I love my son to death but he’s a freaking bum that refuses to do anything with his life He’s a good kid but he’s 25 and has zero motive in life.
He spends any money he gets on games and sits at home on the computer all day
Every time I try to get him a job somewhere he always says he doesn’t want to “make someone else rich”
I try to get him to enroll in school and it’s “school teaches you to work for someone else”
When I ask what he wants to do, he says something business, like entrepreneurship and investments. Yet he doesn’t seem to understand that you need money to invest nor have any other business ideas.
He said his dream is to make money without doing anything because all the YouTubers he watches make it look extremely easy apparently
I’ve even tried so many times to get him to do something like sign on with the army but his answer is always “I’ll die before I sign on”.
I was working in a small firm while waiting to go to uni. I was getting close to this boy who was interning there.
We would text almost every night for a few hours. For a few months. Not flirty conversation but just getting to know each other more in depth kind of conversation. We often ate lunch together, just the two of us.
Of all the topics we talked about, I didn’t tell him what course i applied for in uni, it was one of the more popular courses overseas and i didn’t think i could get in. Anyway when i finally got the offer, I excitedly told him about my good news. He didn’t seem very excited for me and he wasn’t very talkative for the rest of the day. Even worse, he started avoiding me. He stopped initiating text with me ever since that day. during lunch time, he would go out of his way to ask more people to join the two of us for lunch (he didn’t do that before).
I was really hurt as i thought that we were getting closer. But suddenly he was trying to create as much distance between the two of us. i thought i said something wrong that offended him. But after thinking long and hard i wonder was it because of my uni application.
Eventually, my last day came and i told him how i felt about him. As expected, he rejected me. Saying stuff like he doesn’t want a relationship. And i should find someone better than him in my uni course.
Despite him saying that, i couldn’t help but wonder. Did he really not have any feelings towards me? Did i imagine those feelings? Am i delusional?
It doesn’t help that his “loss if interest” was immediately after i told him about my uni application. I wonder if he feels “inferior” or something? Or was it because i am going overseas? If i am not going to that course would he have said yes to me? I guess i will never find out the answer because we cant go back in time.
Here are what netizens think:
It doesn’t matter whether he had feeling for you or not, bec he rejected your feeling already.Both of you were just in the stage of getting to know each other, so both are free to say yes or no.Please get ready for your future–your study oversea. Tremendous opportunities out there, both relationship, friendship and job.Young lady…our feelings are temporary. This internship and brief feeling chapters are over. Pack your luggage and move on.Always be positive. Your soulmate is not here yet. Believe me…you will find the better one in the future. WHY? Bec when you grow up and hv more experience, you will understand yourself and know what kind of person/partner/lover…you want to have better. Everyone in this world gets disappointed once about love/relationship. That’s why we call it puppy love. Cute for a little while. Burden for a long time if you choose the wrong one. Good luck with your journey
This is what it feels like to be young and in loveApparently the feelings are mutual but distance r/s are often challenging. At least get closure and go out of your way to have an open and honest conversation with him. You dont want to bring any excess emotional baggage overseas
Most people don’t want to have a 3-4 year long distance relationship. Better to suffer now by distancing yourself than later.
Following the detection of the monkeypox virus in some European countries, the Singaproe Ministry of Health said that although there are no new monkeypox cases in Singapore, all medical practitioners here should be vigilant.
MOH added that they will continue to monitor the situation closely, and they spoke to The Straits Times saying that as of 21 May, there have been no monkeypox cases detected here.
The only case of monkeypox in Singapore was back in 8 May 2019, which was an imported case from Nigeria.
The virus is an endemic in some areas of central and west Africa, with about 9 European countries also detecting the virus, such as the US, Australia and the UK.
According to MOH, monkeypox is a rare disease that is primarily transmitted from animals to humans and it is caused by a virus.
And although inter-human transmission of the virus is possible, it is however limited.
Infectious diseases experts said that although it wouldn’t be surprising for cases of the monkeypox virus to appear in Singapore, there shouldn’t be a cause for concern as the spread can be controlled through contact tracing, isolating the infected and quarantining of their contacts.
I had never dated *finished* until the night my friend of 6 years and I had this tension around us that could be cut with a knife. Blame the things we never said… or the extra alcohol.
We were tipsy, not drunk. I take consent extremely seriously so we half-jokingly played trivia about each other before making out and eventually engaging in oral.
He ate me out so good I lost my voice. Returned the favour and he was reacting to every bob of my head. I can still feel his fingertips caress my face while he muttered words of praise. We then cuddled, showered each other in kisses and fell asleep.
This all happened at his place. Not a shitty hotell, not the back of a car. He did things right. But the next morning he was cold and curt towards me. Sent indirect about me needing to leave cause he had to go to work. Didn’t have an issue with that cause we’re super close and I know his schedule, but it was odd that he didn’t even drop me off nor offer me a measly cup of coffee. Left hungry, dirty and very confused. Walk of shame, yup.
