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WIFE BARGES INTO TOILET WHEN HUSBAND INSIDE, MAN ASKS IS PRIVACY “SACRIFICED” AFTER MARRIAGE

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My wife (20f) doesn’t respect my(21M) privacy. Is that something one sacrifices when getting married?

Told my wife numerous times to please knock when I’m using the toilet. She barged in and wouldn’t stop pushing on the door until I forced it to close.

The door hit her on the face and now I’m not sure if I’m at fault.

I feel like I should still have my privacy but is that a sacrifice that comes along with marriage?

We’ve been together 3 years now. At the beginning of our relationship, I had told her to please knock when I’m using the toilet since she had barged in while I was taking a shower.

She’s done it a few times since then and I’ve told her not to every single time. Yesterday, I was standing in the toilet waiting for the water to warm up when she pushed open the door.

I had pushed on the door and asked her to wait and she proceeded to yell at me and push her body weight against the door. I asked her to wait and she still kept pushing.

Here’s where I went wrong, I got so pissed off that I ended up pushing the door closed and it hit her in the face.

She’s not hurt or anything but she’s constantly bringing up. She doesn’t understand why the toilet is a big deal and truthfully it’s not.

She’s knocked before and I let her in. I’ve never not let her in as long as she knocks.

But it was the way she reacted. Pushing on the door, saying I hit her in the face and that she did absolutely nothing wrong.

She cries and tells me she feels like ending it all. She calls me crazy and stupid and I just need to know if I am. Are my feelings valid? What do I do? I really like my privacy but she doesn’t see it as a big deal.

MAN WANTS TO RENOUNCE PRC CITIZENSHIP TO JOIN S’PORE, BUT CHINA EMBASSY “AFK” & NO ANSWER

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Please Help me regarding Chinese Citizenship Renunciation (Turning 21 this Apr)
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Context: 20 YO turning 21 YO this April. Was born in China, and came to Singapore when I was a baby. Have to take the Oath this Apr and submit

  1. Identity Card
    2) Original Singapore Citizenship Certificate
    3) Foreign Citizenship Renunciation Certificate

I have called ICA and they told me that I am dual citizen until I take the oath, and to come with those documents stated above.

I have all of them except the “Foreign Citizenship Renunciation Certificate”, and I asked the ICA how to get that. They told me to go to the Chinese Embassy to settle, but I went to their website and there wasn’t really anything useful at all. Not even documents to bring etc.

I’ve searched google but what came out was some Hong Kong website instead, and I have checked Reddit, and there isn’t exactly a clear list of documents to bring there, and which one to go (apparently there are 2??)

The phone number also does not work, no one picks up at all. I even went to dig all the other numbers, but none worked and there isn’t even a “call queue”. Once you call and put English/Chinse + Purpose, they just straight up tell you the call is busy, please call again later and hang up?!?! dafaq…

Can I check other than my Chinese Passport from 2004, Chinese Birth Certificate, Singapore Birth certificate and NRIC, what else do I need to bring? I am also printing 2 copies of each document above just in case (in B&W), not sure if it’s needed.

Do I have to bring my mother’s certificate of renunciation etc?

Did anyone only recently denounce their citizenship recently, and is able to share? I will really appreciate it a lot.

Netizen’s comments

Not a Chinese citizen but like what ICA said, you should visit the Chinese Embassy to declare that you wish to renounce the Chinese citizenship. Given the sensitivity of China internal politics now, I would expect such information will be obscure online.

Just walk into PRC Embassy, tell the guard / reception that you would like to renounce Chinese citizenship.

You likely will need to bring:

a) Singapore NRIC

b) Letter from ICA that demand u renounce

c) PRC Chinese birth certificate / passport / identity card

It should be a straightforward process. At the end of it, they should (or u demand) a documentation proof that you are no longer a PRC citizen… and you can bring that proof to ICA.

HONG KONG’S AIRLINE CARRIERS TO GET 500K TICKETS TO GIVE FREE TO TOURISTS

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According to an article by Today, Hong Kong’s (HK) leader, John Lee announced a campaign today (2 Feb) which includes 500,000 free flights into HK.

This move comes in hopes of attracting visitors, businesses and investors to come back to HK.

HK previously had stern restrictions because of the Covid-19 pandemic.

Launched ‘Hello Hong Kong’ campaign

Dancers and flashing neon lights paraded at HK’s main convention centre, just beside HK’s famous harbour.

A backdrop was also seen carrying the campaign’s slogan in different languages such as Russian and Spanish.

Spoke at the campaign

Speaking in English, Lee said that the ‘Hello HK’ campaign would broadcast to the world that HK is open and tourism has resumed.

