I have been with my boyfriend “Jason” for about 2 years we are both in our mid-20s. I have known my friend “Stacey” for about 8 years.

For as long as I’ve been dating Jason, Stacey has made rude comments about how unattractive she finds him. She always says things like “I would never date Jason because his nose is SO big, it’s like a clown nose” (that’s literally something she said last week). She doesn’t say it to Jason’s face, just to me.

I always ask her to stop, and she does for a bit. But then after a day or two, she’ll do it again. It really irritates me.

The other day, she made the clown nose comment and she also made fun of Jason’s laugh, and I snapped. I told her that she should stop wasting her time on hating Jason because if Jason was single, there’s no way he’d date her. I also asked if she would like me to make fun of her to her back the way she does to Jason, and I threatened to do it. As a disclaimer, I would never actually do that. I just said it to prove a point.

Stacey started crying and she left my house. She told some of our other friends about the incident, and they said I was an AH for saying Jason wouldn’t date her. They said it really hurt her feelings, and since she’s single and I’m not, I should have had some tact. Stacey also said my comments implied that she was undateable, even though I never said that. I just said that Jason wouldn’t date her.

Anyway, it’s been a mess of a situation. so am I?

Here are what netizens think:

• Your friend is a sicko. She either has a crush on him so she tries to constantly insult him to hide it or she’s extremely jealous of you having a bf so she’s projecting hard. Either way she sounds like a shitty manipulator by trying to twist your words and running to others.

• She probably also told the friends a completely different story of what had happened, most likely making herself appear like the victim in that situation.

• She is probably trying to manipulate you into breaking up with him, so they can be single together and hang out more often (or go out or whatever she thinks you are doing less with her since having a bf).

so today I found out my BF still sees his ex from time to time and I don’t know how to feel about it.

He says it’s nothing and that he’s just trying to break up with her easily so he doesn’t hurt her which is a nice sentiment that I can appreciate.

But when he spends nights over at her place it kinda bothers me. I’ve had issues with jealousy previously so I’m sure it’s just me but it’s still annoying for me.

They were in a long relationship before me and him started dating so obviously I understand it can be hard to break up, but I just wish he would’ve told me that he was still breaking up with her when we started dating because then I probably wouldn’t even have started dating him in the first place.

She knows he’s dating me as well it’s just me who didn’t know they were still seeing each other.

I wonder if she knows that he’ll break up with her which also is something that bothers me, I’m feeling really bad for her and if I could contact her I think I would tell her what he was gonna do.

I’ve never personally broken up with someone over such a long period before, usually it’s a faster thing and a breakup has never really gone on for a year for me so I’m just curious whether this is usual.

Obviously I respect that he needs time and doesn’t want to hurt her but it would’ve been nice to know that they were seeing each other.

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Do most women change into their pajamas or comfy (unflattering) clothes as soon as they get home?

When I get home from work the first thing I do is change into my pajamas. Take my bra off. Get comfy.

My boyfriend has recently complained about this, saying that it isn’t “attractive.” Like the other day I was getting into bed and he just looked at me and said “that is the least attractive outfit I’ve ever seen.”

It really hurt my feelings. I mean it was just an oversized gray t shirt and shorts. Why does it matter what I wear at home? Is this normal?

Netizens’ comments

• A friend of mine once wisely told me that “home is where the bra isn’t”. Ever since it’s the first thing I take off when I get home

• I work from home most days so I’m usually in sweats or my pjs when my boyfriend comes over. I used to apologize for my unkempt appearance but he repeatedly told me that he loves how I look no matter what and he’s glad that I’m comfortable.

• Does your boyfriend bother to be appealing at all times or nah?

• I would love to know what HE was wearing at the time he made that comment.

So I divorced a year and a half ago and haven’t really dated much since. We were together 10 years, so it has been a while. Maybe I just don’t get dating culture these days or I am just so completely out of it and can’t read things properly, but maybe the people of the internet can tell me what’s up.

I went on what I call a date 0 with a girl I met online. We met at a coffee shop and chatted a little over an hour. I mentioned not having eaten as it was around dinner time and she suggested we get dinner. We had dinner, she didn’t let me pay and we split the bill which is fine. Like at the coffee shop I think the conversation went well, we laughed, had a good time, etc. After leaving, she suggests getting dessert and sneakily ends up adding mine to her order.

The date wraps up at around the 3.5 hour mark. Then the “there’s your car, bye” and she just leaves. She texts me first that evening, apologizing for being late, thanking me for seeing her, said she had a good time, hoped I got home safe. I replied I had a good time and would like to do it again and left it at that. The next day I got the “I only ever see us as friends” text.

Now I do not regret the date. I had fun and I even got a free dessert out of it. I am just confused on why someone would extend the date twice if they were not really feeling it.

Here are what netizens think:

• Maybe she was feeling it at first part of the day and not the second part…Don’t look too much into it.-

• Multiple reasons. You’re having fun, but not romantically interested. Something happened in the later part of date that was a turn off. Want to take some extra time to see if there’s some chemistry that you’re not feeling initially.

• She didn’t instantly know if she was interested or not.

A few months ago, my wife and I found out she was pregnant. Around a month later, we found out my mother was terribly ill and in the hospital, in KL. We decided to take the aeroplane to KL while the borders were still open.

Five hours before the flight, my wife found out she had a miscarriage. She was rushed to the hospital, but I was now stuck between staying with her and visiting my terribly sick mother. My wife begged me to stay, but I could not since the plane tickets were expensive and there was no guarantee my mother would be alive when she felt better.

When I told her, she started sobbing and refused to talk to me. I felt bad the entire flight. When I arrived and hot picked up by my sister, she asked me where my wife was and I told her the truth, which she started yelling at me, telling me that I’m a A-hole and she’s a fool for being with someone like me.

