I am 25 (M). My highest qualification is a diploma. I currently serve in the force. Furthermore, I am not an officer so I don’t really earn that much. I just take home about 2.7K every month. I am content with the work I do but not so much about my pay and career progression this far.

I am left with about 3 years of minimum term service. Recently, I was informed that based on various requirements not made known to me, I do not qualify for a sponsorship in further studies even though I have a uni course placing. It’s really depressing as I always thought of myself being on the short end but this gets to me quite a bit. I have lost a lot of confidence in myself over the years.

Due to various developments and circumstances over the years, I don’t have any close friends. In fact, I don’t have any friends at all and it’s been like that for the past 5 and a 1/2 years.

I have never been able to really fit in and at work. I was not able to assimilate myself into any of the existing cliques. So this is the first advice I really need… I don’t really have anyone to do anything with.. What kind of meetup or interest groups are there? I am interested in sports and gaming, so maybe that helps?

Needless to say, my dating life has been really stale and disappointing. Mostly being very disappointed in myself as even when I do things right, even when I don’t make any big mistakes, even when I treat them right and cater to their emotional needs.. It always ends with something along lines of “Next pls”, “There are better options”, “You’re not an option”, “Just another poor guy”, “You’re an okay guy at best but nahhh”, “Not worth the time and investment”.

What’s your experience with dating apps and meeting others from those apps? I tried using them time and time again but I don’t really get any matches.. I do get the occasional match once every 2 weeks but I ‘ve seen someone else at my workplace who gets like 5 everyday, Idk how.. Maybe it’s the pics I use or I need to wear better clothes? Maybe it’s because he showcases his car? What’s your experience with these apps? Are there any other ways to meet potential partners? Perhaps through meetup or interest groups that I alr mentioned?

I’ve been thinking to myself that maybe doing some things solo might not be so bad afterall.. Like solo trips to other countries etc. Any suggestions on activities that are actually more fun to do alone rather than a group?

It more or less seems like I will be the type to live alone and die alone with many regrets.. For a long time, I thought that was okay but I don’t feel that way anymore. Any advice is much appreciated 🙂

If a girl is interested in you, she will never, and I mean, NEVER ask you up front whether you have a crush on her, if at all.

The one thing you must understand is that girls are never direct or straightforward with the guys they like. In your case, it is obvious that you have been showing her too many hints that you are crushing on her pretty bad.

And if she asks you the question, it just means that she has been suspecting this for a long time, and confirmed this with your confession. In my opinion, you have lost this game, and now your “crushing” fate is all up to her mercy. You fell right into her bait; she may now choose what to do with you however she wishes.

Even if she likes you back just a little bit, does not mean that she is willing to be tgt with you. Girls require a lot more than mere “crushes” to be in a relationship with someone.

Hell, even if a girl hates you to the core, she may still want to be together with you if you do the game right —> Now this is why a lot of girls end up with abusive boyfriends.

The number one rule in dating game is never, never ever confess your feeling to the opposite sex.

Whoever confess first, basically admit defeat and resigned their fate to the other’s hands. I can go on and on about what you can do, and should have done but anyway a lot of ppl are probably going disagree with me; besides, everyone has their own relationship journey. So I wish you luck with yours and take this post with a pinch of salt. Hopefully I am wrong and you will have closed the deal in the next few weeks. OR better, just move on and find a new target cuz this girl is just going to play the long game with you. It’s not worth the time. Singapore is small but not that small.

Tl;dr: gg bro.

Usually my time on the mrt is really unproblematic but for the past week I have been confronted by people twice.

First time is red line, old woman shout at me for pausing at the door bc she jam her toes into my heels. But then ppl were walking in oso so I stop cause I don’t wanna crash into them. She scolded me saying stop watching my phone She berated me all the while while I walk down the stairs (also need to mention that she berated me for my size as well, that hurt in particular cause I had just lost 1.7kg).

Next today I remove my mask when I exit the mrt station (in the same building, but passed the gantry and past a 7/11 alr, this is at paya lebar mrt btw if u are familiar with the layout). Then one guy shout at me to wear my mask. Like bruh I cannot even say anything back bc if I do,1)its disrespecting my elders and they wld become the victim, and 2) I wear uniform so they later complain to my school. Furthermore, I always worry that kaypoh ppl gonna complain, so I removed my mask after checking that at least 1 more person had removed theirs. Why he specifically target me instead of the 3 ppl infront of me sia

Its become increasingly annoying bc I am a non confrontational person so I dont talk back but then it also affects me for the whole day after, and today is bad considering that I’m writing my final a lvl ppr. Ik this is not an isolated incident bc students often talk about it on SGExams as well.

