Me (F18) slept with an married man (M34) – Have I ruined a family?

I didn’t know that he was still married. He told me that he was single and he was impossible to stalk. He didn’t tell me anything about a family but he insisted for me to go to his place and not opposite which I didn’t completely understand why…

Until I saw that he has a kid. I asked him question and he said “yes, but we are divorced and it’s his turn to be at my house so we have to keep quiet”.

After all that… when he went to the toilet, I opened the closet… female clothes. I feel horrible. I did t know anything about that. I just wanted a one-night-stand.

I do know that the age gap was a red flag but I just ignored it. Who’s fault is it actually?

Netizens’ comments

1. You did nothing wrong except being young and easily fooled by a master manipulator. Just do yourself a favor and cut contact with him . And if at all possible let his wife know but I am going to bet you don’t even know his real last name
2. Yeah I’d say you didn’t really do anything wrong since you didn’t know. If anyone ruined a family, it’s him
3. If I were in your shoes, the first thing I would ask myself is why is a 34 year old man chasing me? Then, I would automatically assume that he is married or has kids. I don’t necessarily blame you for the situation but 75% + men his age are married/ divorced with kids. You were very gullible.
4. Well, you’re certainly ruining your life, that’s for sure. Not only because it’s a married man, but also due to the age gap and you’re only 18 (yes, by law you’re an adult, but that’s still very young).
5. his and stop sleeping with older men because it’s either they are secretly married or they are creeps. Tell his wife (slip a note in something she’d daily be checking but not easy enough and in plain sight so that he can see it) and be done with it. She deserves to know that her husband is being unfaithful with a kid in the home. And stop sleeping with him.
6. Im a 33 year old guy. I was gonna type some stuff out to help you understand how scary that age gap can be is… But man, it’s too long winded and im tired.
   Just know this. At 18, you might think youre smart. You are. You have the fastest mental processing you’ll ever have.
   However, you dont have enough life experiences. By your 30s. You’ve slowed down (slightly) but your skillset is much more extensive (usually) not just in things like how to apply make up or how to clean your room, but in managing stress, managing people, recognizing danger, etc…
   This means in your 30s, your capacity for BOTH good and evil is much higher.
   This person may or may not be dangerous to you, but do you really want to find out with somebody you have already realized is lying to BOTH you and probably his wife? The risks are just a lot higher.
   In terms of fault, why would it be your fault? You wanted to spend time with someone you were attracted to. You were working with information that was incomplete. But if you continue, this is no longer true…
   In terms of an age gap, it’ really up to you to decide what is good for you. But think long and hard about what an age gap means. Sleeping with a 35 year old at 18 is not the same as marrying one.

My wife is les and I feel guilty even thinking of divorce.

I have been with my wife since I was 20, and she was 22, so almost 10 years. We have an 8 year old and a 5 year old. Everything was going great.

In October 2020 she came out to me as a les while crying, but then backpeddled and said she was Bi. I had known she was atleast Bi, since when we started dating she said how she spoke to some girls on dating websites. She said she loved me and didn’t want anyone but me, but that she has regrets about not being with women.

I offered her a pass. Go have a female/female relationship with someone. See if that was what you wanted. If so and you wanted to continue that, fine. We could have an amicable divorce and move on. She never took me up on it, saying she did not want to. The point of it was I would rather you know now rather than later.

Today i found out that she has been telling her friends about it. She says she is gay, not bi. She says she loves me, but regrets that she won’t ever have a wife.

The last 2.5 years feel like a lie. I get before (not coming to grips with it). But now you’ve known. I gave you the option then. So this exact thing wouldn’t happen.

I’m the bread winner. Always have been. She a stay at home mom and a great mother. I feel guilty even thinking of the word divorce. She has no family (parents passed away). She has no income besides mine. Our house loan is in my name only (title is joint). Realistically, if we were to divorce she would have nothing. She has said that over the years.

