Is it common for boomers to have educational bias, even for their own children?

For context, I have an older sister that went to a local university, got an above-average GPA for a STEM degree and have a banking job.

Meanwhile, I am just a diploma grad with lousy GPA. She has her own room due to her being the only child of her gender.

Meanwhile I have to “share” a room with my older brother. I use apostrophe on the word “share” because that was the original arrangement with my parents before moving in but in the end, my room only contains my clothes.

My stuff is on a computer desk in the living room and I sleep in the living room too.

During the CNY spring cleaning, my mum made a huge fuss about how my area in the living room was messy even though all I have was a computer desk to put my stuff.

My dad saw that I had a bunch of books on my table and he passed a comment saying “Why does he need so many books? Why is he trying to act like an university student?”

I felt that this is really uncalled for as my sis has been a bookworm her whole life and she has been constantly buying books.

She never gets shit for having many books and having a messy room. She has so many books to the point where her shelf is full and her study desk was piled up with books too.

She even had to come out to work on the dining table when she WFH. To be exact, I only had about 12 books on my table. The difference in treatment really made me feel like shit.

So I just want to know, is it common for boomers to treat people differently based on their educational background even on their own children, or is it just my parents?

Anyone dislike driving and started liking public transport more after owning a car?

As per title, before buying a car, I thought driving will be great comparing the time saved on google maps.

Now I find driving an absolute chore, in particular during peak hours. There are almost no time savings since I stay next to the MRT station, the little time saved from driving is spent parking.

There are also added risks (to the car, caught in traffic) and costs involved with driving and most of the time, and I will prefer to simply transfer these risks to SMRT.

I can even get some rest or work done on the train. I appreciate our public transport even more and love taking the train now. Is it weird that I own a car but would rather take public transport instead??

Disclaimer: I am fully aware of the benefits of the car in other situations like off peak, heavy loads, elderly, ulu places etc.

I’m referring to cases whereby the difference between driving and taking public transport is about 15 minutes or less and you are just transporting yourself from point A to point B.

Netizens’ comments

1. Let me guess, you also have to become the driver and drive everyone else in the family to their errands throughout the day
2. I gave up my car after I taught my kid to take train and bus by herself. Really didn’t enjoy driving here at all. I like to drive but totally put off by it here.
   During my regular medical checkup, the doc commented that my BP was very well controlled now. He asked what I did, I told him I gave up driving. He replied it was the best decision for my life!
   I have driven in other countries and yes, there are bad or ill-mannered drivers but generally it was pretty ok. But locally, OMG.
   I’m very thankful for our efficient and convenient bus/MRT network. Granted I live within walking distance to a station.
   Was thinking of learning to ride a bike but concerned about safety especially with the number of idiotic drivers here.

I was born with 2 sets of lady parts, this is what it looks like

Hi! I was born with complete uterus didelphys (there are many degrees of this mutation but I have the most severe).

I have two seperate genitals and each one has its own reproductive system that angles outwards towards each hip. On each one I have a cervix, uterus and only 1 ovary attached.

I was able to use one for work and keep one for my boyfriend. Haha it worked well for us, emotionally and physically made work a lot easier. It definitely had its advantages

Anyway since then Ive had 2 babies from my right side via c section, both babies extremely small.

I want another baby but we have to use my left side ive been told and unfortunately i dont come from this side often so im rethinking my decision! I ‘m now married though in an open relationship.

I drew a pic of it to make more sense Ive had a couple of people ask If i can do an AMA!

And yes this is 100% real I have a photo of both uteruses taken during my c section and have provided medical records. Theres also videos online. So clearly I cant lie about this.

Diagram of what it looks like:

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Medical records with legal name with held for privacy.

Graphic image of c-section (viewer discretion is advised)

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My dad has been sleeping with my mom’s sister. And I’ve been keeping it from her for 9 years.

my mom and dad’s relationship was already very strained this wasn’t the first time he cheated. He had cheated on her previously with a mutual friend of her’s and I saw how much that broke her. She was crying constantly.

But she stayed strong for me and never cried in front of me. At this time they were having one of their little fights so my mom had left to my grandmas house and told me dad to tell her when I got home so she could come and get me. At this time I was about 8 years old.

I walked home, everything seemed normal, went to my bedroom and saw my dad on top of my mom’s sister. I don’t think it registered in my 8 year old brain that what my dad was doing was wrong, My dad told me that he was “helping her”. And of course naive and stupid I believed him and never told my mom.

They contained this affair and as their affair was continued my dad and my mom started getting better. I didn’t realize what my dad was doing was wrong until I caught him and her doing it again this time in the living room while my mom was sleeping.

