As I lay in bed with my husband, I could feel the tension building between us. We had been trying to have S all night, but no matter what we did, it just wasn’t happening.

“Maybe we need some lubricant,” I suggested, hoping to break the tension.

My husband let out a frustrated sigh and rolled his eyes. “We don’t have any, and I’m too lazy to go buy some,”.

I felt a surge of anger and disappointment. Was he really so unwilling to put in the effort to make our S life better?

“Fine,” I snapped. “What do you suggest we do then?”

My husband didn’t answer right away. He seemed to be thinking, his brow furrowed in concentration. Finally, he spoke.

“I know this might sound crazy, but what if we use engine oil instead?” he said, a look of desperation on his face.

I was stunned. Using engine oil as a lubricant was a terrible idea. It was dangerous and could cause serious damage to our bodies.

“Are you insane?” I shouted, jumping out of bed. “We can’t use engine oil as lubricant! It’s not safe!”

He then replied: “How about vegetable oil?”.

My husband tried to defend himself, but I wasn’t having any of it. I was furious that he would even suggest something so reckless and irresponsible.

“I’m sorry, okay?” he said, holding his hands up in surrender. “I didn’t mean to upset you. I was just trying to come up with a solution to our problem.”

I shook my head in disbelief. “You need to start taking our S life seriously,” I said, grabbing my robe and storming out of the room.

I spent the rest of the night on the couch, fuming over my husband’s careless suggestion. I couldn’t believe he would even consider using engine oil as a lubricant. It was just another example of how little he cared about our relationship and our intimacy.

The next day, I decided to take action. I went to the store and bought some lubricant, determined to never let our S life suffer again because of my husband’s laziness.

As I handed it to him, I looked him in the eye and said, “Never, ever suggest using engine oil as lubricant again. It’s dangerous and it’s not something we will ever do.”

My husband nodded, looking ashamed. “I’m sorry,” he said again. “I didn’t realize how serious this was.”

I could tell he was sincere, and I forgave him. But I also made it clear that our S life was important to me, and that I expected him to put in the effort to make it better.

From then on, we made sure to always have lubricant on hand, and our S life improved significantly. I was relieved and grateful that we had addressed the issue before it caused any real harm. And my husband learned a valuable lesson about the importance of taking our intimacy seriously.

Hi everyone,

I need some outside perspective on a situation with my sister. She recently got engaged and is planning a big, expensive wedding.

She’s asked me and our other siblings to contribute financially to the wedding, but I’ve refused. I don’t think it’s fair for me to have to pay for her wedding when I have my own financial responsibilities and goals.

My sister is furious with me and says I’m being selfish and unfair. She’s even threatening to cut me out of the wedding party if I don’t contribute. Our other siblings are siding with her, but I still don’t think I’m in the wrong.

What would you do in this situation? I want to support my sister, but I also don’t want to sacrifice my own financial stability for her wedding. What do you guys think?

Thanks for your input.

Netizens’ comments

• If sister is going to be irresponsible with money, it is ironic to the Nth degree that she would get pissed at someone who is responsible with money.
• Yeah, unless there is some serious missing information here (i.e. sister paid for his wedding/school fees/bail/medical bills/etc with the expectation of reciprocity), OP is in no way obligated to contribute to his sister’s wedding.
• this is ridiculous! Who plans a wedding and expects everyone else to pay for it.

My one and only experience with Tinder in my late 20’s. Matched with a girl in her late 30’s (am/was into that), chatted for awhile and seemed to hit it off.

Went for some drinks, then she proposed we go back to my place. She kept talking about how much she had enjoyed spending a few months in Europe recently.

I started with some light foreplay, but she was impatient and told me move things along. Then she just completely starfished.

Everyone is different, so I figured what I was doing must not have been working and kept trying to switch it up but she refused to switch positions and seemed completely disinterested in the activity.

After about 10 minutes she sighed and said, “I really miss European men”. Queue that ‘record scratch’ noise in my head.

I pulled out and asked her to get dressed, then she spent the next 10 minutes yelling at me…then freaked out the next day when I messaged her saying that I wasn’t interested in seeing her again.

Bullet dodged.

For a minute there, I forgot he has passed

For context: I lost my 40 year old brother suddenly to a heart attack a year and a half ago. He passed during the height of Covid and I haven’t seen him the year before he passed and wasn’t able to go back home for his funeral as I was overseas.

I woke up at 3:30 AM this morning feeling a smile on my face.

Remembering the dream I just had where I saw my late brother I kissed him on the cheek and asked him how are you? He leaned his head on my shoulder and said: “as long as I am here, I’m ok”.

It felt so real that for a moment, I forgot that he’s gone. I woke up happy and then the realization kicked in and my tears have been flowing since then.

I’m glad he paid a visit. I needed that.

