One will never if they are in a safe or dangerous place, a woman recently posted online wondering if her actions of slapping an elderly man were wrong after she got slapped in the butt.

Here is her story:

I slapped an elderly man’s arm out of reflex after he slapped my butt in a store. Am I in the wrong here?

His slap wasn’t gentle, either. It startled me so badly that I smacked him instinctually, and I yelled “DON’T smack my butt! Don’t TOUCH ME!” I told him that being old doesn’t give him the right to slap anyone’s butt, and that it was technically assault. The man just stared at me in shock, and everyone in the vicinity just stood there silently. Nobody said word.

I was molested for the entirety of my childhood so this was small in comparison, but I struggle with self-hatred so much already and I’m so sick of this happening.

Here is what netizens think:

• Anyone who knew context would have been on your side. People freeze up in shock when there’s yelling and don’t tend to know what happened. Stay strong and I’m proud of you for standing up for yourself.

• I had a co-worker who was overtly touchy and he kept putting his hands on me, when I finally reached back and was physical with him it shocked him, myself and another coworker who was standing next to me. I felt embarrassment and wondered if i did wrong – always remember that advocating for yourself and boundaries isn’t always going to sit well with people, especially yourself. But be proud that you stood up for yourself and that you had that initial reaction to say something, it can be hard to find our voice. I’m proud of you and you absolutely did the right thing.

• Good job, too many chi ko pek out there.

I was called disgusting for kissing my son.

So I’d taken my son out, he’s 3 and we’d gone to my work (I work in a supermarket)

And we grabbed some bits, went to check out and got chatting to my colleague who hadn’t seen him before, cue behind me of course but I wasn’t keeping anyone waiting, we chatted on and off while she still served, and the customers chimed in and all that. Just friendly conversation basically.

Now I had my son in the seat part of the trolley cause he’s a runner, can’t keep him still when we’re walking, and he asked for a hug so of course I gave him one, I kissed him on the head (which wasn’t the kiss that was the problem)

After I kissed his head he lifted his head and did the kissy face, implying he wanted a proper one.. so I did, I love my son and I have zero issues with doing that. Dad’s should be able too, son or daughter.. doesn’t matter. To him it’s a sign of love and that it.

He’s used to his mum, grandparents and stuff doing it.. why not his dad 🤷

Out of nowhere this girl, about my age kicked up a fuss that it was downright disgusting I’m kissing my young son in his mouth. It’s creepy and blah blah blah.. which upset my son because she was quite vocal. He didn’t understand fully what she was saying thank god, but it was the fact she raised her voice and scared him.

I just absolutely rounded on her and told her to mind her mouth before she really annoys me. If I want to kiss my own son I will.

I am nearly 38 weeks pregnant and nearly everything is irritating me at this point. On Friday afternoon my husband came home from a bad day at work and was having a very negative attitude.

As soon as he walked through the door he was complaining about how messy the house was. Not only am I verily pregnant and unable to do much at this point, but I’m also watching our 2-year-old daughter during the day that has been getting into everything. So yes the house was messy and the dishes weren’t done I’ll admit to that.

Then he was complaining that I didn’t have dinner ready for him and that I wasn’t making dinner that night. I usually cook 90% of the time but that day I was just so tired and done with everything so I suggested we go out.

I tried to explain how it’s difficult for me to do stuff now, how I’m tired, how our daughter was bouncing off the walls that day and he wouldn’t listening to any of it.

Then he compared me to his friend’s wife by saying “You know, John’s wife is pregnant too and does x, y, and z and she even gets dressed and puts makeup on every day”

Well that’s when I absolutely lost it. I told him to get out, and not come back until the end of the weekend. That I’d had enough and wanted time to myself.

He packed a bag and went to his brothers house, and sent me paragraphs of texts before I finally decided to block his number.

I used the weekend to take my time to clean up and then just spend the rest of the time playing with my daughter.

Not only did he tell his brother about my little freak out, but he told his mother and now she’s been texting me non stop about how I’m being a bad wife. It’s like he’s turned everyone against me over night.