When I was growing up, my parents had a strict parenting style. They expected me to be independent and self-reliant. I was allowed to make my own mistakes and learn from them. I had to take responsibility for my actions and learn from my experiences. This taught me how to be resilient and have strong mental fortitude.

However, nowadays, I see a lot of parents spoiling their children.

I can’t help but wonder how this will affect their future. Will these children grow up to be independent and resilient, or will they be too fragile to handle life’s inevitable challenges?

Some parents just don’t pamper the children. I know of someone, she gave permission for the tuition teacher or anybody to cane/punish his son if he misbehave. Now the child has grown up and is taking care of her mother. Another case is just the opposite, when the son came back from school and complained that his teacher punished him, his mother would go to school and reason with the teacher.

It’s true that some things have changed since I was growing up. Children today have more access to technology, more material possessions, and more opportunities. But I think it’s important that parents don’t give them everything they want.

When children are spoiled, it can lead to a lack of discipline and a lack of respect for authority. This can lead to children who are unable to handle the challenges and pressures of life. They may be too fragile to handle the disappointments and failures they will inevitably face.

Another problem with spoiling children is that it can lead to a sense of entitlement. These children may expect more than they are entitled to and feel entitled to have their demands met without putting in any effort. This can lead to a lack of motivation and a dependence on others to solve their problems.

Additionally, children who are spoiled are more likely to lack problem-solving skills. They may rely on others to solve their problems for them, or they may not know how to deal with life’s challenges. This can lead to them feeling overwhelmed and helpless when faced with difficult situations.

Parents who spoil their children may think they are doing them a favor, but in the long run, this can lead to a lack of resilience and an inability to cope with life’s challenges. It’s important to teach children how to be independent and how to solve their own problems. This will equip them with the skills they need to be successful in life.

It’s also important for parents to provide boundaries and rules for their children. This will help them develop self-control and respect for authority. Setting limits is important, as it teaches children that there are consequences for their actions.

Finally, it’s important to let children make their own mistakes and learn from them. This will give them the opportunity to develop problem-solving skills and resilience. It will also teach them that failure is part of life and that they can overcome it.

In conclusion, spoiling children can lead to weak mental fortitude and a lack of resilience.

Why children nowadays are so so fragile. Nowadays parents are so scared of their children

I am an aircrew or some say cabin crew/flight attendant from a prestigious airline.

We’re one of the top airlines in the world be it in service, flights we offer to passengers or in terms of world airline rankings.

We have a tedious training program and we are often judged for whatever we do

Our training before we become a full fledged crew is long and tedious and we often go through and suffer a lot with the routines and treatments from those who are of a senior rank or even those who are the same rank but joined the airline earlier than us.

During training, we are often forced to fake a smile and be polite to anyone.

No matter if they are right or wrong, capable or incapable or even picking on us for the sake of it, we’ll have to bear it all.

Even if we have to cry, we’ll have to find a way to find somewhere to expose our emotions.

This habit soon became part or my daily life, as somewhere in me was already conditioned to be nice to people no matter how they treated me.

Honestly speaking, it works for me at times but most of the time, I’ll also suffer because of it.

I’m afraid of getting complained, so I do a lot of things by myself even when I’m not capable enough

For context before the story, I’m somewhat of a small framed petite girl.

Every time be it when I’m going to the airport to report for work or coming back, I’ll definitely have to take a taxi or any vehicle besides public transport.

Because of my training and because I wear my cabin crew uniform when I go and board the car, I am reminded that I should be polite and nice to everyone.

This affected me especially when the driver of the vehicle does not come down to help me with my luggage.

I’ll have to carry it and place it myself into the vehicle and I’m afraid to ask for help because I am afraid that they will make noise and complain to my airline.

I mean I’m sure that the airline will not fire me before looking into the case, but I have heard of seniors that were asked to leave because someone complained about them.

Therefore, I do not dare to risk my career or take any chances.

I know some people might say that I also help passengers put their luggage into the overhead compartments, but that is also very rare.

The airline which I work in does not require us to help passengers put luggage up into the compartments and also say that if we get hurt from helping passengers, we cannot claim any injuries.