FML

My friend lied about their ability to smell for YEARS

I have this friend, very close friend for the last like 5 years, who allegedly has no sense of smell. Like they can’t smell anything at all and has told me it even affects their ability to taste things.

I’ve known this since I met them around 5 years ago. I’ve accidentally tried to make them smell things like candles and food and such while we’re out at places and they’d be like “oh I’m sure it smells good, but I CANT SMELL ANYTHING REMEMBER” and we’d laugh and I’d feel bad.

It took a long time to get used to but after so many slip ups and reminders that they can’t smell, it was ingrained in my memory by the end of year one that they truly can’t smell anything.

Now just recently, they told me that ACTUALLY they’ve been able to smell this whole time! FOR ALL FIVE YEARS IVE KNOWN THEM THEY’VE BEEN ABLE TO SMELL.

I said ”bro why tf would you lie about something like that?? How do you keep up THAT BIG of a lie for years??”

And they said it all started back when they had a crush on this girl and they were in a candle store and she was trying to get them to smell the candles to help her pick one.

Well they were super congested and couldn’t smell anything at all but instead of telling her they were congested they joked that they couldn’t smell anything at all ever since they were born???

And it was one of those jokes that turned into seeing how long they could fool her into thinking they couldn’t smell anything and it became so long and elaborate that they told their friends the same thing so if she ever asked about it we’d all reaffirm that they can’t smell, making the joke last even longer.

So recently they felt guilty and was like ”eh, five years is long enough.. I should tell her the truth” and so they did.

And then they told the rest of us and it was like a bomb went off. We were all this horrible mixture of shocked, in awe, and laughing at the sheer craziness of it.

As for me? Im MAD man. Listen I’m not mad that they lied/joked about their sense of smell for five years that’s actually frickin impressive.

What I’m mad about is how many times I silently FARTED around this person thinking they couldn’t smell anything when really THEY COULD SMELL IT THE WHOLE TIME. FIVE YEARS OF FARTS AND THEY NEVER SAID A SINGLE WORD ABOUT IT.

Anyways I dunno if I can’t ever face them again after that revelation…

I’m just here to vent. I am writing this inside the bathroom as my bf just quits halfway while we having S on the bed and told me he’s tired.

He’s done this multiple times, and I’ve talked to him about it. It’s getting so frustrating that he doesn’t understand and gets mad at me, saying he’s not a machine and he’s tired and can’t finish.

I don’t know what to do or tell him at this point without him thinking I think he’s a machine or whatever.

I mostly do the work anyway. I rub and suck him to get him hard, and he doesn’t even do foreplay, I have to do it myself.

Then afterward, when we start to do PIV, he’ll stop and tell me to move and I move most times. So, I don’t understand. Please be respectful. Thank you.

Netizens’ comments

1. Nobody’s asking the question yet, so I guess I will. How long are you actually active for? Are we taking like 3 minutes or like 2 hours?
2. Have you tried being on top? Doesn’t require much effort on his part, and can be quite pleasurable.
3. What kind of shape is he in…? I mean, most guys who are relatively out of shape should still be able to put forth a half-decent effort and shouldn’t be quitting midway.
   I used to be very out of shape but could put in a decent couple minutes in most positions. I’m in much better shape now and it definitely helps. Could be as simple as him being really out of shape.
4. Okay Im 67 and still going strong with good stamina. That said, Im in the gym, out on road bike and mtn bike a good bit of the time. To do a lady justice, you must be in decent physical shape.

A netizen recently shared a photo with Singapore Uncensored something he saw while taking the Downtown Line.

The netizen had boarded the train at Beauty World MRT and was intending to go to Upper Changi to see his girlfriend and while the journey was as usual, the netizen said that he spotted ‘Thanos’ inside the train cabin.

According to the netizen’s submission, ‘Thanos’ boarded the train as a typical Singaporean Uncle at Chinatown MRT and took a seat.

