I tried hosting a surprise party for my boyfriend but all of his friends declined the invite

My (26f) bf’s (25m) birthday is on friday. A couple of months ago he said that the best birthday he ever had was when he was 12 and he had a Laser Tag birthday. I was so excited to recreate it, and my idea was to throw a party for him, and as a suprise we would all go to the Arcade to play.

I was a little unsure of who to invite to the party though, so I had to ask him. The thing is, he has this pretty big «friend» group of guys, most of them childhood friends. He is closer to about 7 of them, but after he moved away for a couple of years to study, it’s like they’ve forgotten him a little and he rarely get invited to things.

He generally feels pretty ambivalent about them; they don’t really share his interest, they don’t invite him to things, and their main interest is drinking. At the same time, he’s known them since he was little, and they do sometimes turn up, like when they helped him with our reno a couple of weeks ago.

I could see that he was getting sad about talking about it, so I just ended the conversation and told him not to worry. I decided to host the party as a surprise for him, and I ended up inviting a mix of friends and family. My bf has become really close with my main friend group, mainly because of shared interests, so naturally I invited them.

I eventually decided to also invite his childhood friends, because I thought of the times that they had actually been there for him, and decided that they would probably enjoy playing Laser tag. I created an event on fb, and after 2 weeks, everybody but these 7 friends had accepted or declined the invitation. I reminded them to reply, so that I would know how many to book for the arcade. One after one, they all declined. I had hopes for the last two ones that still hadn’t replied when I went to bed (the two of them that I like the most), but I woke up now and all of them declined.

I don’t think it’s a coincidence that none of them could come. It makes me really sad. I ended up removing them completely from the event. I feel like I shouldn’t have invited them at all, that way I wouldn’t have to see my bf get rejected like that. At least I’m glad that he was never part of the event so that he had to feel the rejection himself. However, I do feel like I maybe have to tell him, because he said he was thinking about inviting them over the day after his birthday for a couple of beers. Idk, it hurts to see the most awesome person ever be treated like this by his «friends». I’ve seen similar things happen as long as we’ve been together, but this really confirms it

Earlier today, my girlfriend and I (22m) (22f) were having a conversation and she asked me if I could order food for her.

She asks me occasionally if I can buy her food and I have no issues with that.

This time, however, I was driving and I didn’t feel comfortable placing the order while commuting. Besides this, I had her check how much it would cost to have it delivered and it was 5 or 6 dollars more to order it compared to just picking it up in person.

I let her know that I can go and pick it up for her no problem instead of ordering it.

She asked me for my debit card info (which I had shared with her in the past) but I remembered I don’t have any money in that account. I did have cash on me, however. She then asked for my credit card information and I said no.

She asked why and I explained to her that I didn’t feel comfortable giving that information to her. Not yet.

After saying no, she then gets very defensive and questioned why I didn’t do that for her and I simply explained that I didn’t feel comfortable giving my credit card information but I was okay with giving my debit card instead.

She argued and said I’m ‘retarded’ because she could just steal money from my debit card when I get paid if she could and also argued that I didn’t trust her. Im upset that she said all of these things after the fact i simply stated I didn’t feel comfortable giving that info and Im a bit conflicted by her reaction. For more context, weve been together for a year and almost a month. Im honestly baffled and dont know what to do.

TLDR: Declined giving credit card information because I didn’t want to. Gf argues as to why she feels like she should get it, accuses me of not trusting her, unnecessary name calling to top it off. I feel like its an over reaction to a response.

I slept with my friends girlfriend and feel horrible

They’ve been together for almost 3 years and i woke up in her bed after a party Saturday night.

I freaked out when I woke up in a room I’ve never been to and my heart broke when I saw who I was in bed with.

I was drunk, I mean I don’t even remember it drunk. The party wasn’t at her place and she claims she was drunk too so I don’t even know how we got there.

My only other issue is I’ve never seen this girl drink, ever, it sounds fishy but I also know she’s a nice girl, I don’t think she’d cheat on him as far as I know.

She’s insisting we don’t tell him since it was a drunk mistake but I have to, he’s my closest friend and I can’t keep this from him. Idk if he’ll hate me or what but Ik it’s going to go bad. We didn’t use protection, she says she on BC but I’m making her get a pregnancy test anyway.

