A netizen said that he went out with a girl that he met from a dating app, and they had agreed to meet at the MRT gantry at the MRT station, but she ended up being 30 minutes late.

He wanted to end the date by the time she reached, and added that she looked different in real life as well. and they kept changing places to eat because she was indecisive, and they ended up walking a whole MRT stop because she wanted to eat at a certain cafe.

After the meal, she then made him pay for the meal and refused to pay for her half of the bill, as the guy said she just wanted a free meal.

Here is what he said

Recently I went out with a girl I met on tinder and it was just a horrible day. We decided to meet outside the MRT gantry at the MRT station and she was 30 mins late. When I msg her where she was, she said she’s here already at Watson. I was like ??? But ok I told her I will go over and meet her there. When we met I was already super turned off by her and just wanted to quickly end the date. She looked a bit different irl too.

Even though we already decided on what to eat beforehand, she was super indecisive and we kept changing places. In the end we walked 1 MRT stop because she said she wanted to eat at a certain cafe. It was super boring being with her too as we barely talked and she was on her phone most of the time. When we reached the cafe, the queue was super long and we decided to eat somewhere else. I was more into going to normal restaurants like Ippudo but it felt like she wanted to go somewhere more high class.

In the end we settled for a grilled fish restaurant. She ordered a lot of food without asking me but in the end we managed to finish all the food. The bill was a whopping $70 and I paid first. We walked awhile more and we decided to end the date. I told her to Paynow me half the amount before leaving and she looked surprised. She said it’s a date so I should be the one paying. No guy asked her to pay before. But I told her for all the dates I went out, the girl would always pay me back without me asking. She said she’s not going to pay and walked away. I was left speechless and found out she blocked my number too.

Just my day to meet someone who just wanted a free lunch wth. She wanted to eat at an expensive place yet expected me to pay for it while putting zero effort into the date.

i’m a fresh grad and working in a MNC fund company.

i was previously an intern and got converted. i had qualms about conversion previously as my boss micromanages back when i was WFH due to covid.

But because of the great package, it was tempting to accept and just tender maybe after 1-2 years. however i’m about 2 months in, and she has done many small antics, and badmouth about my colleagues to HR etc which i have heard. not to forget, she’s honestly quite incompetent, and she has not “mentored” me and i’m not doing much of the JD she previously promised me back when she wanted to convert me.

She said it’s just part of this project and we are a lean team, and things will improve when we finish this project. but i simply cannot stand to work with her anymore as she really makes you feel small and incompetent at work, when she doesn’t even give clear instructions and expects people to know what her expectations are. and once i said i wasn’t aware of her expectations, and mild chiding, she will “comfort” me by saying it’s part of the learning experience (which she will definitely hold a grudge as i have observed from other colleagues).

I honestly don’t even learn anything, maybe only learn how fake can one be maybe lol. how do i even know what i’m supposed to do, as a total fresh grad, when she doesn’t tell me what she expects of a particular task. she expects everything to be on “perfect” and claims credit for herself instead of the team who has been slogging so hard.

in any case, would appreciate genuine response as to how i can get of this?

should i go to HR to request for internal transfer/ relocate? but she would be notified too, and my notice period would likely be hell.

or should i look for another job? and not put this as my experience? because i think they would call my manager for verification, and i honestly don’t know whether she would help me out.

A netizen asked the users to share the stories of their shortest employment stories, and the netizens who did share their shortest employment periods did not disappoint.

Joined in the morning, quit in the evening

Joined a company and left in the evening. Would have left in the afternoon if I could.

First day of work, no one in the company could figure out the details of me joining the company and there was hostility amidst conversations without me throughout the office. The kind you see a bunch of people laughing together but you just… Cringe.

Didn’t have a lot to do so I asked the colleague beside me if I could just briefly see what he does and he said OF COURSE NOT.

During team meeting discussion, apparently they had a full week shoot and conclusion was nothing usable came out from that. Scrapped everything, which is crazy.

Left at the end of the day because the team dynamic, management and work quality… None of it was anywhere close to what they boast online. I was just starting out but man, even internship employment with outdated equipment was waaaay higher quality than theirs.

Worked 2 days and quit

Well, worked 2 days in a company and I quit. I’m not doing anything within my employment job scope but was asked to do another dept stuffs.

And the incident happen on my first day of employment make me feel the co is shady or I don’t know,some under table stuff going on. 1 of employee came to the office from shop and cried saying she wants to see the boss but the boss’s sister said he’s not in office which is a lie. And then the sister say she want to terminate this employee and ask her to pay back the few thousand dollar the boss give her.. Long story short, the boss is fking this employee and probably the few thousand bucks was a payment to her, and the coward boss hide inside his office waiting for the sister to settle the problem. I’m pretty sure it’s not the first time.

