My husband and I divorced 8 years ago. We’re 35 now. He was my high school sweetheart. When we divorced I never moved on. I always loved him and I always will. Niether if us even tried to date anyone else. We divorced for a pretty stupid reason tbh. He was a just being very flirtatious with women from his work and it eventually ended in him (consentually) grabbing a female co workers butt. That ended up as a divorce. No affairs, nothing physical other than that. He was very honest about it. we always got along and we (obviously) still get along very well. He is a very good man.

My mom always told me I’m “too good” for him and basically that leaving him was the best thing that ever happened. My dad too. Everyone on my side of the family really doesn’t like him for no reason, even though I always have defended him.

Long story short, we talk a lot still but a few months ago when we were hanging up he said “I love you” and I said “what?” And he said “I love you [my name]” and i felt butterflies like I haven’t felt since high school. I said “I love you too” after a while we slowly started flirting with each other and a few weeks we even went on a secret date. I told the kids it was a business dinner.

After a few more secret dates he asked me if we can all be a family again. He swore he will never do what he did. He promised me. He said I can go through his phone whenever go to his work whenever I want. He said he will be mine and mine only and that was the worst mistake he ever made.

I said I have to really think about it but last night I made my decision. I said yes. I haven’t told our children yet. I haven’t told my family yet. I have no clue what to do. My kids will probably be very happy but my family will hate me forever. How do I tell my kids and family about my decision?

Edit: I just want to clarify a few things. Yes, we WILL be in couples therapy. Also, no. We are not remarrying any time soon. As of right now I consider him my boyfriend and I am his girlfriend. That is IT. All he wants is to do things as a family again, and make our relationship known with our children.

Hi all,

Recently I was offered a job and put up one month notice. I have send an email to my boss and proceed to upload the email in the system for HR to process.

Few hours later my boss called me and scolded me for being irresponsible person and give nasty remarks about me.

She also claim I did not inform before hand informally. However I have inform my boss one week ago and have the intention to leave the company and have already handed over outstanding/routine task to my colleague.

I have also explained that most important paperwork is done and only left monitoring. After the phone call, I am confused and shock for the whole day.

I believe I got the right to resign and I also done my part in work. So my boss want to have exit interview with me. I requested through phone but was turned down and was expected to have the interview face to face in office.

I am just curious what the chance of being scolded when you give one month notice and also during exit interview, what should I say to avoid burning bridges?

Advance thanks to all.

The intimacy with my husband is bad. I dread having to sleep with him because of how bad it is. Plus he does not turn me on. No foreplay. The whole thing last 2 minutes with occasional awkward eye contact during this time.

He came home very late yesterday. The idea of him having a mistress floated in my head and I actually felt joy.

Why did I marry him if I knew he wasn’t skilled?- in the beginning we did discuss what we liked. He told me something completely different than what he actually did when it came time to perform. He initially attempted a bit of foreplay in the beginning, but after marriage all of that stopped.

Why don’t you communicate? – I know it’s partly my fault but he makes fun of me or calls me weird for even discussing it now. He has also joked in the past that he does not care if his partner comes or not, as long as he does. He also laughs after we do it, so I don’t even know how to bring it up. The whole thing has been strange.

Why don’t you go to therapy? – We need to even see a regular therapist before we see a focused therapist. I’ve tried to ask him to see a couples counselor in the past, he would not go. I doubt he would be willing to go to a therapist for this, plus I feel to embarrassed to ask.

Are you cheating on him? – No. I’m also not interested in being unfaithful. I feel like I’ve made my bed now I have to lay in it. It is not a deal breaker for me.

Hello everyone.

As described in the title, I feel useless as an intern. For obvious reason I will not disclose the specifics of my internship but for context I will say that I am a polytechnic student who just began their internship journey a few weeks back.

Is it normal to feel useless as an intern in a tech company? I’ve been asking my colleagues for help on my work, not without initial attempts and efforts of course, but I feel that I am asking too much from them. I worry that I make others think of me as incompetent.

To be frank, I would call myself a slow worker, but I always try to make up for it by putting extra effort such as having to work past working hours. I’m unsure whether my colleagues will see my efforts or see me as an added burden, but having to deal with the thought of not being up to their expectations gives me constant stress and anxiety.

So once again, is it normal to feel useless as an intern? Are high levels of stress and anxiety experienced by new interns to be expected? How do I know if I am doing just fine or doing poorly?

I’m genuinely hoping to make my internship journey a positive one and I’ll appreciate everyone’s answers and opinions as I am looking for ways to ease my mind off of this topic.

New homeowner, moved in end-June. Ikea delivery men came 3rd August to delivery a sofa bed and wardrobe for my common room.

I warned them not to drag heavy furniture over the wood vinyl flooring as it’s easily scratched by dragging very heavy items over it. They carried it in, but then for some reason rotated the sofa bed box over a single spot several times and ripped my flooring.

