Just joined grabfood and shocked

Day 2 and ive been waiting for 5 hours straight with no orders at all, and im in a supposed hot zone, what the heck is going on here??

Im by no means lazy but I cant earn anything if I cant get an order at all..this is really demoralising man

Netizens’ comments

• Too many riders in that area most probably
• I used to order 5-7 times a week, after grab increased the min order to $15 and increased the avg cost of delivery to $5, I no longer order at all for regular meals. Pretty sure I’m not the only one who decided $20/meal makes no sense whatsoever.
  I average around 2 orders a month now when I feel like spending more for a specific craving and it’s too far from my house. Taking that into consideration id say there are a lot less orders on the grab/foodpanda nowadays
• Sounds like you pissed off the algorithm!
• Almost 5-year Grab rider/Food delivery rider here. I suspect that your app may be glitched or something, Try running the in-app diagnostic tool to see if anything changes.
  Also every Friday at 6pm sharp is when the optional shifts are released for the following week’s Monday-Thursday. Try to snipe them so that you’re at least securing the minimum guarantee if you don’t get any jobs for the 4 hours that the shift is active.
  12MN Saturday is when shifts for next Friday release, 12MN Sun for next Sat and 12MN Monday for next Sunday. Jiayou friend, this industry has extremely high highs and demoralising lows, but it’s never bad for too long 🙂

For context, I just moved to Singapore and was accepted to work in an office-related role after months of searching. I have 10+ years experience in this role and it is also a supervisor position. During my interview, I was told that it’s a progressive and modern company, they treat employees like family, and will train me well to be effective in my role. That made me excited to work with them and my only request is that they give me proper feedback so I can do my job effectively.

I’m not sure if it is a cultural thing or I’m just being blur, but the instructions I get don’t seem to match what they really expect me to do. For example, I was invited to come and observe the office and work culture a few days before I started, and I was only happy to do so. I came with the expectation that I’ll quietly look around, ask questions and chitchat a bit, then leave. A little bit later I was called into a meeting and was told that they didn’t seem impressed with me as I came off as someone who’s shy and quiet. I didn’t realise this is an “official” meeting and would have been more outgoing and chatty if I knew.

When I started working, they told me they need an independent worker which is great because I prefer doing things on my own and will ask questions only if I needed help. For my training, I was given a task list and was told to update once everything was finished. By the end of my shift, everything was submitted and properly reported to my trainer. My boss later told me that I seem lazy and should put in more hours so people will respect me. When I asked my trainer for feedback, I was only told everything is well. A few days later, I was apologising for asking too many questions about a certain task and was told that “it’s great you’re asking questions because that means you’re working”. Eh?

I’m grateful for the feedback but I can’t seem to get what they want. I prefer direct instructions and this roundabout way of saying things messes with me. Is this the usual work culture in SG? Pls give me insights on how new trainees are handled.

Help a lost foreigner pls

So I’ve got this cousin who’s in his late 20s who I play games with pretty often. I’ve always known him to be a cool guy and we’ve been pretty close after years of playing games together despite our age gap. (I’m in my early 40s)

However despite the cool personality he’s got when playing games, he’s actually pretty problematic at home. He has never held a proper job and mostly spends a lot of his time at home playing games. Refuses to get a job and refuses to help out his parent’s business. A couple of years ago he dropped out of SUSS because he said he wasn’t learning anything and wanted to find something else to pursue.

We’re all worried for him and his mother (my aunt) has asked me to talk to him since we’re rather close.

When I asked him about it, he went on about wanting to get rich through cryptocurrency and becoming a full-time streamer and YouTuber. I’ve known this guy for years and I don’t think he’s the creative type, nor have I seen him make any YouTube videos. I also know cryptocurrency is in the dumps right now so I’m unsure about how realistic his goals are.

Maybe I’m getting old, perhaps being a YouTuber is something that’s common with younger folks. I don’t want to dash his dreams but talking to him has made me question if my ‘uncle’ advice from a 40+ year old is any relevant to a young man in his 20s.

Yet, I am also pretty sure he needs to wake up his idea and stop dreaming, but i don’t want to come down on a young man’s dreams too hard.
Any advice I can give him? How would you guys approach this?

I went out on a date with someone supposedly the same age as me, but they looked MUCH older..

So this was yesterday. I’m 18F and he was 18M. when I saw his photos, I already did think he looked so much older, but I thought that was just the camera and he would look younger in person.

no, he didn’t. he looked like he was 30. I asked him on the date if he really is 18, and he told me his beard and long hair just makes him look older.

the date went well, he was a nice person. But I couldn’t help thinking if he really was 18.

honestly I want to ask him for a photo of his ID where he covers everything except his birth date, but I’m scared that’d be too mean.

update: ok uhm so I asked him for it. he kept questioning why and told me I was weird for pushing it. he told me he wouldn’t lie and he doesnt need to prove anything. So guess who I blocked.

