My partner has this close female friend and they talked about everything, almost everyday and I’m fine with it to be honest.

The problem arise when I found out that the topic they talk about includes seggs. The frequency of them having it and what they do.

I wasnt exactly very comfortable with this topic and raised it up. My partner wasnt happy about it and said it is normal for platonic friends to talk about seggs, and that he is open minded.

I am a very private person and do not like outsiders knowing too much info about myself unless I tell them myself, and this includes my seggs life.

I told my partner that this has nothing to do with being open minded or not but more about how inappropriate it is as both of them are attached and it has made me very uncomfortable and overthink, plus I think it overstepped the platonic friendship boundaries and it’s disrespectful to me.

I mean, once you’re attached, you have to put your partner’s feelings first, innit?

But he just keep harping on the fact that it is normal for platonic friends to talk about their seggs life. It was until I got angry then he told me he will reduce and avoid the topic.

I lost trust the moment he started sharing my private life with outsiders. I’ve mentioned to him multiple times that I hate having outsiders knowing about my private life.

But he retorted that what I am going through affects him and he needs to talk to someone.

Did I mentioned I also found out she knew about my health before I told her myself? And how he used to complained about me to her, like how I was moody, lazy and tired all the time etc? But he supported his action of ‘complaining’ with “but I also complimented you to her”.

I mean what difference does it make??? Talking bad about your partner and then complimenting her?? It was only these few months that I found out PCOS causes fatigue, which explains why I was often tired even when I wasnt doing anything for the whole day.

Now, I am feeling lost, upset, empty and idk what is the next step I should take. I’m overthinking everyday and suspicious of everything. It’s getting very very tiring and I’m on the verge of breaking down.

No troll please, I really want genuine advice. Thank you in advance.

Friends keep suggesting to BTO together although I’m attached?!

I’m a Female in my early twenties, and I’m attached for the past 3 years now. It’s made known among our friends that we are keen to apply for a BTO if a good location arises.

Somehow, some of my male friends would message me and say, if things don’t work out with my partner, they would want to BTO with me. LOL. A friend even said he can help me join his current company if I BTO with him

I can’t tell if it’s a compliment or an insult. Makes me think am I their backup plan, or do they think they are comfortable with me or I’m just simply too unattractive that a BTO arrangement would work platonically?

What do guys usually think when they say such things?

Here are what netizens think:

they only see u as a means to a transaction. things always get ugly when money is involved. dont waste your future, money in case they bail out, and your first timer grants. SG is a good place to live if you dont make stupid decisions.

• Till i sign the paper. No BTO. Thanks but no thanks

• I think a lot of us are trained since young here, that the 5Cs la n must buy house la, u r already in a 3 Yr relationship, u buy a house with some1 u are ready to marry n go ahead in life with cos its a long term commitment both house n relationship. You don’t hv this cemented then how many Cs u amass also will lead to a messy end! Gd Luck

• Some people BTO together to obtain opportunities for investments’ growth. Might as well earn and save enough for a condo. Haha

Everyone knew that my husband was having an affair but no one told me

My husband has been having an affair with a woman he works with. My in-laws, his brothers and their wives, some of our neighbours and my friends and some of his colleagues all knew.

It was going on for more than a year. No one told me and I feel like the fool that everyone made fun of behind her back.

I don’t understand why not one person thought to tell me that my husband of almost 25 years was having an affair. I’m hiring a divorce lawyer tomorrow.

I don’t even know who I can trust now since almost everyone I know kept this secret.

Netizens’ comments

• I’ve seen this. I found out a friend of a friend was cheating, I asked the group if they knew and they all did. Asked if they said anything and they all said it wasn’t their place. But you know what else, when asked if they would want to be told they all said yes.
• I had the same situation with my friend group. I told my friend that her bf was cheating with more than one other girl and they had a fight, made up after he got her name tattooed on his chest, then promptly kicked me out of the friend group. I’m better off without scummy friends like them! (He went on to continue cheating on her and stealing money from her, they got engaged when he got caught again, then they eventually broke up when she started cheating on him. Seriously effed up relationship.)
• Even YOUR friends knew about it? That’s horrendous! I wouldn’t be calling them friends any more.
• Cut anyone out who knew and didn’t tell you. It will suck to lose so many people you once thought you could trust at once, but it will hurt just as bad when you divorce and they say things like ‘I want to stay neutral, I care about both of you’. TF they do, or they’d have told you in the beginning.