I have many friends who are unable to work and claim injuries after getting injured, which indirectly affected their livelihood.

However we still so it sometimes, out of compassion and goodwill for those passengers who really needs help.

At the end of the day, it is myself who suffer and I guess I’ll have to resign to fate.

A netizen shared an experience he had with a family from China having a meal at a Japanese restaurant in Singapore.

They were purportedly upset and complaining about the Japanese restaurant playing Japanese songs, and escalated the issue to the manager, demanding to speak to the restaurant owner because of the “poor taste in music”.

The netizen then stood up for the restaurant and told the family that the music had been playing long before they even sat down.

He also questioned them and asked why were they even having Ramen, which is Japanese food, if they were unhappy with Japanese music.

The family then recorded the netizen on their phone as he scolded them, telling them they this is Singapore, and that they should go back to China if they cannot deal with other cultures.

Here is what he said

Just leaving it here first.

There was a PRC family complaining why is a Japanese restaurant playing Japanese songs in the background, they escalated to the manager and wanted to contact the owner because they felt it was a poor taste in music.

I told the family that the music was playing long before they sat down, and if they were unhappy with Japanese songs, why are they even having Ramen, which is Japanese food… They recorded me on their phones when I told them off.

I told them this is Singapore, we should embrace cultures instead of trying to impose on others, and they should go back to China if they cannot deal with other cultures.

Netizens’ comments

1. Kns I go china complain they playing Chinese song sure tio gan one lor, sibei twoface
2. Lol meanwhile sushi express has been playing the same 5 Chinese songs for 3 years.
3. Wanting to complain to the manager because the place is playing songs in a different language is peak karen behaviour
4. It’s the same infuriating attitude i’ve witnessed in Sipadan island. They only spoke chinese and the staffs were obviously indonesians and the PRCs got angry and throwing tantrums because the staffs cannot understand them.
   if they were to be more observant they would have noticed me and my friends who are chinese and approach us nicely to translate for them..but too bad i just watch it unfold and eventually the staffs just ignore them.
   But i went over and scolded them in chinese when they started to throw their unfinished food to the sea creatures (turtles) when no one else is doing it and there are signs (symbols) telling us not to.
   Fking hell cannot stand these a-holes.
5. Lol. I was in US a few years back. There was this PRC family who were behind me talking in mandarin, “ why isn’t everything in Mandarin?” I just looked at them with a WTF look and I couldn’t even walk away or else i would be out of the line

I’m sleeping with my husband’s mistress’s husband and it feels like a small win for me every time

I (f40) met my husband (M45) 10 years ago and I loved him our entire marriage. We have 3 children together. All under 5.

I found out a year ago that my husband is sleeping with his colleague (f30). I can’t describe the pain I felt (feel) but you can see it in my eyes sometimes. I felt ugly undesirable and stupid.

I got obsessed with the colleague and I found out who her husband (m35) was. I actually knew him from mutual friends. I contacted him and told him everything about our spouses. After a week’s texting we both knew without talking about it what we wanted.

Revenge is just the best kind there is or maybe this man is just a god. We decided we liked each other and wanted to continue. We meet at least once a week and I wish I could see him more but we both know it is unwise.

We decided that since we had each other, it doesn’t matter what our spouses did. They’re forgiven. I don’t want my children to grow up in two homes and he knows a divorce would be too costly for him.

I watched tv with my husband beside me while smiling inside that I knew what kind of a dirty liar he is and I am for that matter and I love it

Please spare me the “you are as bad tho” because actually I’m not.

Update: Look guys thank you for caring, asking me to update when all of this “blows up in my face” how considerate of you. I guess if it all blows up in my face and my husband leaves me, my bf and I can finally pursue a relationship together, no worries there

Fiancé (29M) is not interested in being intimate with me (24F) after I give birth to our child

He says that he just can’t see me the same. Apparently now that I became a mother his view of me completely changed.

Is this some psychology thing or what? Anyways, in all honesty, it’s been taking a serious toll on my mental health and I can’t even talk about it or share it with my friends or family (mother, sisters, cousins) because it’s genuinely humiliating.

