My (18 F) BF’s (17 M) Girl best friend was snuggling him (19 F) during a movie

We all went to go watch a movie together and after the movie ended his friend has fallen asleep on his shoulder with her hands wrapped around his arm.

She woke up and was like “oh shit sorry, I didn’t realize I fell asleep” Which I have a hard time believing.

all he said was “no worries zoe, it’s all good haha”

He didn’t even try to wake her up , just let her fall asleep.

Is this a red flag ?

Netizens’ comments

• Maybe not red, but probably at least yellow. Just keep an eye on it, and maybe have a discussion with him about what your boundaries are in a relationship. If he reacts poorly that would probably be your red flag.
• I think it’s a yellow flag, but depending on if there has been other behavior it could be a red flag.
  She might like him or be jealous of the relationship you have with him. He might like the idea of you being jealous. If I give him the benefit of the doubt it would be a really awkward position to be in, and you guys are all pretty young. He might not know how to handle that kind of stuff.
• Yeah that’s weird. You don’t wrap your arm around a friend. Also, my boyfriend (30M) told me (35F) the only girl friends he has are the ones he wants to have sex with which is why he has zero girl friends. He says guys can’t just be friends with a girl.. it’s also my personal experience that literally all my guy friends tried to get with me at some point or another. So I agree with my boyfriend.

I hate overweight people so much and I don’t want to be around them anymore.

I might sound very mean but I do not want to hang with any fat people no more. I do not want to be around any overweight guys or bears. I get eaten on the inside every time I create a profile on the dating app and it’s always the 40+ men or the very obese guys who text me. I am tired of seeing anyone other than overweight hairy (and/or older) men as a social premium package to unlock.

Every time I see a morbidly obese person in public my body can’t help but wants to vomit. I get the shivers when I see large portions of food, candies or whatever junk fats keep on eating. I hate all this body positivity that advocates their unhealthy lifestyle. The whole thing disgusts me to death. I am tired of being pushed to the whole fatty clan, despite me trying to escape it.

It’s totally fine for everyone else to say no fats, no this no that, but when I say out loud I am seen as mean, I am an incel, and I don’t deserve anyone to hang out with because “I’m shallow”. Isn’t it ironic that those people cherry-pick those who they hang out with? And when I call someone on this hypocrisy they’re like “oh but I hang out with all kinds of people?”.

And before you come and start jabbing on why I don’t lose weight since I don’t want to attract that target audience and start lecturing me on how easy actually it is to lose weight and and start calling me lazy and compare me to other people who run 4 jobs, a family, having a missing arm or a leg managed to lose 80 pounds, I have difficulties and I have been trying years to lose weight but I get back to my bs. It feels very difficult to change me and I am also broke, which maybe is not an excuse for many I guess. I walk as much as I can instead of using public transport.

Some of y’all will say, hey fatty, why don’t you go date other fats like you? Cause they play me the same way the rest does; I am replaceable unless I condition the ideal community standards to the fullest, then everyone thinks I owe them attention or smth.

Help with parents refusal to pay school fees

I have a friend, whose parents refuse to pay for her poly sch fees, as they state she is working. But even as she works part time, she struggles to afford the sch fees, having to borrow money if she is unable to.

Is there anyway to help? (FAS doesn’t apply as her parents earn more than that)

Netizens’ comments

• Go talk to the school and see what options they have.
• Your friend is local? Her PSEA should be able to cover some semester. I assume she’s under 21?
  Anyway your friend should speak to her mentor to explore options.
  If nth works out, can consider going to a nearby FSC/SSO and tell them the situation. I’m not a lawyer but my understanding of Women’s Charter Act S68 and S69 5(c), her parents are still required to provide for her if she is unable to make ends meet while in education.
• That’s what happen to me too, although is my parents that is unable to sponsor me with poly sch fees as they are poor. I went for a bank loan with DBS and asked my older sis to be my guarantor, although u’re consider in debt but u wont be struggling to pay sch fees every 6mths. I worked part time every weekend and holiday to give myself allowance for food/transport.

BF broke up with me. Now I have less than 30 days to find a job and a new place to live.

I’m in my 30s, but I never went to uni due to financial reasons. During the pandemic, my job/industry was making me really miserable. After a hospitalization, I decided that I was going back to school.

I had a good amount of savings, budgeted accordingly, and paid my rent/bills but lived very frugally. I’d pick up gigs here and there to make some extra cash on the side.

I have one more semester left, and last week, my boyfriend announced that he’s done with the relationship. He’s sick of dating someone who is broke all the time.

He also already found an apartment, signed the papers, and got the key. He’s going to start moving stuff out this weekend.

So not only am I’m reeling from the heartbreak, I don’t have a job either. I’m in a massive panic knowing that I now have to find a job and a new apartment.

My boyfriend was going to leave me to deal me to with the current apartment on my own, but I cannot pay for the full rent, so I begged him to pay his share for one more month’s rent to give me time to find other options.

I have till Decemenber until time runs out. Wish me luck everyone.

Curfew for 16yo? Our kid has finished O-Levels.

She is complaining about her curfew. It’s 11pm, and midnight on occasion.

Does this seem unreasonable? Apparently we are tyrant parents, who make her come home so early. She says all her friends have no curfew, which I find hard to believe.

To me nothing but trouble is waiting after midnight for a teenage girl..

Edit She mostly wants to stay out later so she can listen to live music, and drink. She often goes to bars and clubs. We don’t stop her from drinking, but I know stupid decisions come after drinking.

