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28 Y.O WOMAN BROKE UP WITH BF OF 9 YEARS, “FEELS LIKE I WASTED MY YOUTH”

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feeling like i wasted my youth

28f here. just got out of a 9 year relationship. we were engaged but broke it off before we got married

gonna be a long post so you don’t have to read everything. just want a platform where i can word vomit because i don’t have many close friends to talk to.

let’s call him C. i met C when i was 17, we were in the same orientiation group in jc. back then we were pretty close friends and he confessed to me at the start of j2. i rejected him because i wanted to focus on my studies, and he got together with one of our mutual friends, let’s call her S. during this period of time we drifted as friends, but during a short get-together when we were 19 he told me that he broke up with S shortly after alevels. he told me he still had feelings for me, and after a few months of chasing me we got together.

during our 9 years together i wouldn’t say it was perfect, but then again which relationship is perfect… i loved him and i was happy.

on our 5th year we broke up because i found out that he was contacting S again, telling her that he still had feelings for her, that he was going to leave me for her. S rejected him and came to me with screenshots of their conversations and that’s how i found out. we broke up for 4 months during which he kept contacting me and begging me to take him back.

during this period of time my family was struggling financially and my mum was involved in an accident that made her lose her legs. he chipped in, helping us cover hospital bills, even helping to cheer my mum up and being her emotional support.

i was touched by his gestures and forgave him for emotionally cheating with S.

he made me feel secure. he never reached out to S again, and he didn’t show interest in other girls. when he proposed last year i was thrilled. i really thought we were going to start a family together.

and then he suddenly broke things off a few weeks ago. saying that he couldn’t get over S and he was going to go back to her. saying that he no longer loved me and our intimate life was a disaster. i was mostly in shock and denial, i couldn’t believe that 9 years of my life is just gone like that, but now that i’m starting to realise that he’s never coming back, i feel angry and most of all, depressed.

i feel like i wasted my entire youth on him. he was my first boyfriend. i gave everything to him. my mum really loves him. when she found out that we broke up she was hysterical. she said that i’m 28, and that i’m too old to find love, how am i going to have kids etc etc. honestly i have the same worries. i feel like my youth is gone and now i have to start from scratch at 28. my friends are all married or in serious relationships. i’m clueless and hopeless and i’ve wasted my twenties with him.

GIRL RETURNED HOME AND FOUND HER BOYFRIEND IN BED WITH 3 WOMEN

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Just caught my boyfriend of four years sleeping with 3 women

I just walked in on my boyfriend with 3 women. We’ve been together for 4 years and I’m honestly falling apart.

I don’t want to see anyone irl right now. I don’t want people to know and give me the generic comfort. I don’t want people to see me breaking down.

So here I am, looking to vent to random strangers about our seemingly perfect relationship crumbling right in front of me.

He hasn’t stopped texting my phone in 6 hours. I have 54 missed calls, i don’t want to block him bc it feels so… final.

I’m not getting back with him, but i just can’t bring myself to sever the ties. Anyways, please chat me up so i feel like im not sitting in my house drinking alone lol

Netizens’ comments

  • It seems final because it is final. You’re not getting back together, your words, so why delay the inevitable?
  • Try to find solace in that at least you know now and not four more years down the road.
  • I know it hurts but he’s just done you a massive favor now you can move forward in life and find someone that loves and cherishes you.

TAXI DRIVER KEPT TALKING UNTIL WOMAN HEADACHE, THEN HE START TALKING ABOUT MEDICINES

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how do yall escape talkative cab driver?

Help?? I’m going from tana merah to pioneer and I’m currently at bedok and not only has he kept talking nonstop the past 5 min, he’s talking so loud and fast too.

I was being polite so I just did occasional cools and okays and hahas but I feel a headache coming up. I stopped responding bur he keeps “right or not ah girl” help please

I eventually told him how I think I’m having a migraine then he starts rumbling about herbal medication.

