Evicting my mom from my house.

I made enough money to buy my own home. Despite this, I am not rich, but for once I am not worried about my bills.

My mom has always been poor (as such, I grew up in it) because she is bad with money. She wanted out of her living situation with 3 roommates, so I decided to rent her one of my rooms.

I made it clear that this was a normal rental tenant situation, she wouldn’t get a deal or whatever, because I need the rent money to make the rest of my finances work.

I should have known, her budgeting habits did not change and she fell behind on her rent. After the third consecutive month of paying nothing, I sent her an eviction notice.

I have 5 brothers, they’ve all shunned me. All of my aunt and uncles do nothing but talk crap about me and make spread lies about me.

My mom treats me like I have no heart. I am an outcast in my family because “I only love money.”

Did I handle this wrong?

Netizens’ comments

• You are an idiot for renting to your mother fully knowing she can’t budget money and knowing you would be in this situation. Family and money don’t mix.
• Quick question. Which of the family members judging you is offering a house for her to live in for free?
• It’s always risky to do business with relatives.
• She has 5 other sons to house her along with siblings. they could have helped her with the rent so you did not have to cover it alone. She will not be homeless if she has them.
• Let’s be realistic, how many of those brothers of yours are offering to let her stay at their place for free?
• You made the expectations clear. She did not follow the rules. If your 5 brothers are so mad about it, where were they to help your mom pay the rent then?

How to continue feeling positive in finding a partner?

Hi guys, sorry for another relationship post but I felt that it would be good to have some local perspective. I’m a 33F. Ever since my last relationship ended 2.5 years ago, I took some time to heal and started actively dating 1.5 year back.

I’ve been on so many first dates that I’ve lost count but mainly there were 3 guys whom I dated for slightly longer (not at the same time). The rest of the dates don’t go beyond the first or second date, either due to me or the other party.

A bit more info on the 3 guys – all are around my age or late 30s. First guy we dated for 4 months before he ended things due to him not feeling he was at a stage where he can commit, we are now friends.

Second guy I checked in at the 2 months mark, he was the “work hard play hard” type and didn’t want to commit. We dated casually for a few more months before a mutual fade.

Third guy I checked in at the start that we were both seeking a serious relationship. We dated for 2 months and he just sent me a rejection text of “not feeling excited” about things right before our date for the weekend which he asked me on 🙁

Sorry for the wordy post. My point is, I’m really starting to wonder if there’s something wrong with me. My friends can’t pinpoint anything.

I’m a single mom and I understand that is a deal breaker for most so it’s stated clearly on my profile. My child is 14 and relatively independent, so I do have more time to date as compared to the past.

There’s no drama (ex not in the picture) and I am clear that my partner isn’t required to fill in any role. I have a decent job, stable finances, healthy social life and am driven in self-improvement.

In terms of appearance, I’m petite, not overweight and probably around a 7 out of 10? I always have people tell me they can’t believe I’m single but the reality is its been really tough and I’m at a complete loss here. Any advice?

My dying friend wants me to hook up with him before he passes.

There is a lot to unpack here, but basically my terminally ill friend told me he wants to sleep with me as a dying wish.

As if this isn’t already an extremely bizarre situation, there are a number of factors that complicate things even more.

For starters, he has a girlfriend. They’ve been together since young. I’ve been friends with the guy for about 3 years and he always confided in me about their problems and their relationship isn’t exactly stable. I don’t really know her that well but from what I’ve gathered from mutual friends she’s not very pleasant.

This of course isn’t an excuse or even relevant, as I can’t even imagine what she must be going through since her lifelong boyfriend only has a few months left. I now realize as I’m typing this im just trying to find a way to justify doing it but there really isn’t.

Secondly, I’m a virgin. So even if this guy was single and in great health, it would probably suck for the both of us lol. Don’t get me wrong, the guy is attractive. I’ve had a small crush on him since we met and he recently admitted he liked me too, which is why he asked I’m assuming, but i cant imagine it going well for the first (and well, last) time.

And lastly, well he’s dying. And he’s my friend. I don’t even want to imagine how this would affect me after he’s gone.