Like srsly, how do I deal with such ppl? Anyone got any experience? I oso cannot avoid mrt cause I not rich enough to buy car.

Why do I still miss him

I should classify him as a jerk.

Was in a serious and committed RS this guy for a few months and later found out that he cheated me with another girl.

We had a big fight over it and slowly we became only friend. We still meet occasionally as I still have feeling for him.

Few months later, I found out that he actually had a long term gf for many years, at least more than 5 years. So his gf was actually the big victim and she wasn’t aware about his cheating (must be very trust on him). He wasn’t rich but the gf was very rich.

He didn’t know that I found out bout his gf and I just cut him off after knowing it. We had zero contact.

One month passed now, why am I still miss him and feeling sad most of the time?

Here are what netizens think:

• Keep remind yourself of his bad traits like cheating on u. Forget the gd side n happy moments with him. U can forget him. Take care.

• Simple as that. 男人不坏，女人不爱

• In Cantonese you are defined as a Jin Gak, you like it when people treat you badly.

• Maybe u miss his Bah Tiao

• Why you say serious when it’s only ‘months’ ? Are that tik tok generation where anything more than 10min is considered too long a time span to be focused on

• and here i am completely loyal and truthful and faithful and sincere and genuine and yet… cant get a girlfriend.

Boyfriend finds me simple, and seems to resent me for it. We have been together for 4 years, both in our 20s.

Whenever we find, he tells me how simple-minded I am, that I have the palate of a dog, and he seems to resent me for it.

That I play other video games that he doesn’t play and have not the biggest interest in expanding much.
That I listen to basic/ main stream music and actually enjoying it instead of listening to underground artists.
That I prefer going to concerts once or twice a year instead of going to clubs several times a month.

He’s known my personality for years. He knows I’m happy the way I am (and it’s not like I completely shut down all suggestions, it’s just that sometimes we enjoy things differently).

But calling me simple-minded with such disdain makes me wonder, if he even likes the person I am.

Netizens’ comments

1. Set him free. Free to find someone more to his liking.
   Which will free you to find someone that will treat you with love, respect and dignity.
2. In fact he don’t like that you have your own personality and don’t follow him like a dog!
   Maybe it’s time for you to find a real man who will respect and accept you for who you are rather telling those stupid things! Find a better boyfriend because that one is a huge idiot!!
3. What a pretentious snob. You deserve someone that finds the same joys as you, not someone that undermines you because of your diverging interests.
4. Tell him you find him single.

How should I move on?

I think I have a crush on someone whom I have a direct working relationship with but I am not 100% sure.

Initially, I felt the feelings were mutual or I could be overthinking. He will ask me out for meals but it did not happen because I was afraid to face my true feelings back then, especially in a private setting. So I turned him down with excuses or just simply changed topics.

Our work doesn’t require us to meet as often. We can communicate perfectly through texts but everything went out of focus and I couldn’t even say half the things I wanted whenever I see him in real life.

I think of him every day. I talked about him to my close friends but I have been very mindful to the things I share. He seems to be popular in many people eyes but due to the nature of our work, I get to see the real side of him.

And the more I know, the more I was being drawn to him. Sometimes I just don’t want anyone else to get closer to him. Perhaps I just want to be the person he can share his secrets with, his fears, his plans and his success. Not only me but first me.

I am confused by all these fluctuating feelings knowing how our working relationship will complicate things far worse than what already is. There is no way we can continue working in the same environment regardless of the outcome. It has a direct impact to our careers.

We have a very strong chemistry and connection when it comes to work. We trust each other and I don’t want to destroy it. I believe none of us would want to take that risk.

I really don’t know how to move on. No one else matters to me. I do have options but I find it difficult to even try to start a relationship with someone else. It will unfair to the next guy if this feeling is not completely gone. I have been struggling for more than a year now.

Things are getting quite awkward, at least for me. Not sure if he sensed it. Looking back, I kinda regret not taking the chance at the earlier stage. Many times I thought of giving up but the things he does or say will always pull me back again.

Give me some advice.

Hey guys, just wanted to share an observation that I made about parents in Singapore.

As a mom, I’ve realised that many parents in SG can be really obsessed with posting their kid’s lives online. Even before the baby is born, and can continue up into their toddler, teen and adult years.