Then I just made a loud gag and told him how whenever I get headaches I’ll puke especially when I talk too much and that finally put a stop to it.

Thanks everyone for your suggestions, will be using those tips real soon. Lesson learnt: always have wired headphones in hand

Netizens’ comments

  • “Sorry uncle I very tired. I sleep ok?” its that simple
  • Please tell the grab driver if ignoring the convo doesn’t work !! I’ve read an article about how a grab driver was let go just bc he received a complaint due to him talking too much. I’m sure he wouldn’t mind u telling him the truth :0
  • Just tell him or her politely that you are not in the mood to talk
  • I will ‘pick up a phone call’ or plug in earphone tell uncle im on zoom meeting.

GOLDEN MILE TENANTS SET TO MOVE OUT IN 2023, NO MORE “LITTLE THAILAND” ANYMORE

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Following a successful en bloc sale, the tenants of Golden Mile Complex will have to leave the property before it is handed over to the developers in May 2023.

A sale order has been obtained from the Strata Titles Board on 3 August by Edmund Tie & Company, a real estate consultancy that is managing the sale, according to an announcement on 10 August.

The commercial area at Golden Mile has seen a huge number of Thai eateries, grocery shops, pubs and discos over the years.

It has been nicknamed Little Thailand through the years by customers who frequent the area, and with the impending redevelopment of the property, tenants and customers have expressed sadness and disappointment at losing Little Thailand.

Many elderly who live alone, also often meet up at Golden Mile, with some even travelling all the way from the west to find their friends here.

Travelers who are going to Malaysia by bus, will soon need to get used to departing or arriving in Singapore via a new terminal stop, instead of the Golden Mile building.

At the moment, about 8 bus operators are using the Golden Mile Complex as a bus terminal.

GIRL HARASSED BY STRANGER AT MRT, WHO ASKED HER TO TAKE SELFIE AND SEND HIM

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Um, I think I was just harrassed on the MRT train??

I was taking a Downtown Line train that was heading towards Bukit Panjang when I was suddenly approached by a man who asked me to take a photo of myself and send it to him on WhatsApp.

I literally had no idea who this man was and why he wanted my photo so I asked him why he wanted my photo. He kept replying with the same answer that he “just wanted my photo” and kept insisting that I send the photo to him on WhatsApp. Obviously I was weirded out and refused to comply.

When the train reached the next station, I just quickly made up an excuse that I had to alight at that station and bolted out of the train door.

As I was alighting, I think the guy tried to grab my school bag but lost his grip. By the time I had reached the escalator I saw that he had retreated back into the train and was no longer pursuing me. I immediately went to the passenger service counter to lodge a report but they said there was nothing much they could do unless if I file a police report.

Should I report this to the police or do I let it go? Cause I’m not sure if this counts as harras

36 Y.O MAN CAN’T FIND A GF FOR MANY YEARS, EVENTUALLY GIVES UP ON WOMEN

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I gave up on dating and women.
I’m 36, a dude.

I was a bit of a late bloomer, when friends started to be pining for girls I just didn’t understand what all the fuss was about, I just wanted okayish grades and have night’s over to play games with my friends. It came later, I was a weirdo like many other folks, tried unsuccessfully to find myself a girlfriend.

After a while I looked in the mirror and admitted I wasn’t really a catch, more of an immature kid with no social skills and little to offer. So I worked on that, did sports, joined cooking classes and literature clubs. I liked it, met a few people, made friends with some of them, but it never blossomed into more.

I joined dating apps, even hired a dating coach, and strongly recommend to stay away from it.

At the end of the day, I never had someone interested in me.

As time went on, the idea of intimacy and relationship started to appear like a fantasy, like something that’s real for others but just a fancy part of my imagination for me. The idea of someone wanting to spend time with me and enjoying intimacy feels weird and foreign, made me feel more and more different from my friends and other people.

