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MAN PRETENDS TO BE POOR SO HE DOESN’T HAVE TO MARRY HIS GIRLFRIEND

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I’m with my girlfriend for 3 years. She’s been bugging me to marry her and it’s really starting to stress me out.

I didn’t tell her I actually have 6 figure savings accumulated from my deceased father’s will on top of my own assets and let her think I’m a pauper. She even gave me money once when she thought my family finances were tight but I rejected it.

A part of me decided she is the one after she did that.

My mother told me to never flaunt our wealth so as not to attract the wrong people so I guess I start to feel funny about money since young. We mostly go to hawkers and only visit restaurants when there is a special occasion like birthdays or Christmas.

Our dates are usually very low costs. I like that when the weather permits, we have the habit of alighting earlier from the train or bus and spend more time walking together and talking to reach our destination.

I lied to her that we can’t afford a flat yet and she showed hand me her savings and say she can and kept asking me not to waste her time in a joking way. Her family is pretty well to do. Her dad even gifted her a car when she got promoted but she sold it as she’s not confident driving.

The problem I have with my GF may be insignificant to some couples. I don’t really have any major red flags or issues about her. Even if she’s not my gf, I would think of her as a great person to have around. I know other men will find her very eligible given her looks, personality and family background. My mother loves her and already considers her a daughter-in-law. But I have a but. I’m not ready. We are in our late 20s.

How do you become ready?

I’m so in love with her but I just couldn’t make myself get down on one knee and ask for her hand in marriage.

Here are what netizens think:

  • You just need competition. Once the danger of losing her becomes very real then u will treasure her more.Let her go out and work and be in the company of guys who are waiting to flaunt their wealth and generosity to her. U will become better after losing her.
  • It is a typical scenario. When you have her, you don’t treasure her. When you lose her, then you will regret why you never treasure her. She is way more mature than you. Her future have you but your future do not have her. Let her go. You can’t even be truthful to her when it comes to money.
  • Please do a good deed and break up with her. She deserves better. It’s one thing to not tell her your savings but another to lie about being a pauper. She sounds like a nice girl and deserves someone who is honest with her. I hope she dumps you soon

SALARY TOO HIGH FOR HOUSING GRANT BUT NOT ENOUGH TO AFFORD CONDO, STUCKED

I’m a stay home mum in my mid-30s, and my husband’s income is about $12k, which I consider substantial. Being pragmatic and frugal by nature allows us to sustain this single-income lifestyle where I can stay home w the kid. We don’t need alot of things to be happy and so don’t see a need to chase material things that add to stress.

We currently stay in a 3-room HDB and are moving to 5 rooms- since baby #2 is coming in Oct, so we need more bedrooms.

At the start of our house-hunting journey, I honestly felt like you too! Because our income was not low, we didn’t qualify for a subsidy.

Private Housing

We’re also not well off enough to afford private housing comfortably without stressing about monthly instalments. Private housing is out of the qn for us in the foreseeable years because I don’t want to put extra stress on my husband and we also see no need to stay private. I think it’s the inside of the house that matters, not the outside, since we spend most of the time at home, not in the function room or swimming pool.

When choosing our new 5rm resale flat, our key considerations were location, to be close to extended family. But that meant we had to continue to stay in mature estate where HDB prices are crazy. 5rm or EA flats around the area is at least $700-$800k onwards.

Both of us didn’t want to pay this much for a 99yr lease and not mentioning the loan. As we are also sceptical how much we’ll be able to sell it for in future.

So to combat this, we looked at older units and low floor. It helped that my husband prefers low floors, and I liked that the older unit are bigger.

After more than 15 viewings, and months scrolling on PropertyGuru, we finally found a flat from the 1970s, 5rm, mature estate, low floor, at less than $600k, with a greenery view on the balcony.

I think it’s entirely possible to find something comfortable within your budget so that u don’t have to postpone plans just to save up for that ideal property at sky-high prices.. You just have to go for many many viewings, so that u can find something that’s acceptable to both of u.

Housing Versus Marriage

If you would like advice, don’t let housing or lack of push back your marriage plans. My big regret is not having kids earlier. I had my first baby at 33. Second one is coming in a few months at 35. I feel tired and old already.. But we still want to try for baby #3, as my husband and I are both only children so we know it gets lonely.