Texted him to meet up for weekly lunch together. Left on reading. Did not pick up my 2 calls and I will not call him a third for I rather die than beg.
But we always had an amazing bond, endless love for each other and, well… he was my first. I know that means nothing to men but it did mean something to me.
Have I been used? Is he conflicted about his feelings? A common friend says we’re in the middle of skinny love (both parties wanna date but neither makes a move) yet my efforts debunk that! He’s the one running away after getting some honey.
Here are what netizens think:
Honestly, I (f) once hooked up with a really good friend of mine, regretted it, and then was distant towards him/tried to act like nothing happened because I wasn’t interested in pursuing anything further. My friend definitely seemed interested in a relationship/seeing where things went and I felt like a horrible human being because I just wanted to forget we hooked up at all. It took a while (years), but we are actually good friends again and both of us have partners who suit us way better. Sorry to put it bluntly, but sometimes friends hook up and it means nothing to the other person.
I don’t think you were used. I think he was just relaxed enough to act on what he wanted in the moment but now regrets it.
I would not try for some big confrontation. Hang back a bit and then contact him in a normal way. “Hey, I don’t know what’s going on with you but you have a lot of my stuff and I’d like access to it. I wish we could talk but if you can’t handle it right now then let me get my things so I can use them and we can talk whenever you’re ready “..
This happened to me when I hooked up with a close friend. I called and asked him for reassurance a few day later, that our friendship was not going to be affected by the night. He freaked out, said something like, “I thought you’d be more cool about it.”
Malaysian cosplayer, Chin Pui Ting, appeared at an anime conference on 16 May, dressing gup as a character from the anime Date A Live.
She was wearing a red corset dress at the festival held at Petaling Jaya.
She shared on her Twitter account about how she was stalked and harassed by a man at the festival, as well as the police report that she made
Here is what she said on Twitter
HI everyone, I’m (@deadpudds)
update: im fine, just posting to inform about what happened today
I have been harassed by this person at my booth today. He pushed towards my booth whilst screaming and crying asking me for a picture and to unblock him from discord.
Tldr: He stalked me today and yesterday and also online. We gave him multiple warnings to leave. He was threatening to hurt himself and refused to leave.
He has stalked me for a while now, both online and in physical events. He even trailed me to my car at the parking lot yesterday. More details in the police report attached.
Please send me all videos and pictures of him that was recorded during this incident ASAP, or send to this number now *phone number redacted*. I need to collect evidences of the assault as proof and bookkeeping.
Thanks everyone. Also big thank you to the Comic Fiesta and Paradigm Mall Petaling Jaya team for being very prompt and helpful towards the incident and situation.
Don’t worry about it. Just kinda frustrated that my experience boothing turned negative and my fans/ followers couldn’t get to meet & greet me properly Stay safe everyone! Im good
Here is the police report that she made
Police officer allegedly victim-blamed her.
Chin then shared in a series of tweets about how the police officer who attended to her allegedly made inappropriate remarks about her and blamed the stalking incident on her cosplay outfit.
He allegedly told her that she was in the wrong for dressing like that, and allegedly told her to go back to school and stop doing things like this.
Reported the officer to the authorities
In a lengthy Facebook update, Chin said that she has since given her statement to the Crime Department and JIPS about the police officer.
She said that she spent about 4 hours plus at the police station and clarified every single detail, and that it has been sent for investigation.
Here is her statement on Facebook
After 4 hours+ at the police station, I’ve given my statement to both the Crime Department (jenayah) and the JIPS (Jabatan Integrity dan Pematuhan Standard)
Ive clarified on my behalf each and every single detail and it has been sent for investigation. So far, I do not know if any action will be taken against the harasser or specific policeman. We’ll have to wait for further updates .
Victim blaming is unacceptable and I will always stand firmly against it. I hope my actions will inspire other victims to speak up through proper channels. If you’re a victim, never feel scared or threatened to speak up, your voice MUST be heard.
People who have misused their powers as officers can be reported through the Enforcement Agency Integrity Commission (EAIC).
On my end, I’m severely exhausted from all the thinking and talking. Thank you all once again for your words of kindness and support. It means alot to me
I’m breaking up with my boyfriend because I listened to a Kendrick Lamar song
The song is We Cry Together off of his new album. After it was over I just sat there knowing that’s exactly what I sound like when I argue with my boyfriend. He brings out the absolute worst in me.
I’m tired of being screwed over and fucked around with, I’m tired of not being taken seriously until I’m bawling my eyes out, I’m tired of begging for compassion, I’m tired of taking two steps forward then three steps back.
It’s exhausting loving him.
I’ll always care about him, he deserves to have people who care about him, I won’t cut him off completely but I can’t be in love with him anymore. It’s not worth the pain.
I don’t know why I expected someone who’s never experienced love before to know how to give it back to me.
But I hope he learns and finds his person, he deserves that. But he can’t get that from me.
Editor’s note: Damn, Kendrick Lamar breaking couples up without even knowing it.
