Recently started working at a hospital 5 days ago, and signed up as an admin assistant to handle patients discharge and registration, etc. Along with basic paper work and data entry. First two days was pleasant and colleagues were super kind and friendly, and I was adapting well. Suddenly, today I was transferred to a new ward that is very different from my previous isolation ward. I was sent to a general ward where it is more busy and there is very little isolation within patients.

Along with the sudden transfer, I was very stressed when my new supervisor started being very aggressive to me. I have a bad history of chronic anxiety and I react badly to triggers. As the workplace routine was different from my previous post, I followed the routine in my new place and got scolded by the SV, with her shouting in my ear which caused me a lot of alarm.

On top of that, when I keyed in a data entry wrongly (as I was following the previous post’s format), she hit my hand (not too hard but still pain could be felt), and it triggered me very badly, to the point where I had two anxiety attacks and I threw up in the toilet and broke down. I am extremely sensitive to harsh verbal and physical attacks due to my past experiences and this was very alarming for me.

After which I was also informed that as I was working a PM shift , I had to do para nursing duties (like cleaning patients, feeding and carrying them etc.) Which was NOT informed in my contract, and I am uncomfortable with as I am generally quite a frail person and I’m living with two elderly, so they are very against me having contact with the patients as much as I don’t wish to say this in a bad way.

The supervisor further added that since the PM shift already has enough admin assistants, I will be mainly doing the nursing duties which I was very displeased about, as she was indirectly saying that I am doing the job of a FT nurse while severely underpaid under the job title of an admin assistant. This is something out of my job scope and I have no experience with, much less being comfortable and willing to do it.

After which, I called my hiring agent and told her about the events as well as the changes, and she aggressively replied that her other colleague had informed me about the said necessary nursing duties needed through a phone call before. I had no recollection about this, and my chats with her and the contract stated no such things, other than to do ad-hoc duties, but not to totally change my whole job scope!!

When I asked to be transferred back to my original post, she also said that she won’t do so if I can’t agree to do the nursing duties. But back at my old post, NONE of the admin assistants had to do them because we were simply not trained and not allowed to touch the infectious patients. FYI, there was also another hired temp staff that didn’t show up since the first day of work as she was on indefinite leave. Why couldn’t they just have had me replace her than to waste our time too?

I’m really frustrated as I can’t terminate my contract because the agent had mentioned that I will have to pay liquidated damages (which I can’t afford because I come from a very disadvantaged background and I’m already working hard for this…). I would like to seek advice from fellow healthcare workers or people in the knows in general as I also reached out to my peers and they just felt like they were exploiting and bullying me since I’m a young temp staff. Is there any way I can reach out for help such as from MOM? I’m really crushed and disheartened by this after a wonderful first two day of work and then being mistreated like this after.

PS: please don’t call me sensitive or a strawberry as it’s very invalidating of my trauma and I have the rights to feel that way too. I’m generally a very resilient person but I don’t think these forms of harassment are acceptable.

Yesterday, and while I was about to do the laundry, I grabbed his work pants and dug my hand in its pockets to empty them before putting it in the washing machine like I always do. People that look the laundry will know what happens if there is tissue paper.

My husband just happened to walk by when he saw me searching his pants pockets. He rushed in yelling at me to put his pants down.

I already had a folded piece of paper out but he snatched it and then started screaming at me about how I have no respect for his privacy and that I shouldn’t be getting my hands on his things. I was genuinely dumbfounded I told him to take it easy I always do this before laundry.

He lashed out saying I had no right and should’ve come to him and asked him first because he was worried about important documents getting lost like the one I pulled out. I said important documents shouldn’t be inside his pockets and asked to see the paper but he said he won’t show me. I asked why and he said I don’t get to ask him after I disrespected his privacy.

I almost laughed because what privacy does he have in his pockets? It wasn’t like a stranger was digging into them.

He refused to speak to me and later brought a new closet with A LOCK and moved his clothes inside of it. I asked if he was serious and he said this will teach me to respect his privacy and deter my snooping. Then went back to not speaking to me.

I’m genuinely confused

Here are what netizens think:

• Checking pockets for things that don’t go in the washer is one of the first steps of laundry, it’s not snooping. That’s a really weird reaction.

• Confirm something fishy going on, sure is cheating

• Maybe got receipt from expensive restaurant with ANOTHER GIRL

Are balding males in their early 20s a turn off for girls?

Hello there! I just wanna know if balding males in their 20s who are looking to be in a relationship are a turnoff/dealbreaker for girls?

I’m in my early 20s and I’m already balding because of androgenic alopecia. I’m currently taking Finasteride (a long-term medication) on a daily basis for about 1 and a half month already.

This seems to be taking a toll on me in terms of being in a relationship. Some told me that this is a dealbreaker.

I also feel that this balding thing is also taking a toll on my self esteem. 🙁

Netizens’ comments

• Be confident!! Ignore haters and love the lovers!! Work on areas you’re proud of. Be it appearance and non appearance.

Bald is not unattractive. Making fun of bald people is. But dun slap people.

• Its not a dealbreaker but lets be honest here – looks are important to a certain extent, especially at the very initial phase of getting to know someone (dont lie)

Once you are past that phase, the person should love and accept you for who you are, and not purely just based on looks (we’re all gonna get old and saggy one day anyway)

Easier said than done, but you just gotta look for someone who will appreciate you for who you are

A man shared an embarrassing story of his friend that he described as “something very far from intelligent”.

Here is the story:

I went for a massage with my friend and we assumed that it was a normal clean massage until the masseurs started to get naughty.

I politely rejected it, my friend who is in the other room decided to pay for the extra services.

After we exit the massage parlour, he told me that he took her Wechat contact so he can know when she work and return if he is feeling “tired”. I did not think much of it as I know EXACTLY what kind of person he is.

One month went by and I met him again for dinner and he started to tell me how he has fallen in love with the masseurs after that “short romance” session.

I told him that he is crazy and that what he felt is not love. He told me that he borrowed the masseur $1,200 as her mother in Vietnam is sick and requires money for medications.

I slap myself on the forehead after hearing it as I know exactly what had happened and kept quiet.

A few days later, he called me while crying saying that the girl is gone and no longer working there.

Here are what netizens think:

• a typical guy who thinks with the wrong head

• Another bites the dust, welcome to the world.

• Maybe he really feels affectionate towards the massage lady and took a leap of faith. Lucky only $1,200 not $120,000.
• The massage macham milking the cow sia. or literally. LOL