My husband and I got married in our late 20s. At that time he was still studying, but we didn’t want to wait for BTO and too broke to buy resale. So we rented a 1 bedroom condo at $1.5k per month, which was very affordable. But that was the rental market years ago, i don’t know what it is like now. Maybe u can consider renting a cheap / affordable place in the meantime to start settling down.. After 1yr rental, my husband graduated and we bought our first 3rm resale flat and have stayed here till now.

We also didn’t have a lavish wedding/proposal/diamond ring. We don’t see the need for all these. So it also helped to save money and put it into longer term things..

However, I do have to agree with u about renovation costs! Now that I’m embarking on the reno journey myself, prices are crazy.

Because our new flat is so old, we really can’t keep anything. It needs a complete redo of floor tiles, electrical, lighting, toilets, kitchen.. Really everything. We’re not even looking at elaborate carpentry or anything very fancy, our 3 quotes have come back ranging from $75k- $120k. And this is just renovation cost, not including appliances, aircon and furniture!

Expensive Renovation Quotes

I find this really unbelievable. I’m still persevering to find more reasonable quotes. I will not spend $100k on reno, it’s crazy. I think $60k is probably our max, but we haven’t found that yet, still working on it…

Good luck to you on your house hunting. Don’t give up on HDB, not everything is $1mil.. $1mil is usually for penthouse unit but do you really need that to be happy? Take time to find, you’ll surely find something you both like.

Also, your first house likely won’t be your last. So don’t need to go all the way to $1mil immediately. Because it’s the first time you will be staying on your own, there’s alot of things you will need to experience to know if you will actually like it.. So no need to max out on your first home yet.

Like for us, we were so noob choosing our first hdb, we only went to view in the night after work. So we didn’t know it was so dark. It doesn’t have natural light coming in as it is blocked by opposite block and is a corridor unit so I even have to turn on lights in the day!

But we’ll chalk it down to first-timer mistake. So for all our subsequent houses, we know clearly what we want / can live with and what we absolutely cannot and we’re able to make better decisions..

One last thought, maybe don’t go private la, i imagine it must be very stressful to carry such a big loan on your shoulders at this early stage, esp if u say both of you have not much savings yet . But that’s just me.

SFA: FOOD RECALL NIO COCKTAILS “MAI TAI “, PRODUCT FROM ITALY

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The Singapore Food Agency has directed the recall of a product due to the presence of almonds.

Here is what SFA said:

The European Commission Rapid Alert System for Food and Feed (RASFF) has issued a food recall alert on NIO Cocktails “Mai Tai” due to the presence of undeclared almond allergen.

As the implicated product was imported into Singapore, SFA has directed the importer (Nautilus Vintage Asia Pte. Ltd.) to recall the product. The recall is ongoing.

Allergens in food could result in an allergic reaction in individuals who are sensitive to it. Consumers who have purchased the affected product, and who are allergic to almonds, should not consume it.

Consumers may contact their point of purchase for enquiries.

Almond Allergy

The presence of almond allergen does not pose a food safety issue to consumers at large, except for those who are allergic to almonds. Consumers who have purchased the affected product, and who are allergic to almonds, should not consume it. Consumers may contact their point of purchase for enquiries

Product Details

Product name: NIO Cocktails “Mai Tai” (All batches)
Country of origin: Italy
Importer: Nautilus Vintage Asia Pte. Ltd.

PRC FOOD BLOGGER FACING JAIL FOR EATING ENDANGERED GREAT WHITE SHARK

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A few days ago, a China Internet celebrity food blogger was on the hot search for cooking sharks. 

On the 31st, the police confirmed that the shark in the video was indeed a great white shark), which is a second-class national-protected animal. The food blogger could face a jail sentence of up to 5 years.

In a video, the Food blogger said: “Today, I’m going to take a 100-pound giant farmed shark home to see my aunt…”

In the video, the food blogger named “Tizi” (提子) first came to the door of a seafood shop with a large package and she placed a shark into the package, attracting many onlookers.

Afterwards, “Tizi” brought the sharks back home for cutting and making it into a spicy dish and also grilled the shark meat.

During the cooking process, she put in a lot of oil, peppers and other seasonings, and finally ended with everyone eating the shark meat. 

The upper left corner of the video is marked with the words “artificial bred and edible”.

Animal Protection

The video caused an uproar on the Internet. Some popular science bloggers pointed out that this shark is an internationally endangered wild animal, the great white shark, which is a second-class national protected animal.