So i tender, and the sister say I need to serve 1 month and when I say I forgo the 2 days payment,she let me go on the spot.

Quit after 3 days

3 days. was supposed to help an admin assistant who was heavily pregnant. original plan was I’m supposed to learn from her for a month before she went on leave… first day of employment just followed her and see what she does. She say don’t need to remember anything yet, coz I won’t be able to understand.

Went back on second day and she’s gone. Like, just gone. Quitted the very morning. Spent the whole of that day and third day being blind panick spider totally don’t know what I’m doing or supposed to do. Her boss, an old OL started scolding me stupid and dumb and everything. Guess what, she’s clueless also about her assistant’s job.

Didn’t go back on 4th. It was just a part time job during my school holidays. Explained to the job agency what happened and luckily they sided with me. The lady at the agency told me actually that job have been advertised for a long time and very often for that place. The turn over rate was very high. With that kind of boss, I wasn’t surprised.

I worked in many different industry due to coming from poor family and doing part time since sec school holidays. Construction, promotion in malls, door to door sales, delivery, aircon conductor installing factory, bakery, F&B captain, pub waiter, production line, packer, logistic, admin, data entry, medical clerk, football school trainer, security guard, even road building in Indonesia, but that was the worst experience I ever have. Even the tough jobs are very fair to me, but that one was total unfair.

I dont know what to do now

I come from a single-parent family. We are not well-to-do, considered low income, but not poor to the point where we need to scrimp and save and wonder where the next meal will be coming.

My dad earns around $2.5k plus a month?? Me and my sister are living with him at the moment. Both of us are in uni, we are not working now due to school load but have worked pt before and have abit of savings.

But my dad has been hinting to us to pay for the water and electricity bills, since he feels unfair that we stay home more often than we do and shld pay for our portion. It’s not like we leech off him totally, like we buy our own groceries and sometimes even offer to cook for him, but he prefers eating out instead (damn picky).

He keeps insisting that we have the money from our prev jobs to cover the bills, but we are actually saving for the future, I’m planning to get married next yr and my sister and I are not working atm to focus on studies (proj been pretty heavy this sem), so we will be using our savings.

And I’m also not willing to pay for electricity since he is the one who uses the ac every night, it’s very unfair. Both of us use utilities responsibly, we dont take long showers or on ac all day, if that’s what you are thinking. I know it’s not alot alot of money but it adds up over time.

I envy those ppl, whose parents don’t expect them to pay bills before they start working.

Sometimes he ‘jokes’ that we should pay him rent too, this is making me so stressed out, I havent even started working and I’m alrdy treated like outsider staying free, maybe he will quit his job and expect monthly allowance once we start working. He still has housing loans to pay, so he always say how good it would be for us to move out and he can rent out the room. I feel so bad for occupying the space but I really need it, I cant afford paying rent now, really.

Then I feel like I’m unfilial, like shld I just suck up and pay the bills or like what… I will prob move out in 2 yrs time, once I finish my studies. I know we shld help our parents when they are in need (no he is not sick or anything), but I really cant afford it right now, if I can afford rent I would have moved out alrdy. I’m alrdy helping w some groceries and cleaning the house, which btw I’m the only one doing, idk shld I say this but when ppl have kids shouldnt they cover their necessities??

Not like I ask for allowance, just basic stuff like a room, water and electricity, maybe it’s too much to ask for, maybe as someone’s child I’m supposed to help w everything. I’m just too calculative and unfilial.

When you cause me so much anger and pain and not see what you have done to me.

She was my gf for almost a year. Out of the few girls that I’ve dated, she was the hottest one. I admit I am a very confident man. I workout and lift weights and I am tall at 1.85cm while she’s 1.65cm.

I always believe we look very good together and I am the envy of many men for having her as my gf. People always look our way when we walk past and I was sure it’s because we are a very good looking couple.

We always argued. I was often angry. She cannot see how much frustration she has brought me. She cannot see when its clearly her fault when things happen. I don’t believe no other guys are chasing her when we are together and I admit I let my anger get the better of me sometimes. She has many unknown calls and she would always deny it when I ask if it’s from other guys. If you have unknown calls why won’t you delete it if it’s really from a stranger? Why keep the number on the log?

