Yesterday I had a job interview scheduled. Went in pretty well dressed and felt good about myself. The interviewer was a middle aged guy, who said he was a pretty recent hire himself and I was one of his first interviews.

He was pretty chill and the interview went well, until the end. He was all smiles and shook my hand and looked me in the eyes saying “hopefully we will welcome you into our family here at company name ” and I replied “I can’t wait to get a new daddy and mommy” and let out a slight chuckle.

His smile turned into a weird frown and he almost looked at me with disgust. He let out a “laugh”, but it was really awkward. It was a joke but it fell so flat and made things so weird I just started stuttering and tried to finish things really quickly and left.

I couldn’t even open the door properly and the interviewer just stood there watching me struggling to leave.

I’m yet to hear back about this job position and I don’t think I will.

Here are what netizens think:

• Why on Earth would you say that??? Also, at least you didn’t blow your interviewer. Would’ve ended really differently.

• The interviewee it could come off very differently. If they are very young, like early-mid 20s then it’s a lot less weird than if they’re old.

• He didn’t say step-mommy or step-daddy.

• I think it was a very poorly executed attempt at a joke playing on the “family” comment from the interviewer, which in itself is a weird comment that more people should recognize as a red flag as an interviewee.Depending on the age of the interviewee it could come off very differently. If they are very young, like early-mid 20s then it’s a lot less weird than if they’re old.

• Email the interviewer and thank them for their time. Also mention you were nervous during the interview and that you are really excited about the job.

I reported a worker, and now his wife is my boss.

I had reported a worker for his homophobic remarks. He confronted me about the whole situation and then a few days after his wife was promoted to the shift lead (same shift as me and her husband)

Another two things that happened, is that i took a break for less than 5 mins to drink water and she seen it and reported it, and we were reprimanded by our manager. The next day she was promoted to our shift lead.

Is it okay for a wife to be promoted after her husband was reported for a serious issue? His wife be his boss?

Netizens’ comments

1. Yup, it’s legally sound for that to happen.
   I know many businesses where a husband and wife work together.
   I can tell you there was probably some strategizing behind this move.
   I know for a fact that certain businesses are hesitant to hire from certain groups because any worker could say the wrong thing and get sued into oblivion.
   On that note, your company is very likely creating a paper trail so they can get rid of you without liability. They’re envisioning the repercussions and want to be able to say, “But your honour, he messed up here, here, and here, we have proof.”
   I’m not saying any of that is right or wrong, simply that it’s the way it currently is.
2. In general, it’s bad practice for anyone to be the supervisor of someone they’re in a relationship with. Not illegal though.
3. Legal? Probably. A good business idea? Absolutely not.
4. I would also possibly look for another job.
   I was just terminated for essentially complaining about inappropriate behavior in regards to the woman above me. At my previous job, I quit and I’m sure if I didn’t I would have been fired- cause I went to HR about my trainer harassing me (calling me anywhere from 8am to 11pm, this was a day job) always about dumb stuff and speaking to me like I’m shit. Once you complain, they will completely zero in on you. That usually means the target is set.
5. Legal? Yes. Ethical? No.
   It’s time to dust off your resume so that you can leave on your own terms.

I (24M) said that my girlfriend (24F) not washing her hands after pooping is gross – she says I made her feel disgusting. Was I in the wrong?

So a bit of context: my (24M) girlfriend (24F) of 4 years has been having a bit of a hard time with her mental health recently, i.e low energy, anxiety, lack of motivation so I can understand completely if she’s struggling with the motivation to do some basic things, but has still been able to perform daily basics such as cooking, eating, walking the dog, laundry, hobbies, etc.

However, this morning she said to me that she’s been getting much better at stuff like brushing her teeth and other things, but then followed up with that she’s been getting better at washing her hands after she takes a poop. Until that point, I wasn’t aware that she wasn’t washing her hands after having a poop.

There’s been similar issues in the past with her not washing her hands after she pees, which, fine, I understand forgetting sometimes but not all the time – twice I’ve asked her nicely “would you mind trying to wash your hands after using the toilet, it’s something I find a bit yucky/gross” – she said she would, and we left it at that each time.

After she told me that she hadn’t been washing her hands I said that I was really proud of her for getting better with other things (brushing teeth, showering) but that I find not washing her hands after pooping a bit gross, and could she start doing it.

She immediately said “way to make me feel disgusting” and got very upset. I understand how it would make her feel bad, but I think that is one thing that isn’t optional, and should be done every time you use the bathroom, especially when living with other people.

I’ve had severe problems with panic attacks in the past, so I completely understand how she’s feeling, but I’ve never neglected something so basic before, especially when it would affect other people – I mentioned this to her, and her response was “well that’s good for you then”.

She said that she knows that it’s gross, but just wanted me to be proud of her for doing better – I absolutely am, in terms of brushing her teeth, showering etc, but I do feel that getting better at washing your hands after using the toilet isn’t something to be necessarily proud of, but should instead be done automatically.

She wasn’t raised in a way that would mean she wasn’t aware of the importance of washing her hands, so I don’t think it’s that.

Following this, a pretty big argument ensued – the most heated it got was when she said I was “bashing her” for not washing her hands and “making her feel disgusting” to which I raised my voice and said that “I’ve already asked nicely about it before, it’s not unreasonable for me to be upset about this”. I since apologized for raising my voice as it wasn’t helpful.

She asked me what my expectations of her were, in terms of personal hygiene, I said that I could completely understand struggling to brush her teeth, shaving, showering, and cleaning, and that it didn’t bother me if these weren’t done as much as normal as long as she was trying, but that one of my only expectations was basic hygiene like washing her hands, as it affected me too.

Eventually it ended with her saying the way I approached it wasn’t good, and that I made her feel bad about herself for not washing her hands.

I said I didn’t think it was unreasonable, especially as I’d talked to her twice before about washing her hands after peeing, let alone pooping, and that I wasn’t shaming her, but trying to let her know that this was a basic expectation of mine.

I also asked her if she would wash her hands at work after using the toilet, which she initially said she would (she works in food service) – if she would wash her hands there, why not at home?

She did then later say that “honestly, she probably wouldn’t wash her hands at work over the past few weeks, while she’s been feeling crap”.

Anyhow, sorry about the essay – did I approach this in the wrong way, or was I being unreasonable? Going forward, what would be the best way to resolve this argument?

Today, After eight years of marriage, I will serve divorce papers to my wife, who is also the mother of my three children,. All this years ,our marriage was fantastic/marvellous.

We traveled to more than 30 countries, lived in a nice home (that I purchased before the marriage and still completely owns ), bought our dream car, and saved a significant sum of money for our retirement and for our children’s future plans.

Things began to go south, when her gay friend, came to stay with us. His stay had lasted six months. He replaced me the day he arrived.

She spends more time with him than I do, and twice a week they go out for dinner, making me the babysitter. Even my children are becoming distant from me because of how much time he spends with them.

He crossed the boundary.,when he uploaded a picture of my wife and him kissing in a restaurant on Instagram .when I questioned her, he told me not to worry because he is a “gay”.

When I further questioned her, she started calling me an incel , homophobe, etc. She began to spend more time with him, like she acts like I even don’t exist.

Possibly a dozen of their images have already been posted on Instagram by him. I lost all my patience, when she said that she was going on a foreign vacation with him (just the two of them) and that the money would come from our rainy fund, to which I would be contributing six times as much as she would, given that I make six times as much as she does and that he would be contributing.

I’ve already spoken to a lawyer and established an irrevocable trust so she don’t take more than deserves. (I will be kicking them out of my house.Both have never respected my boundaries )

I had already tried to communicate with her multiple times, but every time she denies things and calls me incel, homophobic, blah blah.

A 17-year-old shared her story online that she got fired cause she was told to man her counter and she was not allowed to go to the toilet until the shift finished.

Here is what she said:

I’m 17 and I just got fired from my job because I couldn’t hold in my pang sai for 2 more hours, they told me I couldn’t go and I couldn’t hold it so I was gone

Not even 10 minutes and my manager said I had an attitude by saying “I wasn’t in there for 15 minutes and I told my coworker I was going” I don’t want my job back, just want to inconvenience the establishment so how can I do that as much as possible.

Netizens asked her which company was it:

• Which lan jiao shop is this?

She replied: I don’t want to get into trouble for revealing the shop’s name cause the law protects the rich if she sues me I’m dead.

• Your manager wanted you to pang sai in your pants ah? You should notify your manager’s manager.

• Remember this, generally everyone always has a boss or a manager, so, if your manager fired you for needing to go to the toilet, talk to their manager to ask against what corporate policy that is exactly? There should be a HR policy that prevents you to go to the bathroom.

• Also the length of your bathroom break should not be their issue here, only that it was a genuine bathroom break and you weren’t pretending just to get out of work. The last thing we need is for companies to start setting policies for how long is the maximum time it should take to take a dump. try not to dwell on any argument about length of break and steer it back to the question of whether it was genuine which it was.

“I have been doing my part to help men have a positive view of women since an increasing number of women are giving negative views of women.

When I am dressed up as a female and I come across constriction workers, manual labourers, and poor men. I often buy meals for them and sit with them and eat. I once spoonfed a guy and sat very close to him. He was still respectful of me. What I am happy is I put a smile on each of their faces. Some gave me warm hugs. I did not mind that their sweat and dirt soiled clothes will affect my dress (unless its my favourite dress).

Ths all tell me that my parents brought me up as a fine young lady. What they do not see is that I come from a broken home. My dad was violent. I defended my mum, but I was thrown out of home my dad because I played hands on my dad. I could not defend my mum. I was a failure as a son. In life, I was a failure as a man. No proper job and no girlfriend. Most girls will only friendzone me. I decided not to complain about being single. I decided to put a smile on the faces of poor men.

I recount a particular young man I met. He was in depression as his girlfriend broke off with him just before Valentine’s Day. I suggested we have dinner. He said he does not have much. I told him I can pay since I earn more than him. He looked very happy as he dined with me. He gave me a rose. I felt very happy to receive something for the first time in my life. I realised why I made people happy when I gave them food and my time. What surprised me was that he paid for my dinner – $300 on this $1500 salary! He also accompanied me to my block, gave me a nice warm hug and left me there. I cannot comprehend why girls will pass him up.

I remember I once hugged an old uncle on a wheelchair and comforted him. I held him close to my chest as he began to cry when I gave him $200.

I enjoy putting a smile on a lot more men’s faces until I decided not to focus on finding a girlfriend. If by some miracle I find a lady to marry then I am blessed. Until then I will have to try to remain young with good looks. Makeup actually makes me look like a teenage girl. As long as I stay slim enough I fit in nice skirt and blouse and look pretty.”

The guy I am dating is a lot wealthier than me. I feel insecure about it and I am pretending to be rich too. I don’t know if he will leave after knowing the truth.

I met really amazing man, I had a crush on him after our second date. He seems to really like me too. We went on 6 dates only but things are getting more serious between us. Also he is mindblowing in bed.

The problem is he earns much more than me. I have a ok job but my earnings are average. He must think I am rich too because I told him I have a good job and I avoid talking about money generally.

He invited me twice to a really expensive restaurant, I didn’t want to pay so much so when the bill arrived I let him pay without saying anything.

I invited him for drinks and cooked for him at home twice, I try to be generous without spending much. But he wants to go to expensive restaurants again or on trips and sleep in really expensive hotels.

I guess it’s time I should tell him the truth I can’t afford it? I will be really sad to lose him. His ex gf was rich too so he probably prefers it.

I was thinking of looking for a better paid job or a way to make more money somehow but it is too stressful for me right now.

Netizens’ comments

1. don’t pretend to be something you’re not, tell him asap and see how he reacts ^{^}
2. You never told him that you were rich, but there could be a chance that he already knows.
   He usually pays for you anyways, maybe he just wants to spoil you but since all these luxuries are making you uncomfortable, ask him to slow down/take it easy.
3. I grew up in upper-upper middle class.
   I had a thing where I was horrible with my emotions and expressing them. My love language was spending money on women.
   But even past that, I didn’t mind spending the money bc I liked them so much I just wanted them to experience cool stuff.
   But I NEVER, not even once, cared about how much money they had or came from.
   There’s a good chance he doesn’t either. But there’s also a slim chance he is ignorant and thinks you make more and is that shallow. But I’m not seeing that second option from your post but TONS of context missing so I’m only going off what I have.
   Tell the truth .

There’s a bunch of young men, about 18, 19 or 20, always working out at my gym and I am having thoughts of letting them have their way with me.

I’m 31. I’m not sure why I’ve been getting these thoughts lately, but every Monday and Wednesday this group of what looks to be 18-20 year old students always come in to work around the same time I do. There’s 4 of them.

Im assuming they’re around that age group because they look young, and my gym is near a their campus and I always see students wearing their tight shirts come in and out all the time

They’re really cute and always helping each other with their reps and exercises, and I find it adorable.

I have caught them staring a couple of time in my direction and do the whole male group giggle thing, and I usually just laugh it off.

It’s beginning to become a reoccurring thing, and as I get older and more lonely the idea of messing around with younger males seems more and more exciting.

Out of all the young girls at the gym around their age, they still find someone older like me decently attractive enough to draw their attention and I think it’s adorable

I really want to ask for their ages, and see if they ever wanted to get lunch at one of the restaurants/fast food places in the same complex, and from there see if they’d ever be interested in anything with me, but I’m not sure how on earth that would go down, what I would ask, and how I would gauge to see if their interests are aligned with mine.

The other part of me feels incredibly perverted and messed up, so I just don’t know what to do.

My marriage proposal was interrupted by a singer… idk how to feel

Alright so, I 25M proposed to my gf 29F last night at a restaurant/bar last night. So… as I kneeled down and opened the ring box, as soon as she said yes…

One singer/emcee ran to us and took the ring box and took us to the stage, and made an announcement… and then around 2 minutes later, she finally gave me the ring box and I proceeded to kneel to her again and she said yes, everyone was applauding.

it was a happy moment yea, but somehow our memory is forever with the singer interrupting us to make my proposal more public?

I don’t know how to feel lol, I somehow feel angry for her interrupting and making us remember that interruption forever… honestly my feelings are all mixed right now.

Any thoughts and advices anyone please? I love you all I need external perspective to make me feel better or something.

Netizens’ comments

1. Your feelings are valid. There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do.
   When you propose in public, you run the risk of being interrupted, having strangers involve themselves, being drowned out by the noise around you, and etc.
   It was a thing. It happened. The important thing is she said “Yes”. TWICE! And you had done your best to make it romantic, so good on you.
   I’ve had four marriage proposals in my life and not a single one of them was romantic. No man went down on his knee for me. So… it could have been worse! lol
2. Give it time and it will be a funny story that you can share with other people, because it’s less boring than ‘I kneeled in a restaurant and she said yes’. You can’t turn it back anyways. Congratulations btw!
3. I mean that’s the risk you run when you decide to make a private proposal in a public setting. To be blunt, if you wanted a private uninterrupted moment with your fiance, then do it somewhere private. If you’re in a bar that also has live music. Someone is going to take notice and make it more public.
   It’s not like the singer ruined the moment, she said yes, that is ALL that should matter to you. Now you have a story to tell everyone about your proposal. There is nothing you should be upset about at all.

My husband said he is disgusted to kiss me becsuse yesterday I gave him a bj with finale in my mouth for the 1st time.

10 years marriage, on a rocky road for the past few months and intimacy was basically non existent, up to 5 times per month, as we argued much.

Yesterday I asked him to take a shower, I dressed up nicely and when he showed up I asked if he’s up for something new.

He hesitantly said yes, and I said we can’t have intercourse (due to health reasons) but can I have him in my mouth till the end.

He said yes and I could see he enjoyed it. During the last couple of seconds he hesitated again but I was so focused on what I’m doing I said ‘please let me’ and he did.

Then I just got off by myself on his eyes cuz I just saw he was so not into this that I couldn’t bring myself to ask him to do it for me even though it crossed my mind for a sec.

I was also embarrassed of my state as I have a frequent infection I am battling with and he could see it. He knew I had it but I didn’t want it to be so obvious.

I already spoke to him numerous times it’s a fantasy of mine, I mean the bj finale where he finishes in my mouth. Now he said what he said. He always liked my mouth and he was getting very turned on when I gagged on his D.

Wondering if it will pass. Is it maybe the fact that he wasn’t prepared…and I pushed too much? He also said he misses me so much after all those fights that ‘that’ kind of closeness wasn’t doing it for him…

Thanks for all honest opinions.