After a while I became so disconnected that I ditched dating apps and stopped trying to flirt and date. It went slow, it’s not an active process, it’s just dropping one thing after the other without noticing until you’re out of the dating pool. I’m realizing it now.

I guess it’s some form of defense mechanism after feeling like I lost so much time trying to date/flirt. To not lose more I only consider other folks as friends and nothing more, try to ignore and reduce my libido as much as possible as masturbation is a loss of time and don’t like fantasizing about intimacy. I avoid romantic movies or songs too.

Instead, I try to find all the other things I can enjoy alone to pass the time and make it a good day. I prepare a new recipe for when my sister comes with her kids to eat, I work abroad six months at a time and get to see new sights and cultures, I read good books in the cozyness of my room and write my own, I do sports and run in the forests and it feels good.

I’m alone and do feel lonely and touch-starved at times, but I can handle the feelings and go to sleep with a smile after a day well spent, and that’s good enough.

If you’re read it all, thank you, I just had to put it out somewhere. Have a wonderful week.

WOMAN COMPLAINS ABOUT FATHER’S $1.5K SALARY, NOT HAPPY HE KEEPS ASKING THEM FOR MONEY

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Sandwich Gen (How to get my dad to save?)

Hi, my dad is 63 yo this year and he has a full time job , bringing home a gross income of approximately $1500 now. Despite his 40 years of work, he doesnt have any savings… Everything in the house has been paid and catered for so the money that he brings back is solely for his own use such as transport, food smoking, beers and buying lottery.

However, he seems to be extremely poor in managing his finances, i always tell him to save part of his income upon receiving it before spending the rest but it always went on deaf ears. And this resulted in him having to approach either my sister or me on a monthly basis to “borrow” money. If he’d followed my advice, this vicious cycle would be broken.

We wish that we could help but we cant always help as we have our families and stuff to pay… we have our own liabilities…

Any ideas on how to talk to my dad on this?

Netizens’ comments

He’s like surviving on $45 per day, per month,

that is if his payout is sufficient at all .

And don’t harp on his 40 years of no savings.

He spend 25 years just to clear payment for his flat.

Another 15 years to at least pay for your raising expensive ( yes his responsibility in raising you cost money)

It’s not that simple to save money when you don’t even have enough to begin with.

MAN HATES PEOPLE WHO ARE “FAT & LAZY”, SAYS IT’S “NOT ACCEPTABLE TO BALLOON AFTER NS”

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I know I’m going to sound shallow and get roasted but I’m going to say it anyway.

Secretly I hate lazy and fat people. If you’re lazy and not fat I won’t find it as annoying. But I really cannot stand fat people. Those who are so fat that they need a motorized wheelchair to move around. I also hate fat youngsters. You got no excuse to eat till your face swell to double the size and look more pregnant than a woman.

I’m in my 30s and I find it ridiculous that some friends my age cannot control their weight. Please don’t give the excuse about body type or medical when you have no health issues. I have friends who managed to look the same or even start to take care of themselves after having kids. So I don’t believe its acceptable to look like a balloon after NS. Diet and exercise plays a huge part for sure. Not caring about these 2 elements just shows that you’re lazy.

I have a cousin who was fit during his teenage years. NS improved his shape but he got fatter and fatter after that. Always eat junk food and smoke and drink. I was so shocked to see him recently as he haven’t been updating his fb posts for years. He has ballooned to triple his size. His fiance is normal built I wonder how does he not crush her to death when they have sex or if he can even make it stand? His face is so swollen I don’t even know where to look when I talk to him. He’s literally panting and breathing very hard even while he’s seated. Not like he’s on a treadmill. And he’s not even half way through his 20s.

I wouldn’t be able to not do anything about it if I looked like him.

Waiting for fat people to slam me. But I’m stating a fact. If you let yourself get to such a stage and do nothing about it, be prepared to hear remarks from people.