I don’t really have anything against parents posting but, some of these posts make me feel really uncomfortable to watch like meltdowns, or just plain embarrassing moments (for the kid).

Personally, I just don’t get why some parents would subject their kids to the dangers of social media before their kids are mature enough to make that decision on their own.

Isn’t the privacy and safety of our kids important? And the consent of the child isn’t something that we are even thinking about here.

What happens when the kid grows up and feels powerless because they were not given the opportunity to control their own social media presence, or embarrassed that there are all these pictures and videos of them that will stay on the internet forever?

I have been very cautious in my own posting due to all these fears. Makes me worry a lot because all I want is to ensure my decision and actions are in the best interest for my child.

Wanted to get the thoughts of people on the web about this. Am I overthinking this? What do y’all think?

I would sincerely like to find out what’s Singaporean guys’ definition of fat too.

I’m 26(F). I would considered myself as medium sized. However, guys around me always like to compare me with other female friends who are super skinny and call me fat or “bui”. Although some of them would apologise afterwards, I still get affected by them.

To give some background, I’m 168cm, 56kg. 33C/26/35. Arm 9 inches, thigh 19 inches. I measure my stats twice a week.

I’ll sleep in during weekends so that I can skip my meals to save some calories. I combine my lunch and dinner at 4 to 5pm on weekends. I will either skip lunch at work on weekdays, or get some fruits while watching my colleagues eating pasta and burgers. Btw, I don’t exercise. I only do simple squats at home to keep my bum firm. I would rather starve than to exercise.

I think I do have both woman’s “assets”. Although I do receive compliments from some people, I’m not satisfied with my current figure. It has come to a point where I rather be alone and not have social activities. I do not want to hang out with a group of skinny girls because I afraid people will compare and judge.

Here are what netizens think:

• When your arms are thicker than my legs

• When you have a piece of meat hanging when your standing and seated down.

• I feel you because it use to be envy. But now I realise its not all bad. In fact eating foods is like going on a holiday. You can still eat them but only during special occasions. They’re never really gone. If you want it you can get it. It feels more rewarding when you eat nice foods occasionally. Better than mindlessly eating whatever you feel like then regretting putting on the pounds later. Foods are too abundant, too accessible and too mainstream.

• Be contented with your figure and no point listening to others.. Your figure is OK lah…. Else u can excerise some of it off lor.. Else stay happy.. Ignore those negative comments

• Maybe your body fat percentage is higher. Or your body shape. Sometimes it’s about body shape and also can be face shape and how skinny your neck is. Some ladies have slim face and neck but body a little curvy, people still consider them slim. But a skinny straight shaped girl with rounded face and shorter neck is considered chubby.

What are things that the Gen Zs in Singapore will not relate to?

I feel old thinking about this now. It just occurred to me that kids these days may not know why certain feeder bus route numbers have ‘W’ and ‘G’ in them ever since digital destination signs became commonplace.

EDIT for explanation: Suffix used by SBS Transit to designate the clockwise and counter-clockwise directions of a loop service (e.g. A→B→C→A and A→C→B→A). G and W stand for Green Plate and White Plate.

In the past, buses carried plastic/metal destination plates, and the green/white background was used to assist commuters in easily identifying the direction of travel. On modern buses with electronic display signs, the G and W suffix is used instead.