They were told to leave immediately by their company and a second set of assemblers came on National Day to finish the assembly + get information/take measurements of the floor. At that time, I also discovered one of their cupboard doors was damaged and they assured me they’d replace it.

A quote from my flooring contractor says it’ll cost $378 to replace the vinyl board as it includes the labour of taking the flooring out from the side of the room to get to the ripped board to replace it.

I had to call several times every week in August for updates, each call taking 20-50 minutes just to get through to a staff. No progress. It’s only when I post on social media that they get someone to move the case. Finally a man identifying himself as a CS manager from IKEA called me on 23rd August and said I can call him directly anytime, so I don’t have to go through waiting on the helpline.

The CS manager arranges for a contractor to come to my house on 4 September, never gives me a time. I wait the entire Sunday for the guy to show up, he never does. CS manager says “family emergency” and reschedules for Tuesday. Waits the entire day, guy never shows up either.

At that point the CS manager says he’ll check with other contractors. Then comes back and says the flooring is “exclusive” so might need to get it from the original vendor. I give the information and the quote from before, he says he’ll talk to his management and update.

I wait 1.5 weeks and send a text asking if there’s any update. No response for hours until I try to call him. Then he responds saying he’ll have one for me by the end of the week, which is 18 September.

I wait till the 23rd and send a text in the morning. No response. I try to call at 4.30pm. He tells me he’s in a meeting and will get back to me. I message him at 6.15pm asking if he can update. I never receive a response from him after that despite messaging 3 more times (once a day).

At this point, they’re not even responding on social media. I know the amount is not very big, but after wasting my time and causing stress the last 2 months, this has gone beyond the money. They haven’t even replaced the damaged cupboard door.

I’m considering the small claims court. I don’t actually want to go through the trouble if I can, I just want them to do the right thing. A corporation like theirs having zero accountability when they damage people’s homes irks me.

If there’s anyone with a similar experience or has advice on the best way to pursue this case, would love to hear it. Thank you in advance!

I (28 F) had been dating a guy exclusively (29 M) for two months. He said he loved me in a month. He had a great sense of humour and we come from the same city. We clicked on the first date and had a great connection. He was very loving, caring and romantic that it felt like I was living my dream. He had told about me to his mom, sister and friends which is kind of a big deal in India. I have not met his friends or family yet because I was not ready at that time.

He had never been in a long term relationship before so had few friends who were girls for emotional support. I didn’t see that as a warning sign at first because I have my own set of guy best friends, but last week his girl best friend (30 F) came by surprise from another city to meet him for their Friendversary. I found it really odd that she came by surprise that too on a weekend and planned to stay for four days overnight at his house, knowing that he might have plans with me. She asked him to cancel all the plans and spend time with her. Its not new that his friends stayed at his house, but I found this particular scenario very odd. I was upset that he cancelled my plans. I told him that I was not comfortable with her staying there which he didn’t understand. He thought that I was being unreasonable. I asked him if we can atleast meet for lunch and I want to meet her to talk but he was so scared to disappoint his best friend and he said she didn’t want to meet me.

I lost my cool on Sunday and asked him to meet me or else I will leave the relationship. He met me and I asked him straight if something was going on between the two. He got really upset and said it’s just platonic. I talked about boundaries and told him that I am not comfortable with his female friends staying at his house overnight unless it’s an emergency. He accepted after much deliberation that he will not allow night stays.

We spent the night together and kissed for the first time. That is when all hell broke loose. He uttered her name when he kissed me. I got very upset and asked again if something is going on. He said it’s just platonic and he felt really guilty for leaving her alone and being with me because she wanted to spend time with him so she was in his mind. I felt betrayed because he didn’t know how to prioritise our relationship. He was feeling so much guilt for leaving her alone at his house that I kind of thought that maybe he has feelings for her and that we are not compatible. I conveyed how I felt when he uttered the wrong name. But he was unable to process it. He said he will distance himself from her which I felt was a good decision. They used to talk everyday for hours before I came into his life . It was like he was emotionally involved with her and I was competing for his attention. I was willing to give him a chance.

The next day he told her to stay in another friend’s house saying what happened between us the night before. She got very upset that he didn’t spend Sunday with her and told him that I am overreacting and controlling him and that I didn’t trust their friendship which was for almost 4 yrs. He got guilty again and cried to me that she left after a big fight. I consoled him but couldn’t find a reason why this affected him so much. I felt that if she was a true friend she should have given us the space to resolve our conflicts. She guilt tripped him and called his mom and sister telling them that he is behaving this way. They didn’t know the full story so they supported her. I told his sister about the incident and she supported me after that. The very next morning the girl best friend sent him a text message asking him to meet her at the airport which she showed me. I got so pissed that I told him to go if he wants. He said he won’t and blocked her telling her that he can’t talk to her anymore because I was upset. I was really happy that he understood my feelings.

