I had been looking forward to this moment for a long time.

Losing my virginity to my very first girlfriend was something I had been dreaming of and fantasizing about since I hit puberty.

I had watched a lot of adult movies and read a lot of erotica, and I thought I knew exactly what to expect. But when I finally had the experience, I was left really disappointed.

The first thing that struck me was the size of her breasts. They were much smaller than the ones I had seen in the movies. Instead of the large, voluptuous breasts that I had imagined, hers were the size of ping-pong balls.

It was a huge letdown, and I couldn’t help but feel a bit embarrassed.

The second thing that struck me was the amount of hair down there. I had seen a few movies where the women had shaved their nether regions, but my girlfriend hadn’t. Her bush was thick, dark and really bushy. Again, I couldn’t help but feel a bit disgusted.

The third thing that struck me was the actual experience of doing it.

In the movies, it looked so smooth and effortless. But in reality, it was awkward, clumsy and messy. We kept fumbling around and struggling to find the right positions. It was nothing like the movies and I couldn’t help but feel a bit disappointed.

Finally, the fourth thing that struck me was the lack of passion. In the movies, the couples seemed to be connected by an intense and passionate connection. But in reality, I felt disconnected and distant from my girlfriend. I didn’t feel any kind of emotional connection, and it was just another let down.

All in all, losing my virginity to my very first girlfriend was a huge letdown. Nothing about it was like the movies and I was completely unprepared for the reality of it.

Her breasts were the size of ping pong balls, her nether region was super hairy and bushy, the actual experience was awkward and clumsy, and there was a lack of passion. I guess I just have to accept that reality is nothing like the movies.

It was a typical night out at the disco in Thailand, I was looking to have a good time and hopefully find someone to share it with.

Little did I know that I would find that someone and it would lead to a life-changing decision.

I had been to Thailand many times before, but this time the experience was different. As the night progressed, I met a beautiful Thai girl and we started talking. We had a lot in common, and I felt like we really connected.

As the night went on, I was mesmerized by her beauty and charm, and I asked her if she wanted to go out on a date with me.

The next day, we went on a date and things just seemed to click. We had a lot of fun and I was really enjoying her company. As the days went by, we started spending more time together and I started to develop feelings for her.

She got pregnant and We eventually got married, and I thought I was the luckiest man alive.

Little did I know that my luck was about to run out. My Thai wife was pregnant, and I was convinced that the baby was mine. I was so excited and I couldn’t wait to become a father. Unfortunately, it was too dangerous to do a paternity test while she was pregnant, so I decided to just take care of her until the baby was born.

When the baby was born, I was overjoyed. I was already so in love with him, and I was convinced that he was my son. I started making plans for our future together, and I was sure that this was the start of something beautiful.

Fast forward one year, and I decided to take a paternity test. I had been thinking about it for a while, but I was worried that it would cause problems with my marriage. I was wrong. When the results came back, I was absolutely shocked. It turns out that the baby was not mine.

My wife later confessed that the baby was actually her Thai boyfriend’s. She had been too poor to take care of the child, so she had taken advantage of me and my financial situation. I felt betrayed and I was filled with rage.

But, there is only so much of me that can be stupid. I already recorded the conversation of her admitting about the baby to me.

It will be a walk in the park to divorce with this evidence.

Looking back, I regret ever going to that Thai disco. If I had never gone, I would have never met her and been deceived like this. I guess you never know what will happen in life, and it’s important to be aware of the risks.

My office has this reformed/ex-ah lian that I am attracted to and we get along quite well.

She has two kids though and I don’t know what her past is with her ex-husbands or boyfriends or flings and I don’t want to pry more because it might be insensitive.

In what circumstances would you date a single mom?

A divorcee that has her ex-husband have to pay alimony doesn’t seems so bad since he will be forking out the money for the child expenses while you reap the benefits of being a father.

A widow that husband passed away means that she most likely has lots of money from the insurance payout so you get to raise kids without the burden of the expenses haunting you.

But if its neither of those, then you have to raise someone’s else’s child who will never acknowledge you as their father, especially if they are of a certain age and they will just think you are trying to screw their mom.

Here are what netizens think:

• 1st of all, once she re-marries (to you), her ex-husband’s alimony ends automatically and it is (ur) responsibility to raise her kids (as step).2nd will her kid want to call u papa or can only accept uncle at most? Once u married to her, this will be the most impt qn (To her it is whether u accept her kids and to u it has to be whether her kids accept u as their dad). Otherwise u risk her in a sandwitch situation no worse than a girl asking u who would u save first when she and ur mum are drowing at the same time.

• get involved in relationships with single mom in your work place going to the biggest gossip around

• Don’t pangsai where you makan

• are you ok with her showing more or equal love/time to her kids than u? if yes, proceed. (single moms i know almost always prioritize their kids than herself fyi)

How do you politely reject someone who has romantic feelings for you?

There’s a colleague of mine whom I think is interested in me but I only see him as a friend.

