I’m an attractive guy who goes for fat/unattractive women because they give me a major ego boost.

I know this makes me a d!ck. It’s come to the point where I’m not even attracted to women “on my level” because going below it is so much fun.

These women would do anything for me. A lot of them were in relationships and they cheated on their boyfriends with an almost unnerving lack of hesitation.

Some had friends who were in love with me and betrayed them to spend an hour in bed with me. A lot of the ones in school skipped classes/bailed out on their homework just to hang out with me.

They all let me in unprotected (some even begged me NOT to use a condom).

They buy me stuff, they cook big meals, they give me random bjs. Sometimes I take it too far and treat them kinda bad just to see what they’d do and it literally only makes them treat me even better.

They all know that I’m seeing other girls and it doesn’t turn them off. In fact, it just makes them want to be the best and “win”.

Some of them get sick of my sh*t and cut me off, only to hit me up again a day or two later. It’s thrilling.

It was quite an unexpected conversation that I had with my friend recently.

He was telling me that he should own a car no matter how poor he was. At first, I thought he was joking, but he was serious. I could tell from the look in his eyes and the tone of his voice that he was resolute about this.

My friend had grown up in a low-income family and always dreamed of owning a car.

His parents had never allowed him to do so, as they believed it was too expensive and impractical. But the ambition to own a car never left him, and he had made it his life’s goal to achieve it.

At first, I thought his ambition was ridiculous and that he should focus on more practical goals. But then I started to understand why he was so intent on achieving this goal. He wanted to prove to himself and to everyone around him that he was capable of achieving something despite his financial circumstances.

So, my friend started taking on extra shifts at work to save up for his dream car. He also started eating more basic meals like rice with soya sauce to save money. It was clear that he was sacrificing a lot to achieve his goal.

The more I saw him sacrifice for his goal, the more I started to admire him.

But I found out his reason to get a car is to ‘get girls’

He told me that he had recently bought a car, and he was really proud of it. It was a nice car, but I was a little surprised to hear why he bought it. According to him, he bought it to “get girls”. He was hoping that a nice car would help him attract women, and he was willing to spend the money to make it happen.

At first, I thought this was a bad idea. I mean, sure, a nice car can help you look good, but it’s not going to guarantee you a date. You still have to be able to hold a conversation, be interesting, and be a good person. Plus, buying a car is a big financial decision, and it’s not something you should take lightly.

Unfortunately, my friend didn’t think too much about the financial implications of his decision. He bought the car on a whim, and he immediately regretted it. The car was costing him a lot of money. He had to pay for insurance, gas, and maintenance costs. He was also worried about the depreciation of the car’s value, which is something he hadn’t considered before.

It was clear that my friend had made a poor financial decision. He had bought the car in the hopes of impressing women, but the costs of owning it were outweighing the benefits. Not only was he paying a lot of money for the car, but he was also spending his time and energy worrying about it.

To the bro who is about to propose and found out he was lid to.

I understand how you feel. Been there. Not a pleasant feeling and never ends well if you talk about it. Personally, for me, I voiced out and things ended (but I wasn’t at the proposal stage yet but we were invested about 3 years as well).

I think what you need to do is evaluate if this is something you can get over (it’s gonna be so damn hard trust me) or is your love for her worth suffering on the inside for the next 30++ years. Sure the thought may disappear every now and then but when it resurfaces unexpectedly – what is your reaction? If you think you can deal with dying on the inside then by all means propose to her.

Trust me this will almost certainly end up in a break up if you do voice it out. I know the virg or whatever is not an issue to you but the lying is. Girls keep such info for a lot of different reasons like image, embarrassment, religion, fear of judgment, etc etc. You WILL NEVER find out the real reason because even if you confront her and she tells you the truth – can you really accept it and trust her? I don’t think so. Good luck and all the best bro.

Here are what netizens think:

• Maybe u can ask her first if theres anything she want to talk to u about. Cuz sometimes , if u dont ask, she may took it as u dont need to know since its her past. But dont be surprised if one day if u got married, suddenly she confess to you about it. U will be stunned like vegetable

• I will advocate about speaking up and being upfront about it. f it break up, that meant that things are never meant to be. There will always be a thorn in the heart. If the basic trust is not there, it will be hard to substain a relationship too.

• It is better to have a short term heart pain rather than a long term internal heart and mind injury.

I always hear nasty stories of her Thai wives are not the most faithful people but it had happened to me.

We had been married for over 5 years, and I thought we had a happy and fulfilling relationship. But one day, everything changed.

I was at work when my wife asked me to give her some money to buy diapers. I trusted her and she had access to my spare account which I let her use for buying daily necessities.

However, There was a $900 Paylah transaction from the account, and it was sent to a bank in Thailand. I was confused – why would my wife send money to Thailand without telling me?

