of difficulties. Just working hard to earn to take care of the family, paying loans, bills and funding more revenue into the business. This is part and parcel of life, we just need to hustle.

I reassured my GF she didn’t need to worry about whether she was good in bed, but I wasn’t expecting her to be genuinely bad.
I feel really bad writing this even anonymously, but I’m not sure what to do.

A while back, I ended up in a long-distance relationship with a woman who had herself recently gotten out of a long dead-bedroom relationship. When I started making preparations to visit her, after a few months together online, she started worrying that she wouldn’t be good in bed, that she’d be rusty after so long without being intimate with a partner, and that I’d be disappointed.

I told her not to worry; I’m a pleaser, and I’m most invested in seeing my partner enjoy herself. We’d already discussed our preferences and interests a lot, and have a huge amount in common, and I assured her that as long as she was enthusiastic and enjoyed herself, I’d be satisfied.

I meant all of it, but when we actually slept together, I realized that I’d never done it with a partner before who didn’t have certain elements of being at least decent in bed, and it hadn’t occurred to me that it was actually possible for it to be so unsatisfying.

There’s an element of sensuality which all the partners I’ve been with before had, which they would express without even thinking about it. Something that I didn’t really get could be missing, where when they were turned on, they’d project that desire in arousing ways. I feel horrible saying this because she’s such a sweet person, but when she’s turned on and in the mood, she has all the sensuality of an aunt smooching her nephew on the cheek.

And it’s not like she’s a dead fish in bed, far from it. But she has such uncooperative movement, it feels like every attempt to do anything with her in bed is a struggle against her- and she’s not even doing it on purpose. I honestly worry I might get kicked or elbowed in the face or something by accident. And there’s a feeling of our bodies naturally fitting together which I just don’t have with her. When she’s on top, it literally hurts, like she’s giving me a burn with her thighs. Copious lube mitigates this, but doesn’t resolve it.

And I get that intercourse with a new partner is usually a learning process of feeling out what they like, but I’ve never been with someone before who not only seems unable to read the difference between an “Oh, that feels nice” reaction and an “Nngh, that’s annoying, stop doing that,” but whose efforts mostly lean towards the latter. She doesn’t get offended if I offer feedback, and listens to what I have to say, but she only retains so much of it in the heat of the moment, and I’m pretty sure that if I explicitly ask her to stop every time she’s doing something I don’t like, she’s going to feel paralyzed and overwhelmed.

I talked to her, and brought up some of the things which were causing the biggest issues for me during it, and she confirmed that as I suspected, those are involuntary reactions. She’s not doing them on purpose, and couldn’t stop herself if she tried. Before, I always thought of genuine, involuntary reactions as attractive, but now I think if I made it clear how much they actually bother me, she’d be devastated. And I feel like I’ve sold her a false bill of goods, because this is all stuff I assured her she didn’t need to worry about.

The hardest part of all this is that she has a very high libido, and affection is really important to her. It seems like her ideal level of intimacy would be maybe twice a day or so. Before we actually met up, I found this appealing, not because I didn’t get how demanding to do it twice-a-day would actually be, but because I’m used to enjoying getting my partner off, and not fussing so much about whether I come every time.

But even though it’s not at all difficult to get her off, the process is so much more awkward and uncomfortable than I’m used to that I just can’t enjoy doing it that often. She would be able to understand and accept “I’m not prepared to do it as often as you’d prefer because my libido is lower than yours.” But I told her that I was comfortable being together that often, if not having actual intercourse every time, before we met up in person. And I don’t think she’d be able to handle me telling her that I have to revise that because she turned out to be bad in bed.

My father (M53) and my MIL (F45) have secretly become a couple, just months after me (M28) and my wife’s (F23) wedding. And we are disgusted.

I really don’t want to post too many details, but we are pretty sickened by this happening. Today was the day they finally admitted it all. We don’t approve and feel like we need to cut them out of our lives so we don’t have to see them together.

I feel like they didn’t consider how all this would make us feel. One divorced their previous spouse very recently, and the other had their spouse pass away over a year ago.

I also work with both of these parents too, so that adds to the mess… I feel like I need to quit that job now. Has anyone out there experienced anything like this or have any advice?

I really didn’t think my wife would also become my step sister… this is not fun

Netizens’ comments

1. Adults whose single parents date other single parents with adult children don’t suddenly consider the partners’ children as their “step-siblings”, just “their parent’s partner’s (adult) children”. Nobody is suddenly related and in incestuous relationships. Just as how a set of twins/siblings getting married to another set of twins/siblings isn’t incest. You remain, as you have always been, biologically unrelated, consenting, adults.
2. This mentality at 28 bro? Really? Sure it might be gross but they’re not doing anything wrong. Maybe ask them not to show pda in front of you and life should continue completely unchanged.
3. You don’t really get a vote in who your single adult parents date. How does this really affect you, apart from you being embarrassed by it?
4. Why are you so angry about this? Don’t your parents have a right to be happy? Act like adults. Be happy for them.

My future BIL (35M) has threatened to wear a clown suit to my (34M) black-tie wedding.

Title basically says it all, but here’s some more context:

Future BIL is the ‘practical joker’ of the family. The jokes are always mean, but since he’s gotten by 35 years with nobody challenging him, they’re ‘funny’. I have not really engaged in this type of humor, and neither has my family. He follows through on his jokes to the final degree, as in, I don’t think he’s just enjoying making me sweat. I’ve never been the direct target of a joke until now, but they have ranged from “leaving a sleeping friend in a foreign country” to “pouring ice water all over his aunt”. I seriously believe he’s going to show up in a clown suit.

He is a completely neurotypical person with no issues that would make this action make sense, beyond being a self-centered jerk. If he were an autistic child who needed to wear a clown suit to go to an event, I’d have never opposed it.

Fiancee and I are having an intimate black-tie wedding with ~50 friends and family members. I have invited colleagues that I respect and care for as well. When I reached out to everyone to make sure the dress code was feasible, he wrote back that he was excited to wear a “clown suit”. I sent a funny emoji and asked if he meant “monkey suit” as a euphemism for the tuxedo (he isn’t really a formalwear kind of person) and he said nope, he meant clown suit, and sent a link to some giant shoes.

I called him and told him that if he didn’t have the right outfit, I’d gladly help offset the cost, as I know he’s in between jobs, but he got pretty huffy and told me that he could afford a clown suit just fine and was excited to party with us. We haven’t spoken since.

I asked my fiancee if we could refuse him entry if he showed up in a literal clown outfit, and she was uncomfortable with that idea because she believes that even if we did, her parents or sister would let him in because they also think it’s “funny” when he acts out.

I think that the only boundary I can assert right now is to tell him that this event has a specific dress code, and that if he showed up in something different than that dress code, I’d request that he change before attending or ask him to leave.

Having him present in a clown suit would obviously embarrass him, but it would embarrass me, my family and friends, and my fiancee. It seems like he and his parents are the only people who are amused by this idea, and it hurts my feelings that they are treating the wedding like a joke.

Fiancee believes that this is not going to work and will cause him to double down and maybe even go for the full clown makeup. Uninviting him is not an option at this point. Trying to discuss it with his parents goes nowhere.

As a last resort, I was thinking of telling any photographers or people to completely cut him out of the photos as if he’s not in attendence. It seems like he and his parents are the only people who are amused by this idea, and it hurts my feelings that they are treating the wedding like a joke.