He also said that the campaign aims to help boost businesses and investments in HK.

Previously closed borders in line with China

HK had previously for the past three years mostly closed its borders in line with China’s zero Covid policy, but had relaxed its rules around the middle of the year 2022.

Most of the rules were then dropped in December but mask wearing still remains mandatory other than when exercising and apart from this, students were required to take daily antigen rapid tests (ART).

The quota system for travelers between HK and China still remains till date, and the three border checkpoints between HK and China still remained closed.

HK carriers will get tickets to distribute to passengers

Officials had also said that airline carriers in HK, namely Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Express and Hong Kong Air will get free flight tickets to distribute out to passengers overseas for a period of up to six month.

This would start on 1 March 2022.

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CONDO SECURITY MAKING LIFE HARD FOR PR RESIDENT, ASKS THEM “WHAT BUSINESS YOU HAVE MOVING HERE!”

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My flatmate and I (both Indian, female, PRs, working professionals) moved into a condo in central Singapore earlier this week. The management and security have taken it upon themselves to make life incredibly difficult for us. I’m genuinely wondering whether these are new condo rules in general or whether

1 — anyone visiting the unit, including food delivery agents, can’t just call our unit for us to buzz them in. They need to sign in at security, write their phone numbers and NRIC before they can be allowed to punch in the unit number at the intercom. Two friends visited us to give us some food, and they were also asked to sign in and give their NRIC details and phone number before being allowed to buzz in.

2 — during our move (the movers paid a hefty deposit plus we paid a non-refundable fee for lift padding, which is normal), we were given a time slot between 2-5pm, but the security removed the lift padding well before 5pm and without checking with us if any other deliveries were coming in. Then scolded us when we had other smaller deliveries coming in before 5pm.

3 — I had a small delivery this morning for a chest of drawers I bought from Carousell. (70cm L x 40cm D x 67cm H) and I was asked to pay a non-refundable deposit for lift padding as this is considered a bulky item. When I said it was just a single item, the building manager told me extremely rudely “You play by MY house rules, ok?” Similarly, my flatmate was scolded by the security for bringing in a chair.

4 — when entering or exiting the building we are constantly questioned where we are going, which unit are we in, etc. I understand we are new and they’re not familiar with us yet, but we have access cards that we’re using to get in and out. And constantly watching us. The interrogation seems so intense and making our move and stay in a rather beautiful apartment extremely unpleasant. And especially paying so much rent, the least you’d want is to be able to get in and out of your home feeling safe and peaceful.

5 — Speaking of access cards: we were asked to submit our NRIC to the management to link the access cards. Is this normal? I mean, none of this is, but I’ve been in Singapore 13 years and lived in condos all over the country and never faced this before. Feels like we’re being watched and it’s kind of creepy.

6 — The management and security have just been extremely rude to us and have yelled at us multiple times and said things like “what business do you have moving into this condo?” And “this is MY estate not anyone can just come here” etc. I asked a neighbor in the lift today if the management is strict here and she said “no it’s pretty easy going, you can do what you want”. We are in half a mind of moving out already (we’ve barely finished unpacking 😩).

We genuinely don’t know what to do. The agent herself said that if it was her she wouldn’t live here, and our landlord apologized for the way we were treated. But they’re not the ones being subjected to the scrutiny every single day. Even other delivery agents have remarked at how harsh and strict the security and management have been. The management company has some really pathetic reviews on Google too.

This is definitely not how all condos are, cause we’ve lived and visited enough condos to know it’s not. But I’d like to hear if anyone has had similar experiences or that these kinds of rules are becoming more common these days.

Edited to add: I forgot to mention: Our lease began on 28 Jan. We weren’t allowed to come in with our suitcases over the weekend. Because we didn’t inform the management and security. What happens when someone travels out of the country and comes back with a suitcase??? What then??

WOMAN LETS DRUNK FRIEND “SLURP” ON HER NEH NEH POK, BUT NEXT DAY HE CAN’T REMEMBER

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I let my drunk friend suck on my chest and i dont think he remembers

Long story short, a few days ago my friend went out drinking and ended up drunk and texted me to ask if he could come over and use my toilet.

I let him in and he’s absolutely wasted so I made him tea and we sit on the sofa and watch TV. I notice the guy is rock hard down there but i didnt really think anything of it.

Until he leaned in closer and put his hands between my thighs. I told him not to do that and he said “I’m really sorry, I dont know what’s wrong with me. I always thought you were hot and I felt confident doing that”.

I told him it was ok because I knew he was drunk so I jokingly told him he could touch my chest instead if he wanted.

