The SIA Cabin Crew crush.

Just want to share my thoughts after reading the comments left by the readers:

1. Aren’t most SIA stewards gay? Like 90%? Most of the crew are not good-looking but are all meticulously groomed. Meeting a good-looking steward is so rare but meeting one who is not straight is very common. My steward is seriously handsome and well-groomed but very rushed and can I say also kinda “bit**y”?

2. The flight industry is well-known for their promiscuity. Touch-down, party and sleep around is the norm unless you want to be an outcast and this is seriously very sad. There are some who are in the industry just for money and will avoid partying and stay in their 4-stars hotel room, save money and quit in 3 years before next contract or something. Being materialistic is a thing too since branded goods are cheaper aboard and you again may become an outcast if you don’t carry some brand on you, etc. All-in-all, being a steward/stewardess you have to be okay with the crazy flying schedules, missing out special holidays, being harassed by everyone including your superiors and passengers etc. I really do feel for them. Being a passenger is so great and I love SIA. Loyal customer here.

3. Towards the year-end of 2022, Stewardess and Stewards can be mask-less. However not all will choose to do so. Or knowing how hierarchical it is working at SIA, they maybe chosen to be mask-less or can mask-up based on how attractive they are.

4. I am not a 45-year old aunty lah, just saying. Not pretty but definitely not ugly lor. He closed the curtain on me at the galley but it’s not because he feared for his life. I was just minding my own business.

5. Sharing how I felt when I encountered a good-looking steward is my way of moving forwards. You know how it is with crushes. You can’t just tell anyone and you may have an unrealistic hope that the other party had noticed you. Of course with my case, no lah.

But if anyone from the SIA cabin crew is reading this, can you help me spread this post around hahaha.

My boyfriend got mad that I only spent $20 on him for a date

I (24f) went on a date with my bf (24m) recently in celebration of our 1 year anniversary.

Money has been running tight recently since my bf was fired from his job recently. I knew he was really upset about the whole situation so I wanted to cheer him up, and I thought taking him out to dinner for our 1 year anniversary (which was coming up) was the perfect way to do so.

I took my boyfriend to one of my favorite restaurants from my childhood. It wasn’t a high end restaurant because I make like 1/3 of what he used to make but nevertheless he loved the interior design of the restaurant and the food.

We were having a great time until the waitress came and told us our combined bill was going to be a little under $45. My bf looked at me weirdly but I thought I imagined it so I ignored him and paid the bill. After the waitress left to get a box for our takeouts he turned to me and asked, “So that’s how much you value our relationship after one whole year of being together?” I was confused and he said, “you only spent $40 dollars on our one year anniversary date.”

I asked “What’s wrong with that? And plus the prices were printed on the menu.”

He said, “You were supposed to pay. Why would I have looked at the prices? And every time we went out I always spend hundreds of dollars on you.” I didn’t respond because I didn’t want to cause a scene and he raised his voice and said, “I see how it is. I’m only worth $20 dollars to you.”

Then he left the table and told me I can go home myself. I feel really bad and I apologized many times but he’s still mad at me (understandably) and things have been awkward.

Marriage Advice

Me and my husband had been married for 7 years. We’re both in our early 30s. I would say that we have a loving relationship. I feel really blessed and happy to have him as my husband.

Until recently I found out that he has taken the effort to mute and delete his Telegram chat with this girl who’s his colleague. When confronted he denied and made excuses about it, saying that it’s just normal chat conversation and he deleted it because he didn’t want me to think too much about it since I’m more of the jealous type.

In any case, I’ve been thinking about the reason he lied to me/ keep this girl’s conversation a secret. If there’s nothing to hide, why the need to delete the chat? He even muted it in case her chat pops up when I’m around.

I’m afraid I might be overthinking. Should I be worried about my marriage?

Here are what netizens think:

• Some personal info she share with him doesn’t mean she has to share with you. Hence he deleted it. Knowing your pattern, he probably thought it’s the right thing to do to avoid a confrontation.

• Definitely a red flag at the same time, he wants to keep the marriage just that not sure how far he is in this relationship with his colleague. Since you have a 7 years of great marriage and if it’s worth to keep, instead of getting mad, handle it with love and have a heart to heart adult talk to how best manage the situation. They will never admit when you confront them and your relationship can only get worst as you both will fight more often over it. So first thing first, ask yourself if he admits to having something with her, do you want to forgive him and keep the marriage? Can you then not talk about it when you both fight? You can never forget but you can only learn to let go of it and try to trust hi, again at least 90% as I think it’s hard to trust 100%. All the best.

• My ex did the exact thing right before i found him cheating. Deleting chats and started needing “alone” time, bringing his phone everywhere even to the toilet etc

• No. He is protecting the marriage. But the more you feel insecure, the more you will be unattractive. Why not put your effort & energy to think about other things. Wait if you keep asking & asking, you will be the one he mutes and delete the chat. Haha annoying.