My brothers think I did the right thing. I’ve received millions of angry messages from my in-laws. My mother died two days after I arrived.

A day after the funeral, I went back home. My wife refuses to talk to me, even though I’ve tried to apologize and explained that I just lost my mother. So, am I the jerk?

Here are what netizen think:

This is the situation you can’t win. Your wife is rightfully angry you weren’t there, and the pain of losing the baby has put blinkers on her for the time being. She won’t be able to see anything but her own loss at the moment. On the flip side, I couldn’t get to see my Dad before he died (borders) and let me tell you, that’s not something you get over. I expect your family wouldn’t have let you hear the end of it if you’d missed those last days with your mom. I am so, so sorry for your losses. Both of them. I hope you can all move forward to a place where you can heal together.

This is the typical “we both drop in the sea who you going to save”

In 2019 my wife got very close with a colleague. I asked her if she had a crush on her 19y.o colleague and she admitted she did. She is like 12 years older than him

She also admitted that at times they flirt and that she liked it. This shocked me and all of this came out right before my birthday vacation we were taking. The entire vacation she was texting this guy (yes, including on my birthday) I wanted to stay out and go to bars but she (wife) wanted to go back to our hotel on my birthday.

This continued all the time. She would go to bars with this guy and go over to his house and not come home all night. I called her screaming one night telling her to come home (immature) and she stayed at her house for another 2 hours after my call. One night, she said she was going to the bar with one of her male friends. I had work early the next morning and at this point, she had sworn to me that she had cut off contact with the colleague.

I went to sleep not thinking anything of it. She comes home super late (whatever) wakes me up so I get up to go pee and I’m watching a different colleagues Instagram story and low and behold – my wife had gone to a party at the house of THAT GUY I think she cheated on me with.

Fairly soon after that, the coworker moved and the problem (supposedly) stopped. A few weeks ago I saw my wife had liked a few of that colleague’s pictures on Instagram recently (despite unfollowing her). She claims it was an accident when sending her posts to someone else making fun of her, and I don’t believe her. Because of this and some other lies, she’s told I’ve made us go to couples counselling recently but I feel like it’s too late.

I want to throw in the towel because I know she cheated on me in my gut. I feel like an idiot for trusting her. I know it would break my heart if we split up, but I can’t get over it. It’s like every time she tries to criticize me all I can think is “so what, you cheated on me.”

Fast forward to 2022, I should have divorce with her back then, cause she did it again. Once a cheater forever a cheater.

Six years ago, i swapped my then-girlfriend now-wife’s cat with a more well-behaved lookalike.

She had an all black cat that was extremely aggressive. It scratched everyone, hissed at everyone, and didn’t use its litterbox half the time. My wife insisted she could get it to behave better. One week she went overseas to visit her family and I was supposed to go to her apartment and feed it.

The first night I went over, it scratched my arm. I joked to the cat that it’s not special and I’ll replace it if it scratches again.

The joke stuck with me until I had thought about it enough that it wasn’t a joke.

The next morning I went to an animal shelter. Found an identical cat who was already litterbox trained and acclimated to people, but was a little skittish (it’s old owner died of a heart attack and the animal shelter people said they think that’s why it was skittish).

But overall, it was a lot friendlier and better behaved, and the skittishness would help it resemble the original cat.

So I adopted it, took it to my wife’s apartment, settled it in, then drove her original cat to another animal shelter.

It’s been 6 years since then. We got married 4 years ago. We still have the swapped cat. It answers to the original cat’s name. My wife knows nothing.

She loves this cat and brags about how much better behaved it is. Everytime I see it, I feel so bad.

So to start I’m a 19-year-old girl and my BF work at the same place, we have kept our relationship at work secret to minimise unwanted attention and questions about us (we’ve been best friends our whole lives and started dating half a year ago) since we aren’t very social people.

Around a month ago a colleague started to show interest in talking to me after 4 months of just looking at me from a distance, I didn’t mind talking but he began to show signs that he wanted to be more than friends, he had been flirtatious and would open up a lot about sad things and would talk to me every chance he could, I tried to show I wasn’t interested in that way without telling him about my relationship (of which he was already suspicious of) but eventually, I had to tell him about my BF because he was trying to make less subtle advances.

After I told him he was visibly upset and then told me that he did indeed have a “huge crush” on me, to which I said to go on as just friends and to not make anything awkward, (btw we were placed on a station at this time and couldn’t separate) so after this, we’d have to talk every day still, he would blame me for his crush claiming I had led him on and would talk to me a lot in a very perverted way, objectifying me and sexualising me. He would talk about my relationship with my BF making judgements that were completely untrue like saying that our relationship was codependent and weird, seemingly trying to undermine and cause doubts about my relationship.

He’s been trying over and over to get me to go out to the pub (bar) to drink with him and some colleagues, to which I always refuse but he insists telling me that I have to socialise (btw I’m very easy to manipulate which is very obvious to people) he also says that he doesn’t want my BF to come with me, he has spoken to me about “getting high” before and told me he does them a lot and knows how to get them which makes me a little more creeped out.

I have no idea what his intentions are, and I have no idea what he is capable of but it seems quite obvious that he could easily manipulate me into doing things I don’t want to and to take me to places I don’t want to go. He’s made comments about seeing me naked and trying to sleep with me, making comments about my body like noticing my breasts look a little bigger.

But yeah he seems to be trying to interfere with my and my bf, trying to wedge us apart constantly even when we’re talking, and then wants me to go out to places I’m not safe nor comfortable without allowing me to make my own decision. He complains that my bf doesn’t like him but says he should try to get to know him before he makes judgements but then judges our relationship without knowing a single thing about us.

What do I do?