And he did. Started massaging them, kissing and finally just sucking on them like a baby for a good 20 minutes. He then fell asleep on the sofa and spent the night there. I went to my bed

I don’t drink so I dont know if alcohol can actually have that effect on you but the next day he told me he didnt even remember coming here but that he had a dream about me.

It’s been a few days and our relationship is the exact same, no weird vibes or anything. So I really do want to believe him but im not sure.

For the record, I am 22, have never dated, kissed or practically held hands with anyone ever so this was extremely out of character for me and surprising to say the least.

But I also cant stop thinking about it now because i really enjoyed it and idk if i should ever bring it up.

Netizens’ comments

If it was just something that happened in the moment and you don’t have feelings for the guy, you should probably leave it at that to keep your friendship from being awkward. A couple of times my drunk friend made me motorboat her bare tits while her husband cheered me on.

But if you do have feelings for this person and he isn’t already in a committed relationship, it might be good to give it some time to find out if your feelings are genuine and then maybe let that conversation happen organically if possible.

COUPLE FOUND OUT THEY BOTH KENA STD, GUY DIDN’T CHEAT BUT GF CLAIMS SHE’S FAITHFUL ALSO

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Had to do a health check-up on my nether region recently and part of it was to give a urine test for an STD. It came back positive.

Of course my girlfriend took a test as well. It also came back positive. We are both asymptomatic.

Here’s the thing; this shouldn’t be possible. We are both each other’s first partner (even first kiss). We’ve been together for 4 years.

I have never cheated and I’m 99.99% sure she’s never cheated either.

For one, she’s not socially active at all and extremely monogamous. But I also can’t imagine when she would have be able to cheat logistically since we spend almost every waking hour together and have been for the last 4 years.

None of us have ever used a second hand adult toy. None of us has gotten a blood transfusion.

Given the situation it should be impossible for us to contract Chlamydia, but somehow we did.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? Did you ever figure out how you contracted it?

Netizens’ comments

  1. I look forward to the big reveal.
  2. Someone is lying here. Either OP or the girlfriend
  3. Did either of you receive oral ? You might have been a virgin but may have done some other stuff with other people. Somebody somewhere is lying (most likely option). 
  4. Logically it points to one of two things, if you’re telling the truth about never having cheated.
    -You were not in fact her first and she’s been asymptomatic the entire 4 years
    -She’s cheated on you
    I’m inclined to go with option 1. If you’re confident she hasn’t cheated, are you confident she didn’t lie about being a virgin to make herself seem more appealing to you (another virgin at the time)?
    Someone’s been deceptive somewhere down the line. If it wasn’t you, it was her.
  5. Chlamydia isn’t spread through casual contact, so you CAN’T get chlamydia from sharing food or drinks, kissing, hugging, holding hands, coughing, sneezing, or sitting on the toilet.
    Sometime the answer is really just that simple. If its still positive than time to re evaluate you relationship

GIRL LIKES WEARING SHIRTS WITH HOLES IN THEM, EXPOSING HER “WALNUTS” FOR “FASHION”

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I (21M) feel uncomfortable with how my partner (21F) dresses

Iv been dating my partner for about a year and a half, I consider her the love of my life. Our relationship has been filled with love and support and the communication has always been great.

Recently however, Iv found it hard to express how her fashion choices make me feel and I’m worried I’ll come off as controlling and possessive if I do try to explain my thoughts. It’s important to note she’s had a constrictive ex in the past and is very defensive (rightfully) when it comes to controlling behaviour.

She has never been one to wear a bra, this is her choice and I completely understand this and would never force her to wear something she doesn’t want too. Recently she’s been buying and wearing tops that are sheer and crochet tops that have holes scattered, in both cases making her nips visible. For the last two months it’s been only a mix of these types of shirts when we go out, at partys, and so on.

I still find it hard to put into words why it bothers me so much even while I question it daily, but it does Sometimes get to me. I find that it hurts like she’s cheating or breaking a big part of my trust. It really shakes me that any person can see such a personal part of her on a whim and I find myself avoiding making group plans with friends and her to avoid that.

She is aware that how she dresses makes me uncomfortable as in the past Iv brought it up once. She got very emotional and I didn’t get to express my feelings on it before she shut down the conversation.

This time I plan on trying to get my thoughts out in a clear manner and venting it all. After I would ask her to possibly wear bras with these types of tops, offering to buy her nips covers or better bras, and trying to find the words to make my point seem more personal then controlling but I’m still lost on how I will. My worst fear is that this will be something that ends the relationship like a incompatibility issue. I love her so much and our relationship means so much for then what we wear, I don’t want too regret anything but I just feel lost with my emotions.