Gender equality is bull

I am F29, and just gave birth to my first child. Currently working in a corporate, office environment, finance related. I took my maternity leave which I am entitled to la.

Long story short, my colleague got promoted over me because I was on maternity. My direct boss didnt say that la to avoid HR issue but it was damn obvious. I also didnt get my bonus in 2022 coz of “budget issues” but my colleague got a performing bonus.

Said boss jioed me for dinner, and explicitly say that it’s an informal dinner, as a friend. He confirmed that I was passed over coz I went on maternity. My colleague jumped on the chance to take over my workload and used it to negotiate his promotion n bonus. So his KPI and all that damn good. My boss “friend” tried to fight for me, but his hands are tied.

Am I expected to wfh while on maternity? How can govt and companies expect women to participate fully in the workforce when we get passed over like this.

I also can’t leave this company coz tbh, I am an average corporate employee and its the same everywhere. And also honestly, this direct boss is not too bad la, all things considered.

Here are what netizens think:

• It would be unfair if you weren’t pregnant and weren’t on maternity leave, and your boss promotes someone else other than you (on the basis that both of you are performing equally well). The fact is your competitor took the chance when you were away to get an edge over you, that’s why he got promoted. Equality at work is when the promotion is based on merit and that was what happened.

• It will happen even if it’s Stay home notice leave or surgical MC or whatever leaves… Someone will have to take over the workload what… he doesn’t deserve the reward for doing a good job and contributing?

• Don’t complain. When he go reservist every yr you got take over his workload or not?

Husband still finds my body DISGUSTING so I asked for a Divorce.

I just need to write here because I feel like I’m going insane.

To start with the beginning, I ( 30f ) met my husband ( 35m ) 8 years ago and were married for 5 years. I pursued him at the beginning, but then he pursued me back and we started dating. Our relationship was not perfect, but we enjoyed each other company. We do not have any kids. I make more money than him, we live in my apartment. We’re saving money to buy a house.

The issue: During our dating period and marriage my husband expressed disgust for my body. It started with just disgusted glances ( which I ignored ) and then it evolved into comments and suggestions about my diet, jabs at my body etc. I cannot include a link, but my body looks very similar to Selena Gomez now body.

Not fat, not thin, just not a supermodel. I know that my body is not toned and does not look the best, but it never changed during our relationship. He met me this way, I did not gain any weight. He also complained that I do not look polished and don’t take care of myself, but I was the same when he met me. I never used a lot of makeup, do not wear high heels/elegant clothing or fancy hairstyles. At the beginning of our relationship, he always said that he preferred natural girls that look like me.

We always fought when he criticized my looks, because it was a big insecurity of mine ( because of other people ). I never considered myself ugly, but had some issues in the past with boys that made me feel unwanted and unattractive so I was determined to find a guy that will love me for who I am. And I thought that I found him when I met my husband. Now you can imagine the heartbreak when he started to ask for these changes.

Last week we were having a chat about body image and he mentioned again my body. So I confronted him and he admitted it and said that he is STILL disgusted by my body and doesn’t understand why I don’t want to make an effort and change how he asked. I would’ve done it if I was like that in the beginning, but I wasn’t.

My heart sunk, because it all became real. I couldn’t run from reality anymore. He is really DISGUSTED. I sometimes ignored his glances and comments, but this time I couldn’t ignore anymore. I asked for a divorce. I never imagined that we will divorce because almost everything was resolvable in my head. Even cheating ( he never cheated, neither did I ). But this is something that just killed me.

He did not take me seriously at the beginning, because we always made up quickly. But I’m serious and I never mentioned the word Divorce until now. I asked him to move out and he is dragging it out. Not even once since then has he apologized. He doesn’t understand what he did wrong and is still in denial. No remorse, nothing. I’m flabbergasted. I wasted 8 years for this.

Some people from the previous post accused me of being selfish to divorce over such a superficial motive. He also accused me of being selfish and dramatic. Am I being selfish? I feel like my head is continually spinning. I feel very hurt and my self esteem is destroyed. I haven’t slept in 3 days. I feel unwanted and disgusting.

I apologize for such a long rant, I just don’t have anyone to talk to until I start therapy. Every opinion or similar experience it’s welcome. Thanks for listening.

Everyone, every couple can make their choices about how they want to live and what makes them happy.

Your friend could have gotten married early, applied for BTO before their income increased above income ceiling, spent minimal on renovations/furnishings, spent minimal on their wedding & thats his choice.

Some people choose to have loads of savings in the bank and be debt free rather than going for the material things in life and that makes them happy.