I called her right away. She hesitated at first, but eventually, she told me the truth. She said that she needed the money to buy diapers for our baby, but instead, she had sent it to her lover in Thailand.

I was shocked and devastated. I couldn’t believe that the woman I loved and had built a life with would betray me like this. I didn’t know what to do, and I didn’t know if I could forgive her.

But despite my pain and anger, I knew that I had to try to work things out. We had a child together, and I didn’t want our marriage to end because of one mistake. So I sat down with my wife and we talked about what had happened.

She apologized profusely, and she begged for my forgiveness. She said that she loved me and our child, and that she had made a huge mistake. She promised to end things with her lover and focus on our marriage.

I was hesitant at first, but eventually, I agreed to give her another chance. It wasn’t easy, and there were times when I wanted to give up. But I loved her, and I wanted to make things work.

Over time, things started to get better. My wife proved to me that she was serious about changing, and I started to trust her again.

But deep down the trust has been broken and I do not know what to do.

I think if we dragged this any longer it will become a divorce but what about our baby?

 Idk if I want to marry my boyfriend

My bf and I have been together for about three years. We officially became a couple after getting to know each other for about a month and I feel that it was a little too fast, but now I’m 3 years in and talking about marriage.

I love him a lot, that I know for sure. But I can’t help but wonder if he is the one for me. Yet, I can’t bring myself to break up with him because we’ve got so much together now and his family literally treats me as a part of them already.

One of my concerns is the fact that I am not S-ually attracted to him. I fantasise over other guys (I do watch porn, and I think it’s fine for girls to watch? I mean, if he can why can’t I?) but he doesn’t turn me on and I don’t enjoy having S with him. However, I love cuddling with him, spending hours chatting, watching dramas, hanging out, or even just lying next to him holding his hand. I just don’t want to have S with him. Is there a problem with me? I love S but I just can’t bring myself to do it with him… This is why I’m wondering if he is the guy I should marry.

Another thing is, I no longer feel a spark with him like when we first started dating. When he used to touch me or kiss me my heart would skip a beat, but now it feels like something we just do and I don’t feel anything. I only love cuddling with him and that’s the only time I feel the most – security, comfort, love and all.

Apart from S-lly compatibility, everything else is fine. We don’t fight, we’re like an old married couple who spends time engaging in activities together, exercising and all, is this normal?

Should a relationship be entirely comfortable or should it also make me feel excited and make my heart skip a beat all the time?

I don’t think another guy can make me feel as secure, as safe and as comfortable.

For context I F(39) have two vehicles at the moment, a coupe and a motorcycle.

I got my car back in 2020 when I bought it from my grandparents via a loan I took out in my name.

Ever since I got my car, it was kind of an understanding that my mom F(43) may ask to use it once in a while. She already has a vehicles of her own. It doesn’t bother me a lot since my car isn’t a newer model and it is my first car so mistakes have been made. Well, my loan will be paid off on the car next valentine, and I am looking to get an SUV.

My reasons are that by next valentine both of our dogs will be very big size so it will be nice with how much we take them to the dog park. Here is where I think I might be the a-hole.

My mom has helped me with the loan at some point. I told her since she uses my car just as much as I do, whether it is to take care of the dogs, just drive it daily, or take it to Johor a road trip with her friend. Then I want her to put money towards it.

I broke up (not amicable) with this lady quite a while ago in Thailand, this was fairly recent. I heard from her about how black magic was quite rampant and simple to do (just pay someone to do it).

She had a pretty vindictive personality, which I learnt over the course of our relationship.

Shortly after the breakup, my mother, who is a devout buddhist of over 3 decades, said that she saw alot of “dirty things / energies” following me back home. She immediately took me to a Buddhist Monk. She did not know of the breakup.

I took refuge and started reciting mantras daily. Everything was fine, the “dirty things” were no longer there.

However, I had stopped reciting mantras daily, and that feeling of unsafeness that I felt before is suddenly creeping over me, coupled with a ton of bad luck. Everything I touch, fails miserably.

Now, maybe it’s all a coincidence, and maybe it’s all in my heads, but just for argument’s sake, if I were indeed cursed again due to absence of Buddhist practice, what can I do?

Thank you

Here are what netizens think:

• Practice the dharma, develop love and compassion, this is the best kind of protection

• I don’t doubt there’s such a thing as bad mojo, but I read somewhere that in countries where voodoo, witchcraft, etc. are taken for granted, people who believe they’ve been cursed can become very ill, from the stress and anxiety, and the only way modern medical doctors have found to cure them is by staging an elaborate ritual of their own, and then declaring the curse to be lifted. After that, the patient is fine.

• You have options depending on time and money. Practicing Bodhicitta is free, but you will need time to develop it and understand it’s application. You can learn tantric activities, but you will need time to find a guru and get all the teaching and practice experience. This will also cost money. Or you can hire a tantric to do activities for you, which obviously costs money.