Netizens’ comments

1. I used to get served in most bars when I was 16/17. 🤷🏻‍♂️ ask him for I.D. He will see the funny side of it if he’s truly 18.
2. Hello there. Let me just say to you that there is nothing wrong with you asking for ID , the fact is you can be kind and respectful when doing so but this will show him that you are a Confident young lady and have self respect.
   I’m afraid that if you don’t do this for yourself at this early stage in your dealings with the opposite gender you may just become easy prey both of your insecurities and other who are out to take advantage of people like you. Please take care of yourself and like anyone else has already said “ Trust your Gut “ ✌️

I (27F) have this childhood friend (28F) who we met at the playground as kids 17-18 years ago when we were 10/11 years old respectively.

Whenever we hang out, she expects me to pay most of the bills because I’m “rich” which I’m definitely not. I worked hard to get to where I am now and nobody spoon-feeds me anything. I just make a considerable amount more than her. I don’t really mind paying for most of the stuff but it just kinda bugged me that she came to expect it.

Also, this year she forgot my birthday and sent me a belated text message a day later to wish me a happy birthday. But for her birthday, I texted her happy birthday and she just expected me to take her out for a birthday dinner (which I actually didn’t plan to, but made it happen anyway. I spent over $200 on dinner, dessert and drinks) but I didn’t mind it until she made this comment “yes, spend money on me” which she meant as a joke but because her actions really reflect that, it did bug me slightly.

Most recently, I had my wedding and the day before the wedding she texted me to ask if she can be “exempted from giving a red packet hahaha” which really bothered me because it’s my special day and you choose this day to be a cheapskate?! I just told her no, a red packet represents well wishes and to just give any amount she is comfortable with. In case this comes across as a cash grab, my cost per head was $250 and she only gifted me $50 which is totally fine, but the fact that she didn’t even want to gift me anything at all at first, was what annoyed me. (She also didn’t give me anything for my birthday and yet expected to be wined and dined for her birthday which I did for her).

On top of that, she has been frequently borrowing a couple of hundred from me every few months and then just splitting it into instalment packages to her convenience without asking me if I’m okay with it. Eg. I lent her $300 and she just returns me $50 per month on her own accord.

Also, for her previous engagement that was cancelled, she asked me to be her wedding emcee and do her hair and makeup which I was totally fine with, and of course she expects the red packet from me too which I would have given for sure, if the wedding wasn’t called off. Thinking of this and how she still wanted to skimp on the red packet for my wedding, just made me feel very uncomfortable as I felt taken advantage of. PS. I didn’t need her help with anything for my wedding, she just had to attend as a guest.

I feel conflicted as I feel like the relationship is very unbalanced and she’s milking me, but at the same time I feel it’s a shame to let go of the friendship as she’s easily one of my longest friend.

Still keep her as a friend or move on?

Failing my internship due to a family headache

I was an OP of an internship a while back regarding MC needing to pay back while i was hospitalised. I changed to a new internship cause i worked for her before while I was having part-time jobs.

She seemed very nice so i told her about my internship headache and she recruited me after as her company intern. Things were going on well till i was sick and had non-stop vomiting. Saw a doctor but didn’t get well so my mum rushed me to the hospital.

I was dehydrated by then so i had to be on iv drip. Results came out and i was diagnosed with salmonella infection. I told my boss that i was hospitalised again due to this and she said ok. I showed her all the discharged papers and mc as well.

A week later, i was having an event at a hotel. Family problems arises cause my auntie told me about my mum is actually still seeing someone while being together with my dad as i asked her why these few years i didn’t know abt this uncle background. She told me that both of them were past lovers. I couldn’t accept it and i cried thinking what if they divorced and this family wld be gone. I was angry at myself that i didn’t found out earlier so i could help my dad ease his pain cuz he didn’t tell anyone his feeling as he needed to protect me. I didn’t manage to tell anyone too as my auntie told me to keep it to myself.

My boss told me to go back home as i was crying and trembling, but i did told her i was ok to stay. I’m told her repeatedly i’m fine but she insisted me to go home so i did.

Boss then fired me the next day as she told me she was lacking of manpower and i can’t continue on like this. I’m really afraid of failing my internship and with this kind of family problems, i’m afraid i can’t take it anymore..

The Great Resignation?

I am an experienced professional with international working experiences across Asia. Both myself (<40) and my wife (<40) are working in the private sector, and our monthly combined income is around $25,000. My last annual income was $240,000 alone.

We are living in a resale HDB flat with our two young ones, and I am driving a very old Japanese MPV which is due to scrap later this year.

We are doing well financially and is able to make several overseas trips in a year.

However, things starting to take a turn when I left a very good paying job/role for a similar salaried role which requires me to work in office daily and taking up several responsibilities which are not within my job scope. I was working almost 80 hours weekly on average and this long period of work culture has resulted me in getting sick very often, losing hairs and feeling the sense of uselessness. I was at the brink of giving up the job and focusing on my mental health.

This is not an easy decision since living comfortably in Singapore requires you to have plenty of savings. If I require a break, then how long should this break be?

I read many articles on The Great Resignation during this pandemic period, and was tempted to resign too. But how many of you have actually made this move? I do have savings and can stop working for a couple of years. But do I want to do that, and do I want my child and friends see me as a ‘lazy’ person who is unable to handle the work stress?

If I can choose, I’d love to wake up and work on something more meaningful and something which I am more passionate on.. Corporate world is great especially on the monetary rewards, but long term wise it is really affecting my mental wellbeing..

Mid-life crisis I guess?