My true-blue Singaporean friend met an American girl who works in his company. She works in different department and they developed a strong friendship which turned into lovers.

American gf had to go back because permit not renewed

Recently, his American tall pretty girlfriend told him that she is leaving the company as the company didn’t extend her work permit. She has to go back to US if she can’t find another job.

She initiated the breakup with my friend as she said that it’s impossible for her to stay in Singapore unless she has another job and WP sponsorship.

Their relationship has been very loving and stable. They always giggle when with friends and also have the couple look. They have been together for a year and their anniversary V-Day is coming up soon.

My friend wants to propose to her so that at least she can stay with him in Singapore. As it’s his first relationship, he said he is saving himself for her on their wedding night.

We laughed when he said that but my other Singaporean friend commented that he is a keeper. He has also never been in a long distance relationship and doesn’t want to as he will miss her company.

His father does not approve of her due to her culture

However, his father has been very disapproving of his American girlfriend as she always dress little and can be seem as rude to his father and family.

His father even said that his girlfriend may no more be a ‘V’. His father told him not to bring back a wedlock grandchild or he will be kicked out of the house.

My friend also doesn’t want to move to USA as he has no friends there and he has to eat burgers and fries everyday.

He also wants to be close to his family. And he is also scared that he will miss out on reservists and get the MR reward.

He knows that his father will disapprove and even disown him if he marries his girlfriend. But he really loves her and she is independent and hardworking, unlike Singaporean gals whom he met in university.

He wants to propose to her on V-Day but he is very stressed.

Should he marry her and lose his family or break up with her and find another girl?

My husband and I were expecting our first baby. Like any expectant parents, we had been preparing for our new addition for months.

We had attended birthing classes, read tons of parenting books, and purchased all the necessary baby items.

Asked me to take MRT to the hospital

But there was one thing we hadn’t planned for: my husband wanted me to take the MRT to the hospital to give birth.

I was taken aback. Why would he want me to take the MRT instead of driving or taking Grab to the hospital? After some prodding, I found out it was because he wanted to save money.

He wanted to avoid paying for parking or the Grab fare. I was aghast. He was willing to put the risk of me getting into an mishap outside just to save a few bucks?

I explained to my husband that taking the MRT to the hospital was a very bad idea. I explained that the MRT could be crowded, and it could be difficult to get a seat.

I also explained that the ride could take longer than expected and that I would be in pain during the journey.

Worst of all, I couldn’t be sure that the MRT would arrive on time or if there would be any delays.

Eventually thought through and woke up his idea

My husband eventually came to his senses and agreed that taking theMRT was not a good idea. He apologized for suggesting it in the first place and agreed to drive me to the hospital.

I was relieved and grateful that he had come to his senses and that I wasn’t going to have to take the MRT to the hospital to give birth.

Taking the MRT to the hospital was a bad idea and I’m glad that my husband eventually realized it. I understand that he wanted to save money, but I’m thankful that he ultimately me and our baby first.

I’m also thankful that he realized that there are some things that money just can’t buy, and that sometimes it’s better to spend a little more to ensure a safe and comfortable journey.

I pulled down my girlfriend’s jacket zipper in public.

We were at the mall and had just finished shopping when I noticed that her zipper was zipped all the way up and in a moment of mischievousness, I decided to pull it down.

Only wearing her bra inside

Little did I know, she had nothing on underneath her jacket other than her bra.

My girlfriend’s face turned bright red as soon as the zipper was pulled down and a few people around us noticed.

She quickly grabbed pulled it back up, but the damage was already done. People were staring and whispering, and I could feel the embarrassment radiating off of her.

We quickly left the mall and I felt extremely guilty for my actions. I knew that I had made a huge mistake and had embarrassed my girlfriend in front of a lot of people.

I apologized over and over, but she was too embarrassed to even look at me.

