My brother is a very hardworking man and at 27 he is now very wealthy and doing well for himself. He’s been with this girl for six months and throughout the time we have gotten close because we both like hair, makeup, and shopping. I never knew there was anything wrong with their relationship except when she texted me last week I said she would love to hang out but thinks it’ll be inappropriate because she and my brother broke up. I asked her why and she said she was sick and tired of “auditioning” to prove she was with him for the right reasons. She went on to say that my brother is paranoid she’s after his money so he would test her like

1. Leaving out his bank statements on their bed and getting upset when she picked it up
2. Going out to eat at high-end restaurants he requested and leaving his wallet on home at the purpose to make her pay the bill and prove she’s not going out with him for money
3. Never buying her gifts and questioning her when she asks why he doesn’t.

I was shocked so I had to hear my brothers perspective. We spoke and he told me everything she said was true and that there’s nothing wrong with making sure his girlfriend is with him for the right reasons. He said he left his bank statements on the bed and was peeking through the door to see if she would be curious and when he saw her pick up the papers he knew in his gut she was using him for his money, so he set up the restaurant idea to see if she would get upset at paying a $500 bill which she was. I asked him if he thinks her being an kindergarden school teacher could’ve contributed to her being upset at a $500 bill at a restaurant he wanted to go to and he said no.

He said the straw that broke was when she asked him why he hasn’t bought her a single gift since they’ve started dating when she bought him a gaming console and new rims for his car and he knew she was just discretely asking him to buy her an expensive gift.

He confronted her and said he thinks she’s with him for his money so she said let me do us both a favour and dumped him and block him. He’s upset about the “gold-digging b****” and when I laughed he called me an a**hole.

He said I would never understand what’s it’s like being a rich man and being used and I get that concern, but I told him if he thinks any woman will be okay with his tests and auditions he’s delusional as hell. If he doesn’t want to be used for his money he should start dating people as wealthy as him or leave lower income people alone if he’s not going to be genuine in his relationships unless they pass his “test”.

A story was shared by a netizen about her experience dealing with irresponsible parents.

Here is the story:

I (28F) do babysitting on the weekends to make some babysitting on the weekends to make extra cash.

There is one family I definitely should’ve fazed out by now but the kids are cute and if I don’t have another job, it’s easy money. My issue is, the mom is never home on time. She used to not give me return times but finally, I started asking as it made it impossible to get anything done on the weekends. I’d go babysit so she could go to “brunch” but she’d be gone from 11 AM to 7 PM. My whole day was gone. After that, she’d start giving me times but never stick to them. She wouldn’t even call to tell me, she’d just stay out.

On Saturday, I got to her house at 6 and she was supposed to be home by 9. I told her she needed to be on time because I had plans to go out with friends. I was even getting ready at their house after I put the kids to be. She promised. Of course, 9:00 rolls around and she’s not home. I call her, no response. Text, no response. Another hour. Nothing. Still calling and texting. Finally, it is midnight. By this point, my plans are long ruined but I’m pissed and exhausted. I call her and leave a voicemail saying if she’s not home in the next hour, I’m considering the kids abandoned and calling the Police. I also text her this. I try calling her 30 minutes later and it goes to voicemail on the second ring, I text her again and she leaves me on reading. If she had reached out saying “Hey, I’m staying out until x time”, I would’ve stayed. I don’t know any of her family nor the father of the kids so I can’t call them. I gave her a grace period of 15 minutes and tried calling again, finally called the Police (non-emergency line).

They showed up and I showed our agreement in text from earlier in the week confirming that she’d be home by 9. They try contacting her, didn’t answer. I was dismissed and they took the children to the police station. I go home and go to bed.

I am awoken at 3 AM by a frantic call. It’s her. Where are the kids? Why am I not here? I tell her I followed through on my threat, check the police station. She cursed me out, I hung up and went to bed.

Am I wrong?

I started out as a regular guy in class but I performed slightly better and attracted the attention of this girl from China.

After we finished poly, I went army and she went to do her job and we did not meet for years. Long story short, by chance we contacted each other and meet up for a beer.

It did not take long before we fall in love with each other, during that time I was still in the army and I could not afford good things for her. She then said she believed my talents I will make it someday.

and yes she was right, after I ORD I secured a sales job and I was bringing in between 5 to 10k a month from doing sales. I was really hard working and even harass my boss on weekends to go for meetings as if Im the boss.

Soon after she learned of my salary she said “get married now or break up”. I was quite upset with it as I wanted to have a surprise proposal and not be forced to do it. I did a half-hearted proposal and we eventually ROM.

For 8 months in the marriage, she was enjoying herself and always eating the best. There was barely a time we eat at coffee shops or fast food. It is always restaurants.

On the 9th month of the marriage, the company closed down due to my boss wrong investment decisions. I kept it from my wife and started a company on my own.

In the first month, I brought in a profit of $5,000. I am always happy as most people lose money when they just start a business. I told my wife the story and she was upset.

She said that she can no longer enjoy food from restaurants and we have to eat cheap food now. I was upset when she said that as I did not get the encouragement I got when I was a poor army boy.

Marriage vows for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health sounds like BS to me now. I then asked her why did she marry me.

Her response: I marry you for money

She saw my face change and quickly said “love as well”. I was so pissed off I took all her stuff and threw it out of the house. The quarrel was so bad it look like a free show for my neighbours. It might sound like I overreacted then, I admit yes I did overreact. But it was never a sincere proposal I was forced into it and I was young then.

We eventually got divorced. Last I heard, she married a “half-rich” guy then end up the guy also became broke due to the bad market.

This is a true story and PRC upbringing is really a problem. It has been 10 years since the divorce and it still haunts me today.