I also know it’s something they didn’t experience, and they’d probably tell me to “just leave him” which isn’t what I want, I love him.

our wedding is scheduled to happen this year and settled for and our child is six months old—yeah we went through six months without intercourse, as if having a child for the first time isn’t exhausting as it is.

I also had to carry the weight of my relationship being in crisis and feeling absolutely terrible and undesirable, our life in the bedroom prior to me giving birth was the healthiest, it took a 180 degree turn in change afterwards, even during my pregnancy it wasn’t bad.

I know this isn’t something usual, men don’t just lose interest in their partners after they give birth, obviously it’s some psychological thing for my fiancé here.

And I know what you might be thinking, that perhaps it’s on me and I haven’t took care of myself after pregnancy and neglected my appearance, but that’s not the case at all.

I got back to the weight I was at before giving birth very fast, I take care of myself and my how I look daily; hair done, nails done, dress nice.

To add; everything else between us is the same, we have smooth conversations, he gives me compliments, kisses me, treats me well, just refuses to being intimate with me.

It’s like he’s holding me on a pedestal and can’t acknowledge that I have needs anymore just because I became a mother.

I’m looking for a way to solve the problem, it’s causing a dilemma in our relationship and I can’t imagine spending a life time being repressed in bed.

Counseling is a must, we’ve already talked about it and are going to go through it, I just can’t help but believe I need to do something else prior to that. And I’m honestly thinking that an open relationship where we’d both see other people for a while might drastically help us, it would for sure shatter the false illusion he has of me in his head.

Any advice would be appreciated, and I’d also really like to know if there’s anyone out here who experienced something similar?

Can’t take leave while another colleague is on leave

Hi all. For context, I am planning to travel with my family during the first week of April. However, one of my colleague (A) is also on leave and is taking cruise.

We’re each other cover buddy so this means we have 1 day where we’re both on leave. My supervisor told me I can’t travel because I need to cover him. If I want to, I still need to work overseas and ensure all work is done.

But the thing I don’t understand is that we each have a third cover buddy, so why can’t I still travel lol.

Am I being unreasonable?

Edit: My colleague, A and I both have our own 3rd cover buddy. I don’t mean 1 person do their own work and cover 2 people’s workload.

Netizens’ comments

1. Leave is an entitlement what
2. If u are the third buddy, u happy to cover 2 ppl workload on top of your own or not?
3. Only your bosses opinion matters.
   Honestly if it was me, I would still remain contactable by email and if need be do some light work when I am free for that 1-2 day when there is no cover
4. Sounds like a petty tyrant. How likely is it that you have anything that absolutely must be done on the day you’re both not around AND can’t be done ahead of time?
5. If the company is having issues running with 2 less headcount… They have bigger issues to worry about.
6. u should have submitted leave form earlier , already 10 days before April liao
7. Depends on how long of a head’s up did you give him.
   If he had reasonable time to plan a replacement, it should be fine. You shouldn’t have to work on your vacation day

A netizen shared how his wife was sent overseas to work for about 3 to 4 weeks, and she incurred expenses about $5,000 that she had planned to claim from the company.

However, after submitting the claims, she only received about $3,000 so far, with the remaining $2,000 yet to be paid.

The man said that his wife has kept all of the receipts and email correspondence with the company, where they had agreed to a certain payment plan to pay her back, but it was allegedly not honoured.

The startup company allegedly claimed that they were “going bust” and were letting his wife go, agreeing to pay her final salary and claims, which they had not done so.

Here is what he said

Company is not paying claims for 6 months now

Checking on behalf of my wife. Company sent my wife to the US for work for about 3-4 weeks. She had claims coming to a total of about 5K SGD. She then submitted the claims.

Within a month or two, company, which is a start-up, said they are going bust and will have to let my wife go. They agreed to pay her final salary and her claims.

They have paid about 3K so far with a balance of 2K. Company is still active and running but the boss is not responding to any texts regarding this.

Wife has kept all receipts and email comms in which they agreed to a certain payment plan they have not honoured.

Is there any avenue we can look to escalate the issue? I know 2K might not seem like much but we recently bought a house so every dollar counts.