TAN TOCK SENG HOSPITAL & 3 DOCTORS SUED FOR NEGLIGENCE AFTER ELDERLY WOMAN DIED

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A 74-year-old elderly woman, Madam Tan Yaw Lan, died 3 weeks after suffering a heart attack while she was hospitalised at Tan Tock Seng Hospital, (TTSH) on 13 May 2018.

The deceased’s son, 47-year-old Chia Soo Kiang, is suing the hospital and three doctors for negligence and seeking $800,000, alleging that they had multiple breaches during their duty of care.

The three doctors involved in this care are namely Dr Dorai Raj D. Appadorai, Dr Lee Wei Sheng and Dr Ranjana Acharaya.

Madam Tan, who had health problems which included diabetes, heart and kidney disease, and hypertension, suffered a heart attack while taking a shower, where she was assisted by a nursing intern.

Her son, Mr Chia, filed a lawsuit in 2019, alleging that TTSH withheld pre-existing medications for Madam Tan’s health issues and her diabetes, failed to refer her to the appropriate specialists, as well as allowed a staff who was medically untrained to care for her.

Lawsuit begins

The hearing for the lawsuit opened at the High Court yesterday (15 August), with a total of 30 witnesses being lined up to testify.

24 of the witnesses were for TTSH and the three doctors, while 3 witnesses were for Mr Chia.

Chia’s lawyer, Clarence Lun, said that “despite the deceased’s medical history known to the defendants, the defendants had acted in a callous manner to a high-risk and vulnerable person, even to the extent of permitting an untrained intern nurse to treat the deceased, which resulted in her collapse and delay in responding to the emergency.”

The defendants are being represented by Ms Mar Seow Hwei.

Background

The deceased was admitted into TTSH on 20 April 2018, following a visit to the emergency department with complaints of a fever ad lethargy.

She was initially diagnosed as having widespread sepsis, a heart attack, diabetes, anaemia and a deteriorating kidney.

The treatment plan for her was to start antibiotics medication and stop her medications for heart problems such as furosemide and losartan, as well as aspirin.

She was then referred to the cardiovascular medicine department of the hospital by Dr Lee, and her usual premixed insulin was then replaced with a “sliding scale” insulin, with the dose varying based on the blood glucose level.

The referral was then cancelled by Dr Ranjana.

The defendants said that Madam Tan’s aspirin medication had to be temporarily stopped because there is a risk of bleeding, with the doctors highlighting her drop in haemoglobin level and sepsis.

They also said that hospitalised patients being placed o sliding scale insulin was common and usual.

They added that Madam Tan’s underlying cause for her heart attack was sepsis (the body’s life-threatening response to an infection) and that no specific treatment was required for her heart attack.

They also testified that the nursing intern, who was helping Madam Tan shower, had immediately called for help and a medical team attended to her and that there was no delay in the resuscitative efforts.

The defendants also argued that Dr Dorai Raj, who was on call on the night on 20 April, didn’t owe Madam tan a duty of care as he didn’t personally review her and was not consulted on her case.

The trial is set to continue today.

S’PORE MAN GOT LOST CLIMBING JOHOR MOUNTAIN, RESCUED AFTER MISSING FOR 21 HOURS

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40-year-old Singaporean, Neo Thiam Ming, went missing for 21 hours after getting lost while climbing the Gunung Panti mountain in Johor Bahru, according to The New Straits Times.

Neo contacted the Malaysian Emergency Response Services at about 7 pm o 13 August for help, and a search and rescue operation was then launched by the Malaysian authorities.

Ibrahim Wahid, a senior officer of the local fire department, confirmed that Neo eventually managed to find his own way out of the forest.

He was then located by the local authorities at about 4.20 pm on 14 August.

Neo was apparently able to reach the aid control centre safely, which was located at the bottom of the mountain before he was handed over to the police for follow-up.

an advisory was then issued to climbers intending to explore the mountain range, following the incident, advising explorers to register in advance with the closest police station of the forest bureau for their own safety.

Image source: Malaysia Fire and Rescue Department,