Netizens’ comments

• How does she come home? Personally I never got a curfew, but even then would naturally come home around midnight latest because my cheapo self refused to miss the last train.
• Explain to the kid why you choose that timing, allow them to hang out with their friends pass that timing if they were to inform you beforehand. This is to build trust between the both of you. Otherwise, they will just hide stuff from you in the future which will be worst
• My parents were strict on curfew and I fully hated it. At 16 it was 7pm. Only during JC it went to around 11+/midnight but that’s because I was out studying (more productive than studying at home). I hated the early curfew. I couldn’t even stay till 8pm to study outside. I was even in the area of my house. Studying. Please don’t make curfew the cause of tension between you and your kid. In my opinion as long as your kid updates you throughout, and replies to your texts promptly, without lying, it’s fine. Equip them with the good sense to not do stupid things.

How do I deal with a friend who feels the need to brag every chance she gets?

I have a friend whom I’ve known for over 15 years. We recently connected, and I love talking to her it’s just she has this thing where she’s constantly bragging about her life.

I’m not trying to think badly about her, but it seems she’s competing with me.

I’ve told her many times that I’m happy for her, and I am! but that doesn’t seem to be enough.

She’s married with 2 kids, and I’m her only single friend. She’s always sending me pictures of things her husband buys her, or if he does something nice for her.

Which I am ok with, but when the conversations are 90 percent that I start to wonder.

I’m in no way jealous of her, but I’m starting to feel she wants me to be, so badly. It’s to the point where I’m too annoyed to have a conversation now.

I want to be her friend still because she isn’t a bad person, but this is really getting out of hand. Any advice?

I work with this girl and we have a good relationship. We both jokingly tease and flirt with each other but I jokingly tease and flirt with other female friends/colleagues as well.

She’s always bubbly and friendly with me but not with everyone else. She’s taken and in a serious relationship.

Whenever I flirt with other girls and if she’s around, she doesn’t like it and acts jealous. She says things like “why are you flirting with her?” or “stop flirting with her”.

I once said something about a girl I like whom I’m talking with, but then her mood changed from bubbly and friendly to disinterested and annoyed.

She didn’t even let me finish my sentence about this other girl and just walked away. I’ve never expressed any real interest in her since she knows our flirting is just for having a laugh and when I text her off work, she barely replies.

Why does she act jealous when I flirt with other girls? Does she like me? If she does, why does she barely reply back to me when I text her?

He is failing to do the adult stuff, should I leave him?

So my boyfriend of 3 years (known him 8 years) is actually great guy. He really good to me and my family loves him.

But whenever he goes out or hang out with his friends, he goes out of control with alcohol or if they don’t drink, he would do something to harm himself.

Then he comes home a complete mess, he rarely have energy to even remove his cloths and have a bath. Then he just pass out. One time or two he even spits near the bed and he says he will clean it up. He also uses washroom and leaves it a mess too.

It annoys me deeply and really losing my vibe for him. I kind of lost interest in sleeping with him and it can be really not fun for me with him.

But he is the best in terms of matching my energy and having fun but afterwards when it comes to real adult stuff, I kinda don’t trust him.

Also he doesn’t do dates or special things like that because he says “he is not good at it”. I really do love him but are these reasons that I should leave him? (Btw we both are 28+ age)

Do I F up for telling my gf she has no ass and her belly is big

Maid or no maid?

Sorry for the rant peeps but.. May I do a survey 1st?

Usually, if you all employ maids, do they cook for you? I’m not sure why is my maid here for since she hasn’t been any help in assist in prepping meals for the family.

Generally, her main job is to cook, our house is small, no pets no elderly. Taught her many things and many times repeatedly same cooking instructions still cannot cook even 3 dishes in 7 month of employments. Every time when I’m back from work, my kids will tell me they are hungry. Almost most of the meal I cooked for the family. Then for her, she can just cook for herself using a lots of good ingredients. Usual after my son comes back from school, he must eat because he’s hungry. But she nv prepare.. So I cooked for him too. What she can cook is luncheon meat and hotdogs for my kids only.

Liked no brainer food. I think might as well i quit my job and stay at home in order to let my kids have a balanced meal but then our pockets will be tighter as only 1 person working. Already programmed her, before cooking must put table mat. Did not put. Everything i do it myself.

Till now, I start to question myself. Why is she here? Is she be in any of the help. If you were in my shoe, will you still want to continue this employment? But my hubby warns me, if this maid cannot then forever dun employ maid in future since is so troublesome.

So I’m in a dilemma. Please help and thanks in advance.

Here are what netizens think:

• let him eat the no brainer food she cook for your kid. it is normal to change a few times because you will only know when she actually works for you

• Can she make a sandwich? Lettuce, tomato, egg, ham, avocado etc, sandwiches can be very nutritious.

You need to have lots of patience to have a helper. I have one for 2 years and she is still forgetting routine things. She could only cook simple soupy dishes and fry finger food for my kids, and most of the time I cook the – meals for the family…and I’m working. Imagine the rush when I get home.

• You would need to repeat instructions for her and keep reminding her what needs to be done on a daily basis. You may want to train her to prepare the ingredients beforehand since you are the one who does the cooking.

• Look for experienced maid instead. It is worth the pay, at least mine.

• She is pure lazy. Stop buying canned/processed food and be VERY strict with her. Give her stern warning. Ask her to give you a list of menu for the week. If no improvement, get a replacement. Don’t waste time.