She responded to the media repeatedly and confirmed with the seller that the source of sharks is regular shark and not an endangered animal.

However, the police in Nanchong, Sichuan confirmed that the shark in the video of the Internet celebrity “Tizi” is indeed a great white shark), and the case is undergoing investigations.

According to a lawyer at Beijing he said that the great white shark is a second-class protected wild animal in the “National Key Protected Wildlife List”. and added that the purchase has violated the provisions of Article 341 of the “Criminal Law”, suspected of endangering precious and endangered wild animals, or will face a penalty of imprisonment of not more than five years.

48 Y.O ARRESTED – THREW OBJECT THAT PRODUCED LOUD BANG & SMOKE @ JURONG WEST PLAYGROUND

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The Police have arrested a 48-year-old man for public nuisance after he allegedly threw an object which produced a loud bang and smoke at a Playground located along Jurong West Street 42.

The unidentified object made a deafening sound and produced white smoke.

The Object

According to Shin Min Daily News, The incident happened on Thursday (July 28) at about 3.48pm. 

While a group of children were playing at the playground at Block 453, Jurong West Street 42, a man suddenly threw an unidentified object towards them.

According to a 10-year-old boy, he told Shin Min Daily News: “The five of us were playing at the playground when the man suddenly threw the object in our direction and landed about 2 to 3 meters away from me. “

Another 10-year-old boy who was on the scene told Shin Min Daily News: “I vaguely saw him throw a blue-green object the size of a palm, and then smoke came out in front of our eyes, and the explosion was much louder than the fireworks that are usually played during the New Year.”

He also said: “I don’t know if we accidentally bumped into him during the play and thus offended him.”

In a reply to Lianhe Zaobao, police said authorities received a report at 3.48 pm on Thursday.

Police have arrested a 48-year-old man on suspicion of public nuisance, and the investigation is still ongoing.

Potential Penalties

The offence of public nuisance under Section 290(b) of the Penal Code carries an imprisonment term of up to three months, or with a fine of up to $2,000, or both.

M’SIAN POLICE FINDING S’POREAN MEN FOR ALLEGED ASSAULT WITH WRENCH IN JOHOR

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A Singaporean man allegedly wounded another with a wrench in Malaysia Johor Bahru. The two parties misunderstood while having fun in an entertainment venue. One of them used a wrench as a weapon and injured a Malaysian man.

The Malaysian police recently received a report that some netizens uploaded a 13-second video to Facebook, alleging that a Malaysian man and a foreign man had a physical confrontation in the area of ​​Mount Austin Gardens in Johor Bahru.

Assault

According to a preliminary investigation by the police, a 24-year-old Malaysian man was beaten with a wrench by a foreign man between the ages of 20 and 30 outside the entertainment venue at the above-mentioned location.

It is believed that they do not know each other.

Video of man

The Assistant Commissioner of Johor Bahru South Police District said in a statement tonight that the two parties believed that there was a misunderstanding when they were having fun at the entertainment venue, so the incident occurred.

He said that at the time of the incident, the foreign man entered Johor Bahru in a foreign-registered vehicle with two other friends. The police are still tracking these three people to help investigate the case.

He pointed out that the police were investigating the case under Section 324 of the Penal Code for causing injury with a weapon.

According to reports, a group of men believed to be from Singapore got into an argument with another group of Malaysian road users on the street. Among them, a man suspected of being from a white registered Singapore car even demonstrated with a wrench. He was accused of injuring others and fled in the car.

This incident is believed to have occurred in the commercial section of Mount Austin Gardens in Johor Bahru the night before. After witnessing the incident, the witnesses took pictures of the incident and uploaded them to Facebook, which aroused heated discussions among netizens.

FLASH FLOODS IN PARTS OF JOHOR BAHRU, VEHICLES STRANDED

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Many netizens have uploaded photos of the situation in Johor Bahru after a heavy downpour.

Roads and car parks were seen filled with water due to the flash floods (Aug 2). A netizen uploaded a photo of Hospital Sultanah Aminah (top photo) which was seen flooded.

Flash Floods

Heavy rain for more than an hour resulted in several roads in the city of Johor Bahru.

A resident, Rahman Abdullah, 60, said he and his family members were in the city centre and they faced traffic jams for more than half an hour due to flash floods.

According to him, the heavy rain started at 12 noon. “We are lucky because vehicles can still move slowly on Jalan Wong Ah Fook even though the road is flooded.