The afternoon he called me crying and told me that she had sent him an email about their friendship and how he insulted it by doing all these things and setting boundaries. He said he felt really guilty and kept on asking me if he can talk to her again. I was devastated. I told him he can do whatever he wants , it’s his choice. He got a panic attack and I got scared. I wanted to make sure he was ok. So I told him to go for therapy and gave him my therapist number. He went for therapy but still couldn’t get rid of his guilt.

He wanted to meet me the next day. I knew something was not ok. He said he can’t stay away from her because she has been a big part of his life. So if I am not ok with him talking to her and sharing things he said we will break up. I was heartbroken. I rethought the entire thing and after a day I said I am ok with her meeting occasionally but not talking everyday. I wanted him to be emotionally intimate only with me which I feel is not unreasonable. I also offered to talk to her to see if we can get along. She came on video call and we had a small talk which was awkward. I was talking normally but she didn’t talk much. He said he needed a break to think about the entire episode. I agreed.

The very next day he met with me and broke up saying that he is choosing the friendship over our relationship because he doesn’t feel anything for me and that the relationship will not work anymore. I was not able to understand why he changed his mind so quickly. Last week we were in love and the next week he broke up. I am unable to process this. Was I unreasonable to ask some space for our relationship and expect him to prioritise me? My gut instincts said that she was i

I have spoken to some of my colleagues (late twenties) recently. They are hoping their other half earns enough to own a car so that they don’t have to take public transport (one of them mentioned that she’s tired of taking public transport and prefers to find someone who can own a car).

Another girl travels to Malaysia weekly to visit her parents and rants about the customs queue so if her other half also owns a car it’s much more convenient.

So I am curious if owning a car has improved your quality of life significantly (assuming you don’t drive for work) and has that also brought u more dates?

Netizens’ comments

1. I can own a car but then I hope they don’t mind that I can only afford a 3rm flat because of the car.
2. With the current COE price? That’s crazy talk. Why would I buy a car just for myself? I got my car only when my kids are on the way.
   These ladies are not looking for husbands. They are looking at their wallets.
3. I’m genuinely curious, how much salary is enough to justify buying a car.
   I’m in my late 20s, my salary is decent. The pros of having a car provides you convenience and a portable storage box(important if you like outdoor activities.)
   However, with the outrageous COE, petrol, parking, road tax, maintenance cost. I don’t feel financially comfortable getting a car, it’s just not worth it. (~1.5k/month).
4. I’ll only consider for a car when there is a necessity. E.g. Elderly family members, kids, or business functions etc.
   Having a car will definitely get you more dates, but IMO, I rather go on dates with someone that is more practical then superficial.
5. I’m 27, bf is 28, he’s getting his driver’s license but doesn’t mean I would ever demand him to buy a car. Choice is all his if he can afford it and wants to drive. Otherwise I’m happy we can save the car money for other important things.

My parents want me to go university, however, I already got plans to just find a job after poly. What should I do?

Ever since young, I realise I am more of the creative type of person. It is something I have been good at and passionate about, unlike science/maths. Now, I’m a year 3 polytechnic student awaiting graduation trying to land in a junior role of a specific design field with my diploma (which is somewhat relevant to the field) and portfolio (which contains my design works related to the field).

My parents, however, think I should get a degree first. I think they would rather me do a Graphic Design degree first since Graphic Design is more broad and I can explore other different types of design with the degree instead of just jumping straight into the specific design field which I am more interested in at the moment and actually have a plan for.

I actually did consider a Graphic Design / Communication Design degree from LASALLE and NAFA before but I fear that I might struggle in school again. I prefer working with people and gaining more knowledge / experience in the industry than mugging for tests / exams. Even if the degree course is project-based, it still feels really different than working in a team to submit a project to a real working client, you know?

With the stuff related to the specific design field I want, I don’t think it’s enough to showcase my interest in Graphic Design…because Graphic Design is more than just this specific design…which means I need to showcase other design work related to Graphic Design for the LASALLE/NAFA admission interviews.

Honestly, I’m just a train wreck right now…I don’t know if I should continue with my plans of landing a job in this specific design field or get a degree.

TLDR: I’m currently a final year poly student. I have been working on personal projects so that I can land a junior role in a specific design field I want. This role does not require a degree. Despite this, my parents think I should open up my choices and apply for at least a Graphic Design degree (which is a broader / bigger field of design) instead so that I learn more types of design instead of just one specific type of design. What should I do?

I, 32 F work at a doctors office- a family practice to be specific.

For privacy reasons, I will be changing the name of those involved.

To give a little context to help better understand, a father and his daughters are the physicians and his wife/her mom is the manager. We’re going to call the dad, Dr. A, the daughter Dr.E and the mother/wife Karen

I (17M) still live with my EXTREMELY homophobic mother (47F).

I recently bought some press-on nails that I was going to wear for a party, we were supposed to dress as weird and goofy as possible. I’m not actually into guys.