wife wants me to be rough but refuses to admit it hurts her

I (M23) recently married my wife (F19) 3 weeks ago.

For context, I’m 193cm tall weighing in at 100kg, so I’m considerably a big guy. My wife on the other hand is the opposite – 154cm and petite; and is quite light that just for fun I carry her over my shoulder with one arm.

I say this because her favourite position in bed is me fully covering her body while I rail her, so you can imagine how much force I’m exerting on her with the sheer weight and size of my body on top of her small body.

The only thing stopping me from fully enjoying it is how uncomfortable she looks after we finish – I’ll never get memory out of my head of seeing her stumble in her walk and fall over after she got up – I cannot for the life of me figure out why she likes this if it’s causing her discomfort?

Unless it’s normal because we only started getting intimate a few weeks ago? Does it just get more tolerable over time? This isn’t an endowment issue, I’m as average as they come (6 inches)

I probably enjoy it more than she does – but I just can’t help feel sorry for her if she’s only insisting nothing is wrong for my sake?

Believe me, I’ve asked over 1000000 times to the point where I was really annoying her about it, and she isn’t breaking on her stance.

Two weeks ago I slept with my daughter’s friend, genuinely feeling anxious every day

My daughter has a very pretty 21 year old friend. Before all of this happened, I remember thinking to myself ”if I was younger, I’d totally date her. She’s my type. Long hair, tall, cute face, kind etc.”

she’s always been very nice to me, but suddenly she actually started teasing me. She started calling me daddy over text, she said ”your daughter is so lucky, I wish you were my daddy”,

she texted me at night to ask me a question (it was an excuse, of course) , I replied to the question, but she kept the conversation going, she said ”I’m in bed right now but can’t sleep… honestly I’d totally want a hug”

to keep it short, I couldn’t keep it in my pants.

I’m really not a perverted dude drooling over young girls, my daughter has 7-8 close friends I see regularly, she’s the only one I find pretty, because she really is pretty, and I simply couldn’t resist.

I’m divorced, I started seeing someone else two months ago, but I wouldn’t call that cheating since we aren’t clearly a couple yet.

I’m just anxious because I wouldn’t want my daughter to find out, yesterday she suddenly said ”we need to talk” and it scared the hell out of me. Basically every time I see her I’m like ”I hope she hasn’t found out, I hope she hasn’t found out, I hope she hasn’t found out.”

My girlfriend always teases and plays with me when I we get physically intimate, and I don’t like it.

For example, I lean for a kiss, and she turns away. Then, of course, my mood is ruined and I stop, and don’t want to show any physical affection to her. She then leans herself and kisses me passionately.

Or when I’m having sex with her, I love a nice foreplay. I get open, I get in touch with my feelings, I do what want, I get excited, I’m gentle with this woman, I admire her body. And what she does at that moment of my weakness (basically) is look at me, like, I’m an idiot, like, ‘why is your face so serious?’

Like?… man

And I lose that sense of connection, I lose that moment, and get pissed off, because, like, what am I doing wrong?

I expressed those feelings to her, lately even more, and what I got is basically she wants to make it more interesting

And she wants to get me to basically screw her brains out, she wants me to do it rough. Like, she turns away, teases me, expect me to be mad and just take her and do it rough.

But dude, to me it seems, she’s just scared of her feelings and not living in the moment, like I do.

What do y’all think about this?

I don’t like this at all, I think it’s a bad dynamic in a relationship

Thank you

edit: When I tease her the way she does, she gets mad

Also I should say, she wants a baby BAD

So I can’t help but think, she just tries to ‘tie’ me to her, to have a baby with her accidentally and unknowingly, in the spur of the moment

It’s been slightly more than 2 years since I got together with my boyfriend. I’m 24f and he’s 26m, and we both met through uni CCA and became close friends before gotten together.

He loves me very much, he rarely throws tantrum or lashes out at me even when he’s in a very bad mood. He would buy me gifts and my favourite food/drinks and snacks without me asking for it. Not only that, he never forgets our monthsary, anniversary, my family members’ birthday, and always tries his best to turn up to our family gathering during special occasions.

Besides that, he would make time for me whenever I need his help, like discussing my job application, my studies, my issues at work and with my colleagues, and so on. I would say he’s pretty much almost perfect in every sense.

I also never question his loyalty coz he’s an introvert who doesn’t know how to communicate with girls, and he always take pictures and videos of what he’s doing, plus we have calls every night as well. I mean trust is important in relationship, and so far I never see any red lights or anything that triggers my lack of trust in him.

However a few weeks ago I discovered that he has this habit of saving pictures of girls, like these girls can be his friends, my friends, acquaintances, colleagues, influencers, celebrities.

When I confronted him about it, his explanation was, it’s just my desire to please myself whenever I’m alone but I have no feelings for them and no intention to hit on any of them.

My trust in that moment was 50-50 when he told me that, but when he showed me the conversation with those friends, they indeed very seldom talk, and most of the conversations were months ago and the way he replied didn’t seem like he’s flirting or talking dirty at all, so I forced myself to trust him.

I didn’t force him to do anything about it coz my female friends used to tell me that it’s better for guys to DIY themselves rather than cheating with other women. He seemed very calm about it during the confrontation, so I guess he thinks it’s a norm among guys. Honestly I have no idea if other guys share this habit of saving “hot” pictures, and I supposed there are fetish that is much worse than my boyfriend’s.

Does this say anything about my boyfriend? Is it a norm among guys? I know everyone is different in terms of ways of satisfying their lust, and I should accept and respect my boyfriend’s too due to mutual respect and since he’s always been so nice to me. Yes I still do feel uncomfortable about it cos even my exes who cheated on me didn’t do such thing.

I send nudes because feeling wanted and appreciated makes me feel good.

I (18F) don’t go outside often, so that means I never go on dates or meet new people. The only way for me to meet new people is online. This year I started sending photos of me without any clothes on to people who I enjoy talking to online.

They’re all from Japan and I don’t live there, so I don’t worry about how it’ll affect me in school or workplace…

So, when sending them to people… I’d usually make light of the situation, joke around and tease them. I’d delay sending them by playing stupid games with them. Knowing how they want me, and making them wait is actually really fun.

Thing is, I have extremely low libido and am rarely horny with them. But…

I love the attention. As I’ve mentioned, I don’t go outside a lot. Back when I was in school I used to have quite a bit of attention, but then I dropped out and lost contact with most of my friends. So to have someone look at me again feels good.

I also love the compliments. I used to be a fat kid. My weight is currently 47kg at 152cm and I know it’s completely normal, but the mindset to lose weight just sticks, ya know. To hear people calling me sexy or cute makes me feel appreciated.

I don’t know if I feel guilty. I know my mom would be horrified by what I’ve been doing lately. But it’s just really fun and honestly kind of addicting. I don’t think I’ll stop anytime soon.

Anyway, that’s it. Thanks for reading.