not wanting my friend to meet my boyfriend because she is beautiful.

I (28f) recently started dating a very nice man (32m). I have invited him and other friends to my birthday party soon.

I have one friend (26f) that is very beautiful. It happened in the past, that I introduced guys that I liked to her, and they immediately stopped being interested in me, and started liking her instead.

She is very beautiful and flirty. She Isn’t the most intelligent (it is impossible to hold an interesting conversation with her, because she has no interests and mostly nothing interesting to say but she is very beautiful so men just adore her).

I decided to not invite her to my birthday party, because I don’t want to lose the guy I am dating. If he sees her beauty, he might lose interest in me, like other guys in the past.

However she wished me happy birthday and said she has a gift for me and asked if I will celebrate. I lied and told her I won’t but I feel a bit bad about it. Am I the asshole?

Netizens’ comments

1. Your beautiful friend is blessed with looks, don’t blame her for them. Use them to your advantage. If the new guy is going to immediately jump to another interest, it’s much better to find out now.
2. Surely if you don’t feel you can trust your boyfriend then meeting her will be a perfect way to find out if you can or not?
   And why are you still friends with her if she keeps ‘stealing’ (for want of a better term) your boyfriends?
   It sounds to me like you don’t actually like her and just don’t have the backbone to tell her.
3. If a man decides to dump his gf for another beautiful woman, that’s a HIM problem. Ain’t the woman’s problem at all. The fact you wont let her meet your bf because shes pretty is really shallow. It doesn’t matter if shes pretty or not. If your bf suddenly falls for her, its not her problem. Yeesh you need to get over your insecurities
4. You know it’s a good thing when that happens, right? The sooner the better, in fact.

If his head is turned by your friend, it would easily be turned by another random beautiful woman too. The world is full of them, and he WILL encounter at least one sooner or later.

If he is the one for you, he won’t choose your friend no matter how beautiful is, because to him, she would not be as beautiful as you. Instead of ostracizing her for something she really can’t do much about, embrace her and team up!

Think of it as a test to see which of your suitors are keepers.

My bf thinks that because I don’t work(I’m disabled) that I should do most of the household chores. F30 M26

My bf works a manual labor job. That’s actually how we met. I’ve also done manual labor jobs. I know how exhausting it is. However, I still kept my house clean and cooked dinner.

I cook dinner every single night for him. And breakfast on the weekends. I also do 90% of the house cleaning. He has occasionally vacuumed, like three times in 4 years.

Obviously, I’m losing my mind at this point. He thinks that being tired is an acceptable excuse for not doing the one thing I asked him to do. Which is dishes. That’s literally it.

I cook all my meals at home, so if last night’s dishes aren’t done, I have to do the dishes before I can make breakfast and the rest of the days meals.

A lot of times I don’t even say anything to him. If he didn’t do the dishes. I just quietly suck it up because I know it sucks to work. But I can’t help the fact that I feel disrespected.

If I lived alone or had a normal roommate, I wouldn’t be cooking dinner every night. Some nights I would just order out or eat nothing. I wouldn’t have to pick up after anyone other than myself.

Likewise, if he was single, no one would be cooking dinner for him. No one would be doing the dishes for him. No one would be cleaning the house for him.

I’m not a stay-at-home wife. We split the bills 50/50.

I’m not crazy right? Like I get sacrificing for your partner, but I don’t see how he’s sacrificing anything particularly for me. He didn’t put a ring on it. He doesn’t have any plans to put a ring on it…

Is him being tired from work an acceptable excuse for just coming home and doing nothing? If he was living alone, I guess he could just come home from work and crash and do nothing. But he also wouldn’t eat if he did nothing. I don’t know. Help?

My husband wants me to be a mother to his affair child

I (29F) and my husband (44M) have been together for five years and married for two. I met him at the church I started going to. I work for an insurance company. I know that we have a notable age gap, but he was always kind to me and made me feel special.

Anyhow- a week ago he came home and told me we needed to talk. He told me through tears that he had been having an affair with another woman (34F) and that she had been pregnant with twins.

She had gone into labor; she and one of the twins died and the other twin is in critical condition. He said we need to step up and that he wants me to turn my office into a nursery and set up a cot in the room so we can take turns.

I became distressed and told him I wanted some time to think. That I was not sure I wanted to do this. He told me that I had made a vow to him in marriage and that God had blessed us with a child. That this is our cross to bear and that God will never give us something we cannot handle.

I told him that it seemed God had given her more than she could handle because she had died (I know I should not have but I was not thinking correctly).

He slapped me and told me that I needed to serve my husband. That God had chosen me as this child’s mother and I needed to be his humble servant.

I just feel so strange. Yesterday I cried so hard I threw up. This woman died, yet I feel bad for myself. I feel so ugly. I wanted children and was saving for IVF because I am infertile, but now that I have a chance to have a child and I do not want it.

I feel like I’d be robbing its mothers grave. I pray to God but if I’m being honest it’s never felt like anyone was ever listening.

I feel like I have truly seen my husband and he no longer looks kind- he looks his age and very tired. I want to abandon him and the child.

