I’m a 26-year-old guy and I’ve worked at a clothing store for the past 7 years. The store mostly sells women’s clothing and it is known as a women’s store.

My GF has never been to the store until yesterday and when she saw how it was almost all women who shopped there she said I needed to find a different job because she isn’t comfortable with me working where there could be a chance that one of the customers flirts with me or something.

I like my job and don’t want to quit especially considering I make a good amount and my boss is nice to me now and nowhere else offers that amount of money with my level of education.

What should I do?

Here are what netizens think:

• She’s being ridiculous. Does she want you to wear a bag over your head as well, so no women look at you?

• Hear me out, if you leave your job, she will continue to pull that kind of shit on you because of her own insecurities. Decide your own power, if you enjoy that job you just stay and that’s the end of it. If she doesn’t like that, she can fuck off. There’s no reason for her to think you’re cheating, and there’s no reason to make this an argument.
• At any job, or while running errands etc, he’s going to see other women. Pretty ridiculous indeed.

• People who are insecure and controlling cannot be appeased. Reduce her anxiety by quitting. Next it will be your time spent with friends under scrutiny. Then any time apart. Before you know it you will be not allowed to enjoy yourself without her in case you realise you have more fun when she is absent. Get out before it gets too complicated.

• No way! She has no right to try and interfere With your money if you haven’t done anything. With her logic both of you should just stay home so no one ever looks at or flirts with either of you. What a ridiculous ask.

I (36-year-old single female) get asked this question a lot and since it comes from co-workers, extended family, friends of friends and now Chinese New year is coming then responding rudely by saying “non of your darn business sweety” still didn’t seem to work (not anymore lol).

I try to keep good relationships with those around me for a number of reasons, but this question just makes me angry. especially since the reason why I’m single is pretty traumatic and so is very personal. they feel sorry for me I can see it because they’d list all my good traits then say it’s a shame that no man is willing to ‘win’ it. WTF?

Unfortunately, I get caught off guard a lot by people (especially women) asking this question but since I can’t control the fact that they ask (I really wish they’d just leave me the heck alone) I decided to use this method that I came up with very recently.

For example, if a woman asks why I’m still single I’d just tell her “because I still haven’t met your husband/boyfriend yet. while acting somewhat naughty in the moment. so far it seemed to shut them up. it’s kind of passive-aggressive, yes. but I just feel some sort of power doing it.

Well, a few weeks ago, my sister introduced me to her boyfriend’s sister and once she sits down she asks “how old are you? I tell her and she gasps and goes on to ask why are you still single?” I look at her and say “it’s because I still haven’t met your boyfriend yet” (she has a boyfriend yay her) in the slu*ttiest tone I could muster while also pulling “the duck face” pose.

She looks at me in utter shock then puts her coffee down while my sister stares at me like WT?!?!. 

The conversation gets awkward and minutes later she gets up saying she wasn’t feeling well and leaves quietly. my sister shouts up at me asking why on earth would I say something like that and I start arguing with her about how this woman was a snoop.

She told me to get over myself and “act my age” and stop being childish which she assumed is the reason why I’m single and will always be “cause no man wants to be with such a nutjob”. her boyfriend said I upset his sister and is expecting apologies from me because of what I said to her.

Here are what netizens think:

• That’s exactly how life works. Don’t ask personal questions. It’s not anybodys business why she’s single. Her business is hers and she can answer repetitive and prying questions any way she wants. Just because it makes someone feel uncomfortable doesn’t matter. It’s the same thing when people start asking “why haven’t you had kids yet?”. None of anyone’s business period. Don’t ask any questions if you’re not prepared for any answer.

• It’s a totally inappropriate question to be asking someone you just met/don’t know well. I (39m) used to get asked that same question, and I answered it similarly
• Are you dating? When are you going to get married? Why haven’t you been promoted yet? Well that’s no kind of home to raise a child in! Why aren’t you pregnant yet? What, you’re only having one child?