Suddenly, he reached out into his bag and took out a ziploc bag full of rings.

The rings had different gemstones on it, which kinda looked like the ‘infinity stones’ Thanos had on his infinity gauntlet in the Marvel Movie.

One by one, the uncle took the rings out from the ziploc bag and began to wear it on his fingers.

It was like he was preparing to show his ‘true’ identity, which is ‘Thanos’.

After he donned all the different rings on his hand, he clenched his fist just like what Thanos did in the Marvel movie when he finally acquired all the ‘infinity stones’.

He also did a small ‘flex’ as he showed it off to people who were in the same cabin as him on the train and they all had a good laugh.

The train ride then continued as usual and nothing eventful happened (HENG AH)

Who is Thanos

Thanos is a fictional character in a movie produced by Marvel and is depicted as an alien warlord whose goal was to acquire all the six ‘infinity stones’.

He wants the six ‘infinity stones’ to control the overpopulated universe which he views it as what will cause the Universe to extinct.

He was successful in his quest to obtain all six ‘infinity stones’ and then cleared half the life off the universe.

Image source: Singapore Uncensored Reader, Unsplash

Valentine’s Day is a day for couples to show their love for each other. For some, this day is about giving flowers, chocolates, and other gifts.

However, for me, I feel that flowers on Valentine’s Day are too expensive.

I love receiving flowers on any day, but it’s not a necessity for me on Valentine’s Day. I’d rather my significant other spend the money on something else.

Flowers are beautiful and they bring a smile to my face. But they don’t last long and they’re very expensive.

Instead of spending money on flowers on Valentine’s Day, I suggest that my significant other and I go out to a nice dinner.

It’s a perfect way to celebrate our love for each other. We can have a romantic dinner, with a few drinks, and just enjoy our time together.

We can also take time to talk about our relationship and our future plans.

We can go to a fancy restaurant, or we can even cook dinner at home if that’s what we want to do. It’s up to us. I think it’s important to do something special and memorable.

Going out to dinner is a great way to do that.

I also think that it’s important to budget our money. Flowers are expensive and they’re not as long-lasting.

A nice dinner together is much more cost-effective, and it’s also an enjoyable way to spend Valentine’s Day.

It’s also important to remember that Valentine’s Day isn’t just about gifts. It’s about expressing our love for each other.

Instead of giving flowers, we can give each other cards, write love letters, or just spend quality time together.

I think that Valentine’s Day should be about spending quality time with the person we love. Going out for a nice dinner together is a great way to do that.

We can have a romantic dinner and talk about our future plans. We can also spend time talking about our relationship and just enjoying each other’s company.

Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about expensive gifts. We can show our love for each other in different ways. Instead of buying each other flowers, we can go out for a nice dinner together.

It’s a perfect way to show our love without breaking the bank.

A netizen who was waiting for his TATA ride was not pleased when the driver had a problem following at the GPS.

The driver even spotted the passenger but refused to move to the passenger’s location and even ended up cancelling the trip.

Here is the complaint

To this TADA driver Billy, my family and I were waiting for you at 304 AMK pick up point/shelter, which was communicated to you.

You stopped multiple times at wrong locations, first at 305 opposite road, then at 317.

Is it really so hard to navigate?

You finally reached but instead of stopping at the pick up point/shelter where I am, you stopped at the rubbish chute opposite, then at the covered walkway, blocking someone from walking. I waved to you multiple times during this ordeal. It was evident you ignored us on purpose, I saw your head turning to my direction. Or maybe you have bad vision?

In the end you cancelled the trip?? What was going on in your head? If you don’t know the difference between walkway and shelter, can’t follow signboards and see what’s in front of you, please don’t become a TADA driver. Don’t even drive, I’m afraid your vision will get someone killed.

A netizen responded to the complaint and said: ” gps got problems”

The author responded: “sure, I can accept, but he must have poor vision if he can’t see the pick up point and me waving to him like a fool”