To be clear, I know this is an absolute no-go. I’m not considering pity-banging my close friend, this was just a lot to process and needed to get this off my chest.

I’ll miss you a lot.

(21M) (22F) My girlfriend is smelly.

So, I’ve been with my girlfriend for only two months (we met on tinder) and I have only one problem.

She smells bad, like really bad.

Her hair smells stale, her body odor is very strong and her crotch is so bad I avoid going down on her when we get intimate, which is another problem in itself because of the smell.

I don’t know what her issue could be, she showers once every other day, and washes her hair once a week (which is apparently common for women? I don’t know).

It’s quite bad, because when she visits me, my bed sheets end up smelling bad too.

I don’t know how to bring this up, because it’s a very personal thing, I would hate to have this conversation with anyone.

Netizens’ comments

1. It could be a lot of things. Some people go into a shower, but they don’t actually wash themselves properly. She may not be using the right bathing products. She may not clean herself properly, after using a toilet. It could be, in part, due to poor diet and or health problems. Even some medicines can alter a person’s natural body odor.
   All you can really do is try to sit down and have a calm, but serious, talk about it. Neither of you will enjoy the conversation, but if you really care, then you need to try, because whether she stays with you or not, it’s something she will have to deal with for the rest of her life. And it’s quite possible that she doesn’t even realize it, because she’s so used to it, and because nobody else had ever had the courage to talk to her about it.
2. Could it be her clothes? Shitty washer / dryer or maybe the lint traps aren’t getting cleaned out or the clothes are still damp for a long time? Or maybe she just actually doesn’t wash / change them often enough?
3. Honestly, I’d bet it’s due to some sort of hormonal imbalance, or her diet. My brother was showering twice a day, putting on two different deodorants, and still smelled SO strongly. It wasn’t until he completely changed his diet, and his body had time to adjust, that all of those issues went away.
   There’s no nice way to tell someone they smell but, I’d bring it up when you have a calm moment together, and I’d start by letting her know how much you like her. You want to help her figure it out BECAUSE you like her so much, right? Otherwise, you’d just end it. Be sure to remind her of that so she doesn’t feel attacked. There’s no “right” way to deliver unpleasant news. I’d just try to be as positive and reassuring as possible. Best of luck ✨

Been offered a hook up, and I denied it. Big Regret.

Backstory: I’m (24F) and was at a work party, when my colleague (22M) flirted with me the entire night. After the party, we went to a bar, danced, talked, and cuddled in the couch.

Around 3:00AM he asked me to crash at his place, implying he wanted to hook up. I said no, and told him I was expected to be home, when in reality I was afraid of the consequences resulting in a one night stand with a younger colleague, and I’m not particularly interested in forming a relationship with him.

I’m severely regretting my decision because he’s really hot, and I’m completely infatuated. Now during work, I look over at his desk expecting him to approach me, like he did at the work party, but he never does.

How do I progress with this? Or have I lost my shot?

Netizens’ comments

1. Wouldn’t say you lost your shot but he shot his and got turned down so the next move would be up to you to make. He probably isn’t going to approach you to get turned down again, once sucks bad enough lol.
2. At the very least, ball is now in YOUR court to approach him. He can’t keep suggesting things to you without losing gentleman status. Time for you to risk the same amount of rejection and suggest something to him! And even then he could say no, maybe moving on.
3. He is being tactful in not approaching again after you said no. If you are still interested, now you must make a move.
4. What shot did you take here exactly?
   You turned him down and now seemingly have an expectation he is going to approach you again? Have some courage and approach him yourself. If he then turns you down maybe you can say you missed your chance… but if you expect something to fall into your lap after already declining it once, maybe your mindset is flawed.
5. Like wtf, you rejected him and still expect him to insist and approach you again?
   You rejected the dude. The dude understands that no means no and is acting as he should. If anything you should approach now… Come on

I 23 am the oldest of five siblings, am working full time and doing a part time degree.

Both of our parents work full time. I have taken on a lot of the responsibilities for keeping everything running in the house. I do the grocery shopping, the laundry as well as making suppers and doing meal prep so everyone has lunches ready to take every day. I also get all my siblings to do their part with regards to household chores. For example my youngest brother is responsible for feeding and walking the dogs. So I make sure that there is dog food in the storage and poop bags on the leash.