As I sit here, I can’t help but look around and reflect upon my life choices. While most of my peers are out there buying the latest gadgets or luxury items, I’m content with having an abundance of savings and no debt. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Having an abundance of savings has given me a newfound sense of freedom, security, and control. I no longer have to worry about how I’m going to pay for the things I need or want. Instead, I have the power to make sound financial decisions without having to make sacrifices. It’s an incredible feeling, and one that I’m truly grateful for.

There is something to be said for having a healthy relationship with money. Having a healthy amount of savings means I can allocate my money towards what I deem important. Whether that’s investing in my retirement, taking a dream vacation, or even just splurging on something I’ve wanted for a long time, I can do it without feeling guilty.

In addition to the freedom and control that comes with having an abundance of savings, there’s also the security it provides. Having a cushion of money in the bank means that should any unexpected expenses come up, I can take care of them without having to worry about how I’m going to pay for them.

It also means that if I ever lose my job or experience any other kind of financial hardship, I’ll still have something to fall back on. That security has been invaluable to me, and it’s something I wouldn’t trade for the world.

Of course, there are some people who may think that I’m missing out by not going for the material things in life. But to me, having an abundance of savings is worth much more than having the latest and greatest technology. Sure, the gadgets and luxury items may be nice in the moment, but in the long run, having a strong financial foundation is much more rewarding.

It’s also taught me a lot about myself. I’ve come to realize that I’m not driven by material things, but rather, by experiences and moments. I’m much more likely to opt for a great experience over a new gadget, and that’s been incredibly liberating.

So, while some may think I’m crazy for not going for the material things in life, I’m quite content with my decision. Having an abundance of savings and being debt free has greatly improved my life and has given me a newfound sense of freedom and security. And, it’s taught me a lot about myself and what makes me truly happy.

The same goes, you can choose to have a nice wedding, get a nice bto location, have a nice reno on your dream home, but that also means living with debt probably for the next couple of years or more.

Whatever makes you happy works. No need to compare and make yourself upset over nothing.

How do you live with regret?

I met her when we were in school. I was in my final year while she’s a freshman. It was love at first sight. I pursued her furiously and we got together a few months later.

She was the entire package and my ideal type of girl. But a few months later I lost interest and left her after I graduate. I admit it was entirely my fault and I broke her heart. I thought our interests would no longer align and I believed I would move on to focus on my career. I started to play the field as I decided I’m not ready to settle down yet. I have to say, she was still the best out of the others that I’ve met.

Fast forward a few years later. I met her on a flight on one of my business trip. I thought fate brought us together. We went out of a meal while overseas as we have some free time before I start my work. I can feel sparks flying the entire evening and I believed she felt the same way too.

Everything was smooth until I asked her if she’s seeing anyone. My heart sank when she said she’s attached.

Nonetheless, I wished her well and we continued to keep in touch even after I’ve returned to sg. I couldn’t get her out of my mind. I was actually casually seeing someone else but I quit it after meeting my ex. My ex doesn’t post much on SM so I couldn’t guess who’s her bf.

Even though years past, she’s still the perfect girl in my eyes. I’ve never met anyone who can make me laugh as much. I felt very protective of her. Her charisma, confidence, I looked up to her as she’s someone who’s very knowledgeable, supportive and caring too. Not only that, we come from the same background plus we still have common interests. I believed we are perfect for each other. I still enjoyed hearing from her after all this time. Who can forget their school sweetheart that easily? We continued to text each other like friends. I never thought to confess as I didn’t think it was appropriate as she’s attached and I also believed I can be happy for her as long as she’s happy.

Imagine how elated I was when she suddenly asked me out one day and said she had news. I thought she was going to tell me she broke up with her bf or confess to me. I thought it was going to be a date.

I still remember how beautiful she looked. We talked as though time never left us. Talking to her was so easy. I never had to worry about what to say next. When we finished our meal then she told me the news.

Her bf proposed. She’s engaged. And this will be the last time we see or speak to each other. She confessed she wanted to meet and tell me instead of texting because she wanted to see me for the last time. She also said she needed to let me go and apologised for being friends again. I was devastated. Not only am I losing her forever, I can’t even be in her life anymore. I didn’t know how to convince her I’m fine but I guess she already knew.

Eventually I found out her bf was actually someone we both know from school. So I guess that guy went after her after we broke up.

I felt so stupid for letting her go. My feelings for her were stronger than before as I thought she is the one. Some nights I wish I can turn back the time and not break up with her. I know I’m no saint. I still do casual dating. I end up comparing my dates to my ex and this frustrates me.

Probably that’s why my ex never chose me again as I may have given her the impression I’m not serious to settle down. Soon I realised I didn’t want to settle down is because I only wanted to settle down with her.

Dear S,

I’m sorry for hurting you. I know I can never turn back the time. You’ve always been the one for me. A part of me will always love you. I deeply regret letting you go and I understand why you removed me from your life. You deserve the best. I wish you a blissful, happy and longlasting marriage with J. He is a lucky man to have your love and I hope he cherish you forever.