Netizens’ comments

• I shed a few tears just reading this. I can’t even imagine what you mist be going through. All my condolences to you. I hope you’re doing okay ❤️
• I had a very similar experience a couple weeks ago with my little sister. She passed like 2 years ago when she was 16 and a couple weeks ago I dreamt I saw her and I asked her why we never talked anymore and she said “I moved away remember.” When I woke up it took like 5 minutes to remember why we actually don’t talk anymore. I’ve only dreamt of her once since she passed so this was a nice visit. I’m glad you could have that with your brother too.
• It’s the best and the worst with those visits. Also forgetting they are gone really is a slap in the face. I remember going “Oh I should call mom!” And then realizing she had been dead for 6 months.

hello people. Just a question. I am currently working. But i often fall sick.

Every other months, i will always get fever or other sickness. Just last month i got asthma attack at work. I was send to hospital.

This month yet again, i am down with asthma , fever and headache. This makes me take MC so frequently. My boss is so mad at me now. But i have MC as proved.

Do u think if i take mc frequently, will effect my job? Nobody wants to be sick. It’s just that my immune system is weak.

So every now and then i will fell ill. Right after i gotten covid, i fell sick so much often. I felt really bad.

Netizens’ comments

• While you are not a slave to your job, let’s not be naive that constant MC will not affect your job performance. Need to address the root cause of why you’re falling sick so often. Speak to a medical professional about it.
• yes, ur productivity assessed.
• there should be an underlying cause to what is causing you to be sick, maybe mold growth in your house/room/toilet which trigger asthma etc?
• The truth is, no one owes anyone a living. Sure you can take MC and your boss has the right to get mad whether if it is valid or not. You should consider switching to something that is WFH especially since it is trending so there are more opportunities to get in instead of when the hype dies down and with you falling sick so often, eventually breakdown at your current job.

I have been married to my husband a few years now and we have a toddler. I don’t know to call it a blessing or a curse that my husband has a high S drive.

The best thing is that his S drive only applies to me and not to any other girls.

So due to that, I would say our S life has been fantastic throughout. Sometimes in the day he would talk dirty to me, spank my butt and or give my breasts a squeeze when he walks by.

He is basically like a beast in heat everyday.

So the problem comes when our toddler is starting to understand and process things. My husband seems to not be able to control his urges and would still continue to talk dirty and spank my butt when our toddler is around.

As you know kids around this age, they do know what is right and what is wrong and would sometimes mirror what adults do.

As our toddler was sleeping with us in the same room, my husband would sometimes even tell me he wants S when our toddler is asleep. I felt the request was so ridiculous and there was once I was so angry with him that I told him to get out of the room and forced him to sleep on the living room for the night.

I feel that he still does not seem to have the maturity and the responsibility of being a father after 2 years.My fear is that he will attempt to get some ‘help’ outside if I continue to reject his needs. Yet I cant bring myself to let him continue with such nonsense when we have a toddler around that is of a very impressionable age. I cant imagine if the next time our toddler goes to preschool slapping other girls butts cos he seen it being done at home

Right now what I can only do is to promise him that we will deposit our toddler either at his parents or my parents house once per week and then we can have a few hours of alone time. At least then there is something for him to look forward to every week.

As a naive young man, I used to think that the whole world was as safe as Singapore.

I grew up in Singapore where crime is relatively low and the streets are generally safe to walk on.

So when I decided to travel to Bangkok for a vacation, I didn’t think much about personal safety.

But on the first day of my trip, I quickly realized that I was wrong. As I was walking through the busy streets of Bangkok, someone came up behind me and pickpocketed my wallet. I was shocked and frustrated, and I couldn’t believe that this could happen to me in a place like Bangkok.

Looking back, I realize that I made a mistake by assuming that every country is as safe as Singapore. While Singapore may have low crime rates, other countries may not be as safe. In fact, even within the same country, different cities and areas may have varying levels of safety.

So, what can you do to stay safe when travelling to a new place? Here are some tips:

1. Research the safety of the place you’re visiting. Before you travel, take some time to research the safety of the city or country you’re visiting. Look up crime rates and read up on any potential safety hazards. This will give you a better idea of what to expect and allow you to plan accordingly.
   
2. Be aware of your surroundings. When you’re out and about in a new place, it’s important to stay alert and aware of your surroundings. Keep an eye on your belongings and avoid carrying large amounts of cash or valuables. If you’re in a crowded area, be wary of pickpockets and other thieves.
   
3. Trust your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, trust your instincts and avoid the situation. If you’re unsure of where to go or what to do, don’t be afraid to ask for help.
   
4. Use common sense. Common sense goes a long way when it comes to personal safety. Avoid walking alone at night, especially in unfamiliar areas. Don’t accept rides from strangers or leave your drink unattended. These may seem like basic tips, but they can help keep you safe.
   
5. Consider travel insurance. While it may not prevent crime or accidents, travel insurance can help protect you in case something does happen. Many travel insurance policies cover medical expenses, lost or stolen belongings, and even emergency evacuations.

In the end, my experience in Bangkok taught me that the world is not as safe as Singapore. But by following these tips and using common sense, you can protect yourself and enjoy your travels.