I’m tired of being lonely. I’m a 23 year old woman and I’ve never had any type of relationship. Anyone I’ve perused has shot me down and at this point I’m at a complete loss. I don’t know what I can change. I don’t know what to do but I’m so lonely it hurts.

I thought, maybe I might be too shy, so I try to put myself out there and be personable.

I thought, maybe I’m not pretty enough, so I do my hair nice and fix myself up.

I thought, maybe I’m too fat, so I lost all the weight.

I’m not sure what else I can do. I don’t know what else I can change. I try my best to be pleasant and fun, I try my best to be lovable. But at this point it feels like no one will ever love me. I feel like I’m just going to have to accept that love isn’t in the cards for me.

Anyone struggling with the same thing, can y’all give me advice on how to cope with this? I’m having a really hard time valuing myself and I’m tired of crying.

Netizens’ comments

“But at this point it feels like no one will ever love me.” Is it that no one will ever love you, or that the ones who do you dont want?

Im asking cuz almost every woman i know has some guys in the “friendzone” who she knows would treat her right, but she is so focused in finding “the one” that she almost doesnt see them as another man.

I(23M) don’t know how to confront foreign roommate(20M) about proper bathroom etiquette

Hi, so I (M23) just moved and am living with a random roommate(M20) for the first time.

He is a foreigner, and I know his culture plays into some of this, but he leaves the bathroom in disgusting shape and I don’t know what to say.

First, he doesn’t flush used toilet paper in the toilet but puts it in the trash can, this I know is because of cultural reasons, however I am not sure about the rest.

He also doesn’t flush his pee, leaves pee on the toilet seat, doesn’t rinse the sink after shaving-leaving his hairs all over the sink.

I had to go in and pull a giant hairball from the drain, and its just been a little upsetting with his seemingly lack of awareness. I am not a confrontational person at all, very agreeable and don’t like to make any sort of conflict. So I have been bitting my cheek for awhile, but its starting to drive me crazy.

We rarely actually see each other, have only had 2 conversations before, so it makes it even harder to confront him about it, and I don’t know what to do or how much of this has to do with culture.

With not flushing, or rinsing the sink, I am confused if it’s a customary practice in order to save water or something.

If its cultural I don’t want to be too mad about it or culturally insensitive, but also feel like some of these are not culture but him just being lazy.

I understand not flushing toilet paper, but not cleaning the sink after he shaves or wiping down the toilet seat if he gets pee on it is just inconsiderate and unfair to me.

Please what should I say, how should I go about this, I feel especially nervous because like I said we never talk and I am not a confrontational person.

Been living together for 5 weeks, and have had 2 conversations. Don’t really want our third conversation to just be me nagging on him.

I caught my daughter and her boyfriend together. It was incredibly awkward.

So last night was a normal night like any other. My daughter had her boyfriend over and they were going to hang out and watch a movie.

My wife and I were in the kitchen and my wife was cooking. Eventually the food was done and my wife took it out and asked me to let them it was done in case they wanted any.

So I went and knocked on my daughter’s door then opened it and well…I saw everything.

They were on her bed and her boyfriend was wearing nothing but his glasses, his sweater vest and bowtie on the ground had his bare thighs wrapped around my daughter’s face. I hurriedly apologized and shut the door.

Later they came out and we discussed it. My wife and I made sure they were practicing safety and discussed it no further.

It was still awkward seeing my little girl performing thighlingus on a slender, effeminate nerd’s fat thighs but well, like mother like daughter I guess.

Regardless it was still awkward though.

Partner puts up cameras and I’m not completely OK with the idea

My partner (35m) over the course of our relationship has tried to put up cameras in the house on a few different occasions.

Personally, I don’t really like them. I (33f) work from home and don’t want to be watched, which he will sometimes do.

I know this because there’s a talking option and sometimes he will say something to me, through the camera, randomly throughout the day. I don’t like that lol.

The camera set up in our living room started when we overseas over the weekend. My dad was over to bring our baby to daycare and watch over our older boys before they left for the day/evening.

He was obsessed, watching the camera so much. Literally just watching my dad and the kids walk around hanging out.

It was really weird. I didn’t like that and I thought it was invading my dads privacy who was doing something nice for us (we wouldn’t have been able to go away otherwise).

Now that we are back, the camera is still up. I unplugged it this morning and went back to the kitchen to see it plugged in again.

He knows I don’t like it. He had one in our room a few months ago and I told him to stop trying to put them up. Of course, I have nothing to hide, I just don’t like the idea.

Also want to add that he won’t let me have the app to the camera, he told me only one user is allowed which I think is BS

Malaysians who like to belittle, mock or trash anything related to Singapore are no different to PRC Chinese who like to do the same to Taiwan

I think this needs to be said, the hypocrisy is astounding, with many similarities. I’m sure it’s quite a common trope now for almost a lot of things related to Singapore to be trashed by Malaysians, often without reason.