I feel so horrible. we both just messed up horribly but I am just going to tell him what happened with her claim of being drunk, I was with other friends who can at least attest to the fact that I was getting hammered at the party, i guess I should ask around and find out if she was too, nothing makes sense right now

Netizens’ comments

• What if y’all just fell asleep in the same bed and didn’t do it.
• She knows exactly what she did. Tell your best friend and save your relationship!
• I would tell him just so that lie doesn’t weigh on your friendship anymore. Her whole side of it seems weird, and I would not trust it if I were you.

I used to be obese (BMI) and lost about 16kg. For the first time in my life, I’m in the healthy BMI range.

I always knew being fat is unhealthy and my joints hurt before I even reach my 30s, but I never actively say being fat is bad.

Losing all those weight wasn’t an easy journey. I got medical help to start my weight loss (that cost a fair bit). Even with the medication help, I had to do tons of research and change my view on foods and dieting.

It was rough, but to me, it was worth it.

Here’s the thing, now that I’m no longer obese. I’m finding myself getting irritated and frustrated at my fat friend’s.

All their reasoning for not being able to lose weight sound like an excuse to me now. But I used to be fat, so I knew my honest opinion would just hurt their feeling. So I just kept it bottling up.

What makes this whole situation way worse is, because I got medical help to lose weight, some of my friends are dismissing my effort.

They said they can lose all this weight if they get the same help as me. I feel like my friends can access the same resource as me and can change.

I just really hate all the excuses they give me about not changing. At this point, I wish they just say straight out, ye I’m fat, I can’t be bothered doing anything about it.

(I think because I’m no longer fat, every time I meet my friends, they try to justify why they are fat because I never initiate the topic)

Okay guys so last year I took out a 40k loan to buy bitcoin here is an update on how it’s going.

Obviously first off I have to eat a bit of humble pie… yes I was one of those dudes who thought it was going to go to 200k and obviously it didn’t it went the other way.

However, instead of sulking and beating myself up I got back to the fiat mine. I run my own business and put all the time I could into that to try and pay off my loan asap. What ended up happening which was a blessing in disguise was that for the last 12 months my business has never performed better.

This has allowed me to finally pay off the loan and be debt free with my bitcoin loan.

Now, what did I learn?

That it is never as good as it seems and never as bad as it seems. I’ve learnt that hard work trumps all and that you really have to put everything into something if you want it to succeed. By being forced in a way to work my butt off to pay off the loan I have reached a new limit with my business and realised in some way what my true potential could be and I intend to keep pushing that limit.

Some here might call me an idiot and that’s fine however I wouldn’t change it for the world as I learnt some very valuable lessons which I am extremely grateful for.

Will I consider another bitcoin loan? Yes quite possibly but certainly not doing a bull run 😂 thanks for reading legends 🙂

Ps: My conviction for bitcoin has never been stronger

My (29F) husband (30M) thinks I’m being unreasonable. I think it’s time to end this marriage for good. We’ve been married for 3 years now, together for 5. He’s always been an ‘alright’ partner – we don’t argue much and he’s there for me when I have a problem. But I always wished he’d make more effort.

He never wants to celebrate special occasions, including my birthday or Christmas. He never takes me out on dates and lately I feel like he doesn’t understand me at all.

It was my birthday last week, and during the week leading up to that, I had multiple discussions with him about how I’d love for him to make the day special. To actually get me presents and a nice card. He said he understood the importance of it and this year would be different.

So he does actually get me some presents – but when I unwrap them, they’re all kind of random, and things that HE likes. Presents included: a beer making kit, tickets to a musical (I hate musicals), and a £100 voucher to spend at a gym wear store (I don’t go to the gym).

I asked him the logic behind these gifts and eventually he explained to me that they were all prizes he won on some app where you can win the online ads you see – hence why they were all stuff only HE liked.

This was it for me. I was done.

I stormed out the house and drove to my mom’s house. I was so full of anger and felt like in that moment all the feelings I once had for him, all the hope I had for us, just disappeared.

I sent him a text to say I want a divorce and that I deserve better. I’ve received voicemails from him saying that I’m over-reacting and that he just wants to talk to figure it out. I don’t want to.

My mom says I am making a mistake – she says he’s at least trying to change as he did get me gifts but I think she’s wrong. This man doesn’t love me in the way I deserve.

What do you think?

Little bit of info: I am a very honest person, which means I can often be harsh with honesty, I live in Denmark, so english is not my first language, sorry for any mistakes.