I’m only 29- I can start over. I have a remote job, I can take a day off, pack my essentials and leave. Neither him nor the child deserve this, and although this is my circus- that is not my monkey.

I think I’m in a deep hole right now.

Is it normal for me, i have only 3k in bank. started working 4year ago as i enter NS late, i mean i have a saving insurance warrant a 40k pay out at 47.

I earning 3k per month currently havent minus CPF, paying 1300 on FUE transplant per month for a year and 800 to my parent.. i left with 300 +, to eat and commute.

am i the one who is dwelling in the deep ocean? Only poly cert.

I”m gonna be 31 this year.

Netizens’ comments

1. Huh. FUE transplant = Follicular Unit Extraction hair transplant
   So…..you use ~50% of your take home pay for hair?
   Huh.
2. I mean 3k per month sounds livable until you mentioned that you spend half of your pay on the FUE transplant
3. did u say hair transplant 1.3k a month out of ur 3k
4. I think girls would prefer you have $1300 more over hair
5. Stop trying to compare and get others to validate your situation
   What done is already done.
   Pay off the transplant fully it shouldn’t take more than a year to clear.
   Then work on yourself by taking up courses to upskill yourself in your free time , save up for a bachelor.
   On a side note i also have male pattern baldness i went to shave it in the end. Save lots of $ and ontop of that i am actually renting, with hobbies etc.
   its not worth being broke with no $
6. I’ve seen some high quality toupees. Maybe the FUE is addressing some underlying unhappiness about smth else? How about exercising and improving your overall fitness – you’ll see your looks improve and feel better too! All the best
7. not trying to sound sarcastic but my genuine question is, why don’t you just buy a high quality wig or hair topper? just fake it, so realistic and so much cheaper! no one will be able to tell.
   baldness is also a good look. no one’s gonna question it since youre a guy.

Is it worth it to take Master’s degree now? Will the job market be better in a year?

I am 28 M and planning to take a master’s degree at NTU. I have $75,000 now and unliquidated assets on my small biz that I did during pandemic years, so tally to around $100,000.

Motivation is bec biz is becoming slow and dry already and I am burnt out. I will be paying for my Uni alone and my living expenses. Planning to take interns/part-time work if I will enroll.

Is 28 years old doing a master’s too old? I have an undergrad degree in business- marketing and planning to take MSc IS at NTU. Keen to work on market research and development in SG afterward.

Is this niche? Does having a master’s pay you a higher? How much salary should I expect by then if I push? Previous experiences was in bank and corporate sales and part of my work includes analysis which I really enjoyed doing.

I did market research and study before too. Discovered I like to work on research and data. Aside from possible jobs that I can get in SG with my current degree – merely digital marketing and content creation etc.

Since we are in recession….or going in a recession. Will we expect recovery in a year or so?

Netizens’ comments

1. Definitely not too old. I took mine when I was 27 and there were a few students who were even older.
   Can’t comment on the rest
2. From what you shared, it sounds like you’re taking the Masters for career reasons.
   I suggest you work backwards.
   -Start from listing the jobs you want to do
   -Examine the criteria to enter these jobs. If Masters is needed, should consider doing it. If Masters is helpful but not necessary, you may want to see if there are alternatives to get you into the job. If Masters doesn’t help, don’t do it
   -Think of backup. If you finish your Masters and it doesn’t get you the job (or you changed your mind and want to pursue something else), what are the other uses of the Masters?
   
   27 is not too late. In fact, most of my peers (including myself), pursued our Masters after working around 2 to 5 years.
   Don’t opt for Masters instead of work experience because it is a recession. The opportunity cost is not worth it, unless the Masters open doors to highly lucrative positions (e.g., earning $70k annually, spend $50k on Masters and it helped you to enter a job with annual package of $120k or higher).

I (54M) am wondering if it time to leave my (52F) wife of 30 years

I have been married for 30 years with 2 kids, 25 and 27. Had ups and downs. Wife cheated on me 20 years ago. I have never been unfaithful. She begged to come back. Kids were young and we worked it out somehow.

Bumped along. We are now empty nesters. Now she is increasingly frustrated with me for small things like me leaving the light on in another room, not wiping the table down correctly and missing a spot.

Usually results in a 15 minute lecture. Also for not listening. I try to listen but her favorite topic is politics which I am just sick of. Even though she and I mostly agree politically.

She spends most of her days and nights on Facebook and news sites commenting and arguing. It makes it hard for me to sleep when someone is texting literally all night.

Her average is like 6 hours a day on Facebook. She refuses to work, wants to stay home to provide care for our grandson. Whom I love!

I have a demanding job and can support ourselves well. But she openly criticizes her “in-laws” political views on Facebook, which is our most recent fight. It causes tension when we visit relatives.

We are currently in couples therapy about 3 sessions in and she is not receptive. Mostly controls the therapy conversation about how she is oppressed and discriminated against.

she completely seems unhinged. I am tired and I don’t know if I can go on.

I (21f) found out my bf (28m) is leading a double life with his gf of 8 years (27f)

I’m heartbroken. I don’t even know what to do in this situation. I live with my bf (james for the story) and we have been dating for 6 months.