My dad works very long hours and my mom works 9-5 at a hard job.

Over Christmas I had a chance to buy a PS5 for myself so I did. The rest of my family is still using a shared PS4. I keep mine in my room and I do not share.

My parents started fielding complaints from my oldest brother about how I made so much money and I don’t share the things I buy for myself. Totally true. So they had a talk with me where they brought this up. I pointed out how much of the household work I did and they said it wasn’t fair that o was earning so much money without contributing. They told me how much they expected from me.

I packed up and moved out into a rental master bedroom that is twice the size of my old room. It was great.

My oldest brother has been tasked by my parents to do everything I used to do. His chores have been split up with the other three. They are all pissed at me for moving out.

My parents are upset that I left them in the lurch. My siblings are mad that they all have more chores. My oldest brother is especially salty because he has no free time to see his girlfriend and she isn’t allowed in the house when my parents aren’t home.

I’m enjoying my free time. I bought myself a plant from IKEA.

I feel bad for screwing them all over but it didn’t make sense for me to do all that work and pay rent on top.

I got declined for an interview because I am poor

I’m qualified for the job and she even said so after accepting my 2 week late application because the other candidates weren’t suitable.

However she asked me before the interview if I had family or friends to depend on during the probation period where I won’t be getting the full salary, but the allowance instead.

I asked if the wage listed was enough to live off of and she blatantly says no and hopes to raise it next year.

She’ll only hire people who have family/friends to lean on or are independently wealthy.

Honestly I appreciate her candor but it just sucks I have to live in this capitalistic dystopia where I’m not able to get a job that I love and am qualified for without having prior wealth or support.

I just needed to vent about this !

Netizens’ comments

1. Honestly it sounds like she was doing you a favour. Knowing you can’t live off the salary. It totally does suck that since the 70s, wages haven’t been increased anywhere near in line with housing costs, so housing is so expensive. Hope you find something soon
2. One thing I’ve learned is a disappointment or something that seems unfair in the moment, could easily be a blessing in disguise.
   Sometimes you gotta just step back and evaluate instead of getting sad and complaining. Think about it this way, “It happens so I can find a better opportunity in the near future.”
   Always gotta keep a positive energy. Positivity breeds positivity. As stupid as that sounds, it works.
3. hear me out… i think she is not trying to insult you or take the job away from you but simply trying to look out for you. thats my opinion
4. That sucks, I’m sorry to hear that. Honestly, she should accept you as a worker & she doesn’t know whether you have other jobs & something to hold you over that you didnt mention.
   That being said, she is probably being realistic because sadly, people are not often told just how HARD it is to live off of one income

I never thought I’d be making this kind of mistake. It all started when I wanted to get a new gaming desktop to replace my old laptop.

I had been using it for gaming purposes for a few years now, and I was starting to feel like it was time for an upgrade.

I had been saving up money for a while, but I was still coming up short on the amount I needed.

That’s when I remembered that I had set aside some money for my wedding.

It was supposed to be the biggest day of my life, the day I married the woman of my dreams. But I had been so focused on gaming that I had forgotten about the wedding.

I had promised her that I would make sure everything went perfectly, and I was starting to worry that I would let her down.

So, I decided to take the money that I had set aside for the wedding and use it to buy the gaming desktop.

I knew it was a mistake, but I was desperate. I had already put so much time and effort into researching which type of desktop would be best for my needs, and I didn’t want to give up on it.

When I told my wife what I had done, she was furious.

She was so disappointed in me and angry that I had put my own interests ahead of hers.

We had a huge argument, and in the end, she decided to leave me.

She said she couldn’t be with someone who was so selfish and shortsighted.

I was devastated. I had ruined the biggest day of my life, and I had lost the woman I loved.

In the end, my new gaming desktop hadn’t been worth it. I had sacrificed my wedding day for nothing.

I still have the gaming desktop, but it’s not as much fun as it used to be.

Every time I look at it, I’m reminded of the mistake I made and the pain I caused.

I wish I had done things differently, but it’s too late now. All I can do is try to move on and learn from my mistake.