Netizens’ comments

1. Lodge a complaint with ministry of manpower. The risk of working with a startup is that the failure rate is high. So be prepared that your wife may lose some money.
2. File a claims at TADM. And try to do it asap, as there are deadlines for filing a claim.
3. Go to MOM with receipts

I think i fall in love with a Massage lady

I’m currently a student studying in one of the local Uni. One day, i decided to venture into a certain forum that advertise services, curiosity killed the cat. I decided to call up one of them who i find beautiful.

It was my first time going for such services. She’s located in the mid west with other MLs too.

Her room is pretty clean. Once in, she took off her top. Oh my, i can’t stop looking at her beautiful flawless skin. She then told me to lie on the bed before proceeding to massage me. I even get to feel her, the experience is indescribable.

About 40minutes into the massage, she started doing the special. It feels sensational, i then nirvana within 5 minutes. Once done, I then proceed to grab her top with both of my hands then give her a kiss on her cheek.

Subsequently, I kept visiting her every 2 weeks. We started talking and i felt a connection with her. She also said that she never talk about personal things with her clients. I know that my parents will not approve our relationship. She never ask for any money except for her service

What should i do?

Netizens’ comments

Next time you want to visit her, you ask her if you have no money, can you still go look for her? Then you will get your answer.

End of day, they are providing a service, sure you may be their favorite customer or they may feel a connection with you but quite frankly you should not be mistaken that you are special to them. If tomorrow you don’t go visit her, you think she will miss you? Or miss a steady stream of income?

From someone who was close with some of these working ladies, there’s only heartache really so better to wake up earlier, save your money and your peace of mind. Imagine you say you love her, then what? What’s the next step? You want to support her so she don’t need to work? Or you are okay with her still doing this job where every guy can go visit her? If you say you okay with her job, then next time a customer ask her to go out to orchard to buy branded wallet, she will tell you it’s her job, just suck it up. What will that do to your mentality and self worth?

If you say you support her, good luck, most of the time they are working this job because they need lots of money and have no skills or are too lazy to work slowly towards their goal. Once your money runs out, you think she will stay with you because she will be contented? She also have lots of guys willing to spurge on her, some of them are old and have accumulated their CPF, she will always be tempted to jump to another bigger fish.

I’m a divorcee in my mid-40s and as I’m not looking to settle down (again!) any time soon, I’ve really enjoyed dating younger men recently and having a few FWB who are significantly younger than me.

Younger men are fun-loving, adorable to talk to, enthusiastic in bed and eager to please, and so curious about the world.

I find (most of) them really refreshing to spend time with. Such a contrast to the grumpy, jaded men my age, who only talk about their work, complain about their ex, or suffer from weaponised incompetence (despite their age).

Of course, it’s not all perfect. Dating younger men also means weeding out boys with mummy issues and those looking for sugar mummies. But, overall, there’s been more pros than cons in my experience.

Because many people seem to be getting the wrong idea about my experiences and my opinions, let me emphasise again that I’m NOT interested in a long-term relationship (my current focus is on my kids, my elderly parents, and my career, in that order).

So, meeting younger men, being their friend, and hopefully progressing on to being FWBs is ideal for me at the present.

And yes, I do date both younger men as well as men my own age and older. However, I have come to find that I enjoy the company of younger men the most.

In my opinion, there’s also nothing wrong with seeking a sugar mummy, if that is your wish. But it’s just not something I’m interested in being.

Netizens’ comments

1. They do make good FWBs and are a joy to talk to, but being at different stages of life meant that a relationship would have been more work than I wanted. I adore their energy and enthusiasm, one in particular was very much puppy energy. Very affectionate but wanted more than I could give despite clearly stated boundaries prior to engaging.
2. My partner is only two years younger so it didn’t make much difference to me. When we met he was mid 20s and probably didn’t have much relationship experience. He did start out very much a mummy’s boy who stayed home when mommy got angry and didn’t know how to clean up a spilled drink.
   Boy I’m glad he grew and now he’s very independent, and able to establish boundaries with his parents.
   I’ve also dated a guy 5 years younger briefly (before meeting my current partner) fresh out of army. It’s horrible. All he could talk about was army, to which I had zero interest.
   I think the older you get the less significant the age gap is, unless you’re talking about like 10 or 20 years