I have been in a very difficult situation for the past few months. My boss has been delaying my salary payment and I have been struggling to meet my loan repayment.

To make matters worse, my paycheck also got significantly reduced due to the current economic situation.

Unable to pay up my loans on time

This has put me in an even more difficult spot as I am now unable to make my loan repayments in a timely manner.

I am afraid that I might default on my loan if things don’t change soon.

At first, I tried to talk to my boss about the issue but he refused to listen to me. He said that he had to make cuts due to the current financial crisis and that I should understand.

I had no choice but to accept his decision as I did not have any other source of income.

I started to panic and look for other ways to make some money so that I could make my loan repayments. I started to look for freelance jobs online and found some that paid decently.

I worked hard and managed to make some extra money to help me make my loan repayments.

Problem keeps on continuing

However, I still had to deal with the issue of my boss delaying my salary payment. I tried to talk to him again but he refused to budge. I even asked for some advance salary but he refused.

I was at my wit’s end and I was afraid that I would default on my loan.

However, there was nothing really much that I could do, I could only hope that my boss has a heart or even take out money from his own pocket to fill in all these gaps.

I remember the moment like it was yesterday. I had been working overseas for the past few months and was finally coming home.

I was so excited to reunite with my family and most of all, my girlfriend.

We had been together since poly and I thought that she was the one, so I had planned a romantic evening for the two of us to celebrate my return.

Little did I know that my world was about to come crashing down.

As I walked into my house, I was surprised to find my brother and my girlfriend, who were in a rather intimate embrace on the sofa. I was shocked and couldn’t believe what I was seeing.

I was completely devastated and felt like my world had ended in that moment.

My mind was racing and I couldn’t believe what had happened, my girlfriend had cheated on me with my brother while I was away.

I confronted them both and demanded to know what had happened. My brother had the nerve to tell me that he had been in love with my girlfriend for some time, and that she had finally agreed to be with him. He said that they had been secretly seeing each other for a few weeks leading up to my return and that they hadn’t meant for me to find out.

I was in disbelief and couldn’t believe that my own brother had betrayed me like that. I was hurt more than I had ever been before and felt like I was in a nightmare I couldn’t wake up from.

I was so angry that I wanted to lash out and hit them both, but I knew that wouldn’t solve anything. I had to keep my composure, so I just walked out of the house and drove around for hours, trying to process what had happened.

I couldn’t believe that my girlfriend, who I had trusted and loved for so long, would do something like this. I was sure that she had known how much I loved her, and I couldn’t understand why she would do something like this. I had tried to be the best boyfriend I could be and had done my best to make her happy, so why did she feel the need to go behind my back and cheat on me?

I eventually came to the conclusion that I had been too trusting and that I should have seen the signs. I had always known that my brother had a crush on my girlfriend, and I should have been more aware of their interactions. I also realized that my girlfriend had been distant in the weeks leading up to my return, and I should have paid more attention to that.

It took me a long time to come to terms with what had happened. I eventually realized that I was not to blame for my girlfriend’s betrayal, and that she was the one who had made the wrong choice.

I also learned that I could not control other people’s actions and that it was important to trust my instincts in the future.

My son had been begging me for weeks to reward him for doing something good. He had been doing well in school, and I wanted to reward him for his hard work.

I decided to give him a small gift: a nerf gun. I had seen this particular nerf gun in the store and thought it would be perfect for him.

He was so excited when he opened the package and saw the nerf gun. He immediately started playing with it, and I saw the joy on his face. I was so proud of him and happy that I was able to make him so happy.

Starts to expect a reward for doing good each time

However, it wasn’t long before I started to regret my decision. He started to expect a reward every time he did something good.

He expected a reward for doing his chores, for getting good grades, and even for just behaving. I tried to explain to him that rewards weren’t always necessary and that sometimes, doing something good was reward enough.

But he didn’t seem to understand.

He kept asking for rewards, and I kept giving in. I felt like I was teaching him the wrong lesson. I was encouraging him to do things for the reward, rather than for doing what was right.

I finally realized that I needed to put an end to this cycle. I decided to no longer reward him for doing something good.

I explained to him why I was doing this and that I wanted him to do things because it was the right thing to do, not because he wanted a reward.

Son got upset and did not understand

My son didn’t understand. He was upset that he was no longer getting the rewards he was used to.

I was so disappointed in myself. I had thought that I had taught my son a valuable lesson that doing something good means you would get something good somewhere in return, but it seemed like I had only taught him to expect rewards.