I felt sick like genuinely i wanted cry i felt and still feel so guilty till this day. When I confronted my dad he told me that it was my fault he was cheating. I remember how much i cried when he told me that. I started distancing myself from my mom because I felt so guilty. She obviously noticed and tried to get closer with me but I refused,

I started growing a hatred for my dad. Seeing my mom kiss him made me sick. Everytime I would build up the courage to tell her i would get afraid like a coward. My dad and my mom are better now and don’t argue as much if not at all, but I’m sure my dad is still having an affair with her sister he’s just not as open about it now that I’m older.

I love my mom more than anything and anybody in this world and yet i couldn’t and still can’t build up the courage to tell her.

New girl (23F) is super hot but everything she says or does is no sense. I (21M) need advice

We met at university. I was looking for a friend with benefits or a simple hookup. She told me that she is not interested in that and only wants a serious relationship.

We had a date anyway. She was scrolling instagram most of the time and we had only a short and superficial conversation.

The date was really disappointing and she didn’t show any interest in me. I asked if she wanted that I drive her home. She told me ok but don’t expect anything, I only want a ride.

I drove her home, she was still on her phone. We arrived and she invited me over. I didn’t understand why, we were on date for hours and she was only on her phone and now she wants to talk.

Anyway I entered for a drink and after a very short talk she throw herself at me and we slept together and she was very passionate.

We talked a little after, then she told me rudely that I have to go. I was going out and she stopped me and we ended up in bed again..

The night was really good, so I asked her out the following days but she finds ridiculous excuses and always refuses.

Anyone was in a similar situation? What to do?

My parents insisted that I had to start paying rent and buying my own food when I became an adult. It was fine. I got a job and started paying them. And I bought food I liked.

My parents and brother would eat my food. I asked them to stop but they said any food in the house was to share. So I started using their staples and bought extra of the food they were eating.

This became a problem when they figured it out. Apparently my food was for sharing but not theirs.

So moved in with my boyfriend. It was stupid. We were way too young. But we survived. His parents helped to pay for a room that he rented. I worked to pay for all the extras we needed with me living there.

His parents knew I had moved in and said I would have to pay rent. They charged me $400 a month. My parents were charging me $800. So at least it was cheaper for me.

The few times I saw my parents they tried to convince me to come home. The one time I brought my boyfriend home they wouldn’t let us share a room. We ended up getting a hotel for the night and going back after one day.

I worked hard and helped my boyfriend with his schoolwork. When he graduated we got married and I went to school.

Now years later we have a nice home and are doing well and stable.

My parents have come out a few times to stay over and I charged them rent according to how long they stayed.

They got all mad that I was going to charge them. Our relationship has always been transactional so I didn’t see a problem.

They said I was an a-hole for making family pay rent. I reminded them that they started charging me rent and stealing my food when I was 17.

They ended up not coming over anymore.

My brother called me and said I was being a vindictive jerk and that he always let them stay with him for free.

My (F29) husband (M32) doesn’t help with household chores even though we both work full time jobs

My husband (M32)and I (F29) both work full time. He works in the morning and I work a 3rd shift at the hospital as a cleaner. He makes more money then me so I’m thinking maybe that’s why he can get away with it. I also help pay some of the bills as well. Which isn’t a problem. But I’m started to get mentally tired of doing all the house chores by myself.

I cook everyday except every other Friday. Which in my case, I’m a better cook and I’m able to cook earlier in the day so that dinner is ready for him. Plus I don’t mind cooking! I wash the dishes before I leave for work at 5:30pm so he doesn’t have to when he gets home from work. I do all the laundry, vacuum, mop, clean the bathroom and everything that needs to be done. They only thing I expect him to do while I go to work at night is give our daughter a bath, feed her and put her to bed. I spend most of the day cleaning and when I’m done I just want to sit for a few hours which I think is fine.

There’s been times where he would get upset because it was a sock on the floor or I left my coffee cup on the table and he’ll tell me “I shouldn’t have to do anything when I get home”. It could be the smallest things. I pick up throughout the day and if you have a child you know how random things just pop up throughout the house. I do everything so when he gets home he can relax and not do anything. But no matter what I do he still nitpicks at things. He looks for things that I didn’t do instead of looking at what I have done. I don’t need a reward but I’m tired of feeling alone in all of this.

I’m just having a hard time understanding that even though I work just as much as him that I’m still doing all of the house chores. I don’t get as much sleep either. I get home at 2am and would have to wake back up around 6am to tend to our child. She goes to school 3 times a week for a few hours which helps me out a lot but I’m still tired throughout the day. I feel guilty when I sit on the couch and then I become overwhelmed because I have so much to do. He offers to help sometimes but he’ll pick something quick and easy to do like wiping the table down.

I have communicated this to him but it never goes anywhere because he thinks I’m just whining