So yesterday my mom cooked a noodle meal, that I didn’t like. She knows I don’t like this particular type of meal, as I always tell her, but she told me that this one was diffrent and that I would like it.

Well I ate it and when she asked I said “better than nothing, but not amazing”

After, after dinner I got some for lunch the next day too (I always get left overs for lunch), and after eating, she said “not so bad now, eh?”, I answered “Better than nothing”, she then asked if I liked it, and I simply answered “No.”

She said something about me being rude and walked away, then was just quiet for a while (unusual since she usually talks A LOT), but I’ve been feeling kinda guilty since then.

She usually makes really great food, but once in a while she makes it the way she likes it, while knowing I don’t like it, and I think that is fair, as long as it’s not too often, which it isn’t.

But my logic has always been, if you don’t want a truthful answer, don’t ask me.

How does a C- affect your teaching career?

Hi all asking all teachers or civil servants who may know something about this. I recently got told by my RO that I received a C- grade ranking. Essentially this means that I would not be getting my performance bonus and my promotion to the next grade will also be held back for at least three years.

I am honestly quite distraught because I received this rating because of some mistake I made regarding internal school examinations, no students were affected but still, a mistake. They also told me that my contributions to the school were also above average but because of this mistake I was given a C-.

I am seriously considering switching to the private sector where the grading won’t haunt me for the rest of my career. I’ve been getting consistent B grades for the past 4 years and it seems like everything I achieved so far has been for nothing.

Would like to hear from fellow public servants what they think because this is such a sensitive issue and my RO doesn’t really know how this will affect me in terms of career progression. Either that or he/she doesnt wanna tell me

On the bright side, I did get a 5% increase in my salary.. only slightly lower than this year’s inflation rate! 😀

My gf and i connect so well and i love her so damn much, we have been together flor nearly 8 months.

She has always been insecure and expressing feelings is hard for her. I try to give her time to let her figure out how to say things and that works most of the times.

Lately i have the feeling that i cant say what i feel or ill cause drama because she feels guilty that i feel a certain way. I think this just is because she is pretty insecure and scaree to lose me, as she already told me.

She also said that she is worried that I will cheat on her and said that she will leave a lovebite on me everynow and then so that other girls will know that I have a girlfriend.

GF thinks lovebite can ward off ‘evil girls’ macham evil spirits

The problem is I stay with my parents and goes to work like a lot of normal people. How am I going to explain myself to my colleagues, boss and my PARENTS!

I told her that she have to stop doing it or I have to end it and she started accused me of cheating

I can be really to the point because thats just who i am and i dont think that helps in these cases.

How do i help her with this? How can i say what i mean witouth giving her that blame?

My bf of 2 years is a great guy, treats me well, smart, makes me laugh.

However he just can’t seem to keep his emotions in check at times.

He raises his voice damn easily at his mum (but to be fair, his mum can get pretty unreasonable). He’s also quite a sore loser.

Few days back we were playing mahjong with my family and whenever he was about to game but someone else gamed, he would go whining about how good his tiles were and how he’s about to game. That continued on for almost every round when nobody was even responding to him anymore (zero social awareness).

Lose then lose la that’s just your luck what, why need to keep whining. Then he just kept on losing and he started getting frustrated, throwing the chips on the table at my family members whenever they gamed, throwing the tiles when discarding them, which is just downright disrespectful.

The funny thing is whenever we play board games with his family and his mum lost, his mum would whine and say how she almost won or say that we cheat, and he would call her a sore loser. Yet he is behaving exactly like that LOL. Oh yes he also said that I cheat during the mj when I gamed. *facepalm*

Anyway, him throwing tantrums during that mj session totally ruined the atmosphere and my mum who won the most even felt guilty for winning and offered to return him his money. Like what??? If it matters, he lost $70 to my mum. Seventy. I was so angry that he is a full-grown adult already yet can’t even manage his own emotions well, but I didn’t say anything during the mj.

At the end of the mj session my bf and I went into my room and I straight away told him “if you’re gonna be such a sore loser then just don’t come play next time already”. He went silent afterwards. We barely talked after that and he went home the next day.

Any advice on how I should deal with him? When playing games of any kind he just gets angry so easily to the extent that he’ll start throwing things, banging the table.. but otherwise he’s an angel. I don’t know which is the real him.