I apologize for the rant Iv just needed to write it all down, I’d appreciate any opinions on how I should best move forward with this as I’m pretty anxious about it all.

INSURANCE AGENT EXPOSES INDUSTRY & THE “SINISTER” THINGS AGENTS DO TO EARN YOUR MONEY

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Truths behind this industry

Giving you a bit of context, I was in this industry for 6 years, got 4x MDRT, in my late 20s starting a family, due in 3 months. I’ve left this industry because of it’s unscrupulous ways and I am guilty of carrying out these activities. I am here to expose once and for all what they’re all about. If you can’t already guess what industry I’m in, then you’re safe, I guess. For now.

I will have no structure to what I’m going to post, I have not thought of it yet. I’m just going to post whatever that comes to mind.

The sickening part about this industry is not the hard-selling, it’s not the unethical “ghosting” of clients when it comes to claims as you all would imagine. No, it’s much more sinister than that. And it goes all the way to how we approach you. You see, cold calling in itself is annoying, not so much unethical. Just put down the phone, there’s nothing wrong with that. But the sinister thing is how they make their move on you, your closed ones and your families.

Ask around, anybody who worked in this line before will have an introductory line as to why they joined the industry. Usually somewhere along the lines of “I want to help my friends and family because I’ve seen the tragic circumstance of xxx happening to yyy”. That is false. I believe 1% of agents out there truly joined the industry because of this. But the remaining 99% did not. Let me tell you why.

Recruitment events comes in many forms. Dog gathering, drinks in a bar, networking sessions, booking the whole golf course / bowling alley. So on and so forth. Starts off as a harmless invitation, “hey, our company has this event. Come join us, it’s free and just come chill.” Well, it’s true. But then you’ll be in their web once you attend these events. Or they could be honest and say “Join us to see if this is something that is for you.”. Well, that’s fair. But what goes down in these events is that they will ask you a series of difficult questions and tap onto your deepest desires. Once they’ve done that, they lure you in with the prospect of money by telling you how we earn money. But what’s left out is how easy it is to achieve that realistically. They’ll simplify it, they’ll dumb it down, they’ll downplay the difficulty. Now, all these people who then want to join is purely based on money. Why would they then change their tunes? Think about it.

Then there’s ways they pretend they truly care about you. For example, policy summaries. Of course, is it important for you. Sure. I truly believe having a policy summary where you can have one glance at all your policies in a word document or excel sheet is very convenient. But guess what’s the real goal? They take a look at what you have, “identify shortfalls”, and tell you that you need a 300k policy in place. Newsflash – you don’t. The truth is, we can honestly sell you the cheapest plan, let’s say a 100k coverage. If you have enough coverage already, additional coverage won’t hurt. And if you don’t have coverage, an additional 100k won’t hurt. But the truth is without policy summaries, we cannot upsell you anymore than what you need.

Here’s another sinister thing about policy summaries. Some of you might have calls from your agent saying they need to deliver policy details to you. Guess what, you already have it in your email. They only want to deliver it to you, so they can enter your place, and whoever that is around, they’ll try to hook them in, sit down at the table, and deliver the final question – “Do you have something like that as well? I can do it for you too.” And then your sister or brother or mother or father, whoever that is sitting there, is hooked. And they will try to upsell whoever that is. You really think deep down in our hearts, we care about whether your brother has an updated policy summary? We truly don’t.

A few more creative ways they can do this – asking you out for meals or drinks. Asking you updates on life, catch up. Very harmless meet ups. No presentations whatsoever. Then they try to ask you questions on your life. Are you promoted? Did your pay increase? What updates do you have on in your life? Oh, you’re recently promoted with a pay raise. Maybe I can upsell you more since “your financial situation has changed.” Oh you’re buying a house. Maybe I can upsell you more too because “your current life goals have changed.” Tap on their worries. How are you going to afford the mortgage if you get cancer?

Getting random replies on Instagram from instagram stories? Here’s another newsflash. They don’t care which grooming centre you bring your dog to. In another 4-5 replies and interactions, they’ll pop the question to ask you for coffee or a meal.

Here’s another one. Free webinars, books, crash courses, etc. Limited slots only! Limited copies, reserve now! No. There’re no limited slots. It’s a ploy to create a sense of urgency. These webinars they run contain no real useful information. Ask any agents about investments. I’ll bet my savings that the only real advice they can give is DCA and invest in the long term. It’s nothing Google can’t give you. Invest in S&P and you’ll get better results. 100% of the time. Ask them to deep dive into a stock for you. Ask them about the fundamentals, ask them to explain simple things like bull flag or bearish trend and how to maybe identify them. They will not be able to tell you such information 95% of the time. Ask them on the spot and not give them time to study. Yet we call ourselves wealth managers.