Even though we don’t stay near each other, he’ll always find some excuse to give me a lift to work. Sometimes, he’ll even buy breakfast for me to eat on the ride to office.

It doesn’t feel like he’s just being friendly because I don’t see him doing this for any other person in the office. My other colleagues tried to matchmake him with this lady from another department once and he told them very directly to stop doing that as he already has a girlfriend.

I’m very scared that the ‘girlfriend’ he’s referring to is me but I don’t know how to ask him about it without sounding obnoxious and rude. I’m also scared that if I suddenly stop talking to him, he’ll turn nasty like those obsessive psychopaths on the news.

What should I do?

Here are what netizens think:

• Stop taking him for a ride lor…I mean stop taking rides from him

• agree! It takes two hands to clap.

• Stop seeing him outside of work la, he want say what let him say the mouth on his face not on your one.

• You obviously enjoy the attention and you are not different from a KTV girl.

• This girl power leh, the skin more thick than alligator.

Every year, I would eagerly accept the pocket money from my gf’s parents and relatives during the Chinese New Year, never really thinking about the long-term consequences of my actions.

But now, as the date of our wedding draws nearer, I can’t help but feel a sense of panic.

I know that when I marry my girlfriend, I will be expected to give her family red packets of equal or greater value, as is customary in Chinese culture.

This thought fills me with a sense of dread, as I know all too well that I have been gathering far more red packets from them than I can ever give back.

It’s not that I’m stingy but I don’t earn that much.

Over the years, they have given me so much ang bao during the CNY period and in a way indirectly telling me that when I marry my gf, I need to give back more.

I’m sure they understand that I don’t earn much, but I’m still scared that they will expect me to give back more than I can.

I’m not sure what I should do. I know that I need to start saving up so that I can give them back when the time comes, but I’m not sure if that will be enough.

I don’t want to disappoint my future in-laws, but at the same time, I’m afraid of not being able to give back enough.

My experience with car dealers has been a nightmare.

As a young man with no prior experience in buying a car, I was taken advantage of and conned out of nearly a thousand more than what I should pay for.

I thought I was ready to make the big purchase.

I had done my research, spoken with friends and family, and figured I had everything I needed in order to make a wise decision.

Little did I know that the dealers had a different plan.

The first thing I noticed was that the dealers didn’t seem to care about what I wanted.

They asked a few questions about the type of car I was looking for and then proceeded to show me cars that didn’t match what I was looking for.

It quickly became apparent that the dealers were just trying to make a sale and didn’t really care about what I wanted or what kind of car was best for me.

Then came the negotiation. The dealer started by offering me a price for the car that was way too high.

When I asked for a lower price, they said they could lower it, but I would have to pay extra for various extras like a warranty, extended service, and so on.

I was shocked to find out that these things were not included in the price they had originally quoted me.

The worst part was when I found out that some of the extras they were trying to charge me for were actually free.

I asked the dealer why they were trying to charge me for something that was free and they said it was just part of the deal.

I knew that they were trying to con me out of money and I refused to pay for something that was free.

Needless to say, I walked away from the car dealership feeling scammed and conned.

I realized that most car dealers, especially those not from the main car company mostly have dubious characters and that they always try to con you into paying for things that are free.

I learned the hard way that it’s important to do your research and know what you’re getting into before you buy a car.

It’s been a few months since my experience with the car dealers and I’m still feeling the effects.

I’m out almost a thousand and I’m more wary of car dealers than ever before.

I would never want anyone else to go through what I did, so I would like to warn others to be careful when dealing with car dealers and to always double check that you are not being charged for something that is free.

Wife(29F) has been cheating on me (26M) and is planning on taking everything

Posting on here as I don’t know where else to turn to for advice.

Hello, I just discovered my wife of 4 years been cheating on me for months with another man. I came back home from work one day to hear her talking with another man on the phone, she tried to claim he was just a friend but I knew better.

I looked through her phone to find out the worst- she was cheating on me and had been for months.

In their messages, she said she plans to leave me and take everything. She said she would claim I’d been emotionally absent and cruel and take everything I have.

Please, any advice for divorce proceedings would be great, I’m just so upset and confused about everything right now.

Netizens’ comments

• If you can get her phone – screenshot EVERYTHING that proves your innocence. Have it for your lawyer.
• Before you divorce her.. record what you found, especially her messages about taking everything – it would work in your favour
  Record or take title of assets in your name, keep it and record it all.
  Change all your bank account passwords and signatures
  Get your wife’s off all of your insurance plans
  Save ALL your bank statements (especially those in the joint account) if she used the account to buy AP gifts… you mgiht claim it back from her
• So are you going to ask her about it? Make sure to record her reaction because she might perform a monolog about her plans.
• Withdraw your cash, block her from your bank accounts and credit cards etc. Cancel insurance, change your will etc. copy and save all evidence and see a lawyer urgently. If you can record her conversation, all the better. Protect your self.