My husband (42M) wants to be a SAHD. I (38F) now want a divorce.

I 38F have been married to husband 42M for 8 years. We have two kids. We are a dual income household and need to be because our expenses are going up due to inflation, although I outearn my husband by quite a bit. I’m the primary parent and household manager as well.

Husband is a good person and a great parent but he has a lot of issues with keeping stable employment. He says it’s “unlucky” but he has had a hard time keeping a job over the last 8 years and it’s never, ever his fault. He blames the economy, his supervisors, and various other things. It frustrates me constantly but we get by because I have an advanced degree and a decent-paying long term job.

Last Friday, I came home from a very long day of work and then shuttling our older kids around and he told me he had a surprise for me. The surprise was takeout and the news that he quit his job (without telling me first) and he’s going to be a stay at home dad when the twins get here.

I was/am livid and gave him 10 minutes to explain why he thought it was remotely appropriate to do this and what TF he was thinking. He said that he’s “not cut out to work” and that this decision saves us a boatload of money on daycare. He genuinely thought I’d be pleased.

When I asked him what we were supposed to do for my upcoming unpaid maternity leave if he isn’t working, he suggested I negotiate working remotely for a while so I could “have a break” and he would watch the babies.

I lost it and told him if he wanted to quit his job and quit making decisions as a partnership, then I quit this relationship. I spent the weekend crying it out alone.

When I got home, he had my SIL and MIL there to hold an “intervention” and explain why it’s cruel of me to place a monetary sum on his value in our relationship and that kids should be raised by parents not daycare. They also heavily implied that hormones are to blame for my being so upset and that I’m being a bad feminist for wanting to “force” my husband to “provide in a traditional role.”

I told him to wait for notice from my lawyer and locked myself in my office.

Maybe I am being hormonal and emotional. They aren’t wrong that my husband would probably be a great SAHD. And it is possible that we could maybe make it work with him only working part time. But this whole thing feels so manipulative and disrespectful that I can’t get behind it.

What do I do next? I’m so lost.

I (19f) am struggling to respond to people who walk up and comment about my acne. I recently blew up at my friends (21f) husband (35m) because he told me I was hot “despite the obvious acne”

Title is self explanatory. I blew up at him, told him I never asked for his opinion, and walked away. In general I’ve had people come up to me and tell me about their “niece using acv to clear her skin” or “just rub lemon and salt on it”

Like ok Karen are you a doctor? Because my REAL doctor has given me medication. I don’t need your stupid advice or your salty lemons.

Anyways I feel bad for blowing up at him about the acne comment and I’m wondering how I should/could respond to these kind of comment in the future. Am I allowed to blow up? Or should I just thank them and walk away?

Edit: thank you to all the people who DMd me with unsolicited advice about acne after reading my post about how I don’t like unsolicited advice

Edit 2: f everyone telling me to just wash my face. I was asking for advice on the situation, not the acne. The only person who’s valid is the one dude who sent me unsolicited cat pics. be like him 🙂

Edit 3: thank you all for the lifetime supply of cat pics. I can’t possible respond to them all but I love them and thank you. To the one guy who told me jizz will clear acne, f you.

A final note: not all age gap relationships are something to bash. I’m currently in an age gap relationship. The problem lies with the fact that he is SO MUCH older than my friend and she is still young. She and I are both not fully developed mentally, whereas he has been for a long time. This creates a difference in power and that is worrisome. He totally controlled her and I know he wants to do the same to me. Luckily I’m not falling for it. Be carful but remember to be respectful of other age gap relationships if you don’t know the full story. <3

Boyfriend (30m) told me (26f) he doesn’t see a future because of condoms.

Boyfriend of 4 months told me that he doesn’t see a future with me because I told him I’m not ready to have unprotected intercourse.

When he said this, I was stunned into silence. I was so hurt that he was so ready to drop me because I’m trying to be safe.

He later apologized saying that he had a death in the family which is making him freak out and want a family of his own.

This conversation led to another argument where he said I need to commit to having a child with him within a year, which then led to him saying that condoms are too expensive and he’s never been in a committed relationship where the woman made him use them….

I’m still in school and he lives with his family so in my head, I would never even think of children unless we’ve at least lived together for awhile, have a strong foundation, and have the funds to support a kid.

I let him know this and he told me that I’m being immature and selfish. I’m a bit confused because he’s been so perfect these last few months and this is our first fight.

This isn’t a normal reaction to a death in the family right?

Edit: The more I read this post back to myself, the more I shake my head. I think I’m still a little shocked and I’ve romanticized this relationship too much but I already know that this is sooooo wrong.

Netizens’ comments

• Well people do react to deaths in different ways, but wanting to have a child within a year when he is complaining about not even being able to afford condoms is not a good look. Someone is being selfish and it is not you.
• Did he explain what was immature and selfish? He’s too poor to afford condoms or his own place to live but he wants kids? If he doesn’t see a future with you don’t waste your time.
• RUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUNNNNNNNNN

I had been dating my boyfriend for over a year, and I thought things were going really well. We had a great connection and shared a lot of the same interests.