“We also understand that the routes on Jalan Yahya Awal and Jalan Ayer Molek are also face flash floods resulting in congestion,” he said.

Meanwhile, the President of the Puteri Malaya Bersatu Youth Association (Perimau) Johor, Mohd Ridhwan Othman said, his party also received complaints of flood threats on Jalan Persiaran Abu Bakar Sultan in the grounds of Hospital Sultanah Aminah (HSA) in Johor Bahru.

According to him, the matter causes difficulties for visitors and patients who deal with the hospital.
It is understood that flash floods also hit Kampung Muhamad Amin in Nong Chik with water up to waist level, Jalan Pantai Lido Menghala to the Town Center, Jalan Mahmodiah in front of Restaurant Yasin and Jalan Seri Pelangi Menghala to Stulang Laut.

Meanwhile, a spokesperson for the Malaysian Civil Defense Force (APM) through a statement confirmed receiving reports related to flash floods in several areas around the city of Johor Bahru.

Vehicles in open-air car parks and roads were also affected. Chief Minister Onn Hafiz Ghazi was on site to assess the damages

RANDOM GUY AT CLARKE QUAY TALKS TO GIRL, GIRL RESPONDED AGGRESSIVELY

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This happened yesterday. I was at a bar at Clark Quay with my boyfriend and his sister.

This random guy who seemed to be quite drunk walked up to me, made some nonsense conversation and then straight up told me to remember to smile… I said what?

First to confirm he actually said that to me and he repeated it. To which I responded, I am not able to smile as long as I see your face in front of me. Then I turned away from him and jokingly told my bf I was gonna stomp this guy in his Lil micro P if he was gonna tell me that again. (Just for reference I have never stomped someone so it was obviously a joke)

His response? He pulled me away from the guy, placed himself in between us and told ME to calm down.

I have to admit I had a few beers myself as well and it probably was wise of him to diffuse the situation like that. But I can’t seem to find peace with the fact that he ‘corrected’ me instead of this guy who was rude to me.

Later in the evening, I asked my bf how many times in his life someone has told him to smile and he said zero of course.

Just because I have a V and boobs I have to smile apparently and I should not stand up for myself.

WOMAN DATE GUY WHO IS 12 YEARS YOUNGER, HANDSOME BUT CANNOT LAST IN BED

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I went on a dating site because I recently became single (38F here but most people guess I am in my 20s) , and I specified that I prefer those who are in the age range of 10 years younger to 15 years older than me.

And this kid was 2 years below my range, meaning he is only 26 years old but he contacted me and we had a really high match percentage and he was cool and very attractive to me so we hit it off

so I thought “this will be weird but might as well see what happens” and we’ve gone out twice now and had a great time hanging out, great conversation and great chemistry…

He is very affectionate and has been bugging the hell out of me over text… but the problem is he cannot hold his spunk in… The first time I went down on him for literally 10 seconds and he blew…

This time I tried to do the deed and he blew again within 10 seconds… Don’t know what to do… I really like him and I’ve been nice to him about it and told him I support him on it but he’s all like,

“I’m sorry, I want to hold it in but you’re so pretty” and I don’t know how I’m supposed to respond to that or make it so we can have actual S that lasts more than a few seconds…

I find him very hot and I want to get my rocks off too… I really seriously want to have actual full-blown secks with him because he is super-hot to me but he just blows randomly right whenever I apply sensation to his wang…

WORRIED TEACHER SAID THAT TEENAGE GIRLS ARE WEARING MORE REVEALING CLOTHES

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Need to vent about “girls shouldn’t wear….”

Rant -I don’t think I will change my mind, but am always open to hearing others thoughts.

I just got into a debate about girls clothing. Specifically that girls should not wear bikinis in public (person is question was 11, so I mean girls as in child).

I’ve put some thought into this because as a teacher I see secondary school girls wear some revealing clothing. And it made me uncomfortable. But final conclusion was it’s the lenses that our society views “females” with that actually is the problem. Any adult that looks at a young girl/boy and decides they are a S object, needs to adjust their thinking.

And even saying, “she shouldn’t dress like that because it’s revealing” is wrong. Because you are now an adult using that lense.

Either one of two things will occur. The girl/boy will be too young to have their peers view it as S, in which case no issue. Or, their peers will view it as S, which is fine, because that indicates that they are at the age to view it as such.

Additional education needs to be has around making smart choices once they are I the age group of discovering their future.