I am leaving this industry because I cannot in good conscience continue to do all these and set such an example for my newborn coming my way and let him see that this is how his father conducts business. I’ll start somewhere afresh in engineering for my degree is still relevant. But here’s my warning to all of you. I will not be replying to this thread anymore as I do not wish to be exposed. Take this information as you will.

MAN HAS TWO CLUBBING MODES, 11PM HUNT FOR ‘CHAI’, 2AM ‘PIG’ ALSO OKAY

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Back in the day, I always head out to Zouk when it was still at Jiak Kim Street for a night of drinking and clubbing with a few of my male buddies.

I remember it was a Friday that night and I was in the mood for some clubbing, so I got dressed up in my best clothes and headed out to Zouk.

The music was thumping, the lights were flashing, and the drinks were flowing. I was feeling good and ready to have a good time.

I started to scope out the scene, looking for some potential targets.

However, I was particular about the girls I was looking for, or at least I would try to snag the best available girl which I could get at the club.

My criteria for girls that I hunt

They had to be attractive and have a good vibe, it doesn’t matter if they would eventually leave the club with me to go ‘piak piak’ as long as they met the above criteria.

What we usually do

We usually pre-drink a little bit outside and only go in at 11pm, when there were more crowd filling up the dancefloor.

I was searching for the right girl, one who fitted my criteria, the moment I stepped into the club.

I had been looking for some time now and I was starting to get a little frustrated. I wanted someone to dance with, and someone to just enjoy the night with.

Then, at 11:30pm, I finally found someone who fit the bill. She was beautiful, had great energy, and seemed like she was looking for a good time.

We started talking and I could tell that she was interested in me as well. We went out onto the dance floor and started to get lost in the music.

We made out a little and was flirting with each other all the way and I was having a great time and I could tell she was too.

At 2am, the club was starting to wind down and even though the girl which I found was interested in me, she did not want to go back with me as she had to send a drunk friend back.

That was when I realised I had a 2am mode

After the girl left, I felt that I was left ‘hanging’ because we had so much physical contact with each other but it just ended abruptly.

I began to search for another target but however, the options were limited as the crowd was also dying down.

I could not find someone who fitted my criteria and was thinking if I should go back already too when suddenly, a rather plus sized girl came over and approached me.

She introduced herself and started talking to me and said that she finds me cute and charming.

Being already left ‘hanging’ by the first girl, I decided to take the chance and go for this plus sized girl because I knew that I could definitely ‘makan’ her.

It is just like the hokkien saying where they say ‘Prawns are fine when there is no fish’.

After about a few minutes of flirting with her, I took a leap of faith and asked her if she wanted to go back with me.

We went to a budget hotel eventually and did the deed.

My subsequent clubbing experiences were pretty much similar to this, if I could not go back with a prettier girl which I hunted at 11pm and was left ‘hanging’ in the club, I would stay behind and take anyone that comes along.

That is when I know I have a 11pm mode and 2am mode.

JB GIRL SAYS SHE NEVER WANT A M’SIAN GUY AGAIN AFTER DATING S’POREAN GUYS

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I’m a Malaysian girl from Johor and I have been single for a while now. I’ve dated Malaysian guys but none of them have been able to match up to the standards of the Singaporean guys I’ve been with.

My experience with Malaysian guys has been nothing short of disappointing.

Malaysian guys are often too lazy and unambitious, and it’s almost like they expect the world to be handed to them on a silver platter. They’re also incredibly possessive and overprotective, which can be suffocating at times.

On the other hand, Singaporean guys are more hardworking and more gentle. They are willing to put in the effort to make things work and they are much more understanding and accommodating when it comes to relationships.

The Singaporean guys I’ve been with also have a better sense of responsibility and financial management. They’re able to plan ahead and they’re not afraid to take risks in order to accomplish their goals. This is in stark contrast to the Malaysian guys who are more content to just drift along without any real direction or motivation.

Of course, Singaporean guys do have some weaknesses. They can be a bit too modern and less traditional and conservative at times and they’re not as sociable as Malaysian guys. But I can live with that because I know that these weaknesses are outweighed by their strengths.

At the end of the day, Singaporean guys are ten times more reliable than Malaysian guys and that’s what matters most to me.

I know I can count on them to be there for me when I need them and that’s why I’m never going to date a Malaysian guy again.