A man was left in a lurch after his date ended things with him after consulting a temple stating that they are “not suitable”.
Here is his story:
Breakup due to parents superstition. Anyone encounter this issue?
Met and dated a girl from online dating app for almost 2 months, recently just met her parents. But out of sudden, she told me that her parents went to ask temple said we not suitable.
Wanted to breakup. Both of us 33 years old. Not really sure an excuse or what.
Any advice?
Here are what netizens think:
When u get a diagnosis from 1 doctor. If its not something good, confirm u will seek 2nd and 3rd opinion.. so u can go Few more temple..
Do you want parent in-law like that?But they don’t want you to be their son in law. Find the one who welcome you wholeheartedly.P.S. If she really loves you, do you think she will care about this superstitious belief? I married my husband who is 100% incompatible on any science of superstitions. We are together 22 years. She doesn’t want to work it out with you. That’s it. Good luck
Excuse or not don’t matter already. Just accept that she don’t want to see you anymore.
Win liao lor, use this as excuse, what else can u do, find another temple to prove her parents wrong?
it is an excuse if her parents dont know your birth sign and then suddenly know u r incompatible.but either way, it is true that she does not want to continue dating you. find someone else.
A video emerged online showing a hit-and-run accident involving a Toyota Vios against another vehicle that was parked.
The offending driver was seen in the video alighting fro his car and walking towards the car that he hit to check for damages.
However, he quickly got back into his car and left the scene, without even leaving behind a note to the owner of the car that he hit.
The incident happened on 21 May at about 4.36pm, somewhere along Maude Road.
Potential penalties
It is a punishable offence to leave the scene of an accident, which is considered a hit-and-run – upon conviction, first-time offenders face a fine of up to $3,000 or a jail term of up to 12 months.
With the border reopening, it is good news for most of us but for one woman it was her nightmare.
Her husband’s “business” trip turns out to be the start of her nightmare and end of her marriage.
Here is her story:
To all the women out there, be careful if your husband and boyfriend are going to Thailand for whatever reasons. Be it going for a business or leisure, make sure you are going with him or his not going.
My soon to be ex-husband works in an MNC that has offices around Asia.
When the border opened, he told me that he was flying to the Bangkok offices to do some work, initially I just nod my head and said ok as it was his income and I could not say no. But deep down, I am wary of men that visit Thailand.
After he flew to Bangkok he was still contactable and he would video called me after he reaches the hotel. There were one or two nights he was drunk and said that he is treating his Thailand co-workers for a drink and did not call me.
Now I know that the “drunk” is probably a lie, after 3 nights. He told me that, he is taking the opportunity to visit Chiang Mai since he is in Thailand.
He soon went MIA after he touch down in Chiang Mai. His last message to me was “Dear, I reached CNX”.
The MIA continued on for 3 more days and I started to get worried and I expected the worse, I did not tell my friends about it as I know that this will turn out as nothing but an embarrassment for both my husband and me.
Telling friends won’t change the fact that he has gone MIA, friends would most likely put worse thoughts in my mind. I kept quiet and continued to wait, hoping that it might be an accident or his phone got stolen or something.
He finally replied to me on the 4 nights later and said that he is boarding the plane now to return to Singapore via Scoot airlines.
When he was finally home, I asked him why did not reply or call me for that 72 hours. He sat down at the sofa, drank his beer and ignored me.
I finally raise my voice and shouted at him. The words that came out of his mouth was:
“I’m visiting a law firm tomorrow, let’s not waste time”
Deep down I know that I have not been the best wife but I have never cheated on him. He finally gave in and said that he met his “true love” in Bangkok who is his colleague from the Bangkok office. He went to Chiang Mai for a short holiday with the girl he met and said that he wants to be with her.
I agreed to the divorce as I could not accept anyone who is cheating on me.
I am very lost right now, what should I do next, I took a week-long leave and I am currently alone in Johor now for a short get away from him and work.
I went out dancing with a friend last night, we had a lot of fun until a dude came on strong and started trying to dance with/at us.
We gave him the normal cues of “no thank you” and shook our heads, he didn’t go away. We danced away from him, he followed us. We couldn’t get rid of him. We kept telling him to stop and leave us alone, but he wouldn’t do that, and I got really pissed and loud about it too.
We then left the dance floor and he kept following us, suddenly a random man (that must’ve seen some of it) came up to him and told him to stop. Once. The dude then left and he didn’t do anything for the rest of the night (at least to us).
Am I thankful for this random bloke saying something? Yes.
Am I pissed that he only had to tell him stop once and it immediately worked? Yes.
Men don’t care about women’s opinions and boundaries, they only care about men.
Why are they like this!!
Netizens’ comments
Had a situation at a bar where my female friend got shoved by a man almost down to the ground. Long story short, the manager (a man) didn’t want to believe her or me and our friends until her boyfriend came up and told the manager what happened to which he responded: “oh I didn’t know it had escalated to that point I’m sorry”. Like wtfff we literally have been telling you that. We left immediately.
