1. Girlfriend and I live together
2. I work a normal 9-5, she works a graveyard shift.

So, we made plans to try and go out to dinner Tuesday evening as it has been a long time since we last had a proper date.

Tuesday comes and my girlfriend remembers she has to take her car in for annual inspection.

Here comes the issue:

Girlfriend still relies on myself and her family for important things like for example the vehicle inspection, going to the doctor etc

She then proceeds to tell me she has to drive to her parents so they can drop her car off at the inspection site and since her parents will be driving the car to the inspection for her, she will be stuck there all day and so she wants me to go and pick her up for dinner.

My problem with this is that the drive to her parent’s place is 30 minutes. Coming back home to go out to dinner will be another 30, followed by the ride back to her parent’s to pick up her car after the inspection is done will be another 30.

Therefore, I tell her she should get the inspection done herself and that I’m not going to pick her up.

And here goes the “Why can’t you just pick me up?” followed by a “K” reply when I explained my point to her.

For example on last Friday, I liked how the bottom half of my hair looked as it wasn’t digging the greasiness of my roots. I don’t usually take advantage of the no managers/boss thing here to do and wear what I want but today I decided to wear a baseball cap to work.

That started the floodgate of comments I have heard non stop for the whole day on how I should be wearing hats more often, how good it looks, how much they like women in hats which I quote “I love women in ball caps, you should wear that more often”, and also the constant asking of why haven’t I worn one before, etc.

Why on earth can us women not exist without hearing a a man’s opinion about the slightest change or anything involving our appearance?

It comes across as if they think I get up every morning and ask myself what they want me to look like, how they want me to act so I can please them or make them happy with my appearance.

They make it seem like we do everything for them. I’m wearing a hat because my roots are greasy, I don’t care if you like women in hats, I don’t care if you like hats.

Why can’t you keep your thoughts about my appearance to yourself?

We talked on the phone for the first time last night and the conversation quickly evolved into a therapy session where he spent an hour venting at me about his ex, how badly she treated him during their relationship, his legal battles to get custody of his kids, etc.

I know how my ex talks about me out in the world, so while any / all of the stuff this guy is saying could be true, it raised my walls like crazy.

On top of that, the amount of information that he threw to me was way more than I was equipped to deal with for what I thought was going to be a casual late night phone call.

I wanted to try changing the topic but felt obligated to provide a listening ear.

He kept on apologising for making me hear his rants but proceeded to carry on after apologising.

I need to start to MIA and ghost him right?

Even if everything this guy says is true, it’s clear he’s not in any place to be dating yet, and furthermore, I’m in the market to date around and not be someone’s f-ing therapist.

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I(28F) had a best friend(30M) for 7 years. We would talk every day and even talk for 10+ hours when one of us would take a solo trip oversea.

Last weekend his 30th birthday came up and we celebrated with family. Though out our friendship people would make comments about how we should date. But we never thought it was a good idea so we laugh it off. After his birthday dinner, their sister made a comment about how I would be so great for him and how we should date.

The next day we went on a long walk and talked about his sister’s comment. He told me that I was completely perfect for him in every way, except for my weight. I was saddened, suddenly I was too fat and that was the only reason he didn’t want to be with me.

Fast forward to later that day, his sister and sister-in-law found me crying. I did not really want to say anything at first but I broke down and told them what their sibling had said. They were angry. Obviously, when I was not around they gave him a huge scolding for saying he is a horrible person for saying that to me.

He blamed me for “trying to turn their family against him” and blamed me for being a terrible person. We tried to fix the friendship but we have not spoken in a year.

I know it has been a while since this happened, am I being bad for telling the truth to his sister and sister-in-law.

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