Am I making a mistake for wanting a different life?

My mother said to me, and my brother that we’re an investment.

She talked about how she invested so much money, and time in us, and she expects us to pay her back, spend our money with her, and give her an easy life.

I don’t mind helping her, she’s my mom after all, but this is seriously messed up, please don’t have kids for that reason.

The thing is, my brother and I barely make enough to survive and our mother don’t even bother to save up any money she said that we will give her money when she has none.

So my brother and I showed her our bank account. We had less than $10,000 in combine savings. (We are still young).

She expects a profit from raising us and that is just wrong on so many levels.

Here are what netizens think:

• My mother, when she was dying, said she realizes she favored the wrong child. The golden child left her to die like a dog. That would make my sibling a terrible investment.

• She does know that not all investments pay off, right? Sometimes people will lose money. That’s just how life is.

• And children are an investment with a risk level of retirement fund in dogecoin.

• Same here. I’m the one who took care of my mom when she was dying of cancer. My older sister couldn’t even be bothered to attend her funeral.

• Yeah sometimes people build a house and it gets set on fire. Nothing is a guarantee.

A man recently visited a KTV at Geylang and said that he was shocked to find out the rates of KTV entertainment has increased sharply.

He said that before the pandemic the prices were much cheaper and it has grew 500%.

Here is the story:

I went to a KTV at Geylang and of course, there will be tips for the girls and mama san. When I just started out at this kind of joint it was around $20-$30 for tips.

Nowadays it is mostly $50 to $100 for the girl to sit with you.

So not long after the Vietnam girl sat down, she asked if I wanted to go hotel with her. I asked for the price and she said: “short time 500 long time 1,000”.

I jitao stun, $1k?! siao ah, I can buy an air ticket to go Bangkok find a different one every night and come back still got money left over.

The girl says now covid price is different, I say what covid? not enough chicken supply same Malaysia ah then the price go up until like that.

Or the world now has a shorter supply of females.

I thought it was this particular joint or this particular girl, I asked around my other friends who go KTV and told us that this has been the price since circuit breaker and the price has not gone down.

For those who wants to find some fun at some KTV, I rather you fly straight to Vietnam. Cheaper more fun and more choices.

Guys, does it matter if the girl you date or marry is a V or not?

Please be very honest. I am curious to what men think about this topic in this day and age.

On a side note, I was really worried because I come from a fairly traditional family and I was waiting for marriage. Went on a date some time ago, got too drunk and lost my v-card.

I felt so guilty and it didn’t help that the guy said he is down for just dating but couldn’t offer me any commitment beyond that. He didn’t want marriage or kids and didn’t want a relationship until he was sailing well in his career.

So no commitment for the next five years.

I felt really hurt and it isn’t helping that my period is late and I am freaking out about a possible pregnancy (chances are really slim as I took the morning after pill and pregnancy tests are negative so far).

But I feel like I screwed up my own future? In my native culture, arranged marriage would have been an option to fall back on had I been 30 and still single. But that might not be an option anymore! I am also not sure if someone new I date in the future will mind my past.

If I somehow am pregnant, the dad would not be in the picture I am pretty certain (and he went back to his own country so that complicates things), and my parents will probably disown me. My only saving grace is I earn pretty well enough to support a kid and myself.

This is such a sad situation and I will always have a lifetime of regret in having my first time with someone I didn’t love.

Anyways that btings me to my question, does it matter to you it the girl is not a V?

words like damaged goods being used…

This is a story that I never told anyone which i should be ashamed but isn’t.

I was 15 when I first met him while playing ml. He was 29. We got matched in the classic game and my stupid ass think he was a god for having 30/1. so i added him and invite him to another game. he ended up with some 20+/0.

I eventually got him to mentor me after pestering on in game chat, hearing his voice the first time made my heart skipped. I would wait for him to get online everyday so I could play with him and listen to his voice. Eventually we started talking on whatsapp. One day i received a text to stay clear of him, it was only then that i knew he had a gf, my heart sank. We didn’t flirt or anything, to me he was that invincible senpai that i admire. i blocked him everywhere the next day.

