I am earning 5k and already give my parents 500 allowance a month. Yet they request expensive gifts for every festivals and must have fully paid overseas trip every year. If they cant get what they want they will say i am unfilial etc. Both of them are working yet I don’t understand why they treated me like that. Worst part is that it is not possible to sit down and talk to them.

Whenever I explain to them they will ask me to go earn more money and said I am useless for not earning 10k a month like this relatives that relatives. I didn’t take money from them since like JC as I worked part time and my uni fee is paid for as I work very hard for scholarship.

I am in a relationship so I also wanted to save some money for future, is that too much to ask?

Here are what netizens think:

• If they are being unreasonable about their requests/demands, you can always move out and rent a room. Continue giving them an amount you can afford. Then lead your own life. But be prepared to be estranged and to not be included in any inheritance should they decide to cut you off the will.

• It sounds abusive. I think you need to start prioritising yourself. Get your own place if you haven’t already and give them an amount which is normal for your circumstances. If they don’t like this, explain and then stand your ground. Sadly not all parents can stay close as we grow. Some bonsais need to break out of their pot…

• Don’t care bro. Your money your say. Don’t let anyone pressurise you into doing things that you don’t want. Just explain once or twice nicely to them, if they still don’t get it, then just smile and walk away, don’t explain anymore since it shows that they don’t get it.

• Work hard, save up, pursue your dreams, but still do your best to take care of your parents. $500 is ok better than nothing. If anything more strains you, then don’t do it. You need to take care of yourself too. All the best bro

My gf had S with other people during the talking phase of our relationship and it bothers me.

People say “the talking phase does not mean exclusivity” but that does not mean it doesn’t hurt :/

It hurts more knowing that she liked me but didn’t want to say anything because she was too shy/nervous but wasn’t nervous enough to go f a guy she knew was only using her for piak piak. She did this for months while talking to me.

I also recently found out she blew some guy who slid in her DMs the night after she told me that she liked me. This really sucks for me, but there’s nothing I can do about it now.

Here are what netizens think:

• If it bothers you that much, either get over it or break up with her. If you cant get over it but dont break up, you’ll resent her and never be confident in your relationship. You’ll hold it against her and it’ll mess you up emotionally.

• Yeah I get it, there is nothing worse than feeling swoony and romantic for someone, thinking things may be special and then finding out you were just one of many. Some will say be happy you made the cut but it can mess with you and cause resentment. There is literally nothing you can do though other than communicate this and if you can’t get over it, leave before resentment sets in.

• Yeah it’s clearly a difference in excitement for the developing relationship. When I met my wife, she was instantly all I thought about, and I would have certainly been hurt if she didn’t feel the same. I mean, she didn’t do anything wrong wrong, but sometimes just bring ourselves hurts others unintentionally.

I find myself being an unwilling, distant audience to my upstairs neighbours’ intimate life.

They like to get down and dirty every Saturday night and Sunday morning. She is a screamer. The ceiling is thin enough that I can hear them walk from the bedroom to the kitchen.

So the screaming comes through loud and clear. But it sounds fake. It sounds like she learned what orgasms sound like from adult movies and is copying those noises but isn’t actually enjoying herself.

It often sounds painful and semi-violent and scary and like she is masking unhappiness with fake overly happy noises. It’s icky. I feel icky hearing it.

To drown them out I blast two fans on high speed and have a blue noise machine I put right next to my head.

It sort of does the trick but most Saturday nights I end up sleeping on my sofa to get away from them and where their main action is at.

I hate them. I really want to tell them to shut up and pipe down. But I’ve been advised that that would be unbeneficial and rude.

So I guess I’ll just keep trying to blast them out of my brain and keep my distance.

Netizens’ comments

• You need to blast ‘Who let the dogs out?’ on repeat at full volume every-time they screw!

• Record it this weekend, play it back at them full volume when they start next weekend.

• Bang the ceiling with the broom

Please, I really need help. I was born with a disease which can only be treated with surgery.

My boss is going to terminate me because I am unable to do ridiculous things like working extremely overtime, as it takes a toll on my already sick body. However, my work quality is not compromised and surpasses most who work overtime. Many other colleagues and supervisors are witnesses to this. In my boss’s eyes, working overtime is the quality of a good employee. He has found more foreign employees to take over my role already. I interviewed with another company, whose boss knows my current boss. Unfortunately, they talked, and this boss has also rejected me, citing my health reasons.

In my current company, most of my colleagues expressed concern and understanding of my condition, with the exception of two, who bully me due to my health issues. They spread malicious remarks and mockery about my health condition, and even intentionally sabotage me at work to make me look bad. There are evidences to back these up from my other colleagues. These two are those who also think that working overtime is essential, although my work and schedule does not affect their work and schedule at all. I have raised this to my boss, which was also supported by my other colleagues who witnessed the bullying.

Unfortunately, since my boss is prepared to terminate me, he dismissed me despite adequate evidence of wrongdoings. The surgery required for my condition is a major one with high risks, hence I am hesitant and putting much consideration into it. I feel very helpless that despite being a good worker and my condition not affecting my work significantly, I am being bullied and replaced in the workforce. I do not know what to do and I really need advice please, thank you.

Here are what netizens think:

Unfortunately no one can really help you. And you mentioned your health condition, it’s better to save yourself from such mental stress and let go of your current job.. Health comes first. Slowly look for another job after you finished your op and recuperated. Wish you all the best.

You should raise it to the tribunal, maybe see your MP to discuss avenues of help. With these things, the earlier you get help from the appropriate agencies the better. If you wait too long, it might become too late to anything. Good luck.

I am indeed saddened and sorry to hear of your predicament. Please focus on your health…with better health you can find another job in the same industry or even change industries. I wish you good health and good luck.

What a toxic work place! Run far away from it. Forget about the other company as well. May you have a smooth surgery and find another job with a much more conducive environment. Anyway, if they terminate you, they’ll have to pay you a sum of compensation? It may be a blessing in disguise.