All I want is for someone, anyone, to look at me and tell me that I am enough, as I am – and mean it.

I did well throughout school, work, have a good job and would be considered reasonably successful by external observations/standards, but I’ve never felt like I have been of any significance to anyone.

There’s always this feeling of needing to be able to do more, be more useful, find more ways that I can be helpful to those around me.

Which I do, and do get appreciated for, but I still feel like all that is just using talent to cover up that I don’t matter.

Yet there’s so many people around me who seem to have families and partners that embrace them for who they are, not what they do.

They may not be as professionally successful as me, but I yearn for what they have And it feels like there’s something wrong with me, like some basic part of being human is missing in me.

I just feel like no matter what I achieve and how high I climb, I’ll never be enough as a person. Something is letting everyone else shine, but why don’t I have it?

Sorry for the rant. I don’t even know what solution I am looking for by posting here. Thank you for reading.

Netizen’s comments

The biggest mistake most people made is thinking that achievements define happiness.That’s so wrong.

Most people achieve alot, but still feels empty inside. Some have big houses, but they don’t have a home.

Some have king size beds, but they don’t have a good night sleep.True happiness is wanting less and appreciate more.

As for you, the most important person that you need appreciation from is yourself. If you don’t even appreciate yourself, no one else matters.

And if you still think you are not good enough despite your achievements, I challenge you to go to a hospice for children and ask yourself this: Why are they so cheerful even though they know they don’t have much time left.

This really creepy thing happened and we don’t know what to do. Can someone please give me advice

Hey guys, me and my girlfriend moved to a new apartment at the beginning of this year. We are both very sceptical about ghosts/paranormal activities etc. But after the last few days we are both really on edge. I would like to get your guys opinion because we both don’t know what exactly to make of the situation and what to do now.

It began a few months back when me and my girlfriend were lying in bed talking and suddenly my girlfriend just froze and started breathing very heavily. I asked her if everything was okay and the only thing she could do was shush me. After 3-4 minutes she told me she saw a woman right above me just staring at me the whole time. We didn’t really think anything of this it was sort of just a creepy experience. However more of these so called sightings have happened in the past few weeks. It’s always a girl looking at me or a man in the corner of the room trying to make contact with my girlfriend. Still we always just blamed it on sleep deprivation because we do tend to party a lot and sleep late.

This was until two days ago. I was in bed with my girlfriend again and the same thing happened. She saw a guy in the corner waving at her. Because I didn’t really believe in ghosts or anything I started to make a few jokes (not too kind I know but I was really sceptical at the time). My girlfriend told me I really should be quite for a moment. After she said this I saw a look in her eyes which I will never forget. She grabbed my arm very tightly and after about 1 minute she said she had the feeling that something had scratched her. We do have 2 cats but they were both not in the room with us. After talking for a while I looked at her shoulder and yes: I saw a really big scratch mark on her shoulder. This was the moment that I knew something was not right. After doing some research the following day we agreed that we would just not make any jokes about it and ignore it for as much as we could.

Well tonight the real horror began. After watching a movie and falling asleep peacefully I am woken up by my girlfriend shaking in bed the whole time. After not responding for a minute she started to suffocate. I ran to the lights to see what was going on. Luckily she woke up and after asking if everything was okay she told me that she saw everything happen from te corner of the room where she normally sees the man standing. She had the feeling that she was being pulled into some other space. She didn’t know what is was but the only thing she knew was that she definitely had to avoid this space.

After talking for a few minutes (keep in mind my girlfriend was really scared the whole time) my girlfriend turned to me really casual and said: “babe let’s just go to sleep.” I was weirded out by this a lot because she had been panicking for the last few minutes. I also saw a really calm, yet aggressive glance in her eyes. I told her I wanted to turn the lights back on and talk for a bit. However she just kept on pushing me to go to sleep. I had the feeling something was terribly wrong so I tried to test her reaction with a few jokes that we always make with each other. She didn’t react AT ALL. She just kept saying “it’s fine let’s go to sleep. My girlfriend HATES laying on her back and here she is laying on her back the WHOLE time. I really did not know what to do. After having the same conversation with her for 15 minutes with me wanting to turn the lights on and her reacting in a really firm way saying I SHOULD go to sleep now. She just turned around and started shaking again. I ran to the lights and as soon as I turned them on I saw her normal look again. The most terrifying part of all is that she did not remember a single part of the conversation which literally happened 10 seconds before!!

We are now both sure that there is something here with very bad intentions.

I am just really looking for advice about what to do with this. If anyone has had any similar experiences in the past please tell us what you did to make this nightmare go away.

Netizens’ comments

• Move out NOW

• That might not be a ghost. It might be something worse. I’m worried for your girlfriend. Could you two stay anywhere else for a couple of days?

• that is something evil, not a ghost, you should leave that place.