I’m releasing you from my prison

8 months has since passed. There is not a day that I have ever stopped thinking about you. People say time will heal and I had since then trying to heal myself from the pain you’ve caused and it doesn’t hurt so much anymore.

It is something that only I myself can save myself from now because my friends have told me multiple times to forget about you. We were friends first to lovers to strangers who are now ‘friends’ where I was being ignored on purpose.

Texts being ignored. Wishes being ignored.

Questions being ignored. Being unfriended and unfollowed on social media. Maybe you were a jerk for doing this and yes, I also know you did the same thing to your other previous flings. I also know how many flings you had previously. What is on the surface is not indicative of how you are as a character. I’ve investigated it myself and you don’t know how much I know.

Maybe this is the way you solve all the problems because you had a new one whom you told me you were serious about when you said you can’t do commitment. Yes, this is the bullshit that you told me when you ‘took’ everything from me suddenly after you found another.

Most probably she gave you things that I couldn’t. Maybe it’s just fun for you to do that. I remembered sending you that final letter and gift which I hope could mend things but broken things are meant to stay broken and I can’t do this by myself anymore. It was my last chance to you but you treated it as a joke. Sometimes, no closure is the answer to everything.

I don’t hate you for what you did but I am releasing you from my prison because I don’t want it to haunt me anymore. Because I want to move on.

Goodbye, S. I always wish you well no matter where you are. I don’t know how you are now because you won’t reply to my messages anymore but I hope you have passed your first exam.

“I am a 176cm tall girl. It was really tough meeting sg guys whom are willing to accept someone of my height and I want to keep it this way to go for sg guys since I still want to keep myself real instead of faking myself with fake english and all. Eww.

So recently, I fell in love with this guy I met online few months ago, we starting meeting up, do some dating & couple things together.

He is really smart, good career, well built, and heads to yoga & gym along with me. But the height was an issue because he is a 168cm.

He also told me that he belong to the “smaller side”. I told him it is fine, I will still treat him like a king, my own king.

I understand from my sisters that girls need to constantly rub guy’s ego, so I really tried everything to do that.

But, last night was a shocker to me. We did the deed and I am shocked that his thing is the size of my pinky finger. Literally 3cm when hard & its not even thick at all.

Although my pool of sg guys wasn’t a lot, but from the data i gathered together with my sisters, sg guys have a max of up to 15cm.

But why am I seeing this.

So I want to ask the ladies here, what will you do if you face this? Should I break up with him?”

“I matched with a guy on a dating app and I am wondering if he is even interested in me or is just meeting me to satisfy his loneliness. I made the initiative to match with him and say hi to him, and we exchanged our contacts on telegram.

We have loads of fun chatting with each other and I made the initiative of asking him out to watch a movie and had dinner together, and we met up for the first time yesterday and I could somehow sense that he was disappointed that I wasn’t up to his expectations?

I have posted unedited photos of myself and didn’t lie about my height, and from photos, I think that he should know that I am definitely not someone who is tall, skinny nor looked like an influencer type, so I was disappointed when I happened to peep at his phone during our dinner, and he was texting to his friend that he wanted to leave the dinner with me as he was disappointed at me being short, ugly, fat and disgusting.

I pretended that nothing had happened and we chatted like close friends as we got to knew each other more. I told myself that maybe he is just joking only and would delete the message after that.

The day after the date, he had blocked me on telegram, and he left me with a message which stated that he had enjoyed the movie and dinner, but he was upset at himself for being so judgmental as he could not stand being with someone who is like a dinobu, and he admitted that he was being polite throughout the dinner and just treated me as a friend, and just leave me hanging like that. I was so angry and shocked at his reaction that I spent the rest of the day in my room, trying not to cry but I just can’t believe that a decent man like him could treat woman like trash.

I am now having doubts if I could get serious and decent men on dating apps, and looking back, maybe I should called him out directly on the dinner itself if he truly feel that I am short, ugly, fat and disgusting instead of texting to his friend and wanted ‘help’ to escape from me.”

not wanting my friend to meet my boyfriend because she is beautiful.

I (28f) recently started dating a very nice man (32m). I have invited him and other friends to my birthday party soon.

I have one friend (26f) that is very beautiful. It happened in the past, that I introduced guys that I liked to her, and they immediately stopped being interested in me, and started liking her instead.

She is very beautiful and flirty. She Isn’t the most intelligent (it is impossible to hold an interesting conversation with her, because she has no interests and mostly nothing interesting to say but she is very beautiful so men just adore her).

I decided to not invite her to my birthday party, because I don’t want to lose the guy I am dating. If he sees her beauty, he might lose interest in me, like other guys in the past.