During my 16th birthday, he texted me, happy birthday in ml. I joked that i wanted a meal for present. we met the very first time in real life after school. he took me to swenson, which to me is like the mother of all restaurant.(I apologize for my 16 year old self) i sat across him, getting a good look at him, it’s great to finally put a face to his voice. He looked like a nerdy Fresh Grad Teacher and yeah that’s like my weakness? We had our meal and catch up a lot on our lives.

After Lunch, he send me home. I don’t know what got over me but i kissed him on the lips for the first time at the lift lobby upon realizing what i had done i ran up the stairs back home and blocked him again.

I kept thinking about the kiss for the next one year and eventually got into JC. Again on my birthday he texted me happy birthday again. But I did not reply because I stalk him on his ig to know that he’s still attached and I didn’t want break their relationship of 5 years.

Extremely stressed over my A lvl and also completely couldn’t get over him, I told myself that if he texted me on my birthday i would hook up to him and get him out of my system. If he doesn’t then i’ll completely give up on him. I know it’s morally wrong to hook up with someone with a gf but it’s driving me crazy. I waited everyday for that day to come reminding myself of what i promised myself.

He did message me Happy birthday. so I took the chance to invite him to repair my computer. (i know it’s a lame excuse i was 18). i met him on the following thursday at noon after school. Upon entering my house, i bolted the door, scaring my parents might come home early. i led him to my room which i locked the door behind. I pushed him onto the bed and after a short persuasion he eventually fell for the temptation.

We agree to keep it physical and behind his gf for a Year. Fast forward, I enjoyed every moment that I spent with him, the memories we had will always be precious. I’ve since return him to his gf as promised and cut ties.

I am 21 now, it’s been two years since he last wish me happy birthday. Even though i misses him, i’ve gotten him out of my system, some part of me still wants him but it’s not that strong. i sometime wonder if I’ll ever find another guy like him.

Dear Ed*****,

I never regretted being yours, I’m glad that it was you. Thank you for fulfilling my unreasonable request. I just wish you’d say happy birthday to me next year. Hope you stay with your gf forever!

Dear GF,

Sorry for stealing your bf for an entire year. I know i’m selfish, but i hope you’ll never find out. if you do, please forgive him.

Woman who says all men are trash are the trash themselves.

When woman get cheated on, immediately they’ll label men as trash.

Here’s the reality, those men that cheated on you are most likely the top 1%. Woman has a specific taste for men.

Woman want tall man, that’s about 15% – 20% of the population (May not be accurate but you get the point).

They want a good looking man, cut that percentage in half.

They want a strong man, cut that in half.

They want a rich man, cut that in half.

And whatever other attributes of men, the more you add on, the lesser the chances. Roughly 1% or less of men has all those attributes at the same time. However, why they most likely to cheat?

Because they can.

They have everything. Good looks, heights, strength, money etc. So he has power to simply fuck around. Cause here’s the reality, what is special about you that’ll make the 1% stay? Think about that.

Then you woman will start complaining and say there’s no more good man.

There are. They are the ones that are invisible to your eyes. Those men that work at McDonalds or Starbucks, those men who woke up early morning to take out the trash, those men that works in a factory, etc

These are good men. They’re not the 1% , but apparently they are trash cause the 1% treated you bad over and over again.

You woman don’t even bother looking at the other 99% cause they have no attributes that you want at same time. That or you got “bored” of happiness and want some toxic drama, thus the whole “You’re too nice for me”.

These majority of men are actually good man. But you woman put them in the friendzone instead.

And before you attack me and call me an incel or whatever, I am a happily married woman with kids. When I met my husband, I admit, he wasn’t the 1%. I’m not even that special. But we made the best out of each other, and here we are now.

The difference here is that you woman just wants what’s the best for you. Men will make the best out of anything he can get.

Men are not trash.

Your taste in men are.

Wake up.