A few times she threw her phone because she was so angry by what I’ve found on her phone and social media. If you have nothing to hide, why get mad? I deleted all her phone numbers as I was sure she was saving numbers under girls names when its actually guys numbers.

I kept saying she will cheat on me one day and she really left me one day. Then she got together with another guy barely 2 months after we broke up. I was still in the process of trying to get her back as we always patch back but it stopped working. So many times I caught him sending her home and it made me so mad. I made sure she remembers I will forever be single thanks to a cheater like her.

Towards the end it was really ugly and I wanted to get back at her. I didn’t want to give her the satisfaction so I destroyed everything of hers that she left at my home. I never forgot the way she insulted me. I did hope she is never happy forever for how she ended our relationship. I made sure she heard even my mum cursed her for causing me so much unhappiness.

That guy she dated was so short. I don’t know what she sees in him. I always believed she got together with him to spite me. I was sure he can’t satisfy her better than me. He don’t even have half my stature or presence. He doesn’t even drive a car like me. I find it unbelieveable that after me, she actually married that short guy and had a child with him.

I cannot get over the fact after leaving me, she married the first guy who wanted her. I know how to enjoy life while she chose to suffer with that poor short chap? When I meet or bump into mutual friends who also knows her, I feel my anger and bitterness coming back each time. I purposely flirted with her besties once when I bumped into them. I wanted them to tell her how happy and happening I am without her. And I have no lack of women surrounding me.

A part of me deeply wishes she suffer whenever I am reminded of her. I even purposely move around her workplace hoping she will bump into me and I hope she regrets letting me go as I am successful and earn more than her dwarf husband now.

I hope you remember me forever because you’ve been such a horrible person to me.

I am in my late 40s, married with 2 kids and working as an engineer. Just another rant on how expensive living in Singapore can be.

Gross pay is slightly over 5k and from my expenses below…I hardly have much to spend on non-essential stuffs. My wife works as a Beautician and occasionally helps me with meals and groceries.

When we got married 10 years ago, her savings is zero. Now she has almost double of mine… It’s not a big matter but somehow don’t feel good when I’m not the one in the family holding more $. Even my kids’ combined savings are more than mine. It’s a struggle for me to stay “positive”.

CPF – 20%

Parents allowance – 14.4%

Insurance – 10.45%

Student care fee – 10.17%

Wife allowance – 9.6%

Lottery – 7.83%

Meals – 7.16%

Kid#1 tuition – 4.85%

Kid#2 tuition – 4.73%

Kids insurance – 4.4%

Utility bills – 1.42%

Bus Transport – 1.34%

Kids bus transport – 1.05%

Conservancy fee – 0.85%

Home internet – 0.75%

Kids school fee – 0.49%

Kids allowance – 0.25%

Netflix – 0.24%

Mobile fee – 0.23%

Haircuts – 0.08%

Balance – Negative!

Need to drive Grab to stay positive…

Here are what netizens think:

• A lot of people looking at the lottery expense, which is about $100 a week.. not a small sum, but at the same time, his total leisure expenses of lottery + Netflix is just about $400+ and still less than 9% of income a month? Doesn’t seem that insane if we just look at it as a hobby expense, although switching to another hobby might be more ideal. That said, maybe he can have an honest discussion with his wife about how this is stressing him, and since the wife is still working, consider giving less wife allowance?

• Both spouses should have their own savings for their own occasional discretionary spending or retirement savings/planning.. I doubt his wife would want him to continue being unhappy/stressed up in this state…

• I think…we all are curious about your lottery expense. It’s quite a large sum. That’s the part you can definitely cut. You pay tax already, don’t need to help your government become richer

Am i the only one who gets turn off when i see my MIL babying my husband?

I find that in Asian countries, especially Singapore, i see a lot of mothers still being overprotective of their son (even though the son is in their 30s already??)

lagi worse if the son is the ONLY SON! treated like a treasure & the mother will do everything for him.

case in point: my MIL literally do everything for my husband. from washing plates for him, packing his room, to even want to buy new underwear, new shirt, new socks. “this underwear more comfortable i buy for you cos i know your (waist) size” – LOL wth? my friends also say the same thing… when they date, a lot of the guys never 断奶, mother keep calling the son non stop, ask him got eat anot, why 10pm still not home sia…

walao eh… ur son close to 40s liao, he don’t know how to do all this meh? damn turn off leh.. my husband will try to settle his own stuff but MIL keeps “fighting” to do everything for him. as if to show off her “status” as an irreplaceable figure in his life.

is it a matter of the mother not knowing how to let go, or the son like to enjoy not lifting a single finger at home? please share ur stories, i want to read lolx