However she wished me happy birthday and said she has a gift for me and asked if I will celebrate. I lied and told her I won’t but I feel a bit bad about it. Am I the asshole?

Netizens’ comments

1. Your beautiful friend is blessed with looks, don’t blame her for them. Use them to your advantage. If the new guy is going to immediately jump to another interest, it’s much better to find out now.
2. Surely if you don’t feel you can trust your boyfriend then meeting her will be a perfect way to find out if you can or not?
   And why are you still friends with her if she keeps ‘stealing’ (for want of a better term) your boyfriends?
   It sounds to me like you don’t actually like her and just don’t have the backbone to tell her.
3. If a man decides to dump his gf for another beautiful woman, that’s a HIM problem. Ain’t the woman’s problem at all. The fact you wont let her meet your bf because shes pretty is really shallow. It doesn’t matter if shes pretty or not. If your bf suddenly falls for her, its not her problem. Yeesh you need to get over your insecurities
4. You know it’s a good thing when that happens, right? The sooner the better, in fact.

If his head is turned by your friend, it would easily be turned by another random beautiful woman too. The world is full of them, and he WILL encounter at least one sooner or later.

If he is the one for you, he won’t choose your friend no matter how beautiful is, because to him, she would not be as beautiful as you. Instead of ostracizing her for something she really can’t do much about, embrace her and team up!

Think of it as a test to see which of your suitors are keepers.

My bf thinks that because I don’t work(I’m disabled) that I should do most of the household chores. F30 M26

My bf works a manual labor job. That’s actually how we met. I’ve also done manual labor jobs. I know how exhausting it is. However, I still kept my house clean and cooked dinner.

I cook dinner every single night for him. And breakfast on the weekends. I also do 90% of the house cleaning. He has occasionally vacuumed, like three times in 4 years.

Obviously, I’m losing my mind at this point. He thinks that being tired is an acceptable excuse for not doing the one thing I asked him to do. Which is dishes. That’s literally it.

I cook all my meals at home, so if last night’s dishes aren’t done, I have to do the dishes before I can make breakfast and the rest of the days meals.

A lot of times I don’t even say anything to him. If he didn’t do the dishes. I just quietly suck it up because I know it sucks to work. But I can’t help the fact that I feel disrespected.

If I lived alone or had a normal roommate, I wouldn’t be cooking dinner every night. Some nights I would just order out or eat nothing. I wouldn’t have to pick up after anyone other than myself.

Likewise, if he was single, no one would be cooking dinner for him. No one would be doing the dishes for him. No one would be cleaning the house for him.

I’m not a stay-at-home wife. We split the bills 50/50.

I’m not crazy right? Like I get sacrificing for your partner, but I don’t see how he’s sacrificing anything particularly for me. He didn’t put a ring on it. He doesn’t have any plans to put a ring on it…

Is him being tired from work an acceptable excuse for just coming home and doing nothing? If he was living alone, I guess he could just come home from work and crash and do nothing. But he also wouldn’t eat if he did nothing. I don’t know. Help?

My husband wants me to be a mother to his affair child

I (29F) and my husband (44M) have been together for five years and married for two. I met him at the church I started going to. I work for an insurance company. I know that we have a notable age gap, but he was always kind to me and made me feel special.

Anyhow- a week ago he came home and told me we needed to talk. He told me through tears that he had been having an affair with another woman (34F) and that she had been pregnant with twins.

She had gone into labor; she and one of the twins died and the other twin is in critical condition. He said we need to step up and that he wants me to turn my office into a nursery and set up a cot in the room so we can take turns.

I became distressed and told him I wanted some time to think. That I was not sure I wanted to do this. He told me that I had made a vow to him in marriage and that God had blessed us with a child. That this is our cross to bear and that God will never give us something we cannot handle.

I told him that it seemed God had given her more than she could handle because she had died (I know I should not have but I was not thinking correctly).

He slapped me and told me that I needed to serve my husband. That God had chosen me as this child’s mother and I needed to be his humble servant.

I just feel so strange. Yesterday I cried so hard I threw up. This woman died, yet I feel bad for myself. I feel so ugly. I wanted children and was saving for IVF because I am infertile, but now that I have a chance to have a child and I do not want it.

I feel like I’d be robbing its mothers grave. I pray to God but if I’m being honest it’s never felt like anyone was ever listening.

I feel like I have truly seen my husband and he no longer looks kind- he looks his age and very tired. I want to abandon him and the child.

I’m only 29- I can start over. I have a remote job, I can take a day off, pack my essentials and leave. Neither him nor the child deserve this, and although this is my circus- that is not my monkey.