I know that’s not much time but we were talking for over a year and he told me that he didn’t have a gf because the broke up 2 months before we went on our first date.

Today I woke up with a instagram DM asking if I know James and if he was cheating on his long time gf (27f) .

I live with the man and I was so confused so I pressed on for more information, and it turns out I’m the other woman. I feel disgusting and used, he was perfect and did everything right, now I know it was a facade.

I had proof and I went and confronted him about it and he just looked at me stupid and said he wanted to break up with her sooner but he is scared of her doing something stupid.

They have been sleeping together the entire time. I feel disgusting and I want to vomit. He’s been gone for 3 hours to “talk with her” and I don’t know what to do.

Netizens’ comments

• He’s probably not “talking with her”, he’s just avoiding dealing with you. What you do is pack his things up and throw it outside, or at most give it to a mutual friend. Never talk to him again. I’m sorry this happened to you.
• This is awful I’m sorry 🥲 I don’t understand how he was able to live with you without her knowing? Or was she aware he had a new girlfriend and was okay just cheating with him?
• You tell him to GTFO of your life is what you do. He’s a liar in the biggest way and has put your health at risk. This is a zero tolerance situation. Get him out of your house.
• You lock the door and don’t let him come back. It’s over with, babes. Know your worth.

Hi recently i decided to embark on a journey to get the infamous and elusive Pes F award.

This is a post to explain my experience and most importantly: WHY YOU SHOULD NOT GO DOWN THIS ROUTE.

My Story (Cut Short): I walked into IMH and told them I have thoughts of ending my life and my main stressor being NS. They decided to put me on Observation where I would spend 1-2 days according to the doctor in a ward. Due to the crazy amount of people admitting into IMH recently, I was placed in a Forensics Ward as there was not enough space in other wards. In the end I spent a total of 1 week there…..

The ward I was placed in was like a maximum security prison. With fenced up windows and double doors entry which were locked 24/7 unless to get food, water or toilet.

My First Day: After being admitted I felt completely lost and hopeless due to the fact that there was 1: No Phones Allowed 2: Nurses were quick to dismiss you in a conversation 3: No one able to give you any information as only the Doctors know whats up. 4: Calling parents are only allowed on Sundays 5: Parent visits – Sundays as well

I spent the majority of that day walking the length of my room.

My Second Day: The doctor came to visit me at 9am in the morning and asked me if I was feeling better. At this point I was already feeling very sad and gone so I told him I was perfectly fine and happy now and was ready to go back to camp.

The doctor told me I was to stay for another 2 days.

1: Doctors don’t come everyday. 2: They only come at 9am – 11am

My Third Day: The Case manager came to visit me and assessed my situation. Long story short it was just a bunch of false hope and promises that never came through. He promised to speak to my parents on that same day but end up only calling them on a Saturday which was 2 days later for my case.

1: Case Manager has the final say in your discharge 2: The case manager only comes once per week. -.-“

The People: Majority of all the patients in the Forensics Ward were under PIC (Placed In Custody) which also meant that they are there because of an ongoing police investigation or are awaiting trial at court.

The other people are those legit seriously have issues. They would spend the day either staring at the wall or shouting at a wall.

The Nurses and Doctors: Damn fast to ignore or drop a conversation due to the fact that they DONT KNOW ANYTHING.

They are also dealing with people with legitamate issues on a daily basis, so this kind of cloud their judgement about who they should respond to or not.

They treat you like shit.

I would like to add that I did infact met one nurse called Mendell who is really kind to me and spent 30 minutes talking to me about life in the middle of the night.

Closure: If you decide to go down this route to get your Pes F, please reconsider.

It’s a long and confusing path with a lot of false promises and false hopes everyday. You’ll have nothing to do but sit on ur bed and sing or stare at the ceiling waiting for time to pass by.

In the end I got out with a specialist memo and I’m awaiting to pass this letter to my camp MO.

I would NOT EVER go back to IMH to chao geng liao. ITS JUST NOT WORTH IT.

Thanks for reading -^

Netizens’ comments

Bro I seen so many people go IMH none got your issues. Maybe you got skill issue bro, maybe you bring your piece too extreme or you joking here.

Okay lemme rundown real quick what a normal experience is like.

Usually you will get consultation after waiting awhile, if they deem you too unsafe due to self harm. It’s only 1-2 days in ward and if there is any extension your family can broker you out of there.

Most of the doctors are always there, it’s 24/7 A&E FFS. Once they diagnose your issue and all, they will just give you memo and an appointment date for a later more analysis after you sent your memo to your MO.

From there onwards, you seat back and watch as your MO see if you are fit and then go for more counselling with pending downpes/temp status. Once your MA with A&E is done, you get another memo where they have you go for some kind of therapy and checkup and you submit the new memo to MO. Finishing your downpes.

Also Pes F is hard to get, you don’t get Pes F by saying you got mental issue. Usually you go get Pes C/E

Please do not talk about fake news or exaggerate your feelings here, do not scare off people who truly need this service. don’t need to make NS even more worst for those who cannot even.