Scolded me for it

When we got home, my girlfriend was still quiet and distant. I tried to talk to her, but she wouldn’t even look at me. I could tell that she was still angry, so I decided to give her some space.

After a few hours of silence, she finally spoke up and gave me a scolding of my life.

Says many girls does the same thing

She told me that many girls actually are lazy to put clothes on when going nearby and would just throw on a jacket or a hoodie to go out.

Therefore she said that I should have never pulled down a girl’s jacket zipper in public as in cases like that, only a jacket or hoodie are covering their bare bodies.

I didn’t know about this, but I now I know, at the expense of a few guys catching a glimpse of my gf’s bra and body.

married life

My husband and I are in our late twenties and have been together for years.

Last year, I caught him DM-ing with random girls on IG commenting ‘nice outfit’ ‘looking good’ ,etc.

It broke my trust in him and destroyed my self-confidence. We made up shortly after that and he promised to no longer comment and like any girls picture.

However, yesterday I chanced upon a comment when we were scrolling his insta activities on his phone. My husband commented ‘so pretty’ on one of the girls post again.

When I pointed this out, he is upset because he think that I dont respect his privacy and dont trust him.

I can only share it here because we have the same circle of friends and I dont want to let our family know about it.

Is this appropriate or am I just overreacting? The fact that he doesnt try to hide anything means I should accept it?

Here are what netizens think:

• Congrats, he gave u the green light to do the same 

• His fart would probably break your trust as well

• You should go and like and comment on handsome young dudes as well. Make it a privacy and don’t let him know.

• Easy, just take over his account and delete all his comments on the sexy gals or those profile that you doesn’t like. Afterall u r the one he marry not these sluts. What he did at work as long as u doesn’t know is his own business. He want to ogle at who is his own shit. And if you know, just delete if it makes you happy. You can’t stop him from doing what he like but u can focus to do what you like. Win win situation for both, no point to keep argue or cause a strain at the marriage because of this.

• He is just not respecting you, pure and simple….No mystery to it. If he respect you, he won’t go around commenting on other women’s fashion sense and how pretty they look etc.

• I think your stand is that you feel that he can find them pretty but he shouldnt post a comment, am i right? maybe you are just afraid that common friends/relatives see it? Coz it sounds like an ego thing to me.

Lost soul

When i though a bad move, could or will end good.. i mean, that was my hope at least.

I got pregnant out of marriage many years back. My then boyf, shut me off and also deny the baby was his at my 3rd trimester. I got kick out from my house because i wanted to keep the baby. At first, he was all lovely.. but because of our young age, he still wanted his freedom that’s where he denied the baby was his. I cried and asked my mom to take me in back with my heavy pregnancy.. she took me in and took care of me.

5 months after my baby was born, he wanted to meet me and my baby … I dont know why, i agreed. I cant help myself thinking about my baby future without a father. So i decided to give in to him. A year later, we got married.

I though all will be great but just months past.. due to our lack of communication and open up to each other, we fought alot of time again and again. On one particular fight, i was physically hurt, not knowing i was pregnant with my 2nd child. He left home for a week or 2 before we patch everything again. When he left, he left me with zero $ for our 1st baby too.

Years with our on & off fight, he got himself to law trouble. Was on bailed for months with part time jobs and finally was behind bar for about 6 months after court sentence. All this, i still stood beside him. Courage him to be better.

Then years pass by again, i though again… He’s finally a better man but i was wrong again for countless time.

The same year he got into accident and was bed ridden for 2 months, was the same year, i caught him red handed going out with another women.

Since then, my heart was never at peace. I hate myself for giving in to him again and again. People will say im stupid because of my reason – the kids need the father but i just lost myself when my kids finds their father.

Now, my kids have already grown teenager. They spend more time at school or friends. Everything start hunting back. The past memories. Almost nothing about our relationship are happy moments. We don’t share the same hobby, is like we don’t do much things together except for staying in the marriage. I dont know if i should leave or stay.

I’m just a lost late-30s soul.