Netizens’ comments

• Riding public buses with no air con system and looking down at the bus driver’s periscope if you take the right corner seat at the second level.
• Watching cartoons and kids game show on Kids Central. Feeling at sad 6pm because Vasantham Central will be taking over the programming slot.
• Borrowing your classmate’s iPhone or iPod to play Temple Run, Angry Birds, Cookie Dozer and Plants vs Zombies. Brownie points if your classmate rooted their iOS devices so they have free games from the app store.
• KFC was actually good, what happen to my Fish Ole burger and Cheese Meltz?
• For a brief moment, you were able to buy spring powered BB guns.
• Play pre-Big Bang Maple Story after school. Now there are more character classes than I have toes and fingers.
• Getting excited for computer lab lessons, especially playing either Y8 games or Facebook games. (Mafia Wars, Pet Society, Restaurant City, Typing Maniac and MouseHunt)
• Using phones with numberpads, shout out to people who own Nokia and Sony phones.
• Playing Windows Space Cadet Pinball, brownie points if you know how to activate the hack to control the pin ball.
• Playing annoying sounds from your phone, from the high pitch mosquito noise to the airplane take off sound in class.
• Interacting with your crush on MSN messager.
• Writing woke and philosophical quotes and messages on Facebook.
• Owning a Tumblr, Friendsters or a Blogger page.
• Visiting Escape Theme Park.
• Asking people to like your Facebook post so you will give them a rating, first impression or some other personalised message.
• Reading or owning kids oriented magazine. Like Jackie Chan adventure which gives out talismans collectibles, Kids Company and Little Red Dot.
• Reading Mr Kiasu, True Singapore Ghost Stories or Mr Midnight during morning assembly.
• Poking your friends on Facebook, adding them as your biological siblings on your profile.
• Having a favourite judge or contestant from Singapore Idol.
• Using your lunch money to buy @Cash card.
• Using the liquid form of correction tape. Extra points if you jab it on a hard surface to see the white liquid being pooled out from the tip.
• Carrying a hard cover diary (extra Brownie points if your dairy has a lock on it) where you either write daily entries or record your friend’s hotmail/yahoo email.
• Impromptu water battles for people who owns the Nike spray water bottle.
• $1 McDonald Coke
• Anything and Whatever drinks
• Taking out the rubber ball from the computer’s mouse and playing with it.
• Trying to make a call using payphones that accept the plastic phone call or coins without paying.
• Experiencing your computer speaker glitching out when a phone call is incoming.
• Trying to remove the static on your TV screen or cool the back of your thick monitor to prevent your parents from finding out you weren’t doing your homework.
• Randomly singing Phua Chu Kang’s original SARS rap. SARS is a virus..
• Creating a makeshift Beyblade using a rubber eraser and staple bullets.
• You have music from High School Musical on your phone.
• Watching Mr Bean or Just for Laughs on TVmobile while travelling on the bus.
• Riding on the long SMRT articulated bus and dreading the stale sweat smell coming from furry fabric seats in the afternoon.
• Watching R.E.M, Whizzes of the void deck, Ubin Boy, Robbie and the Book of Tales, Groom my Room, Wushu Warriors and Art Factory on Kids Central. (Inb4.. you forgot xxx show)
• For guys, your childhood crush are probably Kim Wakerman (Sunshine Kim). Probably.
• Feeling awkward seeing your classmate/friend with red long marks on their arms and body. We know and understand, united by hanger, rattan cane, belt or feather duster.
• Neopets
• Neoprints
• DDR and those Para para dance machines that include hand movements
• Boarding a public bus only to realise that you don’t have the correct amount of change on you…either beg the bus driver to let you pay less or pay more and put in $2 note
• Queueing up for autograph sessions on weekends back in the days when mandopop singers would come to malls for promos and also perform in mini concerts during events
• arranging meet up at X location and X time and actually counting on them to show up without having any method of communication in between

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I am absolutely disgusted in the poor service as an Krisflyer Gold elite member I am getting from Singapore airlines/ Scoot and lost bag services Sydney Airport.

I arrived at Sydney Airport from Cape Town vis Singapore flight TR 20 on Tuesday night 29th of November .

My luggage never turned up at the carousel. After an equerry at the lost baggage kiosk, it turned out that they cannot track my bags because Scoot being a low-cost airline does not pay for baggage tracking.

The gentleman at the lost baggage kiosk registered a delayed arrival claim and promised me that my bag will be delivered to my temporary address a soon as it is located and delivered to Sydney airport. The following day after many phone calls to the airport I was told that the bag was located and at the airport since 10 am Wednesday. It is now 48 hrs later (Thursday) and my bag has still not being delivered.

Having to spend an couple of hundred dollar to buy the basic personal items and cloths to get along since Tuesday I have lost a lot of faith in Singapore Airlines but especially Scoot who should perform at least at an higher standard .

It should be an embracement to Singapore Airlines that Priority baggage are not treated as priority baggage given the price I am paying for flight tickets and the amount of support I have being given to Singapore Airlines over the past year.

Here are what netizens think:

• Back to what you mentioned, often it is a mismanaged by the airport group/services. It has totally nothing to do with the airline, be it a full board service or a budget airline. Airline do not take care of your luggages. It’s the airport takes care of it.

• A similar SQ experience happened to me, still no resolution. Nov 16-21 Gold Coast-Sydney-Singapore-Phuket. You can see my VDO post here around 20/11

• Actually it’s nothing really to do with you as a Elite Gold nor not. Things do happen when there are multiple carriers involved. Am sure the statistic goes higher with other carriers, especially in US and Europe.