For a minute there, I forgot he has passed

For context: I lost my 40 year old brother suddenly to a heart attack a year and a half ago. He passed during the height of Covid and I haven’t seen him the year before he passed and wasn’t able to go back home for his funeral as I was overseas.

I woke up at 3:30 AM this morning feeling a smile on my face.

Remembering the dream I just had where I saw my late brother I kissed him on the cheek and asked him how are you? He leaned his head on my shoulder and said: “as long as I am here, I’m ok”.

It felt so real that for a moment, I forgot that he’s gone. I woke up happy and then the realization kicked in and my tears have been flowing since then.

I’m glad he paid a visit. I needed that.

Netizens’ comments

• I shed a few tears just reading this. I can’t even imagine what you mist be going through. All my condolences to you. I hope you’re doing okay ❤️
• I had a very similar experience a couple weeks ago with my little sister. She passed like 2 years ago when she was 16 and a couple weeks ago I dreamt I saw her and I asked her why we never talked anymore and she said “I moved away remember.” When I woke up it took like 5 minutes to remember why we actually don’t talk anymore. I’ve only dreamt of her once since she passed so this was a nice visit. I’m glad you could have that with your brother too.
• It’s the best and the worst with those visits. Also forgetting they are gone really is a slap in the face. I remember going “Oh I should call mom!” And then realizing she had been dead for 6 months.

hello people. Just a question. I am currently working. But i often fall sick.

Every other months, i will always get fever or other sickness. Just last month i got asthma attack at work. I was send to hospital.

This month yet again, i am down with asthma , fever and headache. This makes me take MC so frequently. My boss is so mad at me now. But i have MC as proved.

Do u think if i take mc frequently, will effect my job? Nobody wants to be sick. It’s just that my immune system is weak.

So every now and then i will fell ill. Right after i gotten covid, i fell sick so much often. I felt really bad.

Netizens’ comments

• While you are not a slave to your job, let’s not be naive that constant MC will not affect your job performance. Need to address the root cause of why you’re falling sick so often. Speak to a medical professional about it.
• yes, ur productivity assessed.
• there should be an underlying cause to what is causing you to be sick, maybe mold growth in your house/room/toilet which trigger asthma etc?
• The truth is, no one owes anyone a living. Sure you can take MC and your boss has the right to get mad whether if it is valid or not. You should consider switching to something that is WFH especially since it is trending so there are more opportunities to get in instead of when the hype dies down and with you falling sick so often, eventually breakdown at your current job.

I have been married to my husband a few years now and we have a toddler. I don’t know to call it a blessing or a curse that my husband has a high S drive.

The best thing is that his S drive only applies to me and not to any other girls.

So due to that, I would say our S life has been fantastic throughout. Sometimes in the day he would talk dirty to me, spank my butt and or give my breasts a squeeze when he walks by.

He is basically like a beast in heat everyday.

So the problem comes when our toddler is starting to understand and process things. My husband seems to not be able to control his urges and would still continue to talk dirty and spank my butt when our toddler is around.

As you know kids around this age, they do know what is right and what is wrong and would sometimes mirror what adults do.

As our toddler was sleeping with us in the same room, my husband would sometimes even tell me he wants S when our toddler is asleep. I felt the request was so ridiculous and there was once I was so angry with him that I told him to get out of the room and forced him to sleep on the living room for the night.

I feel that he still does not seem to have the maturity and the responsibility of being a father after 2 years.My fear is that he will attempt to get some ‘help’ outside if I continue to reject his needs. Yet I cant bring myself to let him continue with such nonsense when we have a toddler around that is of a very impressionable age. I cant imagine if the next time our toddler goes to preschool slapping other girls butts cos he seen it being done at home

Right now what I can only do is to promise him that we will deposit our toddler either at his parents or my parents house once per week and then we can have a few hours of alone time. At least then there is something for him to look forward to every week.

As a naive young man, I used to think that the whole world was as safe as Singapore.

I grew up in Singapore where crime is relatively low and the streets are generally safe to walk on.

So when I decided to travel to Bangkok for a vacation, I didn’t think much about personal safety.

But on the first day of my trip, I quickly realized that I was wrong. As I was walking through the busy streets of Bangkok, someone came up behind me and pickpocketed my wallet. I was shocked and frustrated, and I couldn’t believe that this could happen to me in a place like Bangkok.

Looking back, I realize that I made a mistake by assuming that every country is as safe as Singapore. While Singapore may have low crime rates, other countries may not be as safe. In fact, even within the same country, different cities and areas may have varying levels of safety.

So, what can you do to stay safe when travelling to a new place? Here are some tips:

1. Research the safety of the place you’re visiting. Before you travel, take some time to research the safety of the city or country you’re visiting. Look up crime rates and read up on any potential safety hazards. This will give you a better idea of what to expect and allow you to plan accordingly.
   
2. Be aware of your surroundings. When you’re out and about in a new place, it’s important to stay alert and aware of your surroundings. Keep an eye on your belongings and avoid carrying large amounts of cash or valuables. If you’re in a crowded area, be wary of pickpockets and other thieves.
   
3. Trust your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, trust your instincts and avoid the situation. If you’re unsure of where to go or what to do, don’t be afraid to ask for help.
   
4. Use common sense. Common sense goes a long way when it comes to personal safety. Avoid walking alone at night, especially in unfamiliar areas. Don’t accept rides from strangers or leave your drink unattended. These may seem like basic tips, but they can help keep you safe.
   
5. Consider travel insurance. While it may not prevent crime or accidents, travel insurance can help protect you in case something does happen. Many travel insurance policies cover medical expenses, lost or stolen belongings, and even emergency evacuations.

In the end, my experience in Bangkok taught me that the world is not as safe as Singapore. But by following these tips and using common sense, you can protect yourself and enjoy your travels.

Dear OP of this story, same in Private Healthcare.

Unfortunately, it is the same in private healthcare (hospitals and clinics).

Seniors will never think about how they have been greenhorns before, having made the same mistakes and asked the same silly questions.

If you meet a nice senior or mentor at the workplace, show that you are a proactive learner and be appreciative for their guidance on top of their own duties.

If you meet those that are unwilling to train you, shows you attitude and tells you off, you need to toughen up yourself and tell yourself that your self-worth is not determined by what others comment about you.

You are enough. You are worth more than what others say. Work harder, study your notes and note down what you learn at work daily and make an effort to remember what you have been taught, show them your eagerness to learn and show them what you are capable of when you put in effort.

Be clear in your communication in the sense that you provide all the necessary information in order for your senior to check and provide you with an answer. They hate it when it’s generic especially when the case may not be the same for every patient or procedure.

Who knows, you may outshine them one day and become their reporting manager? This can happen in private specialist clinics, if you consider switching over from the public healthcare industry.

To all the lazy and/or mean seniors out there, Fengshui changes and every dog has its day.

Kthxbye.

My husband and I have been married for only 3 months now, and things have hit the fan ever since we came back from our honeymoon.