Something to do with being an off-shoot of a former united country perhaps? (SG with MY, TW with CN) They include mocking Singapore’s:

1. Land size (Similar to how China’s land size triumphs over Taiwan)
2. Population
3. Cuisine (making comments like it’s “stolen” from Malaysia, China like to do this with Taiwan)
4. Culture (likewise with Culture) …among others

This kind of behavior is not different to how many PRC Chinese like to treat and talk about Taiwan. Notice that? Here’s some recent examples (last 1-2 months):

1. “100% true, It’s actually funny how Singaporeans over-hype and exaggerate terrible food to unsuspecting non-Asians”
2. “Singaporean ” (Look at the comments if you think this is sarcasm)
3. “Would you support reunification with Malaysia?”. Also this gem: “Singaporeans, as with Penangites, Johoreans and Kelantanese, are all Malaysians prior to 1965. Singapore’s future lies in reunification, there’s no way the country can survive in the next few decades.”
4. “57 years of independence and still an irrelevant island”

Replace the countries with China and Taiwan. This is only the tip of the iceberg that’s been going on since 1965.

Some Malaysians also like to question the very existence of Singapore itself. Don’t forget just a few months back, Mahathir talked about how Malaysia should “claim” back Singapore. You may think this is yet another one of Mahathir’s shenanigans, but don’t forget that he said this in a public forum and was met with applause. Don’t wrongly assume he’s the only one who feels that way. The post above is a good example.

So Malaysians who like to be pro-Taiwan on the internet but at the same time spontaneously trash Singapore are hypocrites.

Like I don’t know why Singapore pisses them off so much. I’m also of course not saying that all Malaysians think this way, as with how not all PRC Chinese want to nuke Taipei, but this group is extremely vocal.

I’m using my dog to hook up with girls

I feel a little bad, and thought I need to confess what I’m doing. I love my dog and spend time with him, but I feel like I’m doing something morally wrong by using my dog to get casual hookups to sleep with me.

My dog, Chip (fake name) was so far the best wingman I could ask to get girls to sleep with me. First of all, I have a photo of me shirtless sitting on the beach holding him. That photo is a huge success on dating apps and probably got me the most matches. Girls just die for cute dogs.

The more important way Chip helps me to close the deal and bring dates to my place. I usually meet my dates from dating apps at a bar near my place. We grab a drink first at a casual bar for an hour, and move on to a nicer cocktail lounge to change the atmosphere.

After spending time in the cocktail lounge, I tell the girl that I’m sorry, but need to cut the date short. I need to go back and walk my doggo. I show her photos of my dog and usually the girl suggests she come meet him and walk him with me. On our way to my apartment I tell her the story of how I got him.

When we get to my place, Chip usually waits at the door. He jumps on me and then on the girl. His usual spot is on the bed, so he jumps around, and continues to his favorite spot at the bedroom. I tell the girl to try and catch him. Once the girl is on my bed playing with him, it’s a seal deal. I bring a couple of dog threats, and we play with the dog a bit more. We end up laying both on the bed, and I go for a kiss. From there, we start to take off our clothes and do the deed. I noticed Chip is naughty and love to sit on the floor nearby and watch me screw random girls.

Funny part is that I don’t ever actually walk my dog after telling a girl I need to go walk him. I walk him before the date, as I know I’ll probably be busy doing something else later on.

This probably happens once or twice a week

Hi all, Let’s keep this short,

I work as a manager of a certain company and we have interns working with us on an ongoing basis, and I sometimes feel bad for giving them too much work as I know that they are just an intern and they are paid less.

I tend to dote on my interns so I usually take on some execution work myself so that they can get some work-life balance and end at a proper 9-5 job without OT.

But recently, my boss wants me to take my hands off execution work and just throw all the work to interns to handle as she wants me to understand that interns are here to learn and not for me to spoil.

But if I were to do that, surely my interns will have OT and likely break down one day or perhaps feel uninterested and quit the job. (Happened before to a few interns)

I know that there’s like a work-life balance kind of thing in the genZ mindset but then there’s also the “You are here to learn” mindset from professionals working in the industry. What do yall think?

Netizens’ comments

1. While the interns are learning, your boss is also having you develop people management skills too.
2. You do realise your boss is developing you in people management area right? Let interns learn, learn to let go. Everyone happy.
3. I think there must be a balance. They are interns, not full time staff. You cannot be totally hands off and let them run the show. If they screw up how? Is your boss going to be responsible
   At the same time, you also can’t hold their hands forever if not they will never learn. I think just add on the workload slowly and systematically, and most importantly communicate and tell them your plan is for them to be self-sufficient and able to hold the fort at their own work one day
   Maybe give them bit by bit, hear their feedback. You will still need to guide them. Never be the absent leader.

You calling Grab? Can I tompang.

I went to a seminar with some colleagues. When it was time to go home, A asked how I was going home as she stayed in the same area.

So I said that I will be calling for a Grab. A asked if she could tompang. I was taken aback and wondered what that meant. Did she mean sharing the cost of the grab? But nevertheless I was caught off guard and said ok.

During the ride, i kept thinking if she was going to say anything about sharing the cost. In the end, she did not but at least she didnt ask to be sent to her place.

I reached home feeling kind of disgusted. Am I wrong to think that A was ‘buay paiseh’ (not shy), cos this is something that i will not do.

I will not even wanna trouble anyone even if that person drove and offered me a ride. I always tell myself do not do something i dun want others to do to me.

I asked my family members, some agreed with me but some said I was too calculative. What do you guys think? Btw, the grab ride is from my own pocket, cant claim.