We both enjoyed watching movies, playing board games, and exploring the outdoors. We had been talking about taking a trip together for months, and it was finally going to happen.

Surprised him with a gaming laptop

To make the trip extra special, I decided to surprise him with a new gaming desktop. I wanted to get him something that he would really enjoy and I thought this would be perfect.

I spent weeks researching and comparing different models, and eventually I found the perfect one. I was so excited to give it to him, and I knew he would love it.

The day I gave him the gift, he was absolutely ecstatic. He couldn’t believe that I had bought him such an amazing gift, and he thanked me over and over again. He was so excited to try it out, and he immediately set it up and started playing.

Started to pay less attention to me

At first, things were great. We would spend time together playing games and exploring new worlds. But as time went on, I noticed he was spending less and less time with me.

He was so engrossed in his new gaming desktop that he was barely paying attention to me. I tried to talk to him about it, but he just brushed it off.

Soon, he was spending all of his time on the gaming desktop and none of it with me. I felt like I was being ignored and pushed aside.

I tried to talk to him about it again, but he just said he was too busy. I started to feel like I was losing him, and I was devastated.

Things only got worse as time went on. He was so obsessed with his gaming desktop that he didn’t even want to go on our trip anymore. He said he couldn’t bear to be away from it for that long.

I was heartbroken and I knew I had to do something.

I tried talking to him one last time, but he just blew me off. I realized that he was never going to change, and I finally accepted that our relationship was over. I was so disappointed and hurt, but I knew I had to move on

I’m really afraid to love or commit myself fully in a relationship.

The first crush I had, we clicked well together and we ended talking just like how couples do. But maybe I’m the only one who think that we’re in a rs after all. She ended up ghosting me out of nowhere which makes me question a lot on what had I done wrong and why.

After a few years, I was ready to love and give it a go again to find someone that I want to spend my whole life with. Due to my career and work, it was difficult to meet someone new. So I decided to try on a dating app, which most of my friends found their one there. And finally after almost close to a year, I matched a girl during circuit breaker period. Our conversation are always two way and we clicked so well.

Long story short, we ended up in a rs. Two years plus gone by so fast and I’ve always thought she is the one. What I didn’t expect, suddenly happens. One day, she just drop a big bomb out of nowhere saying all the flaws that I have and things she dislike about me and this rs which she didn’t mention before cause she said she wants to be understanding. I’ve always told her to let me know what’s she had on her mind or about me so all along I thought everything was fine.

In the end, she break it off over a text saying love isnt enough here anymore which I don’t get why she wouldn’t give us a chance or at least meet in person. I couldn’t accept that things just ended this way so I went over and met her. Just to tell her the solutions I came up with to overcome this situation, but the more I talk to her I started to notice she’s gone. The last thing she said to me was smth too painful for me to deal with. She said she didn’t want to do this to me, and tbh she found someone new and is happier now.

Yea I was shocked and took me awhile to get my mind back because it’s just right after we broke up. So yea I really wish her the best, there’s nothing I could do anymore. She’s the only one that I gave all my love to, therefore this is the biggest trauma I have.

I’m afraid to love again just for this to happen in the end. Knowing all the promises doesn’t mean anything and can be broken off so easily. I just feel like I’m replaceable and can be dispose anytime when ppl find someone better than me.

Thank you for reading, it really meant a lot to me to be able to share it out. Sorry if my English is not up to standard. Hope everyone stays strong and have a good day.

I am a nus alumni who graduated 10 years ago. I am earning $20k per month now in some MNC and moonlighting with some side business.

Therefore, i managed to own a condominium and have close to 1 million savings.

Due to my needs, I recently hired a sugarbaby who is currently studying in NUS. She is pretty and sexy, but she is very seductive to an extend that she can make me lose control of myself in decision making. She made me transferred the ownership of the condominium worth 1.5mil to her and also almost all my savings to her as well. I was stupid enough comply with her.

Furthermore, every month I continued to give her 10k allowances.

I started to regret as i am left with almost nothing now. But i am really addicted to her and cant stop myself from giving everything to her. I am also scared if i stop giving her 10k per month, she will kick me out of the condo which is under her name now.

Can anyone advice me?? How should i seek help to stop my hornyness and addiction against her?

Here are what netizens think:

• You’re effectively paying 10k/month for rental in your ex-condo and some partner benefits. It’s probably cheaper elsewhere.

• I know it’s a troll because that’s one of the dumbest stories I heard. You are definitely not someone I have in mind who earns 20k monthly. If I knew my boss did all these silly things, I would have changed to another company because he would run the company to the ground for his lack of judgement and intellect.

• I think you are under a love spell. Which you have mentioned that she just made you transferred all your assets to her and providing her $10